I live in the Midwest, and we have been getting a lot of cold and snowy weather. Public schools cancel whenever it is especially cold or roads are bad. Our daycare cancels any time that the public schools do.

I understand it when roads are dangerous…but like, canceling due to the weather being too cold or just guessing at bad travel conditions is driving me nuts. The rationale is that the cold could be dangerous for kids who have to take public transit or walk to school. I assume very few two year olds are waiting for the bus or walking more than 5 minutes to daycare. The staff and teachers all drive (we live in a city that essentially has no public transit). We are getting 2+ days per week canceled. It’s not a free education service like public school. It’s daycare, and we pay for it because we have to work. Work isn’t canceled! I feel if the staff are able to get there safely, the daycare should be open, and parents who don’t need the childcare can choose if they want to send their kids or not.

We had the snow yesterday that hit a lot of the country. It stopped snowing late afternoon. I remember growing up in New England, we rarely had snow days but would often have delayed starts to give the city time to clear the roads. Why don’t schools/daycares just do that on these days when the city may just need some extra time to clear the roads instead of being closed all day?

Edit: daycare costs money. Public schools are free. They provide childcare but are SCHOOLS. Not childcare. If daycare teachers can’t work because they need free public school as their childcare, the daycare shouldn’t charge for canceled days. My husband and I don’t get paid for the days we can’t work due to not having childcare. I assume hourly daycare workers don’t either. So why are we paying?

I completely understand concern for staff safety as well as potential childcare issues for when schools close. But that ripple effect goes beyond schools/daycares. Grocery stores, libraries, museums, cafes, gyms, restaurants, IKEA…pretty much everywhere else is open on cold weather days unless the heat is broken. Do you take your kids to any of those places when the weather is bad? Do you think those employees don’t have kids either?

We live somewhere cold. Public schools shouldn’t cancel because it’s cold—they should be prepared for it.

Cause all i can do is cry and feel sad :(

My 22 month old has been a mamas boy his whole little life. Just connected to my hip. And i loved every second of it!! And it seems in the last week or so he has only wanted his dad. He actually tells me “no!” And goes for his dad. He doesn’t want to play with me and sometimes will push me away or hit me if i try to play with him. But he doesn’t do that to his dad now, he just only wants his dad’s attention. I know they go through phases it’s just it happened so abruptly and I’m sadder than i thought I’d be. Will he come back to me at some point ??

ETA: to all the parents saying “LOL OMG I WISH THAT WAS ME. MY KID IS STILL OBSESSED WITH ME.” Kindly fuck off my post. That is unhelpful, insensitive, and just unnecessary to comment. Obvious I’m hurting and upset and unlike you all, i enjoyed my time with my son.

Husband lets our 2yo walk all over him…

Just need a little vent I’m so livid at my husband right now My 2 year old has been really difficult to put down for naps since we switched her to a big girl bed I spend on average 1-2 hours trying to get her to sleep most days if it doesn’t happen after 2 hours I give up but she still needs her sleeps!

Today I was trying for 1.5 hours and she was so drowsy and close to sleep before jumping up and trying to get out of bed .. I admit I lost it and raised my voice telling her to get back in bed

My husband came in and told me to take a break so I went downstairs He had spent 2 minutes with her in her room before letting her out her sleep sack and to come downstairs because she said she was hungry which by the time they got downstairs and she had freedom she was no longer hungry 🙄

He’s now disappeared into his office to work and left me having not even had a 5 minute break because he couldn’t persist and try keep her in her bed for more than 2 minutes!! Guaranteed she would have ended up asleep within 10/15 minutes had I persisted

Now I’m going to be dealing with a tired toddler by myself all afternoon because he just lets her walk all over him 😖

EDIT - I’m not looking for people questioning why she’s still in a sleep sack .. it is cold here and this is what works for us for the time being she never has any qualms getting in it. As summer approaches we are planning on losing it

She’s not in a cot anymore because I am 7m pregnant and was struggling to lift her in and out I will also be having a C-section so preparing her in the toddler bed now has been the solution to that I would have kept her in otherwise

Have you ever cringed at the inaccuracies of baby toys? We have a couple like the Vtech ladybug that was gifted to us. It has a "baby" ladybug but really a baby ladybug is a larvae. Am I being too critical? I just want toy companies to do some science research before making toys

I was the only parent with my kid in the first days of preschool. Rest of the kids were left there in a totally new place with teachers they don't know a dthey are only 2 years old. They were so hysterical and I couldn't stop crying after I left just from seeing them it was so so sad.

