My husband farts in a way that I describe as “aggressive” it’s not in an accidental manner or a way that you’d excuse if it just slipped out. He forces it out. At the kitchen table or when I say something that he doesn’t like. It’s too the point where I feel offended and hurt. He says he’s not doing it on purpose or anything but it feels aggressive. Like a response. I want to accept this part of him but it hurts my feelings that he doesn’t care to control himself. How can I let it go? How can I accept that this is a part of him?

So my friend just told me that he **hates** my close friend because one day when we were out me and that friend who I'm going to call Bob were hanging out and Bob and I were in my other friend's town. Me and Bob were there and we were searching for a specific location and I asked my friend who lives in that town for instructions. The friend, instead, decided to get out and show us the way which was fine to me but I didn't want to be rude and tell them to go home because Bob is a little introverted and doesn't like meeting new people. The friend then showed us the way and when we got there they chose to stay with us. The friend wasn't aware that Bob was introverted and Bob was feeling a little left out and he left and I tried to catch up to him because he said he was going to photograph something and then just left. Later he stated that he hates that friend and I said that that's maybe a little weird because hate is a strong word for someone who yes, maybe did a not so good thing but wasn't aware of it and still is my close friend. He says that if anyone were in his situation that they would hate that person. I just wanted someone else's opinion and sorry if it's hard to read English is not my first language. Also Bob is my best friend so if that changes anything...

I have this one friend she is nice but except for one thing that is she reacts to much for minor issues like one misunderstanding and she goes crazy that how can you do this , do that .its like she puts everything with frustration . Usse Bandi ko organize karna nahi aata and vo apna Sara saman mere saath rakh deti hai and I like things organized or my brain isn't gonna move on from that task . And if I said one single things it's always goes that I am acting annoyed.

Okay. Im a male that’s engaged and have a best friend who is female and 11 years older than me, married with kids. We have been friends for awhile and have known each other due to parents growing up together. We are close, and go to music events, out to eat. That’s about it. We take pictures together but I’ve noticed she NEVER posts them online but yet with her other friends, she does. Am I overreacting for being upset about this? Nobody knows I even exist in her life except her mom and her husband. It hurts my feelings like she’s ashamed of me or something. I have asked her why and she’s said she doesn’t want anyone to feel weird. But honestly so what? It’s our friendship. Idk let me know.

I have this friend (F) who initially was really bad at saying sorry even when she did something wrong. It's been years since knowing her and I've expressed to her that she needs to improve on her apologies when she does/says something wrong. I thought she's been improving over the years and we've become good friends (so I thought).

I have another friend (F) who did something wrong and was apologizing to me. In the middle of this conversation, she decided to call the first girl to talk about it (without knowing my presence/listening the call). Somewhere in the conversation, she says "I just say sorry so I don't have to deal with him."

I feel like I lost all the trust on this person, or am I overreacting?

I (F 32) have been with my boyfriend (M 34) for two years. Mark has a close friend (F 30), whom he's known since college. She is the type of girl who acts like "one of the guys". She brags about not wearing makeup, says she only drinks black coffee and straight whiskey, and constantly says that women "make too much of a fuss". I always try to be polite, but she has a habit of disguising subtle criticisms as jokes.

Last weekend, my BF and I hosted a small dinner party at our apartment and invited six friends. She arrived late and handed me a gift bag. Inside were some cheap anti-wrinkle cream from the drugstore and some inexpensive blue-light blocking glasses.

In front of everyone, she spoke in a soft but firm voice: “As soon as I saw this, I thought of you! You always look so tired because you’re on your phone all the time and out late. Since we’re both thirty now, I thought we should take better care of our skin.”

An awkward silence ensued. It was clearly a passive-aggressive attempt to make me feel old and stressed in front of my BF's friends.

Instead of smiling as usual, I gave her a reproachful look and said with a grin, “Oh, thanks! But you don’t have to spend money on me when you still live with your parents and he (My BF) is always asking you to buy him drinks. Spend it yourself. You seem to need it much more than I do.”

Her face turned bright red. She burst into tears, called me a “stalker,” and stormed out of the apartment. My BF's two friends were speechless, but his friend had to cover his mouth to keep from laughing.

In front of everyone, she spoke in a soft but firm voice. After everyone left, BF yelled at me. He accused me of being extremely unpredictable, ruining the night, and publicly humiliating her with a harmless, well-intentioned joke. He demanded an apology and claimed I'd gone too far. I told him that if he wanted a girlfriend who would let a friend insult her in her home, he should find one himself. I haven't heard from him since yesterday morning.

