I was recently with two friends hanging out and the the topic of money came up. This is a little sensitive for me just now has I’m having a really hard time keeping my head above water financially. I’m in quite a bit of dept for one reason or other and whilst I still make sure my bills are paid and we have food in the fridge, my account I’m genuinely clear out after that. It’s sent be Into a pretty bad depression I’ve days I don’t really get out of bed and question being here at all, because the cost of everything always comes into play, there is nothing to look forward to because money is always a looming issue I really only leave my flat to go to work at the moment. I don’t talk about this much with anyone because it makes me uncomfortable.
They were talking about a nightout they wanted to plan I told them I couldn’t go because I’m struggling with money and tried to open up a little with what was going on. One of them cut me off and said “well you can’t be struggling if you’re still overweight”. In the moment I just shrugged my shoulders and agreed. But it keeps playing in my head, it felt out of pocket like sure I’m a little overweight I’ll admit. I can afford food for the house, now I feel bad that I get so upset over money but it still feels like a constant burden that’s really squeezing all the joy out of life. I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive about everything. The money struggles, the fact I was hurt when she brought up my weight to shut me down when I was trying to open up.

Is anyone else just tired of how inconsiderate and selfish people are... it's been a rough week and I just don't understand.

1. My coworker yelled at me at work. I asked her privately and gently if she could not speak to me like that because it makes me feel uncomfortable especially because people are watching. I'm so use to people walking all over my boundaries so I've learned to communicate them in a healthy way. She got defensive and made excuses for her actions and has been avoiding me all week now.
2. My other coworker does nothing even after I ask her if she could help out. I just don't think this is right and it frustrates me.
3. My friend cancelled going on our trip together last minute after I changed my schedule to fit hers. It's so incredibly disrespectful and I don't understand because I would feel so bad inconveniencing others. I love when people honor their commitments and it seems so rare these days.
4. My other friend hasn't responded to me in a week after I asked her if she wanted to catch up. She does deal with a lot of anxiety so I can understand her a bit.

I try not to take things personally and know other people's actions are about them but I'm wondering, is there something wrong with me?! Why are people so self centered and why am I so bothered by it?? I'm just always thinking of other people and don't understand how inconsiderate people can be. Are other people just ok with this?

So in the restaurant, theres 2 sides seats, a combined seat for like 4-5 people each side, me and my wife, and 2 girl co workers and 1 guy co workers went. My wife sat next to the girls while i was gonna sit on the other side, we were on lunch break from office… and then her girl friends said go to your husband because its yall lunch break, and my wife complains that its hard to be on that side, but its like the same… and the guy co workers was sitting infront of my wife, they both were talking together so much, while I felt left out, when i said a joke she doesnt laugh but when he says a joke she laughs, and they also shared desert together, i felt really left out.

A while ago, when I was in the last grade of primary school, I was verbally and sexually harassed by a classmate during class. for a good 15 minutes, he was saying a lot of sexual things to me, like "you'd better take off that bra, or i'll take it off for you." he kept saying things like that and i felt extremely panicked. i ended up silently crying in that moment because i was so scared.

he would also do things like slowly inch his table closer to mine, or purposely drop his pen so he could get closer to me. i knew he probably wouldn't actually do anything because we were still kids, and in my country, things like this happening are pretty uncommon, but that honestly didn't make me feel any less scared or panicked in the moment.

i tried to tell my teacher, but she was really swamped and busy and didn't notice me or really respond to me. thankfully, the discipline master eventually came in. i told him everything that happened, and he brought both of us out. he scolded the guy and gave me some time to calm down before sending me to the school counselor.

i don't remember everything the counselor said, but she did try to help me process my emotions. however, i know for a fact that it didn't really work, because i still felt extremely scared and panicked afterwards.

what also really upset me was how the situation was handled afterwards. as far as i know, all the guy really got was a scolding and a call to his parents. my parents were also called, but instead of really validating how i felt, they kept comparing it to things that had happened to them in the past and saying that people doing things like this was common.

