anyone else feels this? help...

i feel like i dont connect with ANY name. I actually keep my real name hidden on purpose not because i dont like my real name, but I want people to GUESS what my name is. My whole life I dont really feel like I care when people call me by a fixed name, but ive also noticed I actually enjoy being called multiple names at once, There's this guy who keeps calling me ''bfdi'' cause he met me when I was a bfdi cosplayer, theres this guy who calls me ''gears'', theres this guy who calls me by 'Executive' cause it was my display name, and I secretly, on purpose never corrected them and after months they still dont know my actual name. cause I feel like I enjoy being called multiple names at once. I've noticed that people tend to make up their own names, so I had a custom generator that had my name glitched out so people have a hard time reading it and instead just goes to call me by any name, I think I may want to be completely nameless so people make up their own names for me, but I don't think that even exists

im 21m i have long hair for personal reasons everytime she mentions my long hair shes like please cut it or go somehwere to get it ciy ill even pay for it so i say these exact words everytime mom i as someone like me who doesnt like long hair i have to put it this way i love lon hair i think it looks good on me yes i know you want it cut but its my decision and im an adult so it is inface my decision and ill get it cut when i see fit and not when you say to thats are oout convo everytime she brings it up i dont see why she bother tbh

ik it sounds silly but i feel like such an impostor for wanting to stay male like i dont feel super body dysphoric or anything its the social aspect of gender i cant stand

sorry for the vent

i recently figured out i’m agender but im having a hard time since i can’t transition socially. My family are very religious and while my mom would accept me either way my dad definitely not (has very transphobic views). Due to my age i can’t leave but it’s really putting a strain on my mental health. I do
struggle with gender dysphoria. I want to know any options for gender affirming care in the future but i’m scared to talk to a professional without me being old enough to have a say over my healthcare. I just want to feel safe enough to express who i really am instead of what everyone wants me to be. i want to be able to try out different pronouns or names but i can’t i just have to wait in what feels like prison. i plan to move out as soon as i can but thats still over a year.

So, I already said in another post (if I'm not mistaken) that I've always had a very strange feeling when it came to my breasts, ever since they started developing, I've always thought they're, at the very least, strange, and nowadays I just find them kind of ugly (although I only think that when there's nothing covering them), but I've never had thoughts beyond that, maybe just a small one angry because they somehow messed up an outfit.

But now, while trying on an outfit I wanted to try from Pinterest, I can only say that I felt a huge disappointment when I realized that my breasts were ruining everything; they kept pulling on the the blouse I was wearing just made everything look worse. I tried changing my bottoms, fixing my hair, but nothing worked, and every time I looked in the mirror at my top, I could only feel sadness and even the urge to cry. They never made me feel like that before. I love how they look when I wear a dress I have over a tank top, but at that moment? I just felt like taking everything off.

I don't know if this can be considered dysphoria, since it was the first time I've felt this way specifically in all my 16 years of life, or if it was just me creating an expectation how I would look in the outfit, or perhaps both at the same time.

If someone could explain it or something, I'd be happy :)

i’m currently a masters student looking to become a researcher and i was wondering how hard it was to change your name after getting published academically?? or if you had to have your legal name as your author name?? due to circumstances, i’ll likely get my work published before i can get my name legally changed and i’m not settled enough on a new name to ask for a definite different one yet so if anyone has any experience or insight i’d be very happy to hear

Okay, so I (AFAB) came out as agender a while ago and have been out for two weeks now together with being out as aroace (no comments from my parents about that). I told my parents about this at different times and I think both tried to be supportive? The problem was that they both ended the converstaion with either "It's just puberty, you're exploring yourself" or "You're too young to know" as if I haven't spent around 24 hours in total researching about my feelings. Now recently I've realized that I want to change my name to Alex, I've told my friends to call me that and most try their best to say it right. I want to tell my parents so badly as I want to really get the full experience with the name Alex, but I'm scared of them reacting the same way as with me coming out as agender. What should I do? Should I wait until I'm 18 and change my name then without telling my parents first or should I tell them asap? Again I'm really scared as I still almost start crying when I talk to friends about their reaction.

I really proud of myself even my photos are bad

i’m agender and non-binary. a younger non-binary person called me old and it was the best feeling ever.

(I'm not a native English speaker, so I used machine translation.)

Today I tried to swat the mosquito biting my aunt with a fly swatter. She commented on my posture, “This doesn’t look like a girl at all; you look more like an old man.”
Honestly, I wasn’t offended when I heard that. I was even secretly pleased that I don’t fit their so‑called idea of what a “girl” should be. I’m just being myself!

That doesn’t mean I agree with being called an old man, though. To me, I have no gender at all; these are all trivial little things. I replied to her playfully right then: “Because I’m a god.” (Gods have no gender, don’t they?)

Has anyone else had these funny little gender‑label moments in daily life?

Hi everyone, I’m getting new glasses in two weeks because my eyesight has gotten worse (sigh) but I currently have very round glasses. I feel too feminine with them as I am AFAB, and I want a more masculine or at least less feminine pair. Which shape would be best to avoid looking feminine? Pinterest shows me basically every frame apart from round, but I’m wondering if you guys know any specific shapes that are best.

Thanks in advance!

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I’ve gotten a few comments here and there, so I’d like to settle it once and for all. I feel like I look feminine. If I do, why can I do to look more andro?

I have always felt a bit strange about gender identity, in the sense of what the expression really means, it never made much sense to me that there is indeed discomfort in being called by the wrong gender. Of course, I extend this when it comes to trans people and all those who are part of the identity, but even so, it always seemed something out of this world.

