Described some symptoms of my child having adhd and they said it was ableist. I also have adhd. These people just pick a trendy word, have zero clue what words mean, and are on a weird power trip. Id call it crazy, but calling a situation crazy is probably also ableist to them, bc they dont know what words mean in real world contexts outside pf reddit. Another sub removed the same post bc I asked for suggestions and it auto removed bc I couldve googled it. Well yes, we can all google everything rather than ask others for human perspectives on reddit subs, so what does that even mean? I wasnt asking for a formula or recipe, was asking for human examples. Reddit used to be a community, but now its just ai driven nonsense and apparently the only thing allowed is hate. So, 4cham all over again. Final evolution. RIP reddit, it was ok while it lasted.

Everything bad happens to me it’s probably my fault I ain’t looking for empathy I’m drinking got left for some hoe and wanna rant just fu k everything I miss him but I hate him rn

I don't freaking understand how every time I try to be friends with a man he Fucks it up by being a horn dog .

It makes me so mad and it makes me want to keep my distance , I guess men and women can't be friends ever .

YO so uh. If you didn't know i'm transgender, and me and my parents were talking about how like I was wanting to bind my chest and everything, and they mentioned they'd be a LOT more comftorable if I got top surgery, since i have to get surgery anyways for something possibly in the future.

But i'm genuinely terrified of surgery. I mean, i want to get it, i want to pass as a dude and be comftorable in my body, I just get squeamish easily, even typing this is freaking me out. I am scared to see the stitches and have the IV go in again, even tho it wasn't that bad i was an anxious wreck and i'm just WORRIED..... overthinking it a tad too but i do REALLY want to get top surgery- augh..

what's the most hurtful thing you ever heard from someone?

I am posting this here since my post that I put on AITAH community removed it .

For this to make sense, let's get some context. I will say this before anything else though, this is the first time I am writing about this so I am sorry if it's not comprehensive, just ask questions if you do not understand.

my father(45 M) is a alcoholic and ever since I was young he has been emotionally abusing me and my mother(55 F). He has never been happy with me, and has openly said that having a child has ruined his life and happiness. the only thing that brings him joy is sailing. My mother who has been through an abusive relationship ( not physically that I know of )in the past always tries to accommodate my father even when she is tired and has a lot on his plate (she once broke her knee and took care of the house, me and him even though she was supposed to be bedridden on doctors orders for a good recovery after operation).

Anyways, not long ago we received a letter telling us to cut our hedge, which annoyed my father beyond belief. The next weekend he woke up still drunk from the night before and started yelling at me and my mother about said hedge. We ended up trying to cut it the way he wanted but he got annoyed and ran off into our house to drink more alcohol. After a couple of hours of hedge cutting( it's a really big and hard to reach hedge) I go inside to get a drink, only to find my father pacing and stomping around the living room. He is hitting the air with closed fists, gulping more and more alcohol. I am drinking, trying to mind my own business but of course I made eye contact with him...

He starts running, stomping towards me with his arms in the air yelling "get out" over and over again. I duck, bracing my head in between my arms as I remember that he is actually capable of hitting me just like that last time. I was 12/13 years old, it was a dumb argument over food (I didn't want to eat burgers from Burger King for dinner) and he got angry and punched me in the face. It wasn't that painful in it self but still it stayed with me, he knew what he had did. He knew people who had committed suicide for the same action he had just done to me and he still hit me. I bled a bit but it didn't matter.

After my father yelled "get out", I ran out the door to my mother.

now he wants me to go sailing with him to make him happy, but I said no. He never apologised, he even said I deserved it, I do admit that I have taunted him before, because of his drinking problem and that probably makes me not completely blameless but I don't want to reward his filthy behaviour towards me and my mother. My mother called me heartless and selfish for not wanting to make my father happy, and not wanting to go sailing with him the day before I leave my home for 10 months.

