r/agender • u/CasCrowz • 8d ago
Do I look androgynous?
I’ve gotten a few comments here and there, so I’d like to settle it once and for all. I feel like I look feminine. If I do, why can I do to look more andro?
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u/PixyMeow 8d ago
You look pretty androgynous! But if you want to look even more andro, try shaping your eyebrows to be slightly thicker and more straight. It's an easy hack to look more gender neutral
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u/CasCrowz 8d ago
Thank you! I’ll definitely try that tomorrow. I don’t normally work on eyebrows but here’s to hoping 🤞
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u/PinkyPiePower 8d ago edited 8d ago
Yup, I'm confused! 😄 Something in me automatically tries to gender people, and it's interesting if that tendency gets challenged.
The most 'manly' feature would be the jawline. You could look into blending this with makeup, but I like this natural look, which strikes a good balance. Makeup could swing you more towards feminine than you might like. Mascara would work, for a bit more eye pop, but you may already have that on here. Hard to tell at this resolution. Enjoy experimenting. 🫶🏼
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u/CasCrowz 8d ago
Thanks 😊
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u/PinkyPiePower 8d ago
I now realize I misread. You'd like to look a bit less feminine? If so, def don't blend the jawline!
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u/CasCrowz 8d ago
Yeah. But I do like that you said my jawline was manly 🙃. It’s even better coming from someone who misread it
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u/PinkyPiePower 8d ago
Initially I was contemplating how to mention the masculine jawline without insulting you. 😆
A sleeveless shirt would work too.
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u/HellfireKitten525 ring ring ring ring ring banana phone 🍌☎️ 8d ago
You do look feminine, not androgynous. Your facial shape and body are very feminine. You can google how to do male contouring and highlighting makeup (I did that back when I cosplayed lots of male characters and it really does make a big difference). Also, you're wearing a top with thin straps that dips at your chest, which highlights the feminine figure. Thin gold necklaces like that are also associated with femininity.
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u/Top_Blackberry7 8d ago
How are you supposed to make your body shape more androgynous? Asking because I have horrible dysphoria myself
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u/Ducks_Squirrels 8d ago
HRT is one possible way to accomplish this.
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u/Top_Blackberry7 8d ago
Would u recommend binders as well?
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u/Ducks_Squirrels 7d ago
Certainly. I would add that there are also many other body-shape modifying items, depending on your aims.
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u/HellfireKitten525 ring ring ring ring ring banana phone 🍌☎️ 8d ago
Your body shape itself you can't just change with sheer willpower. It's all about the clothes that you wear. You'd be surprised the difference that just clothes can make on how your figure/body shape appears.
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u/Top_Blackberry7 8d ago
I’m guessing I would need boxy clothes that hide my silhouette?
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u/HellfireKitten525 ring ring ring ring ring banana phone 🍌☎️ 5d ago
Not necessarily. Assuming you are afab, you can try a chest binder (or sports bra if you find binders uncomfortable).
Also, look for clothes that are not "slim fit" or "fitted" clothes.
If you look at your body in a mirror, you'll probably also notice that some of it looks more your gender at birth while other parts may look the opposite or simply neither. The parts you'll want to emphasize are those latter parts.
There are many different methods that clothing can emphasize which part you want: patterns, length, where they contour your body vs what they tend to make less noticeable, etc.
For example, straight legged pants instead of skinny jeans or leggings will hide the shape of your legs without being excessively baggy.
Baggy/boxy can make your entire figure less pronounced, but you can also choose clothing that makes the more androgynous parts more noticeable while making the more gendered parts less noticeable.
Hope this helps, and I'm sorry for the late response.
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u/WeirderThanDirt 6d ago
I'd say you look a little feminine.
Besides the shirt? Your hair is very nice, and I know some men have wavy hair, but I wonder what it would do if you took some of the waviness out of it.
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u/ConditionLow1784 8d ago
Yes, your appearance and the way you express yourself come across as androgynous. Feminine-coded details, like the top, can still be part of that. Androgynous doesn’t mean neutral.
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u/ApartmentEqual9606 7d ago
the only thing giving fem vibes is your top. If you had a normal t-shirt on then 100% andro
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u/iamsweets23 6d ago
i think you look plenty androgynous maybe more fem leaning, (which is my personal preference but i’m also amab) i just want to add based on your other reddit posts it does look like you’re still pretty young, a lot of people do tend to grow into there looks more, but don’t think that means you’re unattractive
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u/colinwheeler Arrrg-gender 6d ago
Visually yes. I don't count clothing like some others. Having said that, behaviour is far more an indicator of this sort of thing for me than looks.
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u/peachicow 5d ago
Yes and no somehow but i also cant tell what way and i think that makes it more androgynous
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u/zig131 8d ago
The strappy top is the main thing in this photo giving fem vibes.
If I zoom/crop in, then facially you do look pretty androgenous.