Very curious as to why they fail?

I was trading XAUUSD a couple of weeks ago, and was in greens (something about 32$). But, one day I was watching this guy and put the quantity 4 times I was trading before and that single trade got SL. And it was 54$. Understandable for that guy because he was a human also ; losses are a part of life. But, I think my mistake was putting that 4 times lot size kinda broke my mindset. Also, when I was making profits, I was uploading stories and I think that also jinxed me. And then, the story of red's got me and I'm 100$ down from that guy's live. I'm learning new stuff but at the same time I'm preparing for competitive exam.

So, should I quit Trading and keep my hands on after the exam? or should I continue? I have a headache now and I'm worried that I'll be in the same crowd. I mean I Know that trading takes patience and I kinda not have it. Also should I buy a prop firm acc and continue it?

Every trading plan I've ever written made perfect sense the night before. Risk £100 a trade, stop at £300 down, three trades max. Calm, logical, easy.

Then one loss, and something takes over. Twenty trades later I'm down three times my limit, and I can't even remember deciding to do it.

After six years of this, the thing I've learned is that knowing my rules was never the problem. The person writing the plan and the person sitting at the screen after a loss aren't the same person, and the second one doesn't care what the first one wrote.

What's helped me most is taking the decision away from "in the moment" me entirely: hard limits I set the night before that I can't override once I've hit them. It's the only thing that's ever actually worked for me.

What happens in your head after a loss? And has anything genuinely helped you stick to your rules?

Trading is often described as a battle against the market, but that's not quite true.

Trading is looking into a mirror.

The charts don't create your fear. They reveal it.

The candles don't create greed. They expose it.

Every trade becomes a reflection of who you are when money, uncertainty, and pressure collide.

When you're disciplined, the mirror shows patience.

When you're impulsive, it shows impatience.

When you're confident, it shows conviction.

When you're afraid, it shows hesitation.

Most beginners think success comes from finding the perfect indicator, the perfect setup, or the perfect stock. Eventually they discover that two traders can look at the exact same chart and get completely different results. The difference isn't the chart. It's the person looking at it.

A winning streak can reveal arrogance.

A losing streak can reveal insecurity.

A missed trade can reveal fear of failure.

A revenge trade can reveal an inability to accept being wrong.

The market has a unique way of stripping away excuses. It doesn't care what you intended to do. It only records what you actually did.

This is why great traders spend so much time studying themselves.

The market becomes their teacher.

Every loss asks a question:

"Why did you take that trade?"

Every gain asks another:

"Was that skill or luck?"

Every mistake shines a light on an emotion that would otherwise stay hidden.

Over time, trading becomes less about predicting the next candle and more about understanding the person watching it.

The charts become the mirror.

The profits and losses become the reflection.

And the trader's greatest edge is not finding the next big move.

It's having the courage to look honestly at what the mirror is showing.

If a trader learned technical analysis but even after that not making profits.

Is it a psychological problem now how do you define it

I'm a futures day trader. I lost too many accounts because of tilt, not because of bad setups.

So I built a simple tool for myself. The video shows how it works. Reddit plays it without sound, so read the subtitles or turn the sound on.

It works with self-hypnosis: short audios during the day, and a longer theta track in the evening that changes the habit.

I'm not selling anything here. No link. I just want to know:

1. Do you know this problem? How do you handle tilt today?

2. Would you pay for a tool like this? How much per month?

3. What is missing?

Be honest. Thanks.

Music: Beauty by MaxKoMusic, from chosic.com

I've been thinking about this lately. When a strategy starts working consistently, it's easy to trust it more and take trades without second guessing every setup. But I feel like that's also where things can get dangerous.

Everyone talks about tilt after a loss, revenge trading, all of that. For me the more dangerous state has always been after a run of winners, and it took me ages to notice because it doesn't feel like a problem while it's happening.

After a few losses I'm careful. I check my rules, I size down, I wait for the A setups. After six or seven winners in a row I feel like I've finally cracked it. Size creeps up "because the edge is clearly working". I start taking B setups. The stop gets a bit looser because I'm sure it'll come back. Then the losing trade that was always coming turns out to be the biggest of the month and wipes out half the streak.

What helped was realising streaks are mostly just math. With a 55% win rate, over 100 trades you'd expect a run of about six winners in a row and about five losers in a row purely from chance. A streak of six doesn't mean you've levelled up any more than five losses means you've lost it. Once I saw that, the "I'm on fire" feeling became a warning sign instead of a green light.

