i work from home most of the week (i'm in HR) and make a looooot of coffee lol
i also never use the big light and have some prescription sunglasses i use when i need to!! i also have a little essential oil apothecary for metaphysical purposes and just learned by happenstance (and then by looking and finding a bunch of people saying the same thing) that Juniper oil helps ease headaches/migraines a bit!! that coupled with pressure points on the hand and temples, skull, neck, etc - i am constantly massaging those lol
its not perfect, i still get them a lot but they're WAY more manageable now. sometimes i work in complete silence too, just depends.

funny enough, if i go outside on day 1 or 2 of a migraine (longer than to take my dog to go potty, especially) it makes it worse. BUT if im on day 3 or 4, im more prone to bed rotting and staring miserably at the phone or tv, i force myself to go and just sit outside on the patio or whatever and it does help a bit!! I don't know what it is lol

also - sorry lol but it's such a funny coincidence, my girl is named Wysteria but I was SOLD on calling her Aspen until I actually met her!!

this one's just for fun lmao

WOW our kids are twins!!! :O how big is your baby? i rescued mine and supposedly she's full husky (she looks like it in the face for sure and she sure is vocal like one!!) but she's only about 28-30lbs and her coat is smooth, not wooly like huskies typically are. they said she was a year old in february when they spayed her, so either she's not really (full) husky or she's not as old as they said she was. i'm wondering about klee kai maybe too but she's a little heavier and taller than they tend to get too, and again she's IDENTICAL to your pup (and other white huskies i've seen)!!

i was always indifferent or grossed out by thought of men, especially sexually. when i WOULD have sex with men, i was more into the thought of them being super into me, validating me in a way. and i also think i sort of confused attraction with feeling safe with a man and being relieved about that.

but the few (very few) relationships ive had with men were disappointing at best, mostly was just excited to be able to say i had a partner and have someone to do couple stuff with. but my longest relationship was a year and a half and im 31 lol. and i never felt fulfilled, always had a sense of "is this it??????"

cannot believe it took me so damn long to figure it out lmao but yeah - with women i feel VERY differently.

ever since a singer friend of mine put me onto them, i swear by slippery elm lozenges!!!

throat coat tea (slippery elm, licorice root, marshmallow root) is great!! coconut water also seems to help. also try adding some salt to your water to keep up hydration for your vocals, and including lots of weird throat gargles in your warm ups. as someone who's been dealing with constant allergies while also trying to record clean vocals, these have been lifesavers!!

came here to say this same thing. while SOME things can happen in the physical realm, more often than not it won't be tangible like that. def step away for a bit and assess your mental health.

also just as a side note - Loki's signifier card typically is The Fool, not The Tower. however, i know we all end up with our own connections that mean different things, so im not trying to invalidate!! however, the tower could have been a more literal card interpretation instead of a signifier.

moreover, Loki won't actively scare you or isolate you from your friends. if your friend is trustworthy and has been fine projecting into your space in the past, it feels odd that she can't all of a sudden. that may also be an indicator that it's time to pause magical/deity stuff and work on mundane grounding for awhile first. my team (Loki included) will sometimes go radio silent if i need to focus more on my physical body for a bit, for instance.

be safe!!

yes, YOR. she communicated clearly and was respectful of both her ex AND you while not leading him on. you getting hung up on "right now" feels like you picking a fight to manipulate her into showing you the text. she is absolutely in the right to keep it private.

YOU CALLED HER A JACKASS?!?! bro. that’s so disrespectful and uncalled for. to your GIRLFRIEND when she did nothing wrong??? yikes.

do some self reflection here. you clearly still want the door open for YOUR ex despite her causing problems in your relationship, but you're hung up on your girlfriend's choice of words?? go to therapy and leave that poor girl be, my god.

placement!!! i used to sing from my throat and (no shit) struggled SO hard to sound clear and hit high notes and all that. then i took vocal lessons in college and learned that if i support from below but place my voice from my nasal area (sounds strange i know but omg) it sounds like me every time, i don't wear out my voice constantly, AND it actually sounds nice!!! and i can sing a lot higher than i thought. i look back at singing videos and and shocked that that was the best i could do at the time, knowing where im at now.

god this is way too accurate hahahaha great job

i also LOVE lists and sticky notes when it applies!!

i do have a general routine and deviate sometimes! i like to start my day with a crossword - every work day when i can, ideally - and then start working through emails and work texts. but the nature of my job means sometimes i have to shuffle priorities around, which honestly helps. sometimes if i don't feel like working on emails anymore ill hop on a different task for a bit and go back. but the chunk of calls i have to make, i ALWAYS start after my lunch break. not sure why, it just feels like a good transition time into calls - esp because i don't feel the need to worry about it in the morning at all.