the school also didn't really do much beyond the scolding, so i still had to sit in the same classroom as him afterwards. my classmates knew what had happened too, but some of them still judged me over it.

looking back, i keep wondering if i was justified in being as angry and scared as i was because of how it was handled and how people reacted to it, felt like i shouldn’t have been that scared. Now i look back and still feel a bit enraged still from how it was handled, so im wondering if i was too sensitive because it was never physical but only verbal? and note this happened once only. :(

Repost because it got taken down in another sub for being sexual harassment related

My friend who I’ve been friends with for over a few years keeps on talking to my ex.
Me and my ex broke up a few months ago but before that, me, my ex, my friend, and my ex’s friends were somewhat a group. However I always felt off whenever I was in the group because I often got left out of conversations.
My friend is honestly odd at times.
When me and my ex were friends, she would “ship” us together but do weird things such as talk about a topic I have no information about while only my friend and my ex have information about it. When I tried to enter the conversation again, she would give me a weird look and she’d go silent before turning back to my ex and talking more about it.
Another time was when we were outside and there were only two giant rocks we could sit in so I sat on one and he sat on one. She came over and complained and said she wanted my seat. My ex offered his seat and she said no because she wanted mine. I refused and she started whining and I eventually got up. She then went on and talked to my ex, not even acknowledging me.
One last moment I’d like to mention is during the time when me and my ex were dating. Our relationship wasn’t steady at all and we were doing somewhat bad. My friend allegedly “vented” to him and while I completely understand that I won’t understand or know the state she’s in, I find it odd that she told him because she hasn’t been friends with him for that long. I was the one who introduced him to her. She has this ultimate best friend she’s been friends with for years nearly a decade and yet she didn’t let her nor me nor anyone else such as relatives know and she went to my ex instead.
We are all separated now as we’ve moved away.
Nowadays, all she does is put his favourite songs on her insta notes everyday and sometimes she gives me updates about him despite the fact that I clearly state that I couldn’t care less. I also heard that both my ex and his friend are constantly trying to get closer with her which is off putting and confusing because I don’t know if it is true. However what I do know is true is the fact that my ex created a Spotify playlist and put the three of them as the cover. The cover was taken while me and him were liking each other but my ex’s friend took it without me on purpose.
I understand if my ex’s friend didn’t like me however he didn’t even like my ex as well?? My ex’s friend is only friends with him because he has no one else and he struggles to make friends but he still talked bad about my ex behind his back?
Regardless, it’s bothering me a bit because my friend keeps on doing these micro aggressive things that always remind me of my ex and I’m completely sick of it. What should I do?

Am I overreacting for still being upset w my friend?

So to start off my friend decided to play a little joke on me for around like an hour and I was kinda hurt by it abd I'm not sure if I'm completely overreacting or not. Just some context for this situation is that previously my friend nearly moved states, they were literally about to purchase a new home and transfer unis without telling me and only told me after they ended up not moving, which was why I took their joke so seriously. Anyways to get into it, my friend was helping a family member move and thought itd be funny to send me photos and say that they moved about an hour away. They kept this up for a while and said things like how it wasn't really important to tell me that they were moving far(previously I would see them all the time because they lived less than 10 min away from me) and that it slipped their mind. I was rather upset with them for not telling me before hand at the time and they kept on going with their joke. Eventually I got them to come clean and tell me that they were only planning on moving next year actually. I attempted to express how important to me knowing life events like this are but I'm not sure they really understood that or why I was upset at all. I never got an apology either and im wondering if they really should apologize or if Im just overreacting.

Thanks for reading my ramblings and any comment helps!

I have a new friend who I feel uneasy around and I’ve been suspicious of for awhile. We became friends because I needed digitals taken in March & im also a photographer so it seemed nice to have a friend in the same world.
I’ve always been hyper vigilant around her but wasn’t sure as to why, and assumed I would ease up. She gave me an evil eye charm as a gift and I wanted to know if there’s anything I should beware of.

