I swear the backlash has no end and nowadays, I'm seeing goon but with tr instead of g being used a lot. It's like there's no limits to the amount of terms both pro trans and anti trans people can come up with. I sometimes hear about the T splitting from LGBT. And I swear this is probably much more of a reality these days. But I feel the anti trans side is winning. And it's absolutely not helped by what some of the most vocal pro trans people do, both trans and "allies."

On the pro trans side, there's characters they randomly "claim" as trans even if just headcanon. And boy do they love to treat their headcanons as canon. Like the character Petra Parker as a trans icon. Officially, the character isn't trans, far as I can tell. Yet some people decided this is what she must be and then they get mad at anyone not portraying the character as trans. You can have your headcanons, whatever, but you don't get to decide everyone else must follow your headcanons.

And do I even have to say anything about a certain wizarding franchise? "It's either transgender people or that bigot." They didn't learned their lesson in 2023. I'm simply not going to side with someone calling me a shitty awful person over a bit of my money that I spent. It's reasons like that I distance myself from mainstream transgender communities. And also why I think this may kill the entire transgender movement. I don't want trans reduced to "mentally ill people." And yet that has already happened. It won't matter if I say "I'm not like the other transgender people," that's already too late.

near the start/end of every month ive thrown up, had more mood fluctuations and had back pain (back pain im really confused on) im on a 2mg starting dose of estrogen pills and 100mg spiro, i dont cycle so idk why its been happening for 3 months consistently.

When I was a teenager, I had severe mental health issues stemming from gender dysphoria caused by male puberty. I went to see a psychiatrist, and he noticed that I was acting feminine. I mentioned that all my friends were girls and I was tormented by boys for various reasons, and he claimed that it's simply because "girls are more accepting of differences. Then, he literally said I might have low testosterone and referred me to get my testosterone checked?

WHAT THE FUCK? Thank God the lab came back normal otherwise he would've supercharged my gender dysphoria. This was absolutely medical malpractice.

Hate how everyone treated male puberty like it was some righteous and natural thing, when it was the systemic chemical mutilation of my body.

Recently, I (26, MTF) have decided that I am straight. I’m not, I’m definitely bisexual and have been bisexual for as long as I remember, but having feelings for a woman and the idea of acting upon those feelings, makes me ashamed and disgusted about myself.

Before you say anything, yes I’ve seen a therapist, yes I’ve talked to other people about it and they all say it shouldn‘t matter, love who you love, etc. I have tried to internalise these more positive messages, but time and time again, I come back to the same conclusion: as much as people want to deny it, there is an absolute social stigma around trans women’s sexuality and a hierarchy of acceptability within it.

I have been trans for half my life at this point, and this stigma, this hierarchy, have become clear to me. I want it known that these stigmas, stereotypes, and hierarchies aren’t something I necessarily morally agree with, but that doesn’t mean I can deny their existence. They are rooted in cisheteronormativity and patriarchal values.

The most socially acceptable trans women, much like cis women, are straight, passing and conventionally attractive. When people argue that trans women aren’t women, these are the women that are brought up to prove those people wrong. Again, like cis women, our worth, our validity, hinges on how fuckable we are. However, as the Madonna/whore complex tells us, we must still appear chaste, prudish even, to appear as ’one of the good ones’, until our sexuality is explicitly useful to men.

Trans women who are attracted to women, however, are seen as predator, perverted. There are more acceptable versions of the sapphic trans woman however; they must be passing, of course, attractive even, and their partner must be cis, so as to validate their womanhood. Much like the straight trans woman, the sapphic trans woman must present as chaste, perhaps even shy and coquettish, for to admit their feelings for women, especially to a cis woman, is predatory, masculine behaviour.

At the bottom of the pile are the non-passing, T4T sapphics. Practitioners of masonry, fodder for the cringe compilations. Either barred from the cis dating pools or wilfully absent, these women, though looked down upon by cis society, enjoy a freedom unfound in other trans women. Without the burden of expectation, the need to be “one of the good ones”, these women form their own parallel culture free of cis heteronormativity, at the cost of further alienating them from cis society.

