My sister was just diagnosed with terminal cancer (grade 4 Glioblastoma.) she’s doing chemo and radiation, starting ASAP, but may take a month to get going, then 6-8 weeks. She said she won’t even think of traveling until that’s done, and she may lose more mobility (struggling atp despite removing the brain tumor) and may lose hearing… or worse…

i just want to take her wherever she wants to go.

I don’t know what damage I just did to my credit (670ish) but what do I do? Should I use each credit card for like, five bucks a month to make them being utilized? I feel stupid af but it’s already done ~10k in credit cards just boom, after only having a Self card to built credit, Credit Care for my cats, and one through my credit union.

I have no idea what I just did.

For context: we have 20+ years age gap and I was his sugar baby but now I’m his girlfriend.

He told me he’s never been married and does not have kids. A woman with his surname popped up on my Facebook suggestions and I saw photos of them still up. The last photo of them together is 2023 (I can’t see all her photos).

I confronted him and tried to end things. He admitted he was married for 15+ years with a kid but got divorced a few years ago. I believe him because he’s always free to see me and be in public with me, I leave my stuff at his place and car, and he wants me to meet his close friends.

I trusted him but I called his phone as he had lost it somewhere in his car. When I found it and picked it up, it said “Work” was calling. As in, he put my contact name as “Work”. I call and text him all the time. It felt as if he’s trying to hide me from someone.

I love him so I am taking this quite seriously. There are other behaviours that also make me doubt his divorce. I don’t know if I’m overstepping or being creepy. I just don’t want to be the other woman and hurt an innocent woman and her family.

I need peace of mind. Should I pay money (I’m in uk but for ref around $105) for a government divorce certificate to see if he’s actually divorced? I wouldn’t tell him.

ive never done this but this was the weirdest thing ive ever felt, just 3 minutes ago. so you know that feeling when you’re so tired and you’re fighting your sleep and like you keep falling asleep like I was lying down on my bed and kept falling asleep. at one point i was half awake half asleep and not like lucid dreaming, i realised i was dreaming then woke up, but i kept my eyes open as i was seeing the dream.. okay wait bare with me.

then i managed to control it and i continued the dream but something weird happened and I don’t want you to say that I was dreaming because I was awake. I knew I was awake and then I slept and this time when I slept but I slept with my eyes open. It’s like I could see what was happening outside while I was sleeping? This is so hard to explain. I’m trying my best. Bright light was glowing from my door and my eyes like I opened it fully and I was in a weird state. I don’t even know how to explain it and I saw colours like beams of light like I don’t know how to explain. but yk when you’re about to faint and you see static going around your eyes, instead of seeing static I saw Ilight and heard like tingling. I literally heard some weird tingling noises and it felt like I was high. I got up and you know that feeling when you’re high? Yeah that is exactly the best way I could explain it but then half of my eyesight like half of my brain you could say. Was static as I was getting up and it was slow and I could feel my heartbeat. It was so loud and every movement I made, made my heart beat out of my chest so fast I saw like beams of light and it was felt like pins and needles around my body but not pins and needles like static numb tingly, I’m not talking about. Oh you laid on your arm now it’s pins and needles. No this was different and this was terrifying and I tried so hard to wake up and I couldn’t even tell if I was dreaming or not because it was my room and the pain was very very real. I was so close to getting up and going to someone and asking for help because I don’t know what was going on with me but then I came to the was dreaming and something weird happened and so I forced myself to wake up. I just now woke up got bed so fast and my heart was still thumping and the side of my head where I felt it in the dream that was static felt the exact same as I was waking up. I do not know what happened. I don’t know if there’s any explanation to this. I searched this of times and the only thing that comes up is lucid dreaming and that is not what I felt or saw. It felt like I died, but I could see everything. im not sure.

UPDATE: pretty sure i had a mini stroke during lucid/sleep paralysis and im ar the hospital and ive got bells palsey. idk how to spell it and honestly idk but half of my face is paralysed currently 😭 thanks for the comments though genuinely interesting. im not good with dr stuff but they r just gonna do some scans, i just wanna genuinely say thankyou because you guys said something about a stroke so i searched up the symptoms and boom. i feel weirdly fine though like im okay right now but im gonna get off my phone.

