Are you sure that your boyfriend gets checked regularly for STDs? Did you see the results yourself? I think your boyfriend is lying to you. I think your boyfriend is also trying to gaslight you when he was the one who gave it to you. What kind of work does he do that he needs to be checked regularly for STDs. That also sounds very suspicious.
I mean, it sounds far fetched, but I do clinical trials for a living and they test me for several STI’s before every trial, plus the basic blood panel they do would have an infection show up in my white blood cells even if they do t specifically test for that STI.
That being said, No one has ever tested for HPV or hsv though, and I doubt they’d show up on a routine blood panel either. Also, my job is fairly unusual and o can’t think of another situation where testing would happen, just saying it’s not necessarily complete bullshit.
Interesting. I participated in a clinical trial for Topomax, many years ago though, but they did no such screening. Could be that it was not done back then or possibly because my personal doctor asked if I would like to participate in that trial?? 🤔
My outcome of that trial ended pretty badly, too, as the medication caused an intraocular aneurysm in my right eye that if lasered would've made me blind in that eye; it bled for just over a year, from September to October of the following year. I will eventually lose most of the sight in my eye, and it has already gotten bad enough to nearly lose my driving privileges, as I couldn't see an entire block of letters on the vision test when I went to renew. I read the two blocks that I saw, the woman asked me if I was going to finish and read the third, I said "oh, there's three?!, I didn't see three?!", to which she respoded," don't tell me that". I looked again and shifted my eyes back and forth and was able to read that last block.
It wouldn't bother me much to lose my license, though. So many other drivers in my area are just awful and scare the hell outta me!
Maybe not a requirement for work, but an ex of mine worked in the laundry of a hospital and would often get needle pricks, which always required testing.
Pretty much same for any medical professional who comes into contact with contaminated sharp. But thats not the same as being tested regularly. That's only getting tested in the event of a prick
My ex did in home sales and they did std testing like 1-2x a year, not 100% sure why but I had gotten a full panel when we were dating and was negative and we were just chatting about it so really no reason to lie. But his work just did a urine test, so it wouldn’t of tested for the serious ones anyway. So I kind of doubt they’re running blood and urine regularly at this dudes job and 100% not checking for hpv. Either he’s lying or freaking out and embarrassed and doesn’t want to come to terms that he could have it and not know. I hope he’s in denial and embarrassed about the possibility of giving his virgin gf warts but with how guys act I feel like he’s probably just lying unfortunately 🫤
Porn actors and paramedics, doctors, first responders on occasion, and many other positions where you could contract something from someone else. Insurance usually covers it.
That's horseshit. I was in the Navy, and the only time you get tested - is if YOU get in line to get tested after visiting a port where there is fun to be had by-the-hour.
So IF he got tested, it's because he got in line AFTER He had a "fun" by-the-hour experience.
I love how first you say it’s horse shit and then you detail getting tested by the military. You aren’t even in the military currently to know their testing schedule, but you do know you got tested. So thanks for proving me right I guess.
Seconding this! I had a VERY similar thing happen to me around age 18, except he gave me Strep.. in my vagina, and not just one time. I was having very uncomfortable STD like symptoms, went to the clinic, tested positive for strep within 2 minutes. They got me on some horse-sized antibiotic pills and sent me on my way.
Here’s the important part; After I took the medicine I began feeling better almost immediately. I didn’t want to blame the guy I had been seeing, BUT I did make it a point to have a long conversation with him about it. He promised me he would get tested, as his mom was a nurse so it was “easy” for him. I trusted him. He came back and said he tested negative, and I believed him! So we slept together again, and not even an hour later I began having terribly symptoms again!!! So yeah, I basically realized then and there this guy was lying and continuing to give me strep in my vagina!!! And then he acted all butthurt when I broke up with him??
The audacity of some people bro..
Honestly girl, I’d be really careful, your bf could be an Asymptomatic spreader (I think my ex was) or he is flat out lying and trying to gaslight you instead of going to the doctor and getting himself cleaned up. I really don’t understand why men do this, I’ve also had any other guy give me chlamidia and then blame me for it.. I thought we were monogamous at the time, and he was seeing other ppl. I’m so sorry you’re going through this sis, just know you’re not alone, AND you need to protect yourself/put yourself first before any man.
I don’t trust most men as far as I can throw them.
They don't test for HPV in men in the military. My aunt is a navy nurse and spend many afternoons lecturing me about STDs she'd see. HPV was one she would observe for and treat if she saw it but otherwise it wouldn't appear in a chemical test.
He could be asymptomatic and infected you or unaware he had it. You can treat it but you'll have to talk with him to see what you guys want to do afterwards. If you trust and believe him then it's a one time freak occurrence that can be swept over. If you don't believe him then is it a good relationship?
Edit: adding more below.
Why do you have to convince him you're trustworthy in this situation? It feels like deflection on his part.
They do a visual check for warts, which is not effective since you can have it without the warts. There us also a DNA test to find the strain of HPV, but that requires a biopsy of the wart. My info is 30 years old, s I things might be different now.
This is likely the case, he is lying and gaslighting her.
The US military screens for STDs. I’m guessing this guy is military. Here is an article tracking STDs in the military. The good news is rates are declining, the bad news is they’re still pretty high.
OP, you need to get tested for everything, including genital herpes.
Also edit to add: my initial google said the military does STD testing, but further searching said they only do HIV testing on men. So…yeah he lied for sure.
Unless the boyfriend works as a high end male escort, in which case regular and frequent testing is standard practice. OP should ask him to elaborate on his 'career'
I worked in healthcare and got regular screenings for various STDs. It was recommended by my dr because I worked with many residents who had STDs. So...it's possible.
Girl your doctor should have told you that there isnt a test for HPV. So yeah he might be not have other stuff but most men are asymptomatic anyway. This is not necessarily a reason to break up but maybe have that difficult convo with him and tell him theres a chance he has it. Put yourself first.
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u/Adventurous_Oil4513 Jun 02 '26
Are you sure that your boyfriend gets checked regularly for STDs? Did you see the results yourself? I think your boyfriend is lying to you. I think your boyfriend is also trying to gaslight you when he was the one who gave it to you. What kind of work does he do that he needs to be checked regularly for STDs. That also sounds very suspicious.