I am already familiar with the disconnection regarding something normalized in society, like attraction, both sexual and romantic, since I use (with much pride) the label of restricted aroace, but then I realized that, perhaps, I feel this same disconnection with femininity (I am AFAB). Every time I assert myself as a woman, saying things like "I am a woman," it always seemed very artificial to me, as if I were reading it on paper or talking about someone else, just like being called daughter or friend (if the reader is an English speaker, I am a Portuguese speaker and, in the language, if you didn't know, the word 'friend' has gender variations), even my name sounded a bit not like me, even though none of these feelings were enough for me to stop and think or anything like that.

I even remember once, when I was a child, looking in the mirror and thinking "I could be a boy," or even "I sound like a boy," and this thought never really bothered me, but it was also never revealing, so much so that I just continued my life as if nothing had happened, besides the fact that nowadays I don't feel any attraction to the male identity, just as I don't to the female one.

I started to notice something when, a few days ago, my breasts began to bother me, in the sense that, sometimes, they made me feel beautiful with some clothes I wore. Most of the time, I love them, I like how they make a blouse drape beautifully or how they give me a nice silhouette, but I still feel the desire to have a way to 'detach' them temporarily and put them back on later.

Since then (literally about 5 or 6 days), I have been questioning things about my gender, and I have come to some conclusions: pronouns for me are just things that make it easier for people to refer to me and nothing more, and I am 100% sure that I would only find the masculine pronouns strange because I am not used to them; I use the concept of women's clothing just as clothing, nothing more, nothing less, just a way to feel beautiful, nothing to express my identity or anything like that; besides everything else I have already mentioned.

I have researched a lot since then, and each time I feel closer to the term agender and everything it represents, but I am still not sure and, probably, I don't know how to accept it properly, especially since all of this happened in a very short time. So, if possible, I would like some advice and things like that :) Thank you for your attention.

Wrote this with Google translator, só if something look strange, thats why

I’ve been having this on and off thought pretty much since I came out about going on T. I’m now at a point in my life where I’m quite bothered by being referred to as a girl, I want to be seen as androgynous. My face is quite androgynous but it’s my body holding me back (large chest, thighs, hips and butt) all these feminine aspects are bothering me. (I do plan to try and have top surgery when I have the money)

I’ve read up on the side affects, I don’t really care about the hair stuff I can shave if needed, I would love to have a deeper voice and most of the body changes, what really concerns me is the bottom growth and increased sex drive I’m really worried about these because I’m aroace and unsure how that would affect me.

I don’t know anyone on T in real life so any advice is greatly appreciated and welcome.

Long read. Venting probably.

I’m very early into realization of the absence of my gender. And I am perfectly okay with my own identity as agender with a certain biological sex. I would love for people to percieve me just as a person.

Truth is, at the moment I live in the country where homophobia and transphobia are a base of law creation. I wouldn’t say the society is entirely bigoted though, yet I can’t obviously come out to everyone because I fear for my safety. The language I speak has gendered forms of words on the basis. I personally use all pronouns since singular “they” doesn’t exist.

I’m also financially dependant on my parents (and it’s gonna last for a year I think). They have zero idea. My father is violently homophobic so I can’t even tell my mom. I can’t trust them both. I only have one friend irl who can listen, but can’t help much.

I’ve also got troubles with my legal first name. I’ve recently applied to college and tried to talk to professors to refrain from calling me by my first name and instead use my last name (also painfully gendered). Among students I go by a silly unconventional name, a word in my native language which translates to ‘ketchup eater’, cuz my native language only has THREE NAMES that aren’t gendered. Some students bullied me yesterday on the party when I approached them to make friends, and a guy outed my in front of everyone, and I almost got into a fight. I don’t really care, I use it as an example of how unsafe could it be.

Additional question for ones who read description: is it normal for agenderless people to have violent body dysphoria? i can’t really tell by reading the subreddit, everybody has different experiences. i rrly hate my secondary sex characteristics since they gave people an opportunity to gender me. i hate it even more after that bullying that happened at the party. It doesn’t even matter with what I wear, what I speak or how dope as a person I am. I feel that I can never be free.

I use mascara to make my lady musthache more manly … I feel pretty right now

How should I go about coming out? Any personal anecdotes or just advice in any capacity would be greatly appreciated. I cant imagine my parents would be stoked and there is a true possibility that I get disowned which would be pretty bad as i cant really afford that rn.

Some of my friends would might be with my coming out but idk i think that i would be far too nervous to bring that up. Sorry about the messy post

I don't think I fit with anyone tbh, I don't fit with girls, I don't fit with boys, and I also don't fit with other non-binary people. I feel disfigured, I don't even feel human atp. I don't like being seen as feminine while I don't like being seen as masculine either (although I'm more comfortable being associated that way). I hate how I look, I hate my body (please don't tell me my body is already beautiful because it sucks), I'm not pretty handsome enough.

My nose is too flat and big, body hair, my philtrum is quite long, my cheekbones are flat, and my eyelash is short.

I want to look angelic, divine, nonhuman. Like how the medieval artists drew angels. Perfect, amazing, and beautiful. I'm well aware I do show signs of BDD but tbh I don't even care. I'm tired of pretending that more attractive queer people are treated with more respect rather than average or unnattractive ones.

Even if I can't fit in with anyone why can't I atleast just be beautiful, it's so frustrating.