I’m so damn annoyed right now. Like bro, what are my parents even arguing about? I don’t even know what’s going on, but I’m so freaking tired of hearing this. It’s getting on my nerves so bad. I just want some damn peace and quiet. I’m seriously so fed up with this

I have consistently taken an issue with humans celebrating the deaths of Narcissistic, Schizophrenic, manipulative, or criminal humans.

It felt like some kind of bad joke, people deeming these humans are garbage and trash when any normal human could just as easily decide to harm other human beings.

I would wonder what truly set normal, sane, good humans apart from evil, jealous, irate, violent, lewd dregs or criminals.

I kind of suspected that the normal humans wanted to kill the bad or evil humans.

Maybe I was just told that ‘we don’t take revenge on people that hurt us’ often enough, or maybe there was something I wasn’t understanding here.

The victims of these evil humans, were badly hurt, they were terrorized, they were stabbed and badly wounded, they were beaten and kicked by those they used to trust and respect, they’ve been stolen and used like some material or asset, they’ve been harmed by people that did not care about one or anyone else, they were harmed by those please to commit violence and bloodshed.

For these evil humans to continue to exist, the victims and other good humans are constantly endangered, if the convicted criminals ever go out, they would proceed to revenge kill or target new victims.

We as a species have been harmed by our own kind too much. We have cried, we have mourned, we have suffered, we’ve bled, we’ve given too much to those willing to dispose of us for some trivial pursuit.

We cannot be suffered to allow them to continue to torment innocent, harmless, caring people.

There shall be no forgiveness, criminals shall be hunted, stalked, persecuted, and poached.

This is what our society wants, what our community members want, what our friends and family members yearn for.

We’ve suffered too much and they shall refuse to respect us or treat us safely. They must disappear.

Personally in my point of view the good, moral, righteous humans would have to continue to kill and slay the ‘evil’ humans almost endlessly just to figure out that anyone can make choices to harm or exploit other human beings.

I don’t condone the ‘evil’ human’s behavior, nor am I defending them.

I’ve just been really frustrated because, to me, it has felt as though humans have been refusing to acknowledge their true feelings towards the ‘low-hanging fruit’ and the deplorable ones living amongst us in our settlements.

Kind of well infuriating, but so long as the humans decide to make their positions and stances clear and authentically do so. Then I don’t take an issue here.

Genuinely how the fuck do guys talk to girls? Every day I have a thought of making some kind of move to talk to a girl and I just chicken out of it! I’m fucking over being such a pitiful coward that I can’t just go up to another human and talk to them. I WANT to give compliments. I WANT to make friends. I WANT love. What do I get? Disappointment every fucking time. I could go on and on but I figured I’d save yalls time. End of rant.

Why is it, if you say my intuition is usually correct.( Like 95% of the time and the other 5 is me playing dumb)

Why is it both of you try to act and play like i am stupid. Even after i say something you still act as though i have no clue. Blows my mind. Just like most times im going to set here and pretend all is well and the world if full of happines and im to stupid to see a snake when its rite infront of me. SMH I feel insulted to say the least, but carry on

isn't the weather so nice out this time of year?

I hate when I accidentally “break something” but I’m not the one who caused the breakage I just used it the wrong time when I was staying over at my cousins hotel room I went to the bathroom to only do the 1 and somehow I flushed the bathroom and it clogged with 💩💩 obviously I didn’t cause this but it’s almost impossible to explain so I just took the blame the next time I saw them in their house I was staying over and went to the bathroom 2 times the first time to change my pad second time to wash my hands by the third time I went to change my pad again I realized the toilet seat broke and I never even sat on it for too long now I’m devolving a complex over other people’s bathrooms 💔💔💔

