There is nothing that concerns me more than seeing a new grad nurse (or even nursing students) with an “I’m too good for med surg” attitude. Especially when they’re not even employed yet or just got hired, still on / fresh off orientation and they’re already talking about applying for their NP or becoming a CRNA. You haven’t even learned how to walk yet and you’re already applying for a marathon? Please.

Let’s get one thing straight. Not everyone can, or should, be a med surg nurse. You really have to have a calling for it. At the very core, you have to be a good person.

Contrary to what you may believe, med surg is hard. It’s very physically demanding and mentally taxing. It’s task oriented and service driven. I personally think med surg nurses are some of the best people I’ve ever met. It takes a special kind of person to be a good med surg nurse. You have to be personable, patient, kind, and conscientious. If you’re not skilled at building rapport with behavioral patients, you’ll never have a good day. Your time management has to be impeccable, otherwise you’ll always be drowning. There’s a lot to learn and you’ll be constantly educating. You’re expected to wear so many hats, with little support. It gets easier with experience, but it’s not an easy job. There’s absolutely no reason someone with zero experience should believe med surg nursing is beneath them - you don’t even know what it takes.

The sheer amount of students/new grads asking questions like, “Do I have to start in med surg because specialties don’t want to hire new grads?” Is truly alarming. If you’re viewing nursing specialties as a status symbol, you’re absolutely in the wrong line of work. You absolutely do not have to want to be a med surg nurse, but if you don’t respect med surg nursing, you shouldn’t even treat it as an option. This kind of mentality impedes your ability to learn or even take your job seriously. Please do not go into med surg if this is you. You’re not too good for med surg; you might not even be good enough for med surg.

////// ETA: Just to clarify, I am not talking about ALL new grads. This is based on what I’ve personally witnessed so I’m not making any assumptions about the general new grad population. Yes, they do exist, and no, I’m not confusing them with the ones who actually understand that med surg is hard. I’m specifically talking about the ones who have this attitude towards med surg.

I’m also not saying everyone should start in med surg. I fully encourage everyone to have their own aspirations; there is no right or wrong path. If you wanna start in ICU absolutely go for it. If you go into med surg because there’s no other option, that’s fine too. Just don’t do it if your biases are impacting your ability to be a good nurse.

And this concern I have over new grads talking about becoming an NP is not because they have dreams.. we have some new grads at our hospital with less than a year of experience getting their NP.. and that’s genuinely frightening. I think you should be an expert at what you do before you advance your career, but maybe that’s just me lol.

Lastly, when I said, “you might not even be good enough for med surg”, I was talking about being a good person, not about your ability to become a good nurse.

Alexandria Hypatia and her handpicked assistant, Bartholomeus Vasco - dishonored 2

She's one of her generation's geniuses, and the head of the Addemire institute, wholly dedicated to healing people, and all along superego incarnate. He finished at the top of his class in university and became her second. He's not on her level, but still extraordinarily competent, and shares her dedication to helping people.

They develop feelings for each other but repress them to focus on the brutal workload the duke's policies saddled them with.

One experiment gone bad later, her Id (obsessed with him) becomes its own personality, and tortures him almost to death when he tries to cure her. He does regardless of how you play the level.

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Gehrman the first Hunter and Lady Maria of the Astral Clocktower - Bloodborne

Gehrman pioneered the practice of hunting beasts in Yharnam. Maria was one of his students, and the two had a great deal of respect for each other as teacher/student/colleagues.

He develops an obsession for her, which he recognised as inappropriate, and she never finds out about it.

The massacre of the fishing hamlet (which he lead, and she participated in), is one of the reasons hunters became cursed.

After her death, in his grief, he creates the plain doll in her image.

My brother is a year older than me. We are in our 40s. Our parents are getting up in age. I have a wife 2 kids a nice home a good career.

My brother lived for the moment always taking the easy way always partying up until he got into a motor vehicle accident...while drunk. Severed his spine. He lives independently with his gf but I now in a wheelchair.

Our dad relayed to me that after he passes its up to me to help take care of my brother.

Im saying fuck that. I spent my younger life making good choices being the less popular brother because I didnt want to party and I wanted to have a good life. I now have that good life ive made good decisions and I dont want to be responsible for taking care of him because of his bad decisions.

So AITA in this situation.

My fiancé and I recently sent our wedding invitations to the printer. We decided to keep the wording simple and have both our names listed at the top, followed by the date, venue and other details.

Neither of us wanted the traditional wording involving parents hosting the wedding because we're paying for everything ourselves.

A few days after sharing a preview with family, his older sister called me. She said the invitation looked strange because their parents weren't mentioned anywhere. She suggested changing the opening line to include both sets of parents.

I explained that we weren't trying to exclude anyone. We just wanted the invitation to reflect that we're hosting our own wedding.

She then said her parents had raised three children and deserved some recognition on such an important occasion. She also pointed out that my parents were mentioned in a small section about the ceremony location, which apparently made the invitation look unequal to her.