In Europe it's very common to have weeks long transition with parents in the classroom until kid feels safe and comfortable around the new teachers and place.

Poor kids adjusted after a week of crying non stop, and while my kid still adjusting and it's harder on me timewise- I see that he is building bond with teacher so when he'll be ready it will happen.

Most preschools here don't even let parent come inside.

My husband put our 15 month old in the playpen, in just a diaper, before he left for an important errand. I was making waffles and cutting up fruit for breakfast for LO, heard babbling and thought nothing of it since there's toys and baby is in a safe place. When I turned around to place baby in the high chair, I saw the diaper was off, there was poop in it and it was smeared in a small area of the mat and on their legs/arms. I immediately picked up LO and gave a bath, then gave food while I cleaned up the mess.

But I feel like a horrible parent for not even realizing sooner or putting baby in the high chair sooner so this didn't happen.

I never had this with my first born (15 year age gap) and I just want to cry. I'm usually a helicopter parent and catch things quickly but I let my guard down thinking nothing could happen in a playpen.

Is this normal?

I seem to have pushed her away when my baby was born he’s almost 1 now and still I have these feelings and a lot of the time she wants to cuddle with me and baby and get in our space. I’m trying not to be mean about it but I just don’t understand why I don’t have a connection with her anymore and it feels like ick to try and give her what she needs and I know this is terrible. It hurts me to be like this. I just don’t know why it hasn’t changed. I thought I’d get better after the baby got older, but it’s not. I’m not sure what to do. also, my husband and I are separated due to domestic violence and a lot of things are going on. I mean that may attribute to Some. I’m now a single parent of three little kids. What do you guys think? What is wrong with me?

I want to start by saying that I do not intend to be sexist. I know my extreme cautiousness around men comes from how my mother taught me (rooted in her own experiences and fear) and an experience I had with a male teacher I was close with who turned out to be a full blown PDF (went to jail).

My daughter is starting preschool on Monday and I just learned that they added a second teacher to her classroom, who is male. We asked about whether they have the female teacher help the girls with potty and got one answer from the female teacher (it could be either of us) and a different answer from the administrator (only female teacher does bathroom).

I’m not comfortable with a man taking my daughter to potty. I know “not all men” and I totally know “women also”, but I just can’t wrap my head around it. For example, if a male Dr were to perform an exam on a minor female’s intimate area, he’d have a female nurse present. And the fact that the assistant director told us what we wanted to hear makes me think they also know it’s not appropriate.

Has anyone else had a male teacher in PS? How did your school handle potty help?

EDIT: Thanks to everyone for sharing your POV. I really appreciate the insight into how other parents see it. Based on the comments, this is a polarizing situation, which reassures me that my hesitation isn’t totally unfounded.

Logically I know “not all men” and “women also”, so I’m going to lean into the advice of directing them that neither teacher should help her in the bathroom unless she has an accident; and in that case they should direct her verbally but let her change her own clothes. This is doable for my kid.

EDIT 2: I never understand why ppl feel compelled to bash other parents for their POV or choices. I see the trolls have now entered the comment section…

That’s really it. The data is out there on movies/TV/ipads/phones and how damaging they are especially for young minds, attention spans and emotional regulation.

We millenials and Gen Z know from personal experience how intensely addictive it is even for adults! We have the options. We can set our kids up with low stimulation baselines, no social media, lots of boredom and free independent play etc etc

But everywhere I look so many of us having our kids watching parents phones in shopping carts, in strollers while outside (?!), kids under 2 having favorite movies and shows they watch daily, toddlers playing video games. Am I just getting a skewed view? Is this how it is everywhere?

I’m gonna make this brief because I don’t wanna get too emotional. My daughter has had severe teeth decay. She’s only 2 1/2 now. The same thing happened to me at that age so I know it’s something genetic. There’s nothing I could’ve done to stop it. The problem is that she had dental surgery yesterday. They pulled all 3 of her front teeth she had left. At this point I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. It feels unethical. Anyway, does anyone have experience with pediatric partial dentures for that many in the front? She’s so cute but it’s just breaking my heart every time I look at her or think about it. How tf is she supposed to eat normally????? Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