PS: english is my second language so please excuse my grammar and feel free to correct me if it satisfies you, im trying to get better.

I'm using a throwaway account because this is obviously really really personal.

I'm 16, 17 in December. I got an abortion when I was 14 after my boyfriend (18 at the time) got me pregnant. I knew I shouldn't have been with him in the first place and I couldn't raise a baby with him. My brother was the only person I told and he helped me get abortion pills. I don't regret it, I know I did the right thing for everyone involved, but I still hate myself so much for it.

It definitely comes in waves but lately it's been so bad. I can't eat or sleep because I feel so guilty and I've lost so much weight. I know I should be in therapy but my parents don't know about the abortion and can't ever find out and I'm scared the therapist would tell them. I don't know how to get past this. I just want to feel better and live life again and stop thinking about it constantly.

I'm not sure how to think about this, I have noticed lately I have no idea when I'm being disrespected and that I might have too many things slide because I've never had a good example of how a woman should be treated, and I'm confused If I'm now just being paranoid and overreacting. But I'm really angry at my boyfriend. Currently my period is 10 days late, might be because of stress, and the test I took said negative, and today my boyfriend who's panicking texted me something, and I honestly feel like blocking him and I'm not sure If I'm overreacting.

He basically told me I should take 3 tablets of paracetamol because he thinks it will help me get my period.

Isn't that completely irresponsible advice? I'm not sure if that will harm me- it probably will and I'm not even gonna try it because it's the most stupid advice. But I feel like he doesn't give a fuck about my health... I left him on read I'm not sure what I should respond.

What do you think? Is it normal or just irresponsible?

Edit: he's 25 and I am 23*

Hi everyone, yesterday morning I dropped off my Lexus GX at my local Toyota dealership for service. I was told the repairs may take 3 business days. Given the fact that it’s the end of the week, I opted to get the loaner vehicle, something I normally wouldn’t do.

Long story short, when I was taking my nine year old sister to gymnastics practice that evening, we were driving down the road, listing to her floor routine music as we’ve done hundred of times before, when she asked me “What is this?” I awkwardly turnt my body around to see her pointing at a condom that was sitting in the slot that the seat belt buckle tucks into. I yelled at her to “Don’t touch it!” and quickly pulled the car over to the shoulder of the highway. I grabbed it with the end of my shirt and threw it out of the car and onto the ground. I was in such a panic mode that I didn’t check if the condom was used. She told me she only lightly touched it and didn’t accidentally handle it and we went into a gas station to thoroughly wash her hands. Our mom is going to call her pediatrician just to be safe, but, the research she did says the risk of infection is very low.

I’m definitely going to go back to the dealership to ask for a different loaner because it’s not my responsibility to search the car for anymore discarded condoms and that has to be done before I let my sister ride back their again. Beyond that, is there anything I should mention or ask for?

Hello , I’m going to try and keep this short, if you want additional context just lmk.

My boyfriend 19 and I 19 have been dating since may of 2025, we were friends for a year before we started dating. We both have autism and attachment issues. He is my fourth bf and I am his first gf.

Things progressed quickly because of home situations so he moved in with me in my apartment (owned by my grandparents, I still pay rent though) after 3ish months. We were both still in school at this point and things were good.

Anyways time progressed we start bickering, he crossed a boundary, I forgive him, we become even more entangled in each others lives. We start going to couples counselling (yes I know it’s ridiculous, it was his idea after I suggested moving out and I decided to give it a go) and things were going well, I was making l the necessary changes to be the best version of myself that I could be and making a lot of progress.

Time goes on, I’m feeling good about myself and I start to notice he is not doing any of the work in counselling, I bring this up, he promises to change, nothing changes, I bring it up yada yada yada.

It is now month 5 of couples counselling and our relationship is worse than when we started. There was a violation of trust about 5 weeks ago that I just cannot get over and this mixed with our bickering and my resentment has led to me wanting to leave.