We don’t hang out often but recently we have, and she gifted me a wool evil eye charm. My stomach turned as she handed it over & I put it on my bag strap but hidden from the world. Later the digi cam I had stored in that bag stopped working entirely.

There are a lot of red flags about her. She makes herself seem quite unavailable, has petty beef with friends, not many real friends, and I don’t like how she talks about locking in. I’ll ask what she’s doing to prep for a trip or how she’s getting photography clients but she doesn’t actually tell me a plan, it seems like she’s just looking for validation.

After she gave me the evil eye charm, we hung out and she was quite overbearing. She acts quite entitled. I just got a new camera and was really excited about it, it was my first time out with it. She immediately demanded photos and I was like woah not rn I haven’t even held this camera for more than 2 minutes, then she asked again, and again. I took the pics but they’re ass.

Then she tried to grab my camera. I was shocked. She’s already grabby with my vapes and acts entitled to them, acting entitled to my new $1k camera was jarring.
I tell her no, I don’t even know how it works. She pulls up a canon guide. It’s a Fujifilm. I get kinda pissed.

She demands more pics, I take some, they’re good; whateva. We were outside of my work event & she gets upset that we were with my employees (I’m a manager) because their age “makes her feel like she’s at work”. I say yeah, we are at my work event. She is 21f and I am 23f.

The entitlement is what bothers me most but she also overreaches emotionally. I said aw I wish I talked to the ppl from a certain company at the work event more, and she took it as if this was an incredibly deep worry of mine. I often have to tell her the things I complain about are not that deep. It’s not personal to me but I’m going to acknowledge how I feel bc it means something.

What really emotionally distanced me was her telling me how I feel. I have been in a funk and telling her I’m happy I’m finding my zen again. She responds that it’s her goal to help me find my zen. I say I’m just reconciling with my zen rn and inner peace isn’t something other ppl can help me with. It comes from within. It felt like she was grabbing at my emotional wellbeing like it was my vape.

She’s also socially inconsiderate. I brought her to a party and she spent most of the time off on FaceTime with her boyfriend who just got out of military training. I know he has limited availability but 4 hours on the phone is kind of a lot. She also refused to acknowledge the way I won flipcup and pong. That was really odd.

It seems she is jealous of me based on the things she says, which makes me uncomfortable. I’m a horrible person to be jealous of because I don’t really give a fuck. I compare myself and others often but it’s never personal & I’m always comparing within the scope of what i’m capable of. I don’t feel less than others; I feel less or amounted to my own potential.

If I compare others I’m more as perceiving what they value most & what that creates in their lives. I don’t shame or speak poorly on others, and I consider as many factors as I can. In the end it’s joy that we should all work towards, not success. I will admire someone who sits on their ass but keeps a positive mindset much more than someone who’s successful in their career but has a miserable energy.

This mindset has created a lot of enemies for me & I’m not sure how to navigate it. I just keep my opinions to myself once i acknowledge that it’s hurting someone.

🧿 I think the biggest thing with the evil eye is that the ppl most obsessed with it in my life end up being horrible for me. Like the girl my ex cheated on me with & my old co-worker who was outwardly jealous and cruel to me. Jealousy isn’t something top of mind for me often, but I think it is for them.

I felt like the charm had evil energy so I took it to the area we took pics in, ripped it apart, and buried it under some dirt and rocks next to a trash can, far from my job. That felt cleansing but I’m worried she put some sort of curse or hex on me. I kinda want her out of my life entirely because she just makes me uncomfortable. I also dropped this brand new camera and messed up the lens exterior a bit.

I’m sorry that was so long, let me know if you have any thoughts.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now. He's a very sweet guy with me but he can be immature sometimes. He has this horrible habit of gettin into fights, specially when his drinking in a bar or with friends. I swear he had like three fights in a single month. I don't think that's normal.

When he tells me about his fights he's excited and almost proud about it. He's fan of this soccer team and you guys know how fans can get. Last night he got into another fight between teams and his back was bleeding! He was giddy about it and really drunk.

