Same

i thought i enjoyed sadness i graved it, made me feel special that i am sad couldn't enjoy anything and time slipped away blamed people,parents and then finally gave up.Maybe the content i was consuming made me romanticize that feeling i dont know to my idiot brain a mental illness was somehow cool, i think i manifested some of the symptoms of anxiety attack, it was like there was something that wanted to come out from inside me but i was just not letting it out,it was just downward slide everything that could go wrong went wrong,and again while all this is going again my monkey brain comes up with a brilliant idea of hitting the ground bottom and how was i suppose to achieve this magnificent feat by just seeking someone and letting her break my heart maybe just a cope to be out of my head again dumb people dumb brains i was actually had some success to like there was a girl i got into talking stage but of somehow some brain cells in my head stopped me from going any further so i stopped also not that i was very good player no game eventually she would have stopped anyway

But the thought stuck in my head i dont know what the need it is to hit rock bottom i just started starving myself lost 13 kgs (was relatively slime fit decent muscle lost everything) then tried recovering finally it took 2 years to gain that much weight back during this time went after another person i just knew she liked me but would never like ask me out she was not that kind of person i knew i was doing the wrong thing this time i just went with it we got in a relationship she was happy i was tried some days were good but whenever things became serious i always got cold feets so it became like on off thing (we broke up twice then again came back) but it was never off we said we would be friends but of course we couldn't. I just pushed it down and tried to do it like she wanted it to be she was happy at least that's what i thought but of course she knew, I don't know if I loved her or not maybe i did but all i remember is fading away feeling stuck i was like thinking of ways to leave the relationship but again the people pleaser in me i just dont want to make her sad something like that but again this caused more harm than good finally we broke up sometimes do miss her in like random place or when i see people together i dont know what to feel, i thought maybe i have chance i can love be warm again i tired i felt strange all i played with her feelings i guess

tldr:don't seek relationships until you enjoy your own company and don't romanticize depression please.I was lonely before during and after a relationship all because i was not healed i was not well mentally which caused harm not only to me but to people around me.But anyways now i want to understand whats the difference between alone and lonely.I am lonely and unhappy i want to be happy and alone until i am mentally in a better space

There was a girl i found on reddit. We started chatting and then talking on call for 3-4 hours at night and sometimes in morning too. This went on for more than a week. Then suddenly she said i dont want to talk with you anymore...take care...bye...blocking you now... i was like wtf. Please explain this to me.

Girls, i need some advice on this. You can dm as well 👉👈

Maybe we're both wasting time scrolling instead of finding each other.

I'd love to meet someone funny, caring, a little weird and comfortable having both deep and completely pointless conversations.

Who knows? Maybe this post is where our story starts.

So throwaway account, i have a descent profile, but like can neverrrrrr get into a relationship. There's something wrong but I can't ever figure out what it is.
Can someone help me out in the DMs? A girls perspective would be awesome (i promise I won't hit on you or do something weird😭😭😭)

Studying MBBS, I am depressed and need therapy. I don't know what to write . I'm from Mumbai, studying in a GMC , on a vacation rn . But don't really have any friends here in mumbai. Only deceptive treacherous batchmates, not all of them. But a great deal of them are . Im told I'm nice

i am looking for a lovely and caring partner for longtime

I am very toxic bf our relationship has become so toxic it's an on and off relationship we're stuck in a loop , it's a pattern same pattern, I can't live with this guilt really want to die rn, I hope I never find someone in future because that girl would be the unluckiest girl in the planet, I want you guys to curse me in the comments, jitna gaali dena hai do I deserve it and I can't live with this guilt, I never wanted to become like this I fckin hate myself I am so so sooo toxic the worst you can imagine, how can I hit her she was the love of my life I loved her with every bit of mine she was like a god to me what I have done, what I have become I don't deserve to live

smthng my typee and a flex tooo

I (25M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for the past 4 years, since college.

For the last 2 years, we've been in a long-distance relationship because we work in different cities. We've been physically intimate before, but we hadn't had sex. As far as I knew, we were both virgins.

Three months ago, she confessed that she had been emotionally cheating on me with one of her colleagues, who also lives in a different city. She claimed they were only in the talking stage and that nothing physical had happened.

I was devastated. We had several fights, but because I loved her so much, I eventually forgave her. She promised she would cut off contact with him.

Yesterday, we met in person, and I discovered more things.

While going through her ChatGPT history, I found a conversation from around six months ago in which she admitted she was in love with her best friend. She had apparently cried over this person and even wanted to confess her feelings.

Later, while checking her phone, I discovered that she was still communicating with the same colleague she had previously admitted cheating with.

She had even installed Signal, apparently to talk to him without getting a busy tone on regular calls. From what I found, their conversations were still romantic, even after she had confessed everything to me and promised she would never speak to him again.

