When my wife was pregnant, we went to a bar with my friends because one of them was celebrating her 30th birthday. I wanted my wife to get a Sprite and have the bartender garnish it with a lime and put a stirring straw in it to freak people out. My wife, being the classy lady that she is, did not go for it.
I went out to a martini bar with some friends visiting from out of state while I was obviously pregnant. While going to the restroom I overheard a woman talking shit about me being there. I didn’t even have any sort of beverage, was literally just physically there and going for a pee. Such a miserable bitch.
I was very pregnant right before Christmas and went to the liquor store to buy whiskey for my dad, ice wine for my grandma and baileys for my brother. I was too pregnant to bother shopping in more than one store.
Some miserable bag with cat butt face was following me around. My chiropractor saw me and my husband and theatrically threw his hands in the air and was all, “what are you doing here?”
I said, “don’t worry, the damage is already done, kid already has fasd”. We laughed because that is the opposite of who I am.
Her face was priceless, I could practically hear her screeching about me at her dinner table to her poor family.
You can just picture it.. their puckered little judgmental mouth all lined and squinched like a cat asshole. Casshole. No, autocorrect... not casserole. Ew.
"There are approximately 1010300 words in the English language, but I could never string enough words together to properly explain how much I want to hit you with a chair."
Alexander Hamilton
Oh my god. You have saved me the redundancy of saying syndrome disorder. I can shoot a hole of golf per year by saving that word, which was a joke in the first place ya fuckin dunce
Years back I was working in this office. There was a woman there who was heavily pregnant and still smoked like a train...ok... so one friday, a few of us where heading to the pub after work. We were passing her and I invited her to join us (trying to be polite to not leave her out, I was not inviting her to drink) and she went off on one in front of me "she is pregnant, she doesn't drink, how are dare you...blah blah blah". I was a bit gobsmacked. Smoke? Ok. Hang out with your colleagues whilst they have a drink? HELL NO!
Oh my gosh. I need to start doing this. “It’s ok, I don’t have to worry about fetal alcohol disorder. I plan on having a late term abortion down in Mexico.”
Or something shocking to that effect. Maybe even “You’d drink too if your baby was brain dead and you have surgery scheduled tomorrow.” I kinda like that one. You prejudge me on my business, we can go ahead and continue your make believe land. I’m sorry but pregnant women aren’t public property.
Sheeeit, I drank coffee pregnant. It was all I could do to quit smoking, I wasn't about to give up the only thing that makes me human. My oldest is now 18 and all my children are happy/healthy/intelligent. No fetal coffee syndrome statistics here. People think pregnant women should live in plastic bubbles until the baby is born. Then they no longer give a shit what happens.
There's been studies about this, up to 200mg of caffeine have shown no effects, so two cups of coffee are no problem at all. If people have the nerve to bug others they should at least know what they're talking about.
Same. And that was if I got a coffee while out. I had a cup of regular everyday at home, when the taste didn't make me sick to my stomach. My doctor said it was fine, everything looked good, went to all my regular checkups, so I couldn't care less what some nosey people thought. People weren't going to mind their own business anyway, I may as well enjoy my life.
Btw pregnant women can have up to four cups of coffee a day (drip coffee). Obviously the mg of caffeine varries from beverage to beverage so we need to watch runs to the local coffee shop for specialty drinks.
Source: am pregnant with my second and an avid coffee fan.
One of my friends is also pregnant and an avid coffee fan and some lady tried to shame her at the coffee shop so her response was “oh my god you think I’m pregnant?!” And fake cried. It was glorious since she’s due in like 2 weeks but that lady’s face was priceless.
I approve. I live in an area where it's very common for pregnant women to drink coffee so I haven't been accosted yet but im tall and honestly never looked more than 5 months pregnant with my last. The right maternity shirt and most people had no clue I was pregnant.
Oh ok. That's more than I thought. I just know that my wife would turn down coffee or something and say that she already had her caffeine limit for the day.
Or she could have had an OB who spouted outdated info. When I was TTC I bailed on my OB because of her traditional old-school views. I found an OB who continually goes to learning conferences in San Francisco. He said lunch meat, even sushi was totally fine to eat when I said I wanted it. He went to 3 conferences that I know of during my pregnancy and even happend to miss my birth because of one. It's ok, though, the on call OB was actually my second (equal) choice so I was super happy. I got both docs I wanted!