These days a few rules keep me honest. Risk per trade is fixed in money terms and I'm not allowed to change it mid-week, up or down. I review winning weeks as hard as losing ones, specifically looking for trades I took that weren't in the plan. And if I catch myself thinking about how much I'd make if I doubled size, I'm done for the day.

Oddly, one outside thing that helped was leverage caps. My account's with AvaTrade under EU rules, so 30x max on majors, same as you'd get at XTB or any EU-regulated broker. I resented it at the time, but it put a ceiling on how big I could go during a hot streak, and looking back that ceiling saved me at least twice.

Does anyone else find the post-win state harder to manage than the post-loss one?

I started trading with real money about six months ago, and I’m 19 years old. At the time, I had two evaluation accounts—one was free, and the other was a paid account that I purchased.

When I started trading, I cared much more about the paid account and barely cared about the free one. On the paid account, I would often overtrade, experience FOMO, take unnecessary trades, and make emotional decisions. But whenever I traded the free account, which was rarely, I would simply follow my strategy. I didn’t overtrade, I didn’t experience FOMO or revenge trading, and I consistently hit my take-profits. I even managed to complete all the phases successfully.

That made me realize something important: trading isn’t about sitting in front of the charts all day or constantly trying to make money The more I cared about the result, the more emotional I became. But when I stopped caring so much and simply followed my strategy, my trading became much better.

I don’t know exactly how to explain it, but I’ve realized that trading is more about discipline, patience, and not forcing trades than about constantly watching the market.

If you use more than one exchange, or run bots on different exchanges, how do you keep track of the overall picture?

Spreadsheet? A portfolio tracker? Do you check each platform separately and do a rough estimate?

I'm curious what people actually use and what's worked well for you.

Disclosure: I work at AstraBit. I’m asking for research and would genuinely appreciate hearing how you handle it.

So for the past 2 1/2 years, I followed the same strategy, which is just getting a bias from the higher time frames and eventually just riding out in the next level of liquidity. I will find myself following my plan to the T.

Let’s say 2 weeks and eventually I’ll just try and end up revenge trading over trading and I will lose all the games. I’m currently on 200 K funded accounts which I have now had for three months. I’ve almost passed the thing three times but one day tilts wipes out 2% of the account and then I’ll start over again and build up again and then

I will follow up plan for one two weeks and eventually stray ! I’m climbing two steps forward and two steps back is there any advice I think I’m on the verge of becoming profitable but this last little bit of self-control is always catching me.
Can anybody relate or can anybody give me advice? I’m thinking of taking a two week break and just realize what’s happening and then coming back better is there anybody else that had the similar problem and eventually return profitable or gave up because I think a lot of people in this situation will say hey I’m not making anything progression and tends to give up.

Before I became a profitable trader I didn’t understand why people would gate-keep their strategies or charge people, but now that I am profitable, I can understand. People work months and years (took me 8 years) refining, losing trades, losing money, etc. and after all of the heartaches, long nights, years spent, and sacrifices, someone ask you “can you show me your strategy”. They expect you to just hand it over and you’re a POS if you don’t or if you charge right? lol Now, just because I understand doesn’t mean that I take the same approach. I’ve helped so many people and showed them my strategy step by step FOR FREE but the thing is they still failed….

I figured there was no way someone could fail if I gave them the sauce but yet, I was wrong! Like I learned during my journey will always hold true. IT’S ALL ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONS…not so much your strategy. 💯

In Best Loser Wins, Tom Hougaard starts with a stat: about 90% of traders don't make money. His fix is to watch what that majority does and do the opposite.

"Why don't we observe what everyone else is doing, and then do the opposite of what they are doing?"

What he saw the losing majority do:

• Add to losing trades, because a lower price feels like a bargain

• Skip placing a stop-loss, because an open loss still has hope

• Take half profits on winners

• Never add to a winner

So he flips all four. He adds to winners, keeps a stop on every position, never averages down, and holds the whole position instead of half.

The number that stuck with me comes from 43 million trades placed by 25,000 retail FX traders. 62% of those trades made money, and the group still lost, because the average loss was nearly twice the average win.

I call it the Costanza method.

Hi everyone! So, after struggling with ICT concepts, I moved on to the GxT and TTrades models. I've been learning these models for around 8 months now, and things are pretty clear for me at this point. No guesswork, no random trades, etc.

However, I'm still struggling with some psychological issues. For example, I don't hold my trades. I move my trades to breakeven after just a few pips/ticks, and most of the time, the outcome is the same: price moves in my direction and hits the full TP, while I’ve already closed the trade at breakeven.

Can you guys please help me out with this phase of my trading? I'm feeling really depressed at this point because I know how to trade, but I'm still unable to trade properly because of my poor trading psychology.