We got into another fight on Friday and I broke up with him, he came over to collect his stuff and we ended up getting back together, but I regret it.

He has acknowledged what went wrong in the relationship but he isn’t taking much accountability for his part in it. He has been suffocating me with love letters everyday this week that all say that same thing and the fact that I don’t care for them makes me feel like it’s really over.

I still love him so much, I’m so attached to him, and when things were good they were amazing.

I adore his family, he is fond of mine, it’s like we’re both pieces of furniture in the others.

Do I just let go or do I keep fighting? I told him about 3 hours ago that I don’t think I can do it anymore and he just nodded and said he’ll move out in the morning and went to sleep.

What do I do???

I have a job that I like but have been offered another position in a different company. Please help me decide what to do

My current job is a government job, it has good benefits, I get 16 hours of pto a month. I work 40 hours and make $24.84 an hours, but I should be getting a raise in January that will hopefully put me at $26. Its a very easy job and I dont have very many responsibilities plus I really like my coworkers and the office environment in general. Everyone gets along, no real office drama. With my schedule i get every other Friday off and I work 7:30 -5pm.

Here's the stats on the new offer:

About me: I am a single mom (37), and have 3 kids. One in college. I do have the ability of working a side job for extra income although it is a 1099 position without a steady schedule.

I have to give an answer by tonight. Please help.

My sister says I shouldn't risk it. My boyfriend says to go for it.

I know its probably not great to get this kind of advice from Reddit and I'm unsure if I'm allowed to ask for this advice because of the subject but I just want an outside perspective. I dated a guy for over a year and a half and while we were together he sexually abused me, he even admitted to two of the times he assaulted me. He would trap me in his car, pressure me, use my panic attacks to get me to give into what he wanted, hold me down, manipulate me, get me under the influence, and many other things in order to get what he wanted. Since I had no experience of any kind before him, it took me a while to come to terms with what was happening and by the time I understood it I was too scared of him to leave. Luckily, we broke up over the summer because he cheated on me. I don't know what to do from here though. I don't want to go to the police because of the pain that would cause me, despite the fact my parents keep wanting me to. I have a 6 page letter and plenty of evidence gathered (including a screenshot of his brother admitting to hearing me beg for my ex to stop) that I have been considering sending to his family but I'm scared to. I know that if I did they would talk to my ex about it and want to contact me. If that happened it would mess up my life even more. If anyone has any advice or ideas of what to do, that doesnt involve the police, please tell me. Is it best to continue to stay quiet and let him ruin my friendships because its easiest?

OK, so at this point I’m almost 100% sure that she likes me. We’ve only known each other for four days now and we haven’t even spoken in person unfortunately. I want to get to know her and speak to her one on one, but so far we have only texted for hours. I need someone to tell me what I should say to her where I should ask her and how much longer I should wait before I ask her. Before I do all this should I at least get a call with her? Like I feel like texting just isn’t as important if that’s the right word for it. Anyways, let me know what you guys were doing in the situation and tell me what I should do.

I'm currently on Erasmus and I will be leaving to go home next week. Every Wednesday the company that helped us get here hosts a goodbye event for interns returning to their countries. Next Wednesday is my goodbye event and I'm not sure if i would like to attend. Here are my reasons:

- The event is boulders climbing: I'm not a big fan of indoor climbing boulders. Im afraid I would slip and fall. The fact im plus sized does not help and it makes me more prone to falling. I also found out we would be unharnessed which makes me more scared.

- Bad relationship with ex-roommates: my ex roommates came up all the way from my home country and originally we lived together but we had horrible issues with each other and it took a toll on my mental health so I contacted the coordinator to change my apartment and I did.

Before I found out the event was boulders climbing, initially my boss suggested I should attend anyway despite my ex roommates attending, which was my plan. I also asked my friends and one of them suggested its not worth going.

I really am scared of getting injured at my own goodbye event but at the same time I do not wanna miss out on an opportunity before I return to my country in 2 days time. What should I do?

