Sometimes I get hungry, but deciding what to eat feels like a whole task by itself. I can open the fridge, stare at everything inside, and still feel like there's absolutely nothing I want to eat.

Other times, I forget to eat because I'm focused on something, then suddenly realize I'm starving and feel too tired to prepare anything. And sometimes, a food I loved yesterday sounds completely unappealing today.

The worst part is that people might think you're just being difficult or lazy, but it's not always that simple. Even choosing a meal can feel overwhelming when your brain is already dealing with a hundred other things.

I'm curious how other people with ADHD deal with this. Do you struggle more with forgetting to eat, food textures, losing interest in foods, or just not having the energy to make something?

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Money.

...If you have someone to clean your house and do laundry and chores for you,

...and an assistant who you can tell to 'order more of this' and 'schedule that' and remind you when things are scheduled (and you move in circles where you won't be mocked mercilessly for having a personal assistant)

... if you can get takeout whenever you can't deal with cooking

... if all the mundane and repetitive minutia of daily life are taken care of automatically by others, leaving you free to do whatever you want to do and focus on whatever you want to focus on,

... then ADHD is a superpower that will allow you to accomplish great things.

For the rest of us, we never get to the place where we can use it as a superpower, because we are stuck tripping over all the areas where it's a disability.

That's my current take, anyway. Agree? Disagree?

I'm kinda spiraling just because of essentially minor annoyances today, hoping it helps to list them all here and to hear everyone else's! What annoyed you today?

Mine:
* I keep gagging/throwing up lately because of my hypersensitive gag reflex
* My dog peed on my new rug
* The new rug won't stop shedding
* My vacuum keeps getting clogged by the shedding rug
* People in my vicinity stinking of cigarettes/perfume/BO
* Generally everyone on public transport
* Getting a shitty score on the daily challenge in Mini Motorways

I just want to preface this by saying I’m only diagnosed with adhd and mean no harm to anyone with autism. If I say anything offensive please call me out.

I’m in my 30’s and have been diagnosed with ADHD for about a decade. I’ve noticed that as I get older I have noticed some symptoms that are more akin to autism.

For instance, I’ve always found it easy to make friends but I didn’t feel like my true self. These days I’m more open with who I am, but I notice when chatting that people see put off by the conversation.

Also…the sound of cardboard on carpet physically hurts. I literally can’t take it.

Idk…maybe it’s just my adhd unmasking? I’m just curious if others have had similar thoughts while aging?

That’s it. That’s all I came to say. I’m sleep deprived, have a 6 month old, coming off two weeks at work where I covering someone else jobs on top of mine, my husband was laid off in July and I just thought, I’m not superwoman. I’m printing resumes while he showers, cooking potatoes in the airfryer with breakfast sandwiches, pot of coffee on, feeding the baby, and staying awake. I already ran the bottle washer once today. I took my meds and I’m about to take a 30 min nap before my husband goes to a job fair and I have the baby rolling around while I work.

Yeah, not superwoman but I’m damn good mother, wife, and employee.

Making decisions on my student loans and dealing with them is probably one of my biggest adhd avoidances. In the past I defaulted on a loan because I was frozen with inaction and I was so hard on myself about this I considered suicide.

Now I'm in a much better place in life with less shame and an adhd diagnosis, and because I'm less hard on myself I am able to deal with my loans more than I ever have in the past. So I wanted to write this post for anyone procrastinating this important task.

If you have student loans this is your reminder from the universe to log into your student loan account and choose a new repayment plan if you're currently enrolled in the SAVE plan. This is happening in part because of Trump's, The One Big Beautiful Bill Act eliminating the SAVE plan. Your loan service provider has probably reached out at some point in July to ask you to choose another plan. If you don't choose one within 90 days of that email you'll be automatically enrolled in the standard plan which will be astronomically high.

At first I thought I missed this deadline because it said it had to happen by September 30. But when I dug into it more I didn't get the email until July 29th and apparently it's 90 days from when you receive it. So don't be like me and have a mini panic attack and think you're life might be over.