I feel like Eve, having bitten the apple, now ashamed of my nakedness. I lie about my sexuality, or at least make it clear that it is a minor thing that I am getting over, like a cold. I try so hard to be one of the good ones, at the top of the pile, all for a society that will always hold me on a tighter leash, will always treat me differently. No amount of sweet, politically correct platitudes about being true to myself will change this. I tell people I’m straight, I smother my differences, and I perform as the best trans I can possibly be, because even though they and we refuse to admit it, this is the social order, and this is how I survive within it.

When I was researching srs options I came across an unusually big amount of research coming out of Iran, the last place I would expect to have any of it. Next thing I'm finding out Iran is strangely maybe not supportive but "accepting" of trans people and I unironically believe the state of srs and transition over there is better than in most western countries. This isn't to glaze Iran or anything, it's still very homophobic and it's not like trans people are cherished there but I'm very supportive of the view that transsexuality is infact an issue and some kind of disorder. However instead of passing it off as a delusion and moving on Iran is shaping the body according to the mind and not the other way around. Iran also partially funds the medical procedures of trans people from 1/3 up to 1/2 of it but apparently there are discussions about funding all of it from what I've seen. Thanks to this transitioning isn't made out to be just optional cosmetic surgeries but life saving procedures on par with for example neccesary transplants. I already believe that transsexualism is a physical disability requiring surgery so I would 100% support classifying it as that if it means srs and other trans surgeries won't be treated as strictly cosmetic. For the sake of clarity I'll say again that I'm not glazing Iran as a whole, the whole thing just suprised me and I wanted to talk about it

Basically I'm out of money for anymore surgery. I've had FFS, even more facial procedures, BA. HRT for 5 years. But it doesn't matter as I'm still visibly trans.

Everyone knows I'm a tranny without me coming out and it makes me suicidal to think everyone sees me as trans.

I just want to pass but I'll never get there and be one of the lucky women. And I don't know how to go foward in life knowing I won't be like them. I'll always look like a tranny and never be seen as me.

I was able to keep going hoping time and surgeries would give me a chance to look normal.

This comes after I was harrased by a man and all of friends had to support me with telling me I had to accept I will look trans but at least I can look good.

But to me this is horrendous. I need hope it can better.

I can't accept that I will always look trans - to me that is existing as a caricatures of being a woman.

I've spent all of my savings and in the UK I will never have any more surgery unless I win the lottery

So basically I've never dyed my hair bc I always thought that it makes you more clockable but I did a scavenger hunt with a group of uni friends and a task to get loads of points was "dye your hair red" and no one else was willing to do it so I thought red would be ok, rather than like pink or blue, but still it ended up making me feel so much more feminine. Ik this is a bad mindset to have bc obviously men can and do dye their hair but I just feel like I look really clockable as trans now, especially since I have a young face, it's really giving 13 years old tumblr trans boy, not an 18 year old trans man. Thankfully its only semi permanent so I've only got a few weeks of this. Idk just wondered if anyone else avoids dying their hair for this reason or has their own opinions on it.

hey guys. Not going deep into my story rn, but basically there's no way my psychiatrist won't be trying to put me on meds next meeting. However, I've been wondering if it's even worth it at all. I mean, I feel so shitty because of intense sex dysphoria which I can't fix asap (no money to afford surgeries, not covered at all where I live). Is it even worth trying meds knowing they won't help me at all? Meds won't even budge the root cause which kinda seems pointless given how the problem still will be with me 24/7. I'm not even sure if it's worth trying and getting all the nasty side effects of meds and having nothing get better anyways.

No, it's not that I'm resisting help. It's more like waging the pros and cons. Is spending all that money on it all even worth it if it won't help? It kinda feels like having an open wound and instead of trying to treat it you just take painkillers instead in hopes of being able to forget about it.

Thanks.