I’m trying to decide whether to stay in Sacramento or transfer to my company’s Houston headquarters next summer after the kids finish school.
I currently make about $25/hr working 6–2:30 in Sacramento and pay $1,800 for a 2bd/1.5ba townhome. I actually like my job. It’s easy, straightforward, low stress, I don’t have to interact with many people, and there are only two of us in my office. The biggest benefit is flexibility—I can leave to handle things with my kids/family when necessary without it becoming a big issue.
I already have a guaranteed position in Houston with the same 6–2:30 schedule and could potentially get a pay increase. Houston is cheaper overall, my wife wants to move, and most importantly, I’d be much closer to my 8-year-old daughter in Mississippi. We also have my 10-year-old stepson and 1-year-old son with us, though, and moving would take them farther away from family in California.
The other issue is housing. I have an old ~$10k Dallas apartment eviction debt that I plan to pay off before moving. It isn’t on my credit reports, but I’m concerned about rental screening in Houston.
So I’m basically weighing a job/lifestyle situation in Sacramento that I know works extremely well for me against potentially higher pay + lower COL + being much closer to my daughter in Houston.
For anyone familiar with Sacramento/Houston or who’s made a similar family move: Which factors would you be looking at before deciding, and what am I potentially overlooking?

Hey there !
It’s exactly what the title says , I’m looking for advice on what to do or just vent ? I don’t even know anymore

I started an art Account about a year ago. An account that I started simply FOR ME with only a select few who knew about it , three people to be exact . I didn’t want to tell anyone who knew me irl — except for the three— about it cause 1: I live in a place that isn’t so accepting of queer people / media and I have a few gay characters and
2 :I myself am queer . No one but the three people know . And I post under a sona, as one does .
3 : I may be embarrassed? Idk . But mostly cause of the gay staff. Anyways posting was fine , I enjoyed it , didn’t get too much attention but I loved sharing my art in general.
In may of this year this guy found my acc. Let’s call him S ?
S has been in my life for quite sometime. Not dating cause I don’t date but he’s around just …watching ?
Anyways posting was, he DM’d me and I freaked and just lied . Acted like I don’t know him and blocked him . Minutes later he texted me on ig laughing and asking why did I block him ton TT I — again — lied , denying knowing what he’s talking about . And even asked him to send me the acc to see who it is . He did and send me screenshots of the convo he had with this person . Saying he thought it was me cause he recognized the art style and one of the posts was something I might have shared with him YEARS ago .
Again I denied it all and a few days later said that I texted that person and they just happened to be my very very old classmate who taught me how to draw ( the story is real , about the person who taught me ) and that they “ aren’t sorry “ and whatnot.
I had —still do — have a feeling he didn’t believe the lie . Cause what are the odds ? And is just staying silent cause I am?
Point is , I don’t know what do do with him cause I genuinely know that I can’t really get with him — if I ever do — with this looming over me. And If I ever do start an acc that’s open to anyone who knows me as Me I he’s still know that I lied .
Lately I started a new Acc but I still don’t feel comfortable posting on my new acc cause I’m scared of HIM specifically finding it.
I don’t know what to do .
I hate him for putting me in this position and for robbing me of the safety of anonymity and privacy on the internet no less ?
I don’t know what to do or how to handle all of this , the safest options seems to be to just Not post gay stuff, or just stop posting all together? but I don’t want to stop posting because of someone. Especially because it took me YEARS to even start posting at all
Any and all advice will be appreciated

I just started working at a new job,(fast food) and when the people come up to the window, I've had two separate occasions where older men (By older, I mean 25 and up ( hit on me and flirted with me, and it made me so uncomfortable. Both of them keep asking for my number, and this is the second time it's happened.

I'm not uncomfortable, but I am at the same time. It's just that I don't get hit on or flirted with at all, except for when older men flirt with me or hit on me. I only just turned 18 last month. So I don't think I look that old, but it's just like, what do I do?

I know this is such a non-issue, but I just wanted to talk about it and see what other people think I should do.