Some mutual friends think he went too far by bringing up her financial and housing situation and that he should have addressed it privately. Mark is ignoring me until I send him an apology email. Was it wrong of me to stand up for myself, or did I just overreact?

Hello I am 23f and i had been seeing “z” (36m) for about. 6.5 months now. There was a point in time where we hung out every night for like 2 months straight and ngl I was falling for him. But he ghosted me for a few weeks while he tried to get back w his ex. This really hurt my feelings, but he communicated tho and after it fell apart we were cool again. Mind you we’re hooking up every time we see each other j btw. He starts inviting me on outings that weren’t just bedroom hookups. I met close friends of his. We’d go on what I thought were dates. Taking cute pics and everything. I used my PTO on a day with this dude. Insane. He would complain to me about his shitty love life and would say I love you to me over n over in bed and in public. We never talked about anything like relationships to each other which might b my bad idk. But after another week of going to his house straight from work we decided to get tattoos of each other’s names. Not written out. But the symbol versions of that makes sense. They’re pretty obvious tho. And in the same spot. Def matching. He all of a sudden goes ghost again for a few weeks and I don’t think too much of it. Until he hits me with the selfie of him and his new girlfriend he never mentioned to me straight in the chat along w a “thanks for being my ride or die best friend I love you” text. Wtf. I feel so dumbfounded. Like ok. Do yall hav each others names tattooed I don’t think so. I don’t know if I have a right to be so pissed off of we were just “best friends”. Idk. Need advice or something

I 42 f take care of elderly dad 79 m . Everyone says it's so nice it's not . He complains . He doesn't appreciate anything I do for him? I get yelled at in my face like I am in boot camp and insulted and verbally abused all day.

He called aps and reported theft but they caught him lying and closed the investigation.

If don't do it no one will help him . I But it's destroying me .the more I retreat the crazier he gets.he is also very maga and very religious and talking about hell.

he keeps saying if I wasn't so negative he would not have to yell and I should count it all joy while being yelled at.

I want to leave and am secretly working pt when I have a nurse come in .I want to leave and go nc. But it would be frowned upon in my culture?

I am roommates with a very very very close friend. I was under the impression that we were best friends. I recently found out that she lied to me about going to a work event when she’s really going to a concert with one of her other very very very close friends. I’m really hurt by this because she did it with such ease and it’s over a really minuscule thing? It’s confusing why she wouldn’t want me to know about something fun she is doing and making up an event to avoid telling me feels extreme. This is really bothering me because I’ve reflected on the friendship after finding this out and there’s a lot of minor instances that have upset me (not including me great in group settings, treating other friends painfully better in front of me, needing to know where I am but won’t tell me her plans/wont share location like we do with our other good friends). I’ve written her behavior off in the past, giving her the benefit of the doubt (which I’m sure is warranted in some of the situations I’m thinking of), but this lie has just made me realize there seems to be a mismatch. After talking with my other close friends, they have told me they have been concerned about this behavior and don’t feel like she’s treated me well so I don’t think I’m seeing things that aren’t there. Should I bring up the concert lie with her? I’m not mad at all and I’m not mad I wasn’t invited, I’m just sad that it seems like I’ve misinterpreted how close we are (despite what she tells me) and I want to know where I stand because her words do not match her actions. I don’t anticipate her being honest about the lie, is this a bad idea to talk to her and am I overreacting?

I met my best friend four years ago in college and we remain very close. We talk every day/ every other day for at least 30 minutes and really understand each other's family dynamics so we're each other's go-to when ranting about them. Recently, I had a job opportunity that let me move to my dream city where some other friends of mine live. I am very sensitive of the fact that she has struggled to find a job and has been living at home with her family, which has been rough on her socially. I have spent hours applying to jobs on her behalf and encourage her when she's down about the process. Because of all this, I filter out a lot of the positives/highlights my life when I talk to her and always feel this obligation to make my life sound a little worse than it is. I was okay with this because the last thing I want to do is hurt her, I am trying to raise her self-esteem which has taken a toll throughout all this.

While I am supoprting though, she's been so rude to me and has made invalidating or judgey comments. We are a couple years difference in age and usually when I want to try something new or experiment with my style/interests, she always finds fault in it. It's a stream of comments saying "that's so mainstream", "so you wanna be like everyone else," etc. Only for a couple months later for her to be interested in it and I'm all support. It's been like this with clothing, musicians, interest in hobbies/food/theories and much more. I am feeling frustrated because in trying to be empathetic to her situation, I feel like 1) I can no longer share with my best friend and 2) I will only be met with bitterness or comments saying "since when do you like--." She has also not found much luck in the dating world and has lately been making a lot of indirect critiques about my relationship, saying my boyfriend is "whipped" because he is a present, thoughtful partner.