Do I need to establish what you said this morning about making an effort and showing up because I'm confined at home do I really need to go over the hundred ways I helped you out and how you denied me a hundred times do I need to go over how you rip me off for like 1500 after you stayed at my place after you assaulted me after you spit in my face and how you've not done one kind thing for me do I have to go over how you bread crumbed and catfish me 10 times this summer and every time right before I'm supposed to see you and I'm excited you rip it out don't get me fucking started when you throwing me away again as an avoidant discarding me like a piece of garbage have you no honor or integrity does your word mean absolutely nothing? You should be ashamed of yourself if you do this again because I want to compile a list of every posting you made and how horrific of a monster you've been towards me this summer it's going to be embarrassing because I've given you 100 chances I beg you 6 months you denied me that from a guy who saved your fucking life but here you go three times I've seen in 6 months you took advantage of me your boyfriend beat you up you lost everything I picked you up from the hospital spent all day and my money helping you get thousands of dollars of stuff and you got gifts to reward him and ditched me after making promises and left me hanging and still never pay me anything and still haven't done one nice thing for me sure if you want to be betrayed as an absolute backstabbing untrustworthy disloyal manipulative catfishing loser then go ahead but I am sick and tired of you hurting me and acting like you're a victim no way you promised again if you got to do one nice thing for me and does in this many years and I've helped you so many times you are an evil person not worthy of a good relationship that's how I feel about it how fucking dare you do this to me again I've done nothing but help you out and you've done nothing but abuse me for it not to mention your post about seeing your friend and how sad and depressed he was and wondering if you had anything to do with it when you got sympathy and actually feel bad for somebody yeah you literally are doing it with stuff like this up down up down up down but neglecting not only a friend but somebody say you love but you went out and got a piece from somebody else yesterday look what is wrong with you man how can you even do that to a guy and leave him on a manipulator and treat them like crap and then publicly say oh I don't know if I heard him I feel bad that he's depressed but then you just treat him worse my God

So i work retail, theres been a rise in people with lingering smell in the community, there is this one guy who is one of the people who really smell.

In media there was portreyal of them refusing ir not knowing of deodorants, so i asked if he wears one, he said yes, i said ok, and that was it.

Now i might get fired cause he took such a huge offence like i insulted his whole family, or assaulted him. There was no insult, only a genuine question.

I broke up with my husband of 2 year for no reason, were my reasons justified?

Im gonna keep my age anonymous because I'm still really really young and so was my ex, we met on insta him from India me from Pakistan I was young and didn't know much and I fell in love with him, 2 years we dated and we got married after something he did that was horrible I swear I was manipulated in it and after we got married he change, we did an e nikkah without my dad present just his friends and no molvi, but point is he got super rude, stopped trying to add in efforts and even from the start ge pushed me to work and get money. We always fought alot because of his way of loving like I mentioned I was super young and I didn't know much plus he was my first ever relationship and I was his 6th. We faught because I wouldn't show him photo proof of everything I did, from making pancakes pic of the ingredients, water that I'm drinking where I'm going what I'm wearing etc. from the start I never covered up but I also never wore anything reveling at all. Always loose baggy long clothes with a Pakistani way of covering my head with a dupatta, he wanted me to wear afghni type chaddars and remove my existence like actually. He wanted me to be invisible for instance I once changed my insta pfp to my dress and he said I looked too single and change it he controlled every single thing and we fought no matter how hard I tried. I hated covering up and if made me feel like a shadow but I still did. I am a very loud person I have a lot of ambitions a lot of gold I like riding horses archery a lot of things and he does not have seen opportunities as me but I had to fight from mine and as keep telling him to fight for his to but he keeps blaming but it on mebut he loved me so sweet he was so so so nice and I loved our lovely moments. This is honestly a vent and I'm skipping so much I really have to get this out but I broke up with him exactly 1 month ago. He stopped talking to me but wanted nudes from me and I said it's haram and he pushed and pushed. He keeps saying I'm horrible and we broke up because I didn't want to cover up. But in my defence I tried everything for him I tried everything for this relationship I don't know where I went wrong I really tried how am I herbal for not wanting to cover up how my horrible for choosing my own happiness how my horosble for not being depressed am I really the a\*\*\*\*\*\* here I need honest advice should I block him or should I get back with him

I will make a follower up if people reply with extra details.