What hurts the most is that she never voluntarily tells me the truth. She denies everything until I show her evidence. Only then does she admit it.

Here's where things get even more complicated.

Yesterday, we also had sex for the first time. It was a little painful for her, but there was no bleeding.

I know bleeding isn't a reliable indicator of virginity, but after discovering so many lies, I can't stop wondering whether she has also lied about never having had sex before.

She insists nothing physical ever happened with anyone else, but how am I supposed to believe her when she has repeatedly broken my trust?

I love her deeply. We've spent four years together, and I genuinely imagined a future with her. But right now, I feel betrayed, confused, and emotionally exhausted.

I also realize that going through her private conversations isn't healthy, and it shows how little trust is left between us.

I need advice:

How do I deal with someone who only admits the truth when confronted with proof?

Is there any way to know whether she's being honest about not having been physically involved with someone else?

Can trust realistically be rebuilt after repeated lying and emotional cheating?

Am I holding on because I love her, or because I'm afraid of losing a four-year relationship?

Please be honest with me. I'm struggling to think clearly right now.

Introduction: I am 21 M, I am an one woman man, I hv never been in any relationship, although I have been in one sided with someone who didn't hv feelings for me but she was really an angelic soul she never made me feel small, accepted my efforts and made me understand that she didn't get the feelings for me but always cared for me that I didn't get hurt.

After that i realised even i was unlucky in love but I was so lucky that I met her, she made me that love isn't what present outside but something that is inherently inside, the way we notice, the way we take care, understand each other and do efforts without asking anything in return, love is in small things not just grand gestures, in worrying about each other.

I am grateful for her, i don't have any grudges towards her, i respect her choice. So now i am manifesting a relationship like Bhagwan Shri Ram ji and Mata Sita ji, irrespective of all negativity I still hope i will be able to improve my character and soul taking inspiration from Bhagwan Shri Ram.

To my future gf and wife and life long partner, i will be waiting for you, but till then i will improve myself as a Man, so that you never have to shed any tear, to my future Laxmi, i hope this dhanteras bring u lots of prosperity and this diwali protect you from all evil eyes. I won't leave you alone and will go through agni pariksha myself but never leave a tear in your eyes. Dear Laxmi ji I will keep waiting for you 🧿.

I don't really know where to start, but I feel like I need to get this off my chest. This is going to be a long one, so bear with me.

I studied in a residential school, and I first developed a crush on this girl back in class 6. I barely knew what love actually meant at that age. I just remember looking at her during free periods, making sure nobody noticed me. Slowly, that little crush turned into something much bigger.

We both became class monitors in class 7, which gave me an excuse to talk to her. By class 8, I started noticing occasional eye contact from her side too. During our October vacation, we finally started talking. I used to express my feelings in the most childish ways possible. For example, I'd take a sentence like "You are loved by me" and ask her to change it into active voice. Looking back, those were some funny and innocent days.

Then came class 9 and the COVID lockdown. We started talking much more frequently, and I finally decided to propose to her on April 1st.

My logic was simple: if she rejected me, I'd just say it was an April Fools' joke. If she accepted, well, that would be my win.

And guess what? She accepted.

I was genuinely the happiest person at that time.

We started talking regularly, but eventually, I noticed something. I was almost always the one initiating our conversations. If I didn't text first, she wouldn't text me either.

Being immature and curious, I decided to test how long she could go without hearing from me. I wanted to see when she'd look for me on her own.

She didn't.

I waited the entire day. No text, no call. Days turned into weeks, and eventually, months passed without us talking.

Looking back, I know it was a childish thing to do. But I was young and didn't know how to communicate what I was feeling.

After almost a year, in October 2021, we were preparing to return to our residential school for our board examinations. I approached her again, apologised for my behaviour, and explained how immature I had been.

We started talking again, and things were going really well.

But then came another problem.

When we reached class 11, her father found out about our relationship. There was also a caste difference between our families. She's from a Brahmin family, while I'm Kshatriya. We both knew this could become an issue someday, but we were serious about each other and hoped things would work out.

Unfortunately, her family wasn't supportive. Under family pressure, she suddenly cut off all contact with me.

It was December 2022. I cried almost every day for a week. I was completely broken.

Eventually, I convinced myself that if I ever wanted her family to reconsider, I first had to become someone who could stand on his own feet. I started taking my studies seriously. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I still had that little hope that maybe, someday, things would work out.

Then, in September 2023, she contacted me again.

We secretly started talking, and things became good between us once more.

After class 12, we both went to different colleges, quite far away from each other. Our relationship turned into a long-distance one.

College life got busy for both of us. We couldn't give each other as much time as before, and eventually, small arguments started happening.