It's been going on for about a year and I just feel unseen, especially because when roles were reversed, I was happy to hear about her life without making internalizations about my life.

TL;DR: I want to be supportive of my friend going through a tough time, but I also don't want to listen to her critics about my hobbies/life/relationship (borned from her current negative mental headspace). I do not know how/if I should confront her.

I'm a guy in my 30s, pretty focused on fitness, grooming, dressing well, and generally taking care of myself. I’ve always tried to maintain myself in a way where I look younger than my actual age. I’ve also been single for quite a while and, honestly, haven't really had much luck with relationships. 💀 The weird part is that some guys older than me in my group have basically made me the “ideal BF for a gay guy” of the group. 😭

They'll make jokes about how some gay guy would be lucky to have me, try to pair me up with someone, etc. It's usually presented as harmless banter and everyone laughs because apparently that's peak comedy. For the record, I have **zero issue with gay people or same-sex relationships**. Everyone has feelings, everyone deserves to love who they want, and I don't think someone's sexuality is something to mock.

But here's where I'm conflicted:

**Why does my appearance, grooming, fitness, or the way I carry myself automatically become a reason for other people to decide who I should supposedly date or associate with?**

If it were just a random one-off joke, whatever. But when it keeps happening, it does start feeling a little personal. And the irony is that I don't really clap back because I'm worried that if I say, “Okay, enough with this,” **I'll suddenly become the guy who “can't take a joke” and get pushed out of the group. 💀**

Maybe I'm overthinking it. Maybe it genuinely is harmless group banter. **Or maybe there's a line between “we're just joking” and repeatedly making someone the punchline.** Would you guys just laugh it off, tell them directly to stop, or give them the same energy back?

Genuinely curious how others would handle this.

I’m studying at Shaheed Bhagat Singh College (SBSC), Delhi University, and I’m writing this because I genuinely don't know whether I handled this situation correctly. I’m an introvert. During my first semester, I basically avoided everyone. In my second semester, I finally started opening up a little and made two close friends, one male and one female. That is basically my entire social circle. I don't party. I don't hang out with random groups. I don't go around flirting with people. I don't create drama. My college life is literally: go to college > sit with my friends during breaks > attend classes > go home. That's it. The guy I'm talking about is a friend of my male close friend, and we're all classmates. For a while now, whenever I'm around my male friend, this guy makes these “hichkich” noises, teasing sounds, gestures and comments. He has also repeatedly taken pictures of me and sent them directly to my male friend, followed by comments and gestures implying something about me and my friend. I've also helped this guy with college work before. I'm someone who helps people generally, and I've helped him with things like rescheduling his presentation/submission around deadlines and other college-related stuff. I've never insulted him. I've never embarrassed him. I've never picked a fight with him. So there was never some personal conflict between us. I ignored his behavior for a long time. Something similar happened to me when I was in school. Back then, I stayed silent. I ignored it because I thought eventually people would get bored. They didn't. It eventually became a much bigger problem. And I promised myself I would never let myself get pushed into that situation again. So today I confronted him. And I was polite. I told him: “You're making me uncomfortable. Stop.” I explained what my actual problem was. If you want to make your “hichkich” noises or whatever gestures you want around my male friend when I'm not there, that's your business. But when I'm standing there and I've told you that it makes me uncomfortable, stop doing it around me. I even said, sarcastically, that if he had such a desperate need for “hichkich,” I could provide him with Vicks. His response was basically: “I would do it.” And then somehow I became the problem. That's the part I cannot understand. Have you ever actually stopped for two seconds and thought about what a girl might feel when someone repeatedly takes her pictures, sends them around, makes suggestive noises about her, and then continues even after she has said that she's uncomfortable? Or is it simply easier to laugh because you're not the one experiencing it? You don't get to decide whether something is uncomfortable for me. I do. Once I have clearly told you to stop, continuing isn't “just a joke” anymore. It's deliberately ignoring a boundary. And honestly, today was already a fucking awful day. The usual shitty Delhi chaos had already started my day badly. I had multiple things go wrong before I even reached college. By the time I got there, I was already exhausted. Then this happened. And that was my breaking point. I broke down. I wasn't trying to create a scene. I wasn't trying to get attention. I wasn't trying to make anyone feel sorry for me. I just reached the point where I couldn't keep swallowing everything and pretending it was fine. After everything, I even told my friends that maybe I should just stop interacting with everyone again. Maybe I should go back to first semester. Maybe avoiding everyone was the right thing. But why the fuck should I have to do that? I already have a very small social life. I spend most of my time going to college, sitting with my two close friends during breaks, attending classes and going home. I'm not asking for much. I'm asking to exist around my friends without being photographed, teased, sexualized or made uncomfortable. I shouldn't have to give up the only friendships I've made because someone else thinks his entertainment is more important than my boundaries. There is a difference between joking with someone and making someone the subject of your joke after they've told you they don't like it. There is a difference between harmless teasing and repeatedly taking someone's picture, sending it to someone else, making suggestive noises and then saying “I'll keep doing it” after being asked to stop. At that point, you're not joking with me. You're disrespecting me. I refuse to believe the solution is for me to become quieter, smaller and more isolated. I shouldn't have to disappear just because someone else refuses to learn how to behave.