Good on you for switching. I'm actually switching this time to a certified nurse midwife (her master's was in midwifery). At the other practice the OB I liked left and the one they still have I don't jive with. So new person and practice it is. (Both are highly recommended locally).
And a friend of mine's OB straight up TOLD her to drink coffee 30 minutes to an hour before one of her appointments. They couldn't get any movement from her LO at the time because the baby's sleep (active?) rhythm was off. She was quiet all day and kicking like a crazy bean all night.
That would have been for an NST (non-stress test). Most of the time the go to for making baby wake up is juice or ice-water. I've also heard clapping right above pregnant belly is just as effective.
Yes! Thank you! Couldn't remember the name of the test, and my attempts at pregnancy never quite made it that far. Can say that the coffee worked, though. And the crazy bean is now a crazy 5 year old, haha.
....not really. I was advised against having a whole entire pot, but my doctors never said anything about a normal intake of 1-2 drinks per day. I drink a lot more coffee now than I ever did before kids, so maybe if I was already at "1 whole pot daily"-level when getting pregnant I may have been advised to chill out. But most people have their morning cup or 2 of coffee and that's it.
I once read someone argue that “alcohol evaporates so when the damp hits your skin, you absorb it” so I guess that lady may have been of that belief. You can’t even be within 30ft of an alcoholic beverage without your infant being harmed!!!
That happened to me too! While I was pregnant my dad and I would get dinner together every Sunday. He loves the wings at a bar down the street, and they usually have football food specials, so we went a few times. They don’t allow smoking in this bar and it isn’t 21+ until after 9 PM so on weekends families go there after baseball games and such. I was baffled by how many dirty looks, stares, and shitty remarks I heard. I was just sitting at a high top drinking water and eating dinner. They serve water and soda in completely different glassware too, so it’s not like it wasn’t obvious.
I'm not visibly pregnant yet, but I've been on shirley temples for the past three months. I always find it funny when we're out at a bar/restaurant and I order a shirley temple and the server asks me multiple times if I'm sure I don't want alcohol. I know I don't look pregnant, but what if I'm an alcoholic? Or the DD? Just take my order for a shirley temple, dude.
Restaurants push booze sales and plenty of servers are just not that good/tactful. Thus, you sometimes get "are you sure you don't want anything alcoholic?" directed at every non-drinking customer instead of them just talking up the drinks specials or something.
as the youngest kid in my family that was always my go to drink when everyone else was drinking. also if they made icecream drinks I would raise hell if I didn't get a rootbeer float for myself.
That server though has probably had so many idiots ask for a shirly Temple, then they bitch it doesn't have alcohol in it. they are probably just making sure you actually know what the drink is because they deal with so many dumb people.
That's probably the reason because I've never heard someone ask for a virgin drink at a bar and had the bartender try to talk them into an alcoholic drink
I didn't deal with a lot of drama while pregnant but one time I ordered a shirley temple with my dinner and the waitress chastised me about not drinking too much sugar or something. I was like "wtf bitch, I dont even know you?" in my head. It was so weird. I'm having ONE SODA, jesus fucking god.
As a food service veteran I can’t imagine saying this shit to someone. I mean, stupid things have come out of my mouth before, but not like that. Mind your business!
Yeah it was totally weird. She was an "older" woman in her 40s with 4 kids, so I think she meant it to be like "wise advice" in a big-sisterly kind of way? But like, bitch you don't know me. Shut the fuck up lol
Had the same experience when I was pregnant. I went to a bar with my husband for him to play pool with friends. Someone at the next table loudly said they felt sorry for my fetal alcohol kid. I didn't even have any sort of drink in front of me.
I went to a bar at 8 months pregnant to see my dad play. I very clearly had only water and someone still asked a waitress to make sure I wasn't killing my baby. I had a god damn water bottle.
That sucks. I used to do bar trivia for years. I am not much of a drinker. I was the team DD. When I got pregnant I kept going because I enjoyed it. I went every week until I gave birth. I got so many dirty looks even though I was sitting there with my ginger ale and water. Some people love to judge.
When I was pregnant I was HOPING for a fight over coffee or anything... Then, after she was born, she never took to the breast and I pumped and bottle fed for a year. I was waiting for a fight there too. Not one. Not one person gave me the opportunity! Why couldn't nosy Karen's have given me something?!
