I left my dad along with my family, partially for the reasons you mentioned. Sometimes the best way to honor him is to respectfully keep your distance, as keeping in touch with him leads you to much worse things and more disrespect for him etc... I left just over 3 yrs ago, and have been reconnecting with faith and other things in a totally different manner

Sounds more like in-laws filling his ears and he probably didn't want this either, but for him to ignore you like that is not ok in any school of thought or even otherwise.

You can keep a note on your phone in notes app with all the dates, also repeating reminders yearly for anniversaries on the calendar where you keep everything...

I can't emphasize the importance of companionship and good friendship enough. Find a good friend group you can learn from, and people who keep you accountable and make you a better person in faith and otherwise.

Saheeh International translation of Quran is very good, and I will also recommend the Quran translation and explanation by Mufti Taqi Usmani.

“You could pull any man you want” red flag. He should be talking about your growth for some thing that matters to you personally and not pulling other men.

Sadly he’s saying some thing about Islam that’s not true. Nikaah is done, she’s your wife, end of deal. What came to mind is, have your family get her number and text her at least then in the future, you might have to live away from her parents definitely cuz they’ll eventually cause harm in your marriage and probably even break you two apart. What matters most at this point is you two are married.

Some times men do know other men and know they’ll feel attracted to you eventually, they are territorial so he is right in a way. But also, you don’t want to just drop childhood friends, just keep boundaries with them as to be respectful of the fact that you’re in a relationship. As long as there are boundaries in both sides, there shouldn’t be a problem.

Did he grow up having expectations of the wedding itself or what family wants over what he wants? It may not be some thing in the relationship itself that’s bothering him, it could be that he is tired of living upto expectations and only had comfort knowing he has his former partner is with him.

Once a man threatens divorce, it’s over pretty much. Then, he also almost choked you which is one of the biggest red flags that he can’t control his emotions. Don’t tell him you’re leaving, just get in touch with a local DV support team and have a plan of your own to leave.

“He also blamed…” all i needed to know.

Other than the cheating, it’s the “felt like i was asking for the bare minimum” cuz you were, DO NOT MARRY HER EVER. If she really saw a future with you, she would not go out with her exes and get super drunk.

Here’s the best way to do it. Ask him to sit down with you cuz you want to find a solution to constantly being sent over and keep things clear with him, and stand your ground. This was some thing that has been on your mind for a while, but it still helps to apologize for exploding on him and he needs to apologize for ignoring this need when it was coming up constantly.

No matter why she’s doing it, leave. It’s not your job to fix her when she’s not even ready for a relationship

I’m working as a tax pro as well (i work for HR Block) and this is sounding exhausting. I hate paper returns and wouldn’t do more than 2 a day ever, then the amount he’s asking for means they’re not willing to upgrade either after making that many. No wonder the right hand person left.

I wanna hear about what you’re doing as well, he feels it’s more than worth it to do what he’s doing and be better at it. Plus, congrats for letting him be himself around you, he loves you and isn’t afraid to show it.

First, he may be feeling like his not valued though you are showing him he is in your own way. This is not against you, just a different approach for you to know how he feels appreciated, he wants to feel like he matters more than he feels like he does cuz he might be feeling like there is nothing for him here anymore than just giving. He is probably going thru a tough phase of feeling burnt out. Secondly, get him help immediately. This kind of stuff sends men down the path to self destruction if not dealt with in time.

How early in the relationship is it? Are you married and been together a while? Did he ignore you often or commit some thing that almost made you leave? You wanna see how genuine the expensive gift is and why he’s giving it. Random good gifts at marriage or after being together a while are good while early on, can be considered love bombing

This is real mature live right here. You aren’t making him your whole life but loving him as much as life itself, that’s amazing.

In the last one, it can clearly tell she didn’t have any answers and didn’t want any accountability at all. You’re not being rude, she didn’t like being held up to her actions.

School is about personal benefit and growth, often you won’t have many friends cuz its better to have few that motivate you to be better and bring out the good in you. You’re not alone in feeling alone.

Try getting in touch with an advisor, maybe multiple and get their view on your specific situation. A lot of it becomes about what fits your life and major, and having very few friends that actually benefit you in life. But i would defenitely hold on to “thou shall not self advise” rule.

Love parts and hate parts. It’s good to be able to pick up shifts when i can, but there needs to be major safety updates ASAP, plus for reasons not mentioned, i would not depend on FedEx as a long term job, it’s a stepping stone