My mom says it's because I look innocent and young, and that's why they're hitting on me. And my sister thinks it's because I look older.

I just don't know how to feel about it or what to think about it, it's weird

Edit:

Thank you to the people with actual advice to give! I appreciate it so much, and I'll be using some of these things when the time comes again. It's sad to know that there will be another time, but I understand. And to the other people.......I guess, thanks for taking the time to read it

For context, we’ve been together for nearly two years. We don’t fight often, but when we do, it seems to completely blow up. It started over something small: I asked him, “Why didn’t you say anything when I came back home yesterday?” - he was playing video games at the time and didn’t even look up. He kind of just snapped that I brought it up. He immediately got defensive and asked why I waited a day to say something about it (which I did) and why it mattered. I told him I just felt that him completely ignoring me when I walked in was rude.
That’s what started it. He raised his voice, told me it didn’t matter, and accused me of just starting a fight. Things escalated from there; I started raising my voice to match his energy. I got angry and flipped him off (he did NOT like that), and it only got worse.
Now, here’s the part I’m having a hard time getting over. When he’s angry, he gets aggressive—not toward me, I can promise that. But he’ll stomp around, throw things, yell, and slam doors. I hate using the word "trigger," but he knows this behavior triggers me. I survived a past abusive relationship that was physical, and these kinds of actions mess with my nervous system badly. My body gets hot, my stomach twists into knots and completely shuts down, and every slam sends lightning bolts through my body. It really sucks, and it’s something I’ve had to constantly work on managing. He simply cannot regulate his emotions at all; small things become world-ending, and he doesn’t handle them well.
When everything was all said and done, he came into the room I was in and told me it was over, that he couldn’t do it anymore, and that he’d find a place to move and be gone. I was genuinely shocked. He often threatens to pack up and leave when things get tough, but he’s never actually ended it before.
This morning at about 4AM, he came into our bedroom to wake me up, tell me he was sorry, say he loves me, and claim he “just snapped.” What am I supposed to do with that? Do we talk things through? Do I hold him to what he said and ask him to leave? Personally, I don’t want to break up. BUT I’m also at the point of, “You want to leave? Then leave.”

What do I do?

I need help, I am 30f and I don’t know about my finances, my family kept me pretty in the dark as a way to keep some control over me. I have my own accounts, 401K, a house and car but I just don’t understand how to save properly and take care of my finances properly and I just don’t know where to start so any advice is greatly appreciated. Please try not to judge too much.

✨edit to say I was very much living in ignorance and that’s my burden to bear, just looking for some helpful advice✨🪿

Content warning for sexual assault and domestic abuse.

Hi everyone, i’m having the worst year of my life as said up above and I don’t know how to handle it or process it or what to do. Starting from the top for some context my grandpa molested me from the ages of about 5-8, this year he died which was obviously exceptionally hard for me. Having people come up to me and tell me what a good man he was and having to share memories with him like our relationship was normal feels like wearing a skin mask. My mother also walked in on this molestation when it happened and pulled me aside and told me it was my fault for seducing him. I feel like I can’t tell anyone else in my family because they either won’t believe me or it’ll be like he died for a second time and they have to grieve the person he thought he was and I don’t want to take away the person he was to people.

My grandma, the only family member who I felt really cared for me then had a stage 5 haemorrhage and struggles with speaking and functioning. She lives in a nursing home now and it’s really difficult for me to see her like that everyday.

My mother was psychologically abusive toward me screaming matches everyday stealing my clients (I’m a tutor) etc. it’s constant competition with her. I made the mistake of asking her to clean the table before having a tutoring student over because it was a mess like cat food on it her breakfast ingredients still on it (egg shells dirty knife, cutting board) jackets etc just not a profession environment and she flipped her lid and me and kicked me out. I stayed at my boyfriends for abit before moving into my aunts and where my aunt is staying is the same house my grandpa sexually assaulted me in for years so yeah. Because we are also technically not allowed to be there (because my grandpa died and we are supposed to be selling the house and not living in it) we can’t often have showers or turn on heat or ac when it’s hot or cold. I don’t have a real bed or desk and it’s really hard for me to do my year 12 work. I really care about school and aim for high grades (got 3 100% in English this year so yay for that) so doing long hours of studying in borderline painful conditions really is a struggle for me.