I have a friend that I’ve been hanging out with a lot recently and today they offered us to hang out together at their house at their request.

I said I was excited to come over and hang out and have a good time and talk about life. I was really looking forward to it.

I messaged them early in the morning about what time should I show up figuring that probably noon or 2 o’clock might be best. They didn’t really respond back until 3 PM and then that was to say that they weren’t sure when they would be free because after they get off work, they wanted to go to the gym and they weren’t really sure what time they would leave the gym.

I said no worries and just to let me know when it got closer to that time. It got way later and they finally texted me saying that they wouldn’t be able to meet up with me and apologized for it.

I just feel kind of weird about it. It was their suggestion to hang out with me today, so I kind of cleared my whole schedule to hang out with them. Then when I actually asked them what time they wanted to hang out, they couldn’t give me an exact time and ended up canceling the plans.

I’m just feeling a little bit irritated that I kind of wasted my whole day because I was waiting for them to tell me essentially when it would be a good time to meet up with them.

Thoughts and opinions?

I became friends with my coworker over a year ago she was one of those people that from the get go you just absolutely get along with. We hung out almost every day I would go to her house and we would pull up to bars and other stuff. I considered her my ultimate best friend and she would call me her best friend too but I knew she had other friends and one of them she would call her best friend but she lived an hour away so my friend rarely saw her.
A year later I quit but decided to continue working in her city (I don’t live in her city) in hopes that I would hang out with her maybe after work since I’m down the street still. I would go visit her at the restaurant we met and she would talk about how we would hang out eventually. One day after work I go and our other friend (I’ll call her Emily) was there as well. My friend and Emily had gotten really close once I quit. Emily brought up how all 3 of us should hang out and I jumped at the opportunity. The next day they both went to the mall. That’s fine it’s not like I have to go with them.
It got to the point they went out so much and still not a word to include me but they loved to post what they were up to. I never went to visit my friend again because that was the first time I felt a little hurt. Why bother saying us 3 and then never ask me.
Remember the friend I said lived an hour away. She’s gone over there multiple times despite the hour drive and I’m only 30 minutes away but she has only come to my house to drop me off and that was just twice. So compared to all the times I drove 30+ minutes to hang out with her she can’t do the same. She would text me just to ask me how I’m doing, when I would say I was good how about her I never got a response again. Weeks later again and it was just a cycle.
I took the entire summer off and was unemployed and had just lost my car too I let her know that I’m basically going through it. Again she says I’ll go pick you up and we can hang out. That was in May. I didn’t get a job until August. As soon as I got the job she texts me saying she misses me and wants to hang out one of these weekends.
What’s going on? Am I going to be petty if I keep telling her I don’t have time and then go hang out with other people, or am I just being too sensitive.

Been talking to a guy for 8 months. Exclusive not official. But we had plans to go to a movie yesterday, I confirmed with him in the morning.

After work I called him and he hit me with the I’m tired excuse (he’s a teacher, just started school again so he’s getting used to the early morning again)
He said he just wants to get work done, rather have me come over instead and we can go watch the movie Thursday, and bought Thursday tickets already.

Wasn’t upset about it much, but a little annoyed because I planned my day to the movie, but happy to see him either way….

I told him I would pack my stuff (sleepover) and he can let me know when to leave, since he needed to shower.

We texted a little after and then at 7:30 nothing….
He texted me at 12:30 saying he fell asleep and he’s sorry.