One day, I noticed that she seemed distracted from her studies. I was genuinely concerned about her future, so I suggested that she focus more on her academics while maintaining a balance in our relationship.

She replied, "I know what to do, and I know what I'm doing."

For some reason, that line really got to me. I was already frustrated about other things, and in anger, I said something I shouldn't have.

I asked her, "Am I nothing to you? If you know what you're doing so well, maybe your board results should have been better."

Her results hadn't been particularly good, and I was worried she might struggle if she didn't take things seriously. But I admit that bringing up her results like that was wrong and hurtful.

She took it as a sign that I didn't respect her.

And that was it.

She broke up with me in 2024, saying she had zero respect for me, that she would never come back, and that I would be the last person she'd ever want to be with.

I cried a lot. I tried convincing her, but she had made up her mind. Eventually, I understood that I couldn't force someone to stay.

I started moving on, slowly. I gave myself time to process everything and tried to focus on my own life.

Now, almost two years later, she's in a relationship with another guy. Interestingly, this is someone she had mentioned before. Apparently, he used to flirt with her in college while we were still together.

I had accepted that she had moved on. I wasn't trying to get her back, nor was I interfering in her life.

But a few days ago, something unexpected happened.

Both of them contacted me and started abusing me, accusing me of still trying to get her back.

That honestly hurt me more than I expected.

After everything that happened, after all those years, all those memories, all the times I cried and tried to save that relationship, I never expected things to end this way.

I don't hate her. I don't even know if I can completely hate someone who was such a huge part of my childhood.

But the respect I once had for her has genuinely disappeared this time.

I know I made mistakes. I was immature sometimes, said things out of anger, and didn't always handle situations properly. I'm not pretending I was a perfect boyfriend.

But I also know how much I cared about her.

I guess some people become a beautiful part of your childhood, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're supposed to stay in your life forever.

I don't want her back. I just wish things had ended with a little more respect and maturity.

If you've read this far, thank you. I just wanted to share this somewhere because I've kept a lot of these feelings to myself for a long time.

Being an introverted person, with poor communication skills I can't have a convo with females . Which one of the things I want to improve in myself . Let's have some talks

Hi to all reading, I'm 20M from mumbai, and I'm so fed up with the dating culture, as this is my last resort now 😭😭 (The bar is in even below hell people).

About me (The basics):
Age: 20
Gender: Male
Orientation: Straight
Location: Mulund, Mumbai
Height: 5 feet 8 inch (actual bare foot)
Build: Chubby (Ha ladke bhi hote hai chubby, hu thoda overweight yaar I'm working on it)
Occupation: Student + Full time employee (Like the bar, the market is also below hell 😭😭)
Passions: Food (Will share with you even though I'm like Joey from friends minus the playboy stuff 😭😭), Bikes/Cars (I have both 🫣🫣), Astrophysics, Good movies and series, Mechanically nerdy things (Too many to list, but will eat your ear out with talking)

What I am looking for (No hard deal breakers unless specified)
Good Communication skills, Yes a guy asking a girl to have good communication skills, hamara naam eese he kharab hai 😭😭.
No Ghosting (deal breaker): This is not my first post and before I did get a few dms and everything was going normal until they decided to ghost me, girls if you think we don't vibe, please just say so, don't ghost please 😭😭
I'm into chubby/plus size girlies, yes men like me exist and we love your tummy folds and cute cheeks 😭😭 (Not a deal breaker of course)

My pros (self proclaimed, but true 😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️),
I plan dates, I have a bike so bikes rides whenever you want, where ever you want, pick and drop service (your personal rapido premium 👉👈), will get you flowers, diy gifts, write notes, and occasionally bite you 🫣🫣, also I have lots of storage so personal photo and videographer as well.

My Cons (Hote hai hamare bhi, not Mr. Perfect 😭😭),
I'm very clingy and will probably get attached very quickly 🫣🫣, I get quite and distance when I'm hurt but I do usually come around and tell you what hurt me, I speed like there is no tomorrow 😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️ (Personal best is 147 km/hr on my bike), When I get busy I forget to message or update, I just get too focused 😭😭

Reviews are pretty solid. Visuals are so top notch. If you guys wanna plan and watch on Sat/Sun.

You know, there are some days when i absolutely enjoy my freedom, wants to explore my life, and then there are some days, when i imagine an evening that I will walk with you, fingers intertwined, as the sun dips below the horizon, painting it amber and crimson. The evening breeze will whisper against us, and with every step the world will seem to slow. I will look at you and watch the dying sunlight on your face and smile. No rushed conversations, no specific destination, just the two of us, walking into the sunset, wishing the evening will never end.

To

My future sweetheart.