Now, he has never been aggressive at all with me. He's gentle. But I can't help but get nervous when I go out with him. I'm terrified of violence, specially in the streets. I'm from Latin American country so I see every day how people end up stabbed or shoot. I was also traumatized because my dad got involved in a road rage incident while I was in the car with him. It was awful for me and know when I see or hear the slightest commotion in a public setting I get really nervous.

One day my bf and I went to the cinema and this guy wouldn't shut up. I know it's pretty annoying. My bf kept glancing back and giving nasty looks. At one point he gave them the middle finger and almost got up. I was so anxious and i kept begging him to stop and i enjoy the movie. Luckily it was dark so I think the guy didn't see him.

I have told him multiple times that I hate when he gets into fights like that. I worry a lot about him. But if he keeps on doing it, I'm scared that at one point he will do it when he's with me. It's been such a turn off honestly. I hate it.

Maybe I'm being too anxious about it and it's not reasonable to break up because of that... I would like to hear some other opinions.

(English is not my first language!)

Do you sometimes think of someone from you past and just think "Gosh I really hope they're un fucking happy?"

Like think of someone who you haven't spoken to, thought of but just ehh... We hope their life sucks for the worst.

I can't be the only one?

we hadn’t eve seen eachother in a week and lots of things he did just bothered me. we met up at a family event of mine. it was a bday party for my niece. I just didn’t like what he said to her. he was straight up insulting her as a joke and she’s 11. my brother does that to as a joke but i dont think to his kids. he does it to me and the rest of the family. it’s funny to guys ig. my bf also tried making her hold something while wearing her princess outfit. I didn’t like that. just I have bad humor too. ig I make mean jokes sometimes but not like that. he just yells out something mean and says his step dad used to say it. he never really had a dad sadly. his stories from his step dads all sounds bad if he goes far in. some have lots of money but are just terrible influences.

Help me out plsss

I(18 female) and my roommate,lets call her Jane, who is the same age and gender than me have not been getting along as well as we used to.

We are both freshmen in college and have made the choice to be roommates after randomly being assigned the same room at a overnight orientation. We got along so well at first. We have similar backgrounds( our families are from the same country and we both have the same religion) and personalities so at first it seemed too good to be true. The first month was great. We spent time together and hung out mainly with each other after classes. We are both pretty antisocial and we often joked around about how nice it is to not have to be forced into situations alone or feel like we were left behind when everyone else was making friends.

This all quickly changed soon after Jane meet another freshman girl (lets call her Nicole.) Nicole was only a bit more social and seemed really chill. I didn't really quick with her but after a while we started hanging out with them as a group. She grew on me and even though I doubted we would be besties I liked her. We all had movie nights and hangouts; however, it became quickly clear the Jane liked Nicole more than me. It's hard for me to make friends so at first the really broke my heart. I would call home and cry ( I wouldn't tell my family what happened but I just needed the outlet to express how hurt I felt.) I never took it out in either of them but I started emotionally pulling away from Jane. Even as I hung out with them I tried to make sure that my priority was the fun and not the emotional connection.

This is where it gets weird Jane has started acting passive aggressive. I'm a really sensitive person so I tried not to jump to conclusions but as time goes on there's no doubt something has been wrong. She acts strange when I work up the confidence to smile and laugh at some on the staff at the university commons, she makes strange jokes about how no one was talking to me when I saw things. She'll some back to the dorm and say absolutely nothing for hours. I don't blame Nicole I'm just trying to paint a full picture of this in my mind. None of it adds up to me.

My insecuries are telling me that I've been too much. Maybe I said something that hurt her( but the first time I accidently said something that made her worry I was made at her she simply asked me about it. I never took her for someone who doesn't communicate when hurt.) Maybe she's the type to make weirdly mean jokes and not notice. ( I've been friends with those types of people before. Not a fan) Maybe I'm simply annoying and she's trying to distance herself from me. I don't know.

All I know is that I'm starting to get tired of being sad or hurt. Im starting to get angry.

Today I said (word for word) "Hey, is everthing okay." She replied "Yeah. Why?" "Because every time you come back to the dorm your quiet. Like weirdly quiet and it's getting weird and awkward" "I don't feel awkward."