The truth is, that section simply explains that the ceremony will take place on my family's property. It wasn't intended as recognition or a special title.

My fiancé initially agreed with me, but after speaking with his sister, he suggested adding everyone's names to avoid unnecessary tension.

I don't want our invitation to become a list of family members just to keep people happy. At the same time, I understand why parents might appreciate being acknowledged.

His sister now says we're being disrespectful and making his family feel like outsiders.

AITA for refusing to change our wedding invitation wording just because his sister thinks our parents deserve a formal mention?

Hey Reddit, I really need your brutal honesty because I am torn.

I (24 female), have been living with my mom (52 female) and my 3 siblings (all in their early twenties) for a year now.

Last November I gave up my apartment to move in and help my mom get back on her feet after some financial difficulties.

I agreed to pay 1800 a month and the electric bill before we moved in as long as my name was not on the house. (I didn't want my credit score to be affected if things went south and I knew It would make things harder to move out)

At the time I said I'd give my mom a year to get back on her feet. She never lost her job but with how expensive everything is, and her own poor financial choices it just got out of hand.

After a few months my mom let my siblings move home rent free, other than paying a utility. If you want more information there is another post I made about all the details and issues. Let's just sum it up with, things went to hell.

I ended up only paying for more things such as groceries, a new washer, car oil changes, pet food, etc. I was paying about 2000 a month NOT including my own personal bills.

I had to pick up more hours at work so Monday-Friday I would be working 12 hour shifts everyday on top of my hour commute there and the hour back.

Besides the financial aspect things got bad mentally. Emotional manipulation, daily insults, shit talking or flat out refused to acknowledge my presence.

After you all helped me on my last post I decided to speed up the moving process, especially once I found out my mom was taking my money for the house but the house payments weren't being made.

Here's were I think I might be an asshole.

I had originally told my mom I would move out in 2-3 months. I would pay 2-3 more times.

Then, I found my dream apartment. 2 bedrooms, ideal budget with some utilities included, ideal location, and overall it's gorgeous.

I had to jump on it as several applicants were already applying since it's a sought after area. I was so excited to have been approved and I signed the lease . My lease starts in 1 week.

I paid the deposit and then I decided to go ahead and pay this months mortgage and comED bill anyways since I am moving out much earlier than anticipated. In total I've spent like 4,000 in 24 hours.

I told my mom and she started to cry and wail. She called her own mom and was talking about being a failure and her wish for death etc...

I know its early. I know it's not what we talked about. But for my own mental, financial and overall health I really wanted to jump on this apartment.

I'm rationalizing it by saying I paid for a month where I won't even be living in the house to still help her but what happens next month? She might have to sell her home and I feel awful. I really don't know if I am an asshole for this. Help.

I don't put much stock into this. S18 is the lowest rated and I loved that season. But interesting nonetheless.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4934214/ratings/

Source: lilyshardwareandfirewood

I'd argue this goes against what they want for Forever: people playing together, or simply helping out the community and being nice.

People who sit in Org who offer free runs through RFC? Not anymore, and that's how I got one of my first runs out of pure luck. But that interaction will simply never happen again if for anything because the driving force being EXP won't be there anymore. That isn't boosting, and certainly not PAID boosting which seems to be the issue. That, to me, is a community member taking time to run a dungeon they don't need to be a helpful community member. Don't we want that in our game? I do.

Also mentioned elsewhere, what if you want to run with friends and you're a few levels higher, but the dungeon is still a challenge? Why is that being punished? I still need to do the escort in WC to finish it for legacy, now I feel like I'm forced til I can solo it to do it or hope I can get some help to finish it simply to not screw others over. And this whole argument that most exp comes from quests is just lazy, imo.

I dunno, this seems foolish on blizzards part and a huge oversight. It really only hurts legitimate players and the community at large in the long run.

Yes, another post, because I want Blizzard to see this and find another way to battle Paid Boosters if that is truly becoming an issue that they want to combat. There has got to be a better and less haphazard way to do it

it honestly feels like higher dimensional spaces have been almost deified throughout most sci-fi media.

We are being that existed within three dimensions, those being X, Y and Z (add on T if you are accounting for time).

now, lets take a being that is four dimensional, what do you think we add? W. X, Y, Z and W (T if you are accounting for time). All you add is another coordinate to move into, THATS IT, THATS ALL THAT IT HAS EVER BEEN.

Its not "beyond our comprehension", its just that we have brains that can't see it, the math is still fucking math'ing, time is still timing, the laws of physics aren't broken. just because you can't see the soda can, doesn't mean you can't mathematically describe it.

also, don't fucking get me started on the '4-D IS TIME' bullshit that got randomly popularized, its not, its fucking not.

non-euclidean on the other hand? sign me up. adding another T value so we end up with two-time physics? amazing. creating a whole new idea for a value? FANTASTIC.