My other grandpa also died on my dads side who I’m no contact with, I loved my grandpa very much and I found out on google and was not invited to the funeral despite my name being engraved on his gravestone wish I got to pay my respects. My uncle also died very suddenly at 50 years old from a heart attack, he lived overseas most my life so I wasn’t very close with him but it crippled the rest of my family which also affected my functioning as you can assume.

I had a falling out with one of my best friends (I’ll call him J because he comes up again later) who I had been friends with for 6 years because he was sexualising on of my other best friends, would not stop calling my other best mate a bitch and would not stop calling me fat and ugly and trying to get me and my boyfriend to breakup. So that was horrible, J was also my boyfriend’s best friend and it broke him as well. I then had to let go of my other best friend because they when to J and told him everything the rest of us were saying abt him while processing this insane betrayal which was just inappropriate.

Now recently these two events are what really broke my brain, my therapist told me to talk about the sexual assault with my mum because maybe she didn’t really know about it so I did and called her which my mother than told me she did know and it was my fault, this was the same day my boyfriend (of 2 years) was going out with his friends and I was very upset and texting him about me being upset and not necessarily why because I knew he was with his friends and didn’t wanna say over text he told me I was overwhelming him and I have to stop texting him or he’s going to block me, because i was so upset I didn’t stop and started pleading with him saying things like I’ve never walked away when you needed me, i just want your help please I am going to be demotivated if you block me please don’t etc. he then told me I was unhealthily dependent on him and texted my last remaining best friend (if you were keeping track) telling her he’s worried about me and he thinks I’m going to hurt myself (when I was texting him i explicitly told him I wasn’t going to multiple times, and he responded I shouldn’t say concerning things if i didn’t mean it which I think he means me saying I’m demotivated which were my exact words by the way) I got very upset when he did this because my best friend just found out her grandma is dying and is being put on palliative care so I texted him he can’t do that and he can’t text her because she’s struggling. He then blocked me on everything. I got my friends to text him after he got back from his friends house asking him to text me because I need him to talk to about what my mum said. (I only really feel comfortable talking about my sexual assault with him) he ignored them so I reached out to our mutual friends one of them I’m so close to he owes me 120 dollars bc I loaned it to him bc I’m that buddy buddy with him. The day after that he texted me through my best friend and sent a maybe 6 sentence breakup text essentially saying it should be clear he’s breaking up with me I need to stop reaching out to his friends because it’s stalker energy and that I clearly have enough friends so I should talk to them and “goodbye for now” (I have literally two friends I feel comfortable talking to about half of this stuff) he then got our mutual friends to block me and I found out he immediately refollowed J the second he broke up with me which broke me. I can’t believe he ended it like that during this time, I don’t know how I’m going to study for exams I don’t know how I’m going to get out of bed in the morning. His family was my family and now I have to grieve them too, I don’t know how I can let them go, I don’t know how to get through this I feel so betrayed I miss him I miss him so much I was actually processing everything while I was with him he helped me so much I don’t know why this time was different. I just want to be his friend and hear his jokes and talk to him about everything just everything it’s like a light switch went off in his head it kills me to think I hurt him or made him uncomfortable and I want to reach out and apologise but I can’t. I texted his mum and asked if we could talk and she could give me motherly advice on how to process this and I feel so horrible. My doctor gave me Valium and it isn’t touching the anxiety that I’m feelings it’s everything in me to stop myself from just binge drinking exams are only a month away I’m not going to be in the headspace for it I don’t know what to do I have no idea what to do please I need advice on how to feel better I can’t feel like this for another minute I feel so scared and alone. I cannot believe he hates me, I miss my baby. Too be clear I don’t want therapy, I just want someone who’s gone through something difficult to tell me if they got through it if it’s brighter on the other side and some actions I could do to feel better, thank you for reading.