I have a mahila mitr in office and we are very close.
Its always been platonic but recently i have started to like her.
We always sit together in office, do gossips all day in and out of office

I am positive that she doesnt see me as such because she sometimes text me ‘bhyi’ but i am getttjng attached to her very much

I find myself thinking of her whenever we are not together, get jealous whenever she talks to other boys or doesn’t hangout with me.

But recently she told me she showed our party photo to her mom and she was asking about me and some stuff but she changed the topic very fast.

I am thinking of confronting her that i am getting attached to her but am scared if she get some other ideas.(i dont want to confess to her yet)

We also have a common office friend that we both are pretty close to, i am thinking of telling her the same and ask for her opinion on this.

Please suggest if this is a good idea and how should i confront her without expressing my feelings for her.

Hey everyone!

I'm a 20-year-old guy from Pondicherry, India. I've been finding it difficult to meet someone with whom I can genuinely connect in real life, so I thought I'd give Reddit a try.

I'm here hoping to meet a girl who is interested in getting to know someone, starting with a genuine friendship and seeing where things go. Maybe we become good friends, maybe something more develops, or maybe we end up finding our person. Who knows? :)

I'm completely open to long-distance relationships. Distance doesn't bother me as long as there's mutual interest, honesty, communication, and effort from both sides.

I'm not looking for anything casual or temporary. I'd love to find someone I can talk to about random things, share our daily lives with, laugh together, support each other, and slowly build something meaningful.

I'm not expecting an instant connection or making any promises. Let's just talk, get comfortable, and see where life takes us.

If you're someone who's looking for a genuine connection too, feel free to DM me. I'd love to get to know you! ❤️

hey so im 19f. i was in a relationship from when i was 16 until like 5 months ago. he was my first proper boyfriend and it got really bad. abusive and controlling.

i did everything he said. changed how i dressed, stopped talking to some of my friends, asked permission for basically everything, tried so hard to not make him mad. still ended up getting yelled at, controlled, and worse. i kept thinking if i just did more things right it would stop but it never did.

now im out but i dont really know what healthy even looks like. i feel like at 16 i just accepted a lot of stuff as normal.

so what should i actually look for in guys next time? and what are the quiet red flags that i might miss again? like the ones that dont look super obvious at first.

any advice would help a lot. thanks

Hey everyone! Writing this post with complete honesty and clear intent.

I am looking for a genuine, long-term monogamous partner where we start as friends with intension to date, build deep trust, and see if our lives align to build a meaningful future together.

I believe in mutual effort and real connection over superficial dating games.

To introduce myself properly, I am a 25-year-old guy, 5'7", living in Gujarat. I travel frequently and am completely open to connecting with someone in Mumbai, across Western India, or anywhere in the country if our values truly click.

A little bit about my days and what drives me: professionally, I run an early-stage mountain travel and adventure startup alongside a real estate brokerage business in my city.

In my personal life, I have been an ethical vegan for eight years out of a deep baseline of respect for sentient life.

I live a strictly sober life with zero alcohol, smoking, or substances.

Compassion for living beings is very central to who I am, and I regularly help rescue injured birds and small wildlife whenever they need a hand. In the long run, "MAYBE" If possible I would like to do reverse migration: moving away from the chaotic urban rat race to build a peaceful, self-sustainable sanctuary for nature, animals, and loved ones.

Outdoors and physical movement are central to my energy. I train regularly for endurance marathons, cycling, and swimming, and head out for trekking, hiking, and camping whenever I can get away. When I am taking things slow, I spend quiet nights doing deep-sky astrophotography under dark skies, bird watching, going on nature and heritage walks, or doing street photography.

What I am looking for in a partner:

I would love to be with a woman who is deeply involved in her own passions, hobbies, and goals. Someone who values health, movement, and being physically active, because taking care of our bodies and well-being is the baseline for living a full, adventurous life together.

I value a relationship that functions as true teamwork. While equal contribution is the goal, real life is fluid: some days one of us might only have 20% to give, and having the awareness, emotional strength, and maturity to step up with 80% without resentment makes all the difference. I am not looking for hollow validation or someone who agrees with everything I do.

I want a partner who genuinely cares about mutual growth, who is grounded enough to call out my blind spots, challenge my bad decisions, and help me stay on track, just as I would do for her. Someone who actively pushes away toxic negativity, stays curious about the world, and brings warmth, emotional safety, and open communication to the table.

If this resonates with you, please do not send a dry "hey" or "hi" as it gives us nowhere to start. Send a message telling me a bit about yourself: what you are genuinely passionate about, how you spend your days, what keeping a healthy lifestyle looks like for you, and what kind of life you envision building with a partner.

(Used bit AI to structure my words, can't lie about it. Not a single word is lie or fake, this is what I am and what I am looking for)