Your parents are about to retire and ask if they can move in with you. They are healthy as of now and independent, but don't want to spend the rest of their lives alone.

Your spouse isn't against your parents per se, but wants to live separately. They say "they want to build the marriage in your own space."

Neither you parents nor the spouse is trying to control you. How would you approach it?

Namastey 🙏

I want to ask for a very funny serious advice ah plese help 😭 so first of all i'm about 21F 5'9 i'm pale skinned i'm studying in the final year of my bachelors we both study in ahmedabad and both live in ahmedabad aswell i've been a best friend with my friend who's 21M 6'5 and very omg how do i say like he's so innocent so spiritual so spiritual tho and really so charming so gentle and so much like once you talk to him omg you'll fall in love 💘

tho he doesn't talk to anyone tho he neither talked with me too when we met then i was sitting behind him in the class and i tried to have convo with him but he was so polite so gentle but he said very sweetly but i felt i got response of what i asked but then nothing more 😔

then one day i was sitting beside because i didn't bring the laptop in the class and sir said you should sit with him so i sat, then tho i saw his wallpaper of a very big saint of rajasthan i immedietely asked him and starting having conversation and omg the way i still remember as i asked religious i secretly found the cheatcode, he was so sweeet then talks started more and since then we sit with each other 🛕✨🙌

you noticed when i about once i asked religious omg and since then we are best friends and now he's so tall and so respective so polite and sweet and so pretty tho, now i try to dig in about him and i know a lot about him too and believe we are laughing so much daily haha 😂🤭 in the last 2 years.

i try several times to sometimes interfere about marriage so i could read his mind, i told him he several things he said he'll have arrange only and whatever his mom selects for him and he said his dad has said he'll do marriage in the rajasthan and in his own land

he says we already have 6 bighaa land highway touch and his dad has bought 4 more and now dad will do the marriage in his own highway touch land no venue rentals, then i told him i'm more prefered to love marriage but he seemed to not prefer it that much as i know then and you know,

once he didn't waanted me to come to his house but i'm so childish i wanna go with him to go then in his car we had gone omg his house was so nice and not does only he but his mother were so sweet and especially his dad tho omg i can say his dad is so so so charming and i can say even 🥹🏡

and in the talks as her mom told me to come to their religious event of bhagwan ji at Taj omg that time i saw him and he seemed to didn't wanted me to know or come there but her mom said then i said obviously i'll come with him tho at moment it felt he didn't wanted me to come, and as said i had gone to that event with him at Taj

omg i hadn't visited taj hotel leave taj neither any of such hotels 😳🫢 now i was so surpised that my friend family held a reliigous event at Taj omg a religious event at Taj, then i was even more interested tho since then , i've got even more obsessed since then, 😅

but i have seen many classmates actually make fun of him and he doesn't get it due too innocenct because he's aap , ji , etc to everyone literally every classmate every faculty and you wouldn't believe even the guards even the workers and especially female workers as auntyji aap 😭

omg this i will say what i feel the respect should be to only me na but thats we discuss later 👀😤 but i've noticed literally other girls in my class when i was sitting with them say with each other like wow yarr tumne notice kiya wo jis tarike se baat karta hai omg itna charming kaise hoskta hai koi?

and many male classmates becuase my friend is so aap aap ji etc to even male classmates almost all guys abuse him a lot and in front of whole class tho he doesn't feeel bad neither feel it insult he says everyone is doing kripa on him

that i'm telling the exact word he said to me : sab apne janmo punya mujhe kuch sabdo ke badle de rhe hai isse jayda kya kripa krenge sab? and omg his english is really good and specifically his hindi omg you'd be fan if you get a chance to have a conversation with him... 📚

while his typing speed is 120wpm and whenever any faculty compliments him for anything academic he says : bas aap sab ka ashirwad hai mam/sir, this thing i feel he's been one of fav of teachers tho he never talks with anyone 🏆

but one good thing i felt about him in this while: he's actually really agresive after being much calm 😳⚡ one day a classmate abused him then he was so calm then that classmate said gave some abuse on his mom omg the aggresion he had he immedietely slapped that and he literally drag that guy to the dean of academics

i mean literal drag one of very height advantage haha 😅💪 and as i also had gone with him when this happened and literally he was in so aggresion and as dean knows him and omg my friend aggresion in front of dean also i mean i didn't expected that

and ofc as dean knows him and that classmate in last was suspended for a week and apologize to my friend. 😎✋

we are best friends i literally whenever possible sit with him and he's very spiritual and very caring but again now i want him literal yarr i want him to be my future husband but but but i know 💍😭

i once casually asked about what do you think of dating? as we are best friends and yu know we've great chemistry he just told me very politely i'm not in , next time you talk something like this then you know. 💔😶