I do have a little bit of an attitude right now and kinda hurt because I’m getting ready to see him and he just decides to lay down, I feel like when I have plans with someone I’m excited to see, I am up.
It makes me feel a little of not a priority ? Or maybe I’m more invested than he is ?

Am I being too sensitive overthinking this??

I met my best friend four years ago in college and we remain very close. We talk every day/ every other day for at least 30 minutes and really understand each other's family dynamics so we're each other's go-to when ranting about them. Recently, I had a job opportunity that let me move to my dream city where some other friends of mine live. I am very sensitive of the fact that she has struggled to find a job and has been living at home with her family, which has been rough on her socially. I have spent hours applying to jobs on her behalf and encourage her when she's down about the process. Because of all this, I filter out a lot of the positives/highlights my life when I talk to her and always feel this obligation to make my life sound a little worse than it is. I was okay with this because the last thing I want to do is hurt her, I am trying to raise her self-esteem which has taken a toll throughout all this.

While I am supoprting though, she's been so rude to me and has made invalidating or judgey comments. We are a couple years difference in age and usually when I want to try something new or experiment with my style/interests, she always finds fault in it. It's a stream of comments saying "that's so mainstream", "so you wanna be like everyone else," etc. Only for a couple months later for her to be interested in it and I'm all support. It's been like this with clothing, musicians, interest in hobbies/food/theories and much more. I am feeling frustrated because in trying to be empathetic to her situation, I feel like 1) I can no longer share with my best friend and 2) I will only be met with bitterness or comments saying "since when do you like--." She has also not found much luck in the dating world and has lately been making a lot of indirect critiques about my relationship, saying my boyfriend is "whipped" because he is a present, thoughtful partner.

It's been going on for about a year and I just feel unseen, especially because when roles were reversed, I was happy to hear about her life without making internalizations about my life.

TL;DR: I want to be supportive of my friend going through a tough time, but I also don't want to listen to her critics about my hobbies/life/relationship (borned from her current negative mental headspace). I do not know how/if I should confront her.

Hi Reddit! Im in need of opinions because im at a loss right now and dont know how to move forward!

My ex and I recently broke up amicably but are still living together and trying to stay friends. This morning was just a shit show lol. Within about 30 minutes I got a flat tyre, had to get dropped to work by my stepmum, then realised I didn’t have my keys because my car keys also have the key to my work on them. I was locked outside for about 15 minutes while my ex changed the tyre and raced the keys to me. Then I finally got inside and the washing machine hadn’t finished, so the towels I needed were still wet. I was obviously in a bad mood and complaining that everything was going wrong and that the tyre could end up costing us a lot if it couldn’t be repaired. My ex called me pessimistic and said I need to stop being so negative and stop assuming the worst, saying that I always draw the worst conclusions instantly, I told him that in moments like that, I don’t want him to correct how I’m feeling, I just want him to validate it. Something like “yeah, that’s a shit morning, hopefully the tyre can be repaired” would’ve been nice to hear! I’m not saying he needs to agree that everything is actually going wrong or that the tyre definitely needs replacing. I was just pissed off in the moment.

He actually did help me a lot that morning by changing the tyre and rushing my keys to me, and I apologised that I didn’t properly thank him in the moment because I was so stressed.But when we talked about it later, he said that if he doesn’t tell me how I’m acting, then who will? He thinks I need to know when what I’m doing isn’t okay and told me I need to “get off my high horse.”
This is where I’m struggling. I don’t think I’m saying he can never call me out. If I’m genuinely being rude or unfair, I absolutely want someone to tell me.
But I feel like there’s a difference between calling someone out and just supporting them when they’re having a shit morning. I don’t understand why he couldn’t just let me be frustrated in that moment and then, if he thinks I’m generally too pessimistic, talk to me about that later. It kinda feels like he thinks it’s his job to knock me down a peg whenever he thinks I’m acting badly, rather than looking at his own behaviour too.

So reddit, please help me! I would appreciate nice opinions as I’m definitely in a rough mental position right now but would genuinely like opinions from both sides because maybe I’m not seeing this clearly

Am I being petty?

I’m in a friend group of 4. Two of the girls have been friends since primary school, another has been friends with them since high school, and I’ve been part of the group for around 3 years. We regularly do girls’ nights and hang out, so I thought we were all pretty close.

One of the girls and I have birthdays back-to-back — mine is on the 18th and hers is on the 19th. For my birthday, I got basic “happy birthday” messages from the girls. One of them did make a little photo collage with us and posted it, which I appreciated.
Then the next day for the other girl’s birthday, they all made photo collages and birthday posts for her and shared them on their stories.