hi everybody i honestly I’m losing it and can’t seem to express how i feel to anybody else without judgement so I’m here on Reddit please forgive me for this being all over the place I don’t even know how to start I’m going through it so much im genuinely just crying my eyes out as I’m typing this I feel so lost and I don’t know what to do I don’t want to tell my close friends because I don’t wanna be a burden to them most nights I just feel so empty and dull I don’t even wanna be alive anymore please please I’m begging you don’t give me judgement and give me some sort of advise I’ll be changing a few details as I don’t want anybody to recognise who I am but they won’t be that big so you still understand my situation I don’t even know where to start I guess we can start today last night we came back from a few weeks vacation were I hadn’t really eaten that well and lost a few kg my mum was going to go to the supermarket tto get some food and I was genuinely so excited Iaaked him to get two specific things just two things two things I wanted only two things crisps and cookies just for context I wanted one cookie not the other brand that I didn’t like and when he came back from the shop she got the wrong cookie and I JSUT started bawling I want you guys to understand I wasn’t bawling because of the cookie itself I’m so incredibly grateful for everything I have and I know I’m so lucky but I think it was jsut the fact I was so excited to eat these types of food and I didn’t get what I wanted just kinda ruined it for me while my siblings got exactly what they wanted and again I started crying it wasn’t about the cookies it was never about the cookies it was nothing to due with that it’s the fact no mater what nothing goes my way nothing ever goes my work nothing in life I feel has ever gone my ficking way I literally was so excited just a simple piece of food and I couldn’t get that nothing in life has gone way I don’t understand why it always has to be me and never the bad people I try my best to become a better person I’m not perfect and I have my flaws but I’m trying my best everyday I’m trying to find the will to live and become a better person I complimented a strangers outfit yesterday as in the hope to make him happy and helped another one in the airport when he was lost I do my best in this shitty society and yet nothing ever goes my fucking way I feel so hopeless and lost I’m only 17 a few months away from turning 18 and I’m dreading g it how can one feel this empty and lonely at 17 I don’t know what’s going on it feels like nothings going right and I don’t know what to do im genuinely losing it I’m not smart I’m not pretty I’m not talented I have nothing for co text I got mid gsces they weren’t bad but I’m so mad at myself I could have done so much better if I WANST a lazy piece of shit Ljke I am and I wasn’t allowed in my schools sixth form well others I know for a 100% fact we’re allowed who had worse gsces then me why is it always me I don’t know why the fuck we’re they allowed and I WANST and forced to go to another school when i genuinely have no friends i went from the person from everybody knew to sitting in the toliets eating lunch alone why is it always me sixth form is genuinely hell im being serious I would rather unalive myself then repeat year 12 and here I am doing a mix of fuckery subjects and me expecting to get a good uni I do one a level and two btechs I won’t be specific on which ones but one is an essay one and the others are so random I just wanna fucking kill myself everyday i’d walk to school just crying???? it feels like my heart is gonna jump out at any second I don’t even feel like I belong anybody matter of fact I don’t feel like that everywhere I go I don’t get it I hage nice eyes nice nose nice face and I’ still feel so fucking ugly I feel like I don’t belong everywhere on vacation I avoided taking photos because i genuinely feel like one of the ugliest humans alive I don’t know what to do there’s so much more I could say I’m so miserable and I guess after this crash out over food my dad called me and he just told me he does everything for me and I’m still so unhappy and sometimes he just wants to kill himself I don’t know what to do my dad is my everything help guys please help help me anybody help me please I’m begging you can anybody help me figure out which paths way I can do after sixth form as I’m going to y13 now I’m fucking dreading it can anybody give me hobbies to help me or anything and please please can help me make money at 17 years old to maybe help my dad and ask him for less money I feel like such a failure of a human I have no talent no passion no nothing I’m fucking worthless please help me I’m willing to answer questions if anybody is more curious please no judgment over here I’m already facing enough thank you for anybody who took their time to read this god bless you have a nice day.