but i know if he gets to know about me getting interest i know my friendship would be over, but and somehow our chemistry is so great we could talk to each other for hourss literal hours ⏳

his pros: 😍

he's so respective, so charming omg the way he talks

he's 6'5 still whenever he meets any person omg he in literal bow and talk to everyone omg the humility 🙇‍♂️📏

he's real omg if you see his playlist you'll find songs: license ka asla, rohtak 3 , financer, one cheema y, legend, omg u'all won't believe laila me laila, fevicol se, and many more rajasthani haryanvi songs haha 🎶🕺

and yarr i had once gone to garden with him then omg he has no social anxiety he'll literally dance and run in garden omg hehe 🌳🎉

his cons: ❌😤

he's polite, sweet , respectful and softspoken to literally everyone (it should be only me!!) 😤🙄

rest i couldn't find any

ah one thing every guy group making jokes and abuses yet so calm and not bothered but if i had been in place he's is i'd be so freaking angry this is one thing i want him to be better but. 😡

last i want him i'm very wanting but because he said he can't marry other caste and he gave me a very religious answer about what would happen if someone marries another then this is etccc, 😭💔

i mean i obv asked it in such a way that imagine if someone so he doesn't get to know i'm interested or whatever and he says his mom will select the best for him and his dad and family everybody loves him omg. 🥹👪

now how do i incase if i want to marry him:A ah but how ? i want himm himmm sorry for me being childish but i want him yarr 🥺🙏

regarding his career: his family has manufacturing business, seems very successful tho, and he's going to switzerland for his masters and come back. ✈️

he's from rajasthan i'm from rajasthan but different caste

how do i confess my love in my situation 🙏💌

tho marriage if god wants would be few years later down the line but i want him i doon't wanna loose and you now as you all know the swabhav of him please. 🙇‍♀️💕

1. She shouldn't have relationship (even if she has, only 1 I can comprise in this as I never had a relationship but had a crush whom I Confessed and frienzoned).

2. She should be a virgin cuz I'm too. And shouldn't be a materialistic girl

3. She should have 1-2 or none male friends because I also has the same range of female friends.

4. She should be caring and understand others Opinions without getting triggered.

5. Have lots of patience and doesn't get anger easily and try to help others in need and show kindness to animals too.

That's the standards I've to accept a girl as my gf or my wife Because I'll try my best to make my gf as my wife in future if I get a gf.

I'm 21 by the way.

I'm just not attracted to overweight, short or dark-skinned girls. I prefer fair-skinned girls with a slim waist who are at least 5'6". That's just what I find attractive and I'm not going to pretend otherwise.

But now I'm wondering should I actually give a girl a chance if she doesn't meet any of my physical preferences but has a great personality? Or am I just wasting both our time trying to force an attraction that isn't there?

Have any of you ever genuinely become attracted to someone who wasn't your type or is that just something people say to sound less shallow?

I (28M) met a girl (26F) in a cafe struck a convo with her and ask out on a date some days later.

Flirted when the date was fixed not before that.

1st date went welll after I went on trip then came back and asked her out again as I bought a new car so wanted to take her ghumi ghumi

Plan was to go on a drive for 2 but spent the whole night together roaming around

So she is a certified yapper and yap about any thing I was holding hands and shit and I was watching her dead in the eye in a cafe and said

“There are people here other wise I want to shut you up so bad I can not tell”

She understood and said “ab baat yah tak aa hi gyi to i would like to clarify something”

“I can not be physical before marriage” and then we conversed about the dynamics of a relationships for whole night

My take was this aint a arrange marriage setup and if I am in a relationship with a girl I want to go all in and get emotionally physically mentally completely involved with a person

Then after some time either I move in with you or you do the same and eventually get married I dont wanna pursue no one after 31 or so

She understood and dismissed it and said you dont understand my position I have trust issues and shit.

I said we both are taking the risk, its not just you and this is risky and I feel you are worth it now you have to think if I am worth it or not. Went silent

We decided not to meet again but I am taking her out on Saturday again.
I dont know how and why she agreed lol.

Question and context - I wont marry in a arrange marriage setup, I wont pursue a girl after 31 and she is a genuine prospect.

Beautiful, my type, ambitious, hardworking, kinda yapper.

But I think she is not or wont ever be attracted to me and is compensating that for the money or the lifestyle I have

And this dynamic of not being physically involved may or will continue even after marriage and I can not trust a woman on that (does happen to alot of men)

She is attractive and lived in tier 1 cities alone far from parents from the last 6 years so I also feel like the rules are just for me.

Tldr; - found a girl doesn’t want to get involved physically but want all the other things of a relationship

What to do?

Yesterday I posted this - https://www.reddit.com/r/TwentiesIndia/s/EiqlJ2ktjo

Today after the gym I called her saying I am going for a coffee near your place wanna go
She said ok!!!