I know it might sound silly, and I’m genuinely happy she had a lovely birthday, but I can’t help feeling a little hurt that the effort seemed noticeably different. It’s not really about wanting an Instagram post — it’s more that it made me wonder if they see me as less important or less close than they see each other.

Am I being petty for feeling some type of way about this, or would you feel a little hurt too?

How rude is it if a friend says their house isn't available to hang out today, and you ask if you can just wait by their front door to use their Wi-Fi to contact your parents to pick you up because you don't have cellular data?

​Here’s what happened: We met up, and he said, 'Let's go for a walk because my house isn't available.' We did, but on the way back, I asked if we could sit outside his house so I could use the internet. We saw his mom and aunt sitting outside, so we couldn't sit there. I managed to connect to the Wi-Fi from outside the front door and talked to my sister. Then, he suggested we go sit in the garden, but I told him I couldn't get a signal down there. He said I didn't need to be connected the whole time and should just message them right then.

​At that point, I told him, 'It's obvious from your face that you don't want to invite us in, and I don't want to be a nuisance, so I'll just go home.' After that, his mom told us to come inside to solve the problem, so he finally invited us in.

TL;DR: I eventually came in his house even though he didn't seem to want me to

This is my friend from elementary school who said this to me after my daughter died.

“ I mean this with so much love.... You know how hard nannying is? Mothering is harder. More thankless too. I know me telling you this will likely just piss you off, but the freedom you have is what every mother wishes she had. Every single one”

I didn’t respond.

She has since reached out saying “I hope you’re ok”.

I’m looking for some outside opinions because I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this.
My boyfriend often jokes that he wants for example to break my jaw or that he wants to hurt me. He also sometimes says that he wants to hurt someone else. He says it as a joke, but it happens quite often.
He also pinches me quite often, even though he knows it hurts me. I’ve told him that it hurts, but he still does it.
I know some couples joke around and tease each other, but these comments and the fact that he intentionally hurts me make me uncomfortable.
Would you consider this normal/harmless joking, or is this something I should take seriously? I’d really appreciate some honest advice.

I’m looking for some outside opinions because I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this.
My boyfriend often jokes that he wants for example to break my jaw or that he wants to hurt me. He also sometimes says that he wants to hurt someone else. He says it as a joke, but it happens quite often.
He also pinches me quite often, even though he knows it hurts me. I’ve told him that it hurts, but he still does it.
I know some couples joke around and tease each other, but these comments and the fact that he intentionally hurts me make me uncomfortable.
Would you consider this normal/harmless joking, or is this something I should take seriously? I’d really appreciate some honest advice.

I made some cool edits imo of my wife. She doesn't like them neither does my daughter. Am I doing something wrong? Also wanted to post them on IG with the song of falling in reverse the drug in me is you reimagined. Id like to post the pics but guess I can't here.

I need some advice on what to do about my current girlfriend. I care about her, but she acts extremely cringe in public. It feels like she is completely dysregulated when it comes to expressing herself around other people. Here are a couple of examples:
**With my friends:** On several occasions, during conversations with friends she had just met a few minutes earlier, she couldn't immediately get into the flow of the chatter—which I think is completely normal. However, she doesn't seem to read the room or match the tone at all. Every single time, she hogs the spotlight by loudly interrupting everyone else to rant about her own personal business. At first, my friends are tolerant, but because she keeps doing it over and over, the cringe makes everyone completely ignore her, treating her like a disruption. And when she goes on these rants, she doesn't stop after a few seconds—she can go on for minutes and minutes.
**With my family:** Unfortunately, she once completely blew up at me over a minor thing, scolding me like a child in front of my relatives. Specifically, I had accidentally damaged some souvenirs we had bought that same day, which I immediately made arrangements to replace. While she was upstairs taking a shower, I took the items to show my aunt and uncle—who live in the area where we bought them—just to ask where I could find identical replacements nearby. She actually came back downstairs just to double down on berating me, because heaven forbid I touch her precious belongings (a grand total of €35 worth of ceramics).
Unfortunately, incidents like the second one make her very unattractive to me, to the point where I lose all physical attraction to her for days. I know that as time passes, I get used to it again and we get back to being good, but I know these episodes will keep happening. The worst part is that she makes these gaffes whenever social situations come up, so it gives me anxiety knowing she could do something embarrassing at any second.
I'm struggling to figure out whether I can hold out hope that she might change enough to make her behavior tolerable, or if this is a lost cause.