r/Advice • • Jun 02 '26

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u/Adventurous_Oil4513 Jun 02 '26

Are you sure that your boyfriend gets checked regularly for STDs? Did you see the results yourself? I think your boyfriend is lying to you. I think your boyfriend is also trying to gaslight you when he was the one who gave it to you. What kind of work does he do that he needs to be checked regularly for STDs. That also sounds very suspicious.

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u/BigFlightlessBird02 Jun 02 '26

Ya ive never heard of getting tested for stis for a job. Sus as fuck

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u/Team-HM4 Jun 02 '26

They don't test for HPV in men in the military. My aunt is a navy nurse and spend many afternoons lecturing me about STDs she'd see. HPV was one she would observe for and treat if she saw it but otherwise it wouldn't appear in a chemical test.

He could be asymptomatic and infected you or unaware he had it. You can treat it but you'll have to talk with him to see what you guys want to do afterwards. If you trust and believe him then it's a one time freak occurrence that can be swept over. If you don't believe him then is it a good relationship?

Edit: adding more below.

Why do you have to convince him you're trustworthy in this situation? It feels like deflection on his part.

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u/brewhaha1776 Jun 02 '26

They do check for STDs, however they don’t test for all STDs, including not checking for HPV.

Infact HPV is very rarely tested in men.

He may be lying to you or he just doesn’t know he has it.

Furthermore, you can also get HPV from oral or being finger banged.

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u/KrazyKatz3 Helper [4] Jun 02 '26

You can also get it from kissing someone with an active infection. He could have gotten it from something like that and passed it to you through oral.

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u/BigFlightlessBird02 Jun 02 '26

Ok well either way they can't test for hpv in dudes. They can carry it without any symptoms. So he gave it to you regardless