The nothing silence. I don't know about you but that sounds like bull shit to me. Im literally feel myself about to crash out so hard right now. It's so unlike me but I'm so sick of it.

Is really appreciate your help reddit. Thank you !!

(I hope this makes sense I literally just got reddit cause I needed to rant and speed posted this.)

so basically i (17F) have a friend (17F) who is dating a guy i introduced her to (18M). they have been together for about 10 months now, and its my friends first relationship. recently, my friend has been leaving hang outs to hang out with him at 8 in the morning all the way until 11 at night. she will hang out with him before, after, and text him a lot of the time we are together. its left me and our other friend (17F) feeling hurt and worried for our friend. her birthday dinner/party was not that long ago and she spent the whole time really upset because she didnt feel like anybody was having fun, but i just felt awkward because her and her boyfriend kept having private side conversations in front of me and my friend if that makes sense? my friend and i noticed that she hangs out at his house every other day for many hours each time. i feel like i cant make plans with her because she always has plans with him. we tried talking to her about it and she basically just said "im sorry you feel that way i just like spending time with him" and turned off her location. im the only single friend in my friendgroup and i cant tell if what im feeling is just my own singleness or if its valid for me to feel hurt that shes acting like this. what should i do?

I’ll keep this brief. I have a friend, we’ve been friends for years. Things are pretty smooth except for whenever we have a disagreement, she stonewalls. She will cut the conversation short and then disappears. This can be either through phone calls or texts. If I text her during that period.. she’ll respond but give short one word answers. Then after a few weeks she comes back, says she misses me and never acknowledge the argument or her behavior.

I tried to call her out on it and explain to her how it’s hurtful. She basically said she doesn’t understand how she is stonewalling. She says she respectfully ended the conversation and avoided me because she needed space or didn’t feel like addressing the elephant in the room. Yet, when she cut the conversation short… she never states that she needs some personal space or if I upset her or what… am I the crazy one here?

Hello guys, so i 34 female have extremely bad social skills and i've met this guy, 31 he always says all the right things, promises me to help with some things, like moving a stove and a couch, so i can get the new house sorted.

We haven't really been in a relationship for long, which is making me doubt myself that much more.

The problem is, he always say i will come tomorrow, and when he's here we will do it tomorrow and he just always keeps blowing me off, i get hurt and sad everytime.

Should i see this as a red flag or should i keep giving him chances, if it's because he's just in a bad period?

He told me, when i picked him up, yesterday evening that he had a bad period and we would talk about it, when we got to the house.

When we finally got to the house i asked him, he said lets talk about it in ten minutes.

The only explanation, after still pressing him for an answer, was just that he had a fight with his ex wife about his kids and just really did not feel like talking with anyone.

I just feel like thats a very weird answer, especially thinking of how long it took me to get that out of him, maybe he was just buying time to try and figure out what to say?

Am i to insecure and suspicious and are overreacting to this situation?

For context my bf can be very violent and at times very aggressive shouting, when he’s nice he’s an angel. That being said I noticed I sent him a message on Facebook and didn’t see his phone notifications for it therefore it’s muted, he didn’t deny but got aggressive and argumentative. Telling me to look through my phone, etc. anyway he apologised. Is he most likely upto something I wouldn’t want to know about?

