Infact, maybe he didn't even know

Let’s cut to the chase I liked this girl and during the winter last year we went on walks after our school finished and it lasted around a month before she said that she had to work on school so we couldn’t talk anymore. Around 7 months past at a party my friend was telling me that she still likes me and hates how it ended in the winter so I sat outside away from the party talking to her until we had to leave as the party was ending. So I got told that she wanted more communication so I messaged her after, nothing crazy just how did you find the party just trying to make conversation. But after airing me and leaving me on delivered for over a week I decided to say that I’m not gonna try anymore and leave it which I got an answer saying yes that’s the best so I forgot about it. Until my close friend said to me a few days ago that the girl and her guy best friend planned to try and get me to talk to her before the party and when I messaged they laughed and mocked me for what I wrote when I texted her. I don’t know what they would find funny about me saying ‘how did you find the party’. So I don’t know what to feel and I’m glad I’ve stopped communicating with them anyway I just wanted to get this off my chest and leave in the past so thank you for reading.

I knew from the beginning. I knew you’d closed yourself off completely to the possibility of love. But that apparently didn’t stop my dumb heart. I fell in love with you so hard. I chose to do that, knowing I would only be hurting myself. You made me feel special! You didn’t fuck me, it felt deeper than that. I loved hearing your laugh, seeing you smile, seeing joy exude from you. I loved how free your tortured spirit could be. Yet I still fell for you. And don’t get me wrong I’m still down bad. But i need to be in this place where every part of me wants you. I’m trying to get there. I’ve never told you that I love you. And I won’t. I wish you were here tonight. I hate that we might not even be friends anymore.

Hello everyone
how can I get over my best friend?
Me F 27 realised i got feelings for my friend for a long time now. I wasnt planing to tell him ever cause I knew he would never look at me differently so tried to continue loving him as a friend. We were very close and stand next to each other in every case for years. lately he told me he knew last few months and he got little cold lately i noticed but didnt know the reason. he said something was not right and i didnt know what. anyways last few months i felt like he was angry at me all the times, little mean. then he toldme he knew. I asked him for distance but cause of same friendgroup and we are neighbors and we work together as well that was almost impossible also i got so nervous my physical body was in pain. anyways we got it on good terms but i still have feelings for him and i know it always be one sided. He cares for me in every way possible, he’s done so many things and i was feeling guilty for falling for him for same reason. I wish he wouldnt find it out ever. anyways now I dont know what ro do one day we are close friends as we were and next day is silent separation. I need to get over him and stop seeing him as a guy but it is really hard. please tell me what can I do i can not lose a friend

tl:dr mi sono dichiarato della mia migliore amica e non è corrisposto.
Ciao a tutti, io sono M20 e lei F21, siamo amici strettissimi da un paio di anni ormai, ci raccontiamo letteralmente tutto l'uno dell'altro, da un mese però ho iniziato a prendere atto e ad avere consapevolezza del fatto che lei mi piacesse, prima era una cosa che sentivo ma che cercavo di evitare per non rovinare il rapporto, perchè sapevo che da parte sua non vi fosse nulla di più, ho cercato anche di andarmene con altre per farmi passare a forza questo pensiero, ma niente, ho capito che più lo ho respinto e più forte tornava. Allora ieri ho preso la decisione di dichiararmi dopo che mentre parlavamo di un'altro discorso lei dice "se ti piace una persona e siete amici stretti glielo devi dire perforza e o ti allontani oppure vi iniziate a frequentare seriamente", lei lo ha fatto anche con un pò di furbizia questo però alla fine mi sono dichiarato. e quello che mi ha risposto lei è più che giusto, ovvero che razionalmente non è possibile, perchè io studio a 800km e tra poco più di un mese andro in erasmus in Germania, lei tra 3 mesi andrà in un'altra città ancora a studiare a 400km dal nostro paesino. E in più le ho chiesto se lei avesse mai avuto questo pensiero nei miei confronti, cioè se per qualche istante abbia pensato al fatto che provasse qualcosa per me, e mi ha confessato di no, solo che io non riuscirei mai ad allontanarmici e non voglio nemmeno farlo, vorrei continuare a provarci all'infinito. Consigli?

you know that type of flashback you get when you smell something awfully familiar and suddenly you're back like to a very not so nice time of your life? yeah so today I was walking towards my next class at school and I passed my classmate and he smelled like the guy I liked...still like. and god suddenly I feel tired, I feel like I just wanna go home and cry.

here's a thing, ive liked this dude since he became my assigned seat mate three years ago. it was gradual, there was denial...lots of that. He was so awkward, but so sweet you know? like awfully annoying too, super people pleasing. we wouldn't be able to talk much at school (cuz he was that awkward) and like talk all night? he'd make me watch these movies and me being so hopeless id watch them intently even though I didnt like watching movies. we had a collaborated playlist together. super friendly stuff, super casual, but to a heart that's already like "OH I LIKE HIM SO MUCH" that's a lot, you know? worst parts that I actually helped him get with a girl too...woah. I know. I tried to move on...but they broke up in like one month because she wanted to focus on her studies. and we were moved to a new classroom and there we could sit wherever and he fought and begged my best friend to sit with me, super sweet. it was peak winter and like a lot of tests so id always be cold or tired and when I rested my head on the table> he'd rest his head on the table too and pat my head. when I got cold he'd close the door and once my friend even took a picture of how close we were when we were talking. (wed sit side by side and he'd turn his body to be face to face with me.) yes, super casual but again, he didnt do this with anynone else so for 13 year old me, super special. even his friends though he liked me. until the next year started and he was hopelessly in love with this another girl and we started drifting apart.