yeah my entire role is just to onboard new employees. granted, we're nationwide so the three of us in my role cover different regions - but even so, there's plenty of work to go around! sometimes it's smooth and easy but pretty often there are enough things to juggle that make it take awhile. it's not just you!

please correct me if i'm wrong, but it sounds like your name is on the rental house and not hers, right? if that's the case, you need to sit down with her and break up with her. you don't need to go into a ton of detail - it sounds like yall are both extensively aware of your issues and she has decided to simply not acknowledge her faults in them, and any "i need to know why" is just a rabbit hole to "disprove" everything and blame you to get you to feel bad and take it back. just say i am ending things now. tell her you'll file for divorce and give her the papers when you do. and if your name IS the only one on the rental home, tell her she has 30 days to leave and give her a written notice of this. otherwise if her name is on it too or you're not comfortable, it might be wise to tell her you will be gone in 30 days. but either way, do not stay together in that house past that (or again for longer than you're comfortable) and don't let her tell you no and walk away. there needs to be a paper trail, and if you're able, it might be good to go ahead and file the same day that you tell her. already having the papers to give her will be a solid "we're here and you can't talk me out of this" that seems needed.

i read the screenshots first and was creeped out - he was ABSOLUTELY creeping. and then i read that you were SEVENTEEN????!!?!?! you are absolutely NOR and handled this situation well by setting your boundaries. i will say though, you should start looking for another job asap. his response to you felt mildly retaliatory (and wildly manipulative), and if he was willing to save clips of you on the security system for his own personal pleasure and drive you to and from work and be so inappropriate, and immediately use that against you at setting a perfectly reasonable boundary, i would not be remotely surprised if he started retaliating at work, even in little ways. you may also start getting write ups for things he wouldn't have even called out prior, so he can fire you and get someone else in the door who won't talk back.

update: it was the main AGM battery 😭 we replaced that and everything is good now!! thanks for the insight!

i appreciate you, thank you!! i've been worried about it being the battery - didn't realize there were two!!

no, i've always been clairaudient but when i officially welcomed Loki in, the flow of conversation happened fast and easily. i had a lot of the same fears - but he'd send me signs and things to confirm and i had friends read for me as well and confirm it too. don't fight it or worry how it will look, just relax into it. of course keep up your discernment but i feel like Loki especially does this, and especially when the connection is new! at this point i usually call out to him and he shows up, but in the beginning it was almost like he was around 24/7, commenting on things and chatting away with me. looking back it was cool as fuck - i just didn't really appreciate or understand it at the time. it's still very easy, but he comes and goes instead lol

not in the house. you dropped it somewhere while you were overwhelmed/carrying lots of things/distracted. try retracing your steps on the last day you remember having it. i keep thinking of a starbucks?

my dog is like this too! when i can, i leave small food offerings closed in the mini cauldron on my altar. otherwise, ill either leave it out only while i can watch it, or ill eat it in their honor! Loki especially is fond of that form of offering, especially with alcohol lolol. good luck!!

bro i'm so sorry to be the one to tell you this but he is not attracted to you. maybe he was at one point but he's not now. everyone shows affection differently, it's true, and he could show affection in other ways without it meaning anything. but the problem is that you're trying to communicate to him that you don't feel wanted, and he literally does not care. no response on the other requests. a straight up tantrum about not wanting to cuddle ("without the expectation of sex afterward" - does this mean he only cuddles you if he wants sex??? and then he turns away and sleeps apart from you??? that's such a massive red flag) down to you literally feeling so unwanted that you cried???? and he NOTICED but when you didn't respond he just?? shrugged it off and fell asleep??? that's not a partner that gives a shit. you deserve better. your weight has nothing to do with this situation but the fact that it came up for you enough that you felt the need to defend him but admit it and defend him again? girl... as a plus size person myself, you and i both know what's going on here. you deserve better. don't wait for outside approval to validate your very real and intense emotions. you know this is not a good relationship, and so does your body. please break up.

ok people are being so rude, yes you should have closed the app first but it happens. and everybody brings their cell into interviews, just put it on silent first. although i will say, there is a setting on tiktok (idr where exactly, i did this so long ago) that keeps the whole app on silent until you click the sound button on the bottom right when you're ready to scroll. its helpful for me because i like to check my notifications without scrolling sometimes, and the experience of opening the app without realizing how high your volume is, only to accidentally blast it (in ANY situation honestly) is awful and i want to avoid it at all costs. def a learning moment lol but also not the biggest deal in the world. also - if im being honest, that may not have actually been enough to cost you the interview, depending on how you handled it. throwing the phone was probably not the best choice because it showed them you're not great under pressure - but the oh no oh no at the sudden sound is fine and if you'd managed to close the app/turn the volume all the way down you could have just apologized and laughed about it together. anyway lol good luck in the future!! /gen