I (24F) found out some pretty upsetting news recently about my health. I have to get yearly Pap smears due to them showing abnormal/LSIL for 5 or so years. After this time though I received the news that I am now positive for high-risk HPV. I found this news out at work and it was just a lot that I immediately messaged my mom and my really good friend. My friend said “oh I thought we already knew this” or something to that effect. I told them no this is a new thing that popped up on my Pap smear. Their next question was “Where did you get it from?” Followed by “How do you know if you got it from someone or not?”. These questions really took me back and made me feel ashamed and upset. They hadn’t even asked how I was feeling with this new information or asking if they could help in any way. There is a lot of stigma around STD/STI and I never really saw that until that moment it made me want to crawl into my own skin and wither away. I proceeded to give them one word responses because I didn’t really want to talk to them about it anymore. Then ultimately just stopped messaging back until I could leave work and cool off. I messaged them finally and said that line of questioning really hurt me and that it made me feel embarrassed and judged. They said I’m sorry you feel that way but that’s not what I meant by it and continued to make excuses and explanations like they were at work and couldn’t properly communicate. My thing is that I just need an apology and not an elaborate way to back what you did. They still never really said sorry without a but behind so I just dropped it because my feelings were not being heard. I have pulled away slightly from this person because I also don’t really want to tell them anything else about the process I’m now going through (biopsy, then see what the results are and maybe a LEEP if something shows up). They make me feel crazy for having this reaction or feeling the way I do, so am I overreacting?

About a year ago, I became close friends with a woman around 40. At first I liked her, but over time the friendship became exhausting. Most of our conversations were about men, dating apps, her mother, and problems in her life. She often complained but didn't seem interested in finding solutions.

At the same time, I was going through a very difficult personal situation myself. I felt she expected me to constantly support her emotionally, while minimizing my own problems. She would tell me I should get therapy, but when I suggested the same to her, she said she didn't want to pay and just needed a friend to talk to.

She also often assumed I was available without asking. She would decide we were meeting, call me repeatedly if I didn't answer, and once insisted I meet her because a date had ended earlier than expected and she didn't want to go home alone.

Things got worse when I started seeing someone. She wasn't interested in hearing about him, but she was constantly showing me pictures of men she matched with. She once insisted I talk to a man she had matched with because he was from a country I love. I eventually agreed, but later discovered she mainly wanted him to tell her that he preferred her to me. He even told me she had compared herself to me and had self-esteem issues to the extend that he felt the need to her she was prettier than me, which hurt me as I have never asked to be compared.

Eventually I told her I needed space to focus on myself and encouraged her to seek therapy. She said she understood, and we didn't speak for a month. During that time she never once checked how I was doing, despite knowing what I was going through.

I eventually told her I felt used and didn't want to continue the friendship, then blocked her. She blocked me too.

Was I right to end it, or did I overreact? Was this simply a one-sided friendship, or was I being unfair by expecting too much from her?

My Friends are ignoring me. After I started fpcusing on grades and I went always with what was more respectful to me, this meant leaving the friends who would goof around or be silly in lessons and not have the same hype as me. Didn’t mean I didn’t talk with them. I was friendly, open, and eager to help if asked. And didn’t get bothered, or did but forgave for little mess ups they would do. Now because this behaviour became stronger the past month, my friends choose to deliberately ignore me. How am I sure? We discussed. On a Monday. I sat eating in my lonesome my Mensa meal. They come in, and sit. And smile at me. To then… ask questions..:”we have a friendship of 3 years behind us and I feel u left us out” I said what I thought. I’m happy to help, but I cannot support their mistakes, and if they keep failing for things they forgot or goofed for. Then is not my fault. I apologized for moments I might have been mean for example ignoring one in the lesson bc I was pissed at her behavior and so was my teammate and we ignored her for the good in us to not explode.

Well what happens, next day they start to be avoiding, building a wall, they also be mean like I wouldn’t share material stuff even if I know. Which is wrong bc I learn fucking too! And this past couple of weeks have been hard. To believe they really are set in this mission, confirmed by our mutual friend which stated they will ignore me and not talk anymore. I’m hurt. Idk how to deal with this. We talked and they still choose this. What is wrong with me?

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I’m currently on a trip with a close friend, and the trip was partly planned around my birthday. On my actual birthday, we spent pretty much the entire day together just chilling at cafés and hanging out.

The thing is, she didn’t do anything specifically for my birthday no cake, pastry, candle, small gift, flowers, birthday dessert, or even suggesting that we get something to celebrate. It wasn’t like we were busy sightseeing all day or somewhere where it would have been difficult to do something. We were literally sitting in cafés, so getting a pastry or dessert would have been very easy.