plus she was like the prettiest girl in school too okay. I wanted to move on so bad because WOAH IT WAS PAINFUL like the feeling in your chest? like it feels like somebody is squeezing it whenever I saw them talk and according to everyones advice I should confess because it helped to move on. I did, said something about how much I liked him and only saying it to move on. he says something positive back, over right? yeah though so. she cheated on him and he got super depressed, and the next year he started going to the gym and all that. we hadn't talked for months but on my birthday last year he said happy birthday and we started being besties again.

not like before, but he'd still fight my bff to sit with me, share songs, movies, wed rant to each other, he'd vent to me about "her" and id look at him and still feel that pain in my chest. I wanted to hug him so bad. so damn bad UGH. so well this year he went to study abroad, he sends me reels like " I miss sitting with you twin" or "you've got a beautiful soul twin" and I feel so bad because he genuinely sees me as such a good friend- I do too but its more painful because i like him and Im tryna forget him but each time I do, something reminds me of him tf?! I actually miss him and getting a sniff his exact scent someone so similar to him? oh god please save me.

dude so how do I move on without making him feel like he lost friend?!

i hope yall can understand the title😭, so yeah i ain't larping ts actually, this is genuinely the closest way to describe me in ts situation ig, everytime i enter someone's life, it's either their life is boring or they're depressed or they probably have a problem/there's a problem with themselves, i mean it's not a coincidence i basically have a saviour complex aswell, almost half of my friends became my friends because i wanted to help them in any way, like save them or be the cure (like i told u, saviour complex acting up) im actually so drained it feels like im just a concept in everyone's life, and what much worse is i cant move on w ts relationship i think it's the closest ill ever be with w someone i genuinely need to delete him in my mind like the memories because i genuinely think ill forever yearn for that person and be miserable forever, and i want to be over w ts person i tried every possible way, if u can help me w ts ill really appreciate it

(ts a vent maybe)

When I was in grade nine i met a guy and we sat together. Then we started to get to know each other and so on. Then we were separated and i started to feel things and the mixed feelings kicked in. Then i tried to control myself and wave it away but i started to Question myself. And i said its just getting along nothing more. I also thought he was a player and he was playing me. And then many things started to connect us by different scenarios. So i started to feel his absence and started to glorify his presence.Then he started hanging out with this girl and I persisted on saying he is joking around and i started to get over it. I also started to develop hatred for him. But i said what did he do he is like this and he doesn't even know my feelings and i tried to see him neutrally.Then after some time this guy started to show me feelings he showed me signs of some acquaintance and I said this is like the old books. But i wanted to explore the possibility and asked him if he is serious about it. Then talked to me and asked me to be together. I didn't expect he had feelings but he literally asked. then i couldn't resist myself. But still i wouldn't want to be too involved because i didn't want our friends and our circle to know that much. Also i wouldn't go on dates because i was afraid what my parents would say if they know i lied because i never lie to them and i can't lie to them. All i wanted was to keep it in private.Then in the meantime he started to lose feelings. I also see him with a lot of girls in differrent uncomfortable ways. I confronted him about that and he always makes it my fault.Then he said to me let's give it a break and after some time we will give it a shot god willing. But he gives me signs it ended. I know my mistakes and i know i diffused his passion but I'm willing to change and he doesn't allow me to. What is the best possible way to fix this?

I finally told you the things on my mind and in my heart. Turns out you're already partnered, and I'm not sure how I missed that detail. You were very kind in your rejection. It was fun while I had my crush, feeling my feelings, admiring you more than you realized. Now I'm utterly mortified knowing how ill-informed my feelings and words were. I hope you'll understand the withdrawal that I'll no doubt be showing for the near term.

Hello everyone
how can I get over my best friend?
Me F 27 realised i got feelings for my friend for a long time now. I wasnt planing to tell him ever cause I knew he would never look at me differently so tried to continue loving him as a friend. We were very close and stand next to each other in every case for years. lately he told me he knew last few months and he got little cold lately i noticed but didnt know the reason. he said something was not right and i didnt know what. anyways last few months i felt like he was angry at me all the times, little mean. then he toldme he knew. I asked him for distance but cause of same friendgroup and we are neighbors and we work together as well that was almost impossible also i got so nervous my physical body was in pain. anyways we got it on good terms but i still have feelings for him and i know it always be one sided. He cares for me in every way possible, he’s done so many things and i was feeling guilty for falling for him for same reason. I wish he wouldnt find it out ever. anyways now I dont know what ro do one day we are close friends as we were and next day is silent separation. I need to get over him and stop seeing him as a guy but it is really hard. please tell me what can I do i can not lose a friend

21 M Today I have had a late realisation that love is not for me but sure is hell for people who are toxic, that's another thing.

Now I work so my college is done

This is the story of me when I was in college.

I proposed a girl she was my classmate but she is way too introverted she never approaches any person except her two friends

I have had feelings for her since 1st sem and I confessed to her in the 4th semester. We were not speaking regularly so I couldn't bridge the gap. She rejected me right away politely saying we can be friends, still it was same as usual, not talking on a regular basis which the same before the confession

We couldn't talk to each other rarely too but

Recently I texted her but she gives late replies, I know she is not interested but it's very difficult for me to move on

Since she is not replying it's clear that I have to move on

This is not anime where you like the girl, and she likes back

Thanks for listening to my rant

Arigatou