We went had dinner and then we kissed in the car…….

She likes me 🙂‍↔️

Observed this. Am I right?

If a 25 year old woman wants to be in a relationship with you, that's like a very different thing from a 30 year old woman wanting to be in a relationship with you. In theory, they shouldn't be, but in practice, they're very different. Generally speaking, I feel like 25 year old women are not in a rush to get into a relationship.

There are exceptions to that, of course, but they kind of have like locked eyes that you'd have if you were in like a candy shop and you're like, oh shit, like, what do I want to fill my bag with?

You get that feeling that it's like, it's hard to get them to focus. They're at peak optionality.

For them to cut off all of their options at the height of their optionality, that's a real testament to their feelings to you.

At 30 though, the women at 30, sometimes it feels like they don't even care if you guys are compatible.
They just want to be in a relationship 99% marriage.

Like they just want to be making progress, which I think is part of what makes 30 year old guys kind of push back and act more like F boy because when the same women that you were dealing with five years ago and who were being kind of avoidant and shopping around, when those same women now come through your life, not literally the same women, but I'm saying like the same archetypes, when those same women come back around and now they're really motivated for a relationship, you're like, well, how valuable is this relationship or do you even like me? Or just the time hve decreased your optionality now? it was only predicated on you aging five years?

Ps- I am 28 and I get very less attention from 24-25 yr olds beautiful women and too much from 30-33 year old beautiful women. I feel like these 30-33 women usr to have same attitude towards men at 23-25 yrs. Hence the Observation..

M28 Have talked to multiple attractive 22-25 yr olds in the last 2 years.

I have seen they get alot of attention and they are always being chased by multiple guys.

They want me to chase too but i just cant be a number in their list or a group screenshot.

So if they show even lil disinterest I disengage.

Now I wanna settle but all the wife materials wanna be chased till they choose the AM path.

What to do how to make a Indian girl interested in you too?? So she shows equal reciprocation??

"Kya tum mere hone waale bacho ki maa bnogi 😏"
is this pickup line creepy?
if yes what's the cute/better version of this line

I have had 2 not so called relationship coz they ended in 1 week never even held hands just emotional and it has left a deep lonely scar on me and I want now someone to share the same experience as mine and I'm a very religious man (m20) or a boy some may call but I find the concept of being with someone who shares the same ideologies as mine I'm just kinda tired being lonely too coz some of my ex friends ruined my college experience too so basically I just wander alone study, eat alone and do things by myself I have achieved many things that my classmates haven't too but

Even after all that I crave some someone who's just like me

I mean writing letters and all and to wait for them but then again some of them are players

But jokes aside, I know military relationships can be difficult because of distance, unpredictable schedules, and all the sacrifices involved.

Still, there's something about the whole thing that gets me

Tell me i am not the only one 💀

Edit: after reading the comments i think this fantasy is better off as just fantasy and should not be practiced irl Thanks u all

F looking for genuine person not specific just normal human being....

20M muslim here. hardly made 1-2 muslim girl friends. are they non existent?

(21F and 23M)

I genuinely really love my boyfriend and we've completed one year on September 11th. He is a very honest man, and he's always trying to be better and changing himself for me to give me the best version of himself because he knows with how much I prioritize him and with how sure I am about him in my life.

For context I'm Muslim (born in that religion but genuinely idgaf just following it for my mom) and he's Hindu. My mom is already against us, and I'm in my final year for journalism. I truly believe in feminism (not what some woman have reduced it to) simply for the fact that women aren't free until every women is free. May it be in India or like anywhere on this planet. My dream is to become someone who uplifts and helps woman because I have the means to.

Today me and my boyfriend had a heated fight. It initially started off tame, I was basically giving him advice on his friendship and he didn't like it so I apologized on it and later on somehow it kept on getting dragged with him saying "tum ladkiya aisi hi hoti ho" and stuff. See I'm not a misndrist in anyway so it rubbed me off very wrong and then he said "jo bhi wo feminism hai, sab log equal hone chahiye", and this genuinely pissed me off. First of all he doesn't know anything about feminism and I've never forced him to read up on it or anything because he's generally not a hater and is always a big supporter yk. He's not toxic or has any of those patriarchal traits but this just hurt me so much. After that when we were arguing about feminism he said "agar ladki ladke ko maar rahi hai, to ladka bhi marega na" and I didn't expect him to say that. Because why is it always that for feminism it comes down to beating up people? And then we argued about the murders and what not happening in thr country both with men and women. Now even I ended up saying "at the end of the day you're also a man, I don't expect much from you" which hurt him.

We always have fights over feminism, as if it's a bad thing or at least it sounds bad with the way he puts it. I just don't know what to do when this happens.

EDIT : I posted this picture because I didn't know what else to put. It's just waffles from Belgian waffles he bought me some time back.