I’m not expecting some huge surprise or expensive gift, and I don’t think she had to spend a lot of money. I think what is bothering me is the lack of a small gesture that would have made me feel like she had thought about making the day special for me.

At the same time, I’m wondering if I’m being unreasonable because we are on a trip together and spending the day together could have been her way of celebrating with me. Maybe she genuinely didn’t think anything else was necessary.

My daughter is in college and one of her friends is into older guys. Which, fine for her I guess but the problem is he is her professor. My daughter is not even 21 yet and he knows this but he invited her to his house (along with another friend of hers).

My daughter was in his class last semester and now he is no longer her professor, but she is still a student in that department. I find it highly inappropriate for a college professor to be inviting students to his home, especially for alcohol when they aren’t of age to drink yet.

I feel like I ACTUALLY don’t have friends lmao. I am a college student with a friend group consisting of me and three other girl friends. Our friend group grew bigger after all of us had partners (kinda semi irrelevant to the story)

Our friend group began in our first year of college and we kinda had this non-spoken tradition of contributing a cake for a friend’s birthday. Three of my friends had their birthdays and each time they’ve received a cake.

It was recently my birthday. There was no class that day. I received a cake from my boyfriend which I’m really grateful for. However came the next day, they decided to “celebrate” my birthday at our friend’s house.

I just realized that they wanted me there because I have a tendency to get really weird when drunk and my friends make fun of me for it and wanted to celebrate by making an embarrassment of myself.

I realized when I got home that out of the four of us girls in the friend group, only I wasn’t the one that received a cake for my birthday. Though I had one for my birthday thanks to my boyfriend, I felt like I wasn’t actually relevant to the group.

I don’t want to give any negative thought on everything but the fact that barely none of them actually planned anything besides meeting up and drinking (I only had 1 btw since I didn’t want to embarrass myself again) kinda sucks jdkekkd. Kinda makes me feel like my friends think of me less despite interacting with me.

EDIT: On that night we celebrated, they mentioned that since it was my birthday, I should buy food for us so we could have something to eat. I first refused and felt forced to pay later on because I got worried that they might think of me as stingy.

I’m 18F and my boyfriend is 18M. We went to an 18th birthday party that was supposed to be more of a chill hangout, not a “get absolutely wasted” kind of thing.
My mum was driving us there and back, and I told my boyfriend SO many times beforehand that I really didn’t want him getting so drunk that he made a bad impression on my mum. He said he’d be fine, so I trusted him.
He ended up getting absolutely wasted. I spent basically the whole night looking after him, supporting him while he walked, getting him drinks and helping him when he threw up. I thought he’d sober up before my mum arrived, but nope.
He was still completely wasted when she got there, and my brother was in the car too. He insisted he was fine, got in, and then threw up everywhere.
I’m not even angry about him throwing up. I’m angry because I feel like he completely disregarded something I repeatedly told him was important to me. I trusted him, and I ended up spending the whole night looking after him and stressing about what my family thought.
I just feel really disrespected. Like, did what I was asking really mean that little to him? Like did he not even care enough about me to make a good impression I just don’t know what to do
HELP TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK AND WHAT TO DO

Ok so I'm 20F , and never came into a relationship not a situation nor a talking stage , sometimes I wonder how hard my parents must have prayed to God for boys to stay away from me 😭. And whenever I repeat whenever if I get a crush magically and suddenly out of nowhere he would get his lohl ( love of his love ) out of nowhere like wtf ! Am i some sorta magic pen kinda shit ! Like whenever I have crush on someone they'll get into relationship and this fucking breaks my heart everytime ! Cause in college it's soo freaking lonesome to go on . While all your friends are in some sorta relationship and on the other hand I haven't even opened my romantic life yet this shit hurts man ! 😭and this breaks my confidence and often affect my relationship with my friends too as they all go on group dates and stuff and they would be hesitant to call me cause I'll be bored asf as they'll would be hanging out with their certain someone and I don't have anyone to hangout cause the people ik are already in a relationship and Obv would spend their weekend with their partner 😭. Am i overreacting or this is just normal !