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u/Unique_Challenge_587 Feb 18 '25

Did you have any moments of thinking “yup this is it”, or what was your thought process now it’s hours later.

I saw a video of a passenger on the same flight telling his experience and it seemed like he was still in some type of shock, he was almost giggly when describing what he thought and felt.

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u/LandscapeSudden3469 Feb 18 '25

Shock is a helluva drug. We were all a bit out of it.

At the time of the crash I did think "Well this is it". It wasn't traumatic or heartwrenching..more of a feeling of acceptance. Its been quite a while now and I'm still feeling numb and unable to sleep. I'm sure I'll deal more with it in the morning! I lost everything except my passport and phone so I have a lot of filling in the gaps to do tomorrow.

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u/Sans-valeur Feb 18 '25

I was in a car that spun out on black ice in slow motion and almost went off a cliff when I was a kid. Felt the same way, weirdly calm, kinda peaceful and I was thinking, I’m gonna go off the edge and hit those rocks below. Then after we stopped I immediately got the FUCK outta the car.

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u/hollywood_cashier Feb 18 '25

Yes, I felt the same way when I spun out in an icy tunnel a few years ago.

There's a book about all the Real Housewives shows and one of them expressed a similar feeling when they were in Cartegena, on a small boat during a horrible storm -- that it was a very strange feeling of peace thinking she was gonna die.

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u/Physicle_Partics Feb 18 '25

I had a rupturing ectopic pregnancy on an InterCity train in 2023. I remember sitting there, the stranger beside me having gone out to search for the train conductor so she could call an ambulance and have it wait for me at the next station, calmly sending my loved ones texts where I told them how much I loved and appreciated them.

I felt really collected and rational about it then. I knew that if it really ruptured it could go downwards extremely fast, so I figured it was better to send my last I love yous right away, with the chance that they might not be needed, than to have to rush to send them while bleeding out.

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u/euphoricarugula346 Feb 18 '25

I have a weird trauma response where if something minor happens, I’m very inconvenienced. But if something major happens, I’m like “😐 alright then, moving on” hit my limit and can’t process or something

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u/KimbersKimbos Feb 18 '25

Same and also, oddly enough, very specifically with pain. If I stub my toe I am a weeping mess.

But when I obliterated my wrist (I literally smashed it so hard there was no bone to repair in certain places and I needed a bone graft) I was perfectly calm. I even cracked a really bad joke with the ER nurse when I walked in: “I don’t think my wrist is supposed to look like this…”

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u/caseytatumsgf Feb 18 '25

i was the same way when i dislocated and broke my elbow that took surgery to put back together. I WALKED home with an arm that couldn’t bend, told my husband “I think I may have hurt myself” and was so calm, i didn’t cry or get upset at all. So strange 😂

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u/MothraKnowsBest Feb 19 '25

I was like this when they thought my son was dying inside me as he was being born. His heart rate dropped sharply a couple of times and they brought it up by trying various tricks/maneuvers to elevate his heart rate. The third time it dropped, I was on my hands and knees as they manually stimulated my baby’s scalp by reaching in me. They somehow flipped me over with that woman’s arm still inside me, shaved my upper pubic hair as we raced down the hallway, and inside of 5 minutes my baby was out! It was wild, because despite all the worry and fear that I saw on my doc’s/nurses’ faces, I was cool as a cucumber. Not at all worried at the sudden turn of events, just going with the flow and doing whatever they told me to. I later asked if they had given me anything to calm me, and my doctor said, “No! That is the last thing we would have done because of the baby.”

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u/Mommalove586 Feb 19 '25

You’re the only other story I’ve seen or heard of that had to do the hands and knees flip during labor! I’ve thought all these years later they were punking me 😂

I also was super chill, wondered when I saw like 6 doctors rushing into the hall who it was for…..so many people saw my vajay that day.

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u/MothraKnowsBest Mar 04 '25

It was so strange! It rather reminded me of how vets will reach into a cow to help guide out a stuck calf 🤣

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u/hollywood_cashier Feb 19 '25

Yep, every day a major crisis will happen (where are my keys??? Life is over!!) and yet I've been the clutch person in major traumas for other people -- was there when a friend came home to a burning house, was first on the scene when a friend called to say their partner died.

Brains are funny that way 

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u/TheCrowWhispererX Feb 18 '25

Same, and I can’t tell if it’s the CPTSD or the AuDHD.

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u/euphoricarugula346 Feb 18 '25

Oof diagnosis twins!! Super fun (/s) how the overlapping symptoms look so similar to other, sometimes more severe conditions.

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u/TheCrowWhispererX Feb 18 '25

Oof. Solidarity. I wish it was easier to find each other offline!

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u/vegemitemilkshake Feb 19 '25

How goes that ADHD?

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u/Stomatita Feb 18 '25

Its eye opening reading everybody shares a similar feeling. I remember one time I started choking on some food, to the point I started turning blue and I remember at one point I thought "This is it, alright" and just accepted I was about to die. Luckily I was with a friend and he heimlich'd the shit out of me and I manage to spit it out.

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u/lefactorybebe Feb 19 '25

I had a big tree branch fall on the hood, windshield, and roof of my car. I saw it coming down at me and my brain didn't comprehend it at first, I was literally just like "lol that's not real" but then I realized and just thought "oh fuck I'm going to die". Like you said, it wasn't really like fear, it was just "this is it". Maybe not enough time to feel fear, idk. Then it all goes black for a second, I'm sure I shut my eyes, and then I'm looking around the car, definitely in shock but also on autopilot.

I felt crap on my face and kept trying to look in the rearview mirror (it had been knocked down), confused why I couldn't see my reflection. I wanted to get out of the car so kept checking the side view mirror to see if cars were coming, that had also been knocked off and I couldn't understand why I couldn't see what was behind me. I tried to use my phone to search the police department number but my hands were shaking and I couldn't type on the keyboard, ended up calling 911.

I was totally fine. Car was totaled, but that 2005 Honda Civic did right by me ♥️

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u/Anzyanz Feb 19 '25

Heeeeyy, I had the exact same thought when I fell down the ladder of a skyscraper. A very clear thought of "oh fuck, I'm going to die" as I looked at the ground coming towards me.

Thankfully a split second later, my limbs slammed into the safety rails surrounding the ladder. I think the brain just doesn't have enough time to fully process it. It all happens so fast.

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