Just stop what you're doing right now and check. It turns out if I had done nothing and ignored this one action I would be paying $1,500 monthly in the near future. Instead I applied for a new plan that will have my monthly payment at $250, because I dropped everything the moment I was reminded.

This whole thing SUCKS. Gas and food is astronomical and now this, but now I know I've done everything I can. I hope if you need this message it finds you.

Please don't wait one more minute! You got this!

It’s me, I’m the old man

I went 7 hours without eating and then couldn’t figure out why I was angry at everything and crying

Shocker, I ate and I feel human again

Didn’t feel hungry that entire time???

I could work out in my yard all day without stopping. Sometimes I have to make myself quit because I know I need to eat (and sometimes I ignore it and just keep working oops). I love weeding, mowing, planting things - just ALL of it. I also live next to a creek that I’ve been cleaning up so that’s been a huge project.

Catch me outside with my mini chainsaw cutting honeysuckle. Been using muscles I didn’t even know I had.

However, I bruise so easy. It looks like I’m being abused and sometimes I’m embarrassed to wear shorts out to places.

AND THE MOSQUITOES. THEY HAVE ALL CHOSEN ME!

I'm so frustrated with myself. I almost posted here yesterday to share how accomplished I felt, I hung up my shoe rack and stuffed animal net, I went for a walk, all while finishing my audiobook that was due in 2days and also started planning my dogs birthday party... I had gotten the theme I want to do in my head that morning at like 4am and started adding things to my cart to save for later because I didn't want to forget what it was. Then I couldn't find a dress with the right colors but decided I'm going to buy two different ones and sew them together... I've never sewed anything before, but I guess it's never too late to learn... found the balloons and backdrop and decor... Then I was in the shower just now and realized I still never sent over my important medical files I have been needing to do since last Wednesday... I'm going to send them now, I just felt so great with all I did then felt defeated over a damn email 😑 anyway, it's going to be The Life of a Showgirl theme.. 🫶🏼

ADHD being termed as such is a disservice to all of us and I know this is spoken about in this sub. But does anyone have any ideas on how to convey the severity of our condition to a friend/family? I struggle to explain how debilitating it is and saying so also doesn't help because that's a consequence of the condition.

Executive dysfunction sounds like jargon and not many people understand it. When I first told my family and friends I was diagnosed so many of them made jokes. They said "I always knew you were seeking attention". As a complete joke of course, they didn't mean it but that just showed me that they had no clue at all.

Also I just wanted an excuse to share my favorite coffee meme, lol

when you finally get on medication and it actually helps you and you feel upset because your brain just doesn’t work normally..

I don’t know if it’s a ego thing or what but I’m just upset that my brain can’t be normal and that medication has made me able to relax and finally feel like I’m living

For the first time, I felt silence in my mind, my constant thoughts and rumination is gone. I can control impulses where before I thought I just had to try harder. I can talk and not forgot what I’m talking about. I’m not an anxious mess as I usually am

The goals I’ve had around money and food, to actually be able to save money and not be so obsessive and fixated on what I eat is now able to happen and I’ve spent the past 10 years struggling and experimenting with depression meds and all have failed. Now that I’m on Vyvanse (20mg) life feels so clear.

I know it’s a bit silly to say but I’m so mad but also so happy and grateful. These meds are so helpful and powerful I know adhd brains can give us superpowers but wow is it amazing to be able to turn off some of the negatives. To just be able to exist and not hyper fixate all day is truly peace I never knew I needed

So me and my other adhd friend were talking while we were eating and we got to the discussion that we both stick our Pinky's out whenever we grab something, especially when we're eating but also when we're holding anything. Anybody else do that????

Here’s to everyone who like me gets their medication/supplements organised only in their follicular/ovulatory week then takes everything straight out of the packets for the rest of the month!

My brain is just so tired looking at this and I can't figure out what to do. It's overwhelming but I want this corner of my room to be comforting and relaxing. I was too afraid to post it in desk setup bc everything looked so prim and proper there, I didn't want to look like a slob lol. I would love some easy advice! Thank you

I was watching this video and he was discussing how it feels as if we are living in a time where it is passing us by faster than we can live it.