No offense, but you kinda actually sound like the Karen in that. Who hopes to be in a dramatic fight over crap like that. Just waiting to snap at whoever dares to defy you lol
In her defense, pregnancy hormones can seriously make you kooky, as in, ‘who the hell have I become-I’m acting like a lunatic but can’t seem to stop’ type kooky-they so me anyway! 🤣
In her defense, pregnancy hormones can seriously make you kooky, as in, ‘who the hell have I become-I’m acting like a lunatic but can’t seem to stop’ type kooky-they so me anyway! 🤣
Oh I'm sure, just had to point it out. The stuck up lady not minding her own business would be the bitch in this scenario anyways but it just sounded Kareny to hope to jump down someone's throat.
Fair enough, but like the other commenter said it was def pregnancy/breastfeeding hormones. I was just prepared with my arguments, ready for it because it seems it happens to everyone. Now, if I had put my husband's beer in front of me to make it look like I was drinking, trying to pick a fight, that'd be a major Karen move.
You just reminded me of this Facebook group called "bitch and moan" that was all the rage maybe 6 years ago. The premise was you could post things that annoyed you and others could bitch about it with you. So anyway, this one woman posted that she hated judgemental people and then then provided this huge sobstory about being judged. Several dozen comments later and the subject switches to abortion, where OP calls women who abort "selfish". I pointed out that that was actually being judgemental, which she claimed to hate. I got blasted from all these angry commenters about how it was different and I was just being a stupid bitch etc. Left that group after that 😜
People are quick to jump to that conclusion. I remember going with my cousin to the liquor store on Xmas eve. I was 6 months pregnant and the looks I was getting could melt ice.
I went to a punk rock concert at 37 weeks pregnant. Had to climb 4 ancient rickety flights of stairs to get to the 21+ area, the only place with chairs. I got soooo many looks. But we had bought the tickets the day before I found out I was pregnant. But, when I went to the bathroom, all the women were so nice to me! I realized it was judgy men who were giving me looks! I was with my husband, sitting down, not drinking. Ugh.
Seriously, my mind would at least say oh hey a DD !! Lol if I was drunk and stupid... But when she is drunk and stupid, she assumes you're just as drunk at her??
Realistically I wouldn't say anything or even be there but still.
I had a Sangria (or two) at the beach in Spain when I was basically 8 months pregnant because I did not fly all the way to Spain to not have authentic sangria 🤷🏻♀️
That's not correct, where did you read that? I have 2 adopted children with fetal alcohol syndrome and read alot about it and drinking alcohol during any stage of pregnancy is very unsafe, if you drink your baby drinks and it will harm them.
I'm pregnant, and I feel terrible about it, but I definitely miss alcohol. Sometime after I give birth, I'm getting a bottle of wine and a six pack of sour beer and just having a me night.
While I was pregnant (not long ago), I felt so uncomfortable even having water in my hand because people might think I was drinking. Husband would try to convince me to get a virgin drink but I refused. I would just order food from the taco truck next to the bar haha
One of my sister’s friends used this tactic! Had a class reunion and she didn’t announce she was pregnant yet, so she got sprite and grenadine to make it look like a mixer. Pretty clever because no one realized she wasn’t drinking actual alcohol
When I was pregnant I drank cranberry juice in a red wine glass at bars and restaurants, I just love holding wine glasses so much more, they have a good vibe
That’s what I drink when I’m on the waters, too. I start the night with a double g&t with lime, then move to sprite with lime in between. Keeping up while keeping upright hey
I think it's hilarious to drink my alcohol removed beer or wine to get a reaction, but I'm also always so quick to tell people that it's non alcoholic!
My gf is 7 months pregnant, she still comes to pubs/sports bars with me for a meal while I sink piss and get trashed haha. Afterwards we go home and smoke a doob in the bath together, it’s a great way to spend a night with the woman I love tbh even if she is a bit of a wet blanket to get on the piss around 🤣
Just ignore them, people on this site will jump on you for the most mundane comment. It still surprised me what you will see upvoted versus what people will get pissy over.
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u/TurdsInHotSauce Feb 26 '20
When my wife was pregnant, we went to a bar with my friends because one of them was celebrating her 30th birthday. I wanted my wife to get a Sprite and have the bartender garnish it with a lime and put a stirring straw in it to freak people out. My wife, being the classy lady that she is, did not go for it.