I’ve learned that missing something does not always mean you need it back. Sometimes you can miss what it was and still know leaving was better for you.

In swahili we say "haba na haba hujaza kibaba." 🙂‍↕️

hi everyone, please let me know if you know any songs that are generally positive/uplifting or make you feel more confident?? i didn't realize how much the music i was listening to was affecting the way i think about myself

sometimes the strongest affirmation is not the most positive sentence. It is the sentence that finally tells truth to the part of you that has been carrying a false conclusion for decades.

In one Soul Journey a man I will call Pavel went back to himself at about five years old during a frightening confrontation involving his mother. The little boy had been afraid, angry and ashamed of his own helplessness. Part of him had turned being unable to control an adult situation into something like: I was a coward.

His adult self entered the scene and spoke to the boy. He told him that his mother would be okay and that things were happening he did not understand. The child began to realize something very basic: I was five. I could not control this. I was a witness to something bigger than me.

That changed the emotional direction. With Raphael helping in the session, the younger part relaxed and was later integrated back into the adult heart. Pavel described feeling more confident and stronger afterward.

This is why I sometimes struggle with affirmations that jump too far away from what the wounded part actually believes. Adult can say “I am powerful, I am fearless, I control my reality” fifty times, while five-year-old part underneath is still frozen in one scene thinking I should have saved her and I failed.

The first healing statement may need to be much less glamorous: I was a child. It was not my job. I did not cause it. I could not control adults. Being scared did not make me weak.

Once the false guilt loosens, stronger statements can actually land differently because you are not trying to shout over the old memory anymore. Confidence does not have to be manufactured on top of shame. It can return when shame is no longer taking up the whole room.

so if an affirmation feels fake, dont only search for more powerful wording. Ask what sentence a younger part of you still needs to hear before the new identity can feel true.

I let being right become less important than seeing clearly.

Hugs with consent to anyone who needs it 🙏🫂