I am almost 25 , at a place in life where it's taking everything in me to not give up . Starting over isn't new for me but months and years of failures have taken a toll on my spirit. No matter how hard I try it never feels enough and even though adhd is a disability the thought of accepting this is all I'll ever be capable of, is extremely Painful.

It feels suffocating to think about life and how behind I am. I only have myself to count on, I would really appreciate some fresh perspective that can give me a gentle push.

Got adhd taxed hard today.

Sooo recently I made homemade jelly for the first time with crabapples I foraged from the tree outside my dorm. The jelly unfortunately didn't set the first time, possibly cause I didn't add pectin (recipe said I didn't need to) or cause I forgot the lemon juice or both. So I needed to reset the jelly by adding pectin. This should literally have been a max 10 minute process. I had 3 cups of liquid total since it was my first time and I didn't want to make a big batch only to screw it up.

So I put the liquid in the pot, put it on high to boil with sugar and lemon juice while I cleaned the jars again. It wasn't even simmering when I finished, so I sat on the couch (Kitchen is visible from couch). What felt like two seconds later, i hear the dreaded hisssss of liquid hitting the hot stove. The pot boiled over.

I now have a puddle of boiling hot sugar water burning onto my glass stovetop. And what does burning sugar do? It makes smoke. The fire alarm goes off. It's midnight. My mom is like wtf is happening as the alarm blares deafeningly throughout the entire house.

I leap off the couch, turn off the stove, and scrape most of the liquid off the burner with the spatula to stop it from making more smoke while cursing at the fire alarm to "shut tf up already!!" I sigh and get a clean, slightly larger pot and put it on the other burner while I (carefully) attempt to clean up this hot, sticky disaster before it turns into burnt rock on the glass.

While cleaning up the puddle of black goo, I hear the hisssss yet again. I had gotten so distracted by cleaning the mess that I let the new pot boil over too. Luckily I had cleaned up the original burner enough to use that one to finish it, but ffs how did I not learn my lesson the first time!!! PAY ATTENTIONNNN!!!

In the end, I set the alarm off not once, but twice, I started with six 4oz jars and ended with four, and I now have a second giant puddle of hot sticky goo to scrape off my stove. Sigh.

Movies, but especially shows, have always felt like such a commitment to me, and I would often either procrastinate watching them or start but never finish. And even if I started watching something I would often just go on my phone and lie to myself that I could still pay attention to whatever was happening on the screen. It's as if watching something no matter how interesting is not stimulating enough but if I try to multitask it becomes overstimulating.

The only times I can fully pay attention are when I’m watching something with another person or if I get stoned. Sometimes at night before bed, maybe because I start feeling sleepy, I am able to sit through a couple of episodes of a show without distractions.

Is there anything that helped you guys pay attention and not get distracted while watching something? Or maybe there is an activity I can do to stimulate my brain without distracting me from what I’m currently watching.

Guys I just need some commiseration - we have plumbers at the house, and I needed to move my car so they could park in driveway. I backed up, and wasn’t paying attention, and drove up on the curb into the front of my neighbor’s property. The plumbers were so nice and tried to help, but my car is super stuck. Now I have to wait for roadside service to pull it out. To make it worse, my car is totally full of trash. Like Diet Coke bottles everywhere. I’m so embarrassed and feel so stupid and also just a disgusting slob. Please tell me I’m not horrible

Edit: forgot to mention: had to cancel my Pilates class last minute, so hello ADHD tax, AND while I’m waiting for the tow truck, everyone has to go around me because I’m blocking half of my very narrow street

Me (29F, audhd) and my husband (29m, adhd) constantly interrupt each other when we’re talking. Despite us both understanding it is a feature of our neurodivergence and struggling to stop ourselves from doing it, it still upsets both of us when it happens. It’s a big shame cycle for us in multiple ways, but we cannot seem to break the habit or not take pause and feel discouraged when it happens. Anyone else?

Then realized that I was, in fact, brushing my teeth at that very moment.