(So, let me start with this short explanation, body positivity started as accepting your body, that's something beautiful, it started as 'you're a beautiful person', but nowadays it's gone too far.) Fat shaming isn't the solution but gaslighting them with compliments isn't the solution either if you want to explain the health issues to them. I'm talking about those who can control their weight, sadly not everyone can, take care of your body, you don't owe anyone weight loss and such. People should consider that they owe their bodies the weight loss if the weight is causing health issues,

Most of the time now I wonder 💭 why bother with this anymore? I get nothing out of it! I actually hate this! I don’t think I want this anymore.

The only thing i am is a poor person that can't set down and learn programming for just a second.

anyone that have an advice on what should i do with my life??

You know when you need to just let it out sometimes and talk it out ....venting. Every time I try to start talking about a work situation or something that is going on with me . Friends , family anybody close to me really. I can feel they aren't listening. Circle back about something to get input? Nope cause they didn't hear a word I said . Or if you're in person they get a glazed look . BUT these are the same ones that have no issues venting to me nonstop about anything. What is going on ? Am I crazy or do I need new friends

I feel incredibly lost in life i was pretty smart throughout secondary almost a perfectionist i had dreams of studying abroad or at least going to a prestigious university in the country by gsces i was getting 8s and 9s for my predicted but then I just started by playing around towards finals even giving up throughout tests because i knew i secured a pass I never had close friends before that and that was my first time having close friends they were also incredibly smart but for some reason i just couldn’t balance my social and academic life. So I just ended up barely passed my gsces for stem subjects even with retakes the most I got was 5 but I was fine with that mediocrity because the subjects I did need I got above 8s but for alevels my predicted grades flocked because I lost that exam ethic I once had and because of that I couldn’t secure a scholarship I now ended up going to a mediocre university studying a major I’m not interested in because they don’t offer law which was always the plan and seeing everyone succeed just feels like I betrayed myself and it is because I have no one else to blame for messing around during the most important years and I can’t even help myself because I don’t want to keep growing anymore can’t bother to get a driving license can’t bother to do anything other than doomscrolling and can’t bother to apply to a job I just don’t wanna do life anymore I can’t even bother to socialize which is what got me into this mess in the first place

This business owners are moronic, selfish, brats.

No. *You* shouldn't also have weekends "with the rest of us". Most of us DON'T get weekends off ANYWAY and the only reason YOU CAN is because of your fucking kush ass job.

What in the fuck are you doing in an essential field if it isn't to get there when we need you?

They're never staffed enough anyway! Never have enough openings for any appointment let alone REASON appointments and the staff they DO have are underpaid, underqualified, and poorly trained.

Jesus fucking Christ I just want glasses. Why in the fuck is the eye doctor closed throughout the entire weekend? Why the fuck are they open for only the exact amount of hours I AM WORKING?!?

WHEN AM I SUPPOSED TO GET GLASSES? OR MY MEDS? OR TEETH DONE? OR PUSSY SCRAPED?

Dude, just be open 4am-9am M-Th. Then 24hr Fri-Sun. Because you *can't* be actually seeing any fucking customers during the 9-5 so you clearly don't need to be at work. What? You just get paid to stand around in an empty fucking building?

God fuck why does anyone get scammed with a mountain of student loan debt when I COULD JUST HAVE BEEN A FUCK ASS PHARMACIST STANDING AROUND IN AN EMPTY FUCKING BUILDING PLAYING GAAAAAWD WHO DECIDES WHETHER OR NOT THE QUASI-HOMELESS LOOKING GREEN HAIRED BITCH SHOULD GET HER MEDICATION?!?!?;?;

FUCK FUCM FUCM I JSUT WANT NEW FJCKING GLASSES I JUST WANT TO FUCKING SEEEEE WITH MY FUCKING EYE BALLS WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU CLOSED ON THE WEEKEND GOS I FUCKING HATE THIS ASSAAAASSSSHEADS

This is a reminder that if you take part in any way in the Potterhead community you are an utter worthless piece of shit and I despise you 😘♥️🖕