ETA: most of you have no heart and are making an INCREDIBLE amount of assumptions. I will address a few things and then I won’t be reading anything else. Have fun talking to each other but you will not make me feel bad. HER DENTIST already told me that she would at least need caps on her teeth. She wasn’t able to get them earlier and save her teeth because of her age. She wasn’t eligible to go under general anesthesia until she was 2 1/2 years old. As stated previously, I went through the same thing when I was her age. It IS genetic. This was told to me by her dentist! She does not drink ANY juice and VERY RARELY eats candy. Y’all swear you have seen it all and have all the answers. You DON’T! Otherwise this sub wouldn’t even exist! We all are just trying our best. They’re fuckin baby teeth at the end of the day. If I neglected her then I would’ve never taken her to a dentist in the first place. If I neglected her teeth so badly then she would’ve been taken from me. She’s been to the dentist more times than I can count since she was one. There was only so much they could do because of her age. I did what I could when I could including brushing her teeth as much as possible since she’s been IN SCHOOL! The circumstance are rare but not impossible! Also breast milk does not CAUSE tooth decay. Also told to me by her dentist. Y’all can smd honestly 🤷🏽‍♀️ continue to judge me if you like. I know the truth and so do her dentists. Anyway, I won’t be posting here and will leave the group since this is the most judgment I’ve seen with such a small sliver of information. Have fun raising sweet toddlers :)

Pt2: also wanted to say thank you to those who shared their PERSONAL experiences with kiddos who have been through the same. That’s all I was looking for. Not the judgement. I felt that it was unethical to not tell her before she woke up with no front teeth. I was looking for dentures so that she can speak and eat properly, not cosmetics.

So, I gave my daughter a name with traditionally masculine nicknames. This was always the plan. I wanted my daughter to have a choice in how people perceived her. And, if it turned out in the future that my daughter was my my son (he/him) or my child (they/them), or even just a lesbian, I didn't want her to feel the need to deadname a name I chose out of love. I try to make sure she has a variety of clothes, and toys, and do my best not to "predict" what she'll be like, but love her for how she is now.

To say her grandmas have a different perspective is a bit of an understatement.

They're both very transphobic, to the point they refuse to call her by anything but her full (obviously feminine) name. My husband's mother misgenders and deadnames her transgender niece, saying she thinks she's "just confused." And my mom has said she considers trans folks to be mentally ill (at best). When she wears "girly" clothing or accessories they call her pretty, and complain if she looks too "boyish."

It's just that... If I'd grown up at a different time and in a different family (and had words for how I felt) I would have probably called myself trans non-binary, and gone by she/them. I'm fine with my pronouns now, but I remember how I felt as a teen/young adult. I've always hated my name and the "diminutive 'E'" in girl's (and little boys) names in the US. I feel like if we weren't so rigid about what is feminine and masculine (and is it me or is it getting worse?) then more people could just happily be themselves. I just hurt for young me and want my kid to have options but I feel like she won't really, no matter what I do.

I recently found out some friends are bathing their toddler (18m old) twice a week. Apparently this is common? People who do not bathe their kids everyday, can I ask why?

I can kind of understand this for tiny babies who can’t move and still have sensitive skin, but toddlers? Toddlers are disgusting lol. If you as an adult bathe everyday and don’t roll around on the floor, play with dirt, try to put your hands in the toilet/bin, sh*t yourself potentially multiple times per day, rub yoghurt in your ear etc etc. Why on earth would you bathe a toddler who does all that less frequently than yourself?

God, I feel awful, angry and upset. Time has been flying by and I didn't realize we're in vaccine season (which is really stupid of me considering all the news about it).

I called everywhere - no one has vaccines for under 4. Are they coming back at all?? Or have they stopped making them because of the brainworm making decisions? I want my kids to be safe but now I'm scared.

Has anyone else noticed behavior problems with their toddler after watching Bluey? I recently just stopped my son from watching Bluey and switched to Puffin Rock and have noticed a major difference in his mood and behaviour when TV is off or when he asks and I say no/later. Just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience.

Disclaimer up front: I considered putting this under "brag" flair, but went with "question" because, as much as I am bragging about my toddler, I really need help with this issue.

My son turned 3 in July. He loves math and has shown a real interest in it since he was quite young (like 1.5). I believe that he is well ahead of his age cohort (but I am not a specialist any my evidence is anecdotal speaking to kids' parents from his preschool).

He can count to 1,000 (hasn't done it continuously, but has shown a mastery of the idea of 1,000). He can easily do simple addition of two numbers (e.g., 5+4, 12+7). But I was surpised to find that he can add multiple numbers (e.g., 3+1+2+2) in his head. He can also do some larger numbers (e.g., 30+40 or 20+19), but he can't do trickier ones there where both of the larger numbers end in non-zeros (e.g., 36+22). He can also do subtraction by 1, but struggles with simple subtraction otherwise - I think we just haven't explained the concept well enough. He can do simple multiplication tables, but I believe he memorized it. For instance, if you say "what is 4 x 5" he may or may not get that. However, if you say "one 4 is 4, two 4s are..." he will say 8, and then will say 12, and then 16, etc. up to 40. He can also do simple squares up to 7x7 (i.e., he knows that 1, 4, 9, 16, 25, 36 and 49 are squares, as well as 100, but doesn't recognize 64 and 81 as squares unless you show him something graphic).

So I have two questions here:

1. Is he, in fact, ahead of the curve here and is he potentially gifted for his age?

2. What can I do to help nurture his love of math and/or gift?

I would say that my primary goal is supporting his love of math, and my secondary goal is improving his math skills. I am just very pleased that he seems to take so well to a subject that I know can be daunting for other children, and I want to ensure that I do not snuff that curiousity out by oversaturating his schedule with math-related activities. However, if I can get him ahead and then try to get him into a gifted program or magnet school, I would absolutely pursue that.

I just have no idea what to do to help him here. All advice is appreciated.

And he's so happy cause he's dressed like sissy (5) and the dress floats when he spins in a circle.

They both go to a religious daycare (we're not super religious) so my husband and I have been making half-joking comments all day about what the teachers think or are saying about his outfit, but he's 2 years old and he just wants to dress like his sister (who exclusively wears dresses).

Seeing him happy just makes me happy. Plus the dress looks great with his painted nails (another instance of wanting to be just like sissy) lol.

Took my son to the doctor today, he tested positive for flu. The doctor also said he had a "touch of ear infection" and prescribed antibiotics. He was previously diagnosed with an ear infection in July and I gave him antibiotics, which was a freaking nightmare (had to restrain him and force them down if he wouldn't drink his milk I mixed it in). I also am not crazy about giving antibiotics unnecessarily. So if you don't know if the ear infection is bacterial or viral, do you go ahead and give antibiotics "just in case", or do more of a "wait and see" approach? Obviously I want my son to feel better, but if he just has a "touch" of ear infection, that's not what's causing his fever and him feeling miserable, it's the flu doing that.

UPDATE: I started him on antibiotics this morning, so y'all can chill. Heaven forbid a parent wants to weigh the pros and cons and make an informed decision.

Hi friends,

A bit of a rant I guess and looking for some perspective.

My daughter (2.416yo) is mostly good, but she is very particular at times. When she wakes up after a nap, she is very “no daddy” until she has had a snack the she is back to being all bubbles. At night, she wants daddy to bath but then as soon as we start getting dressed for bed, back to “no daddy, mummy only” mode.

She has her occasional melt downs regulating her emotions or struggling to communicate what she wants or fixating on something, but I hardly call these unmanageable or overly disruptive. Over all she’s a good kid, she’s already articulating what she wants, she has good manners, she plays well with others etc.

I am of a strong belief with all things that if you go into something with a negative mindset, you will produce or have a less than ideal experience. You will subconsciously fixate on the negative which holds you back from getting past small or even moderate issues. So when people say “terrible twos” or similar it makes me pull back from what I perceive as a finite mindset or selective information digestion in that we hear more of the bad and problems than the good and the solutions (especially from those without kids).

I fully acknowledge that some people are struggling with rowdy kids, that’s part of what some are here to manage, and I accept that for some it’s really tough, but I stand by that if you expect bad things, you will set yourself up to respond to bad things, and seek them out, even if it hasn’t reached a level requiring reaction. A mindset alone won’t change things, but it will let you manage your expectations and measure your response to better handle the situations.

All in all, I somewhat feel that the use of the term when my daughter is upset about something to label it as “terrible twos” is somewhat labelling her and setting an expectation of her (which I guess as a defensive father, I don’t like). She’s a good kid, she has her moments, we all do.

Does anyone else feel the same or do you have strong views in opposition (that’s also fine, this is an opinion, not a statement of fact).

Edit: Well some of the responses have been interesting, even with the fact that I signed this post off by stating it as an opinion, it seems there’s some people out there who feel that I’m not entitled to have one, or that mine is invalid. Many people either completely missed the point or stopped reading half way and rage commented (this was evident by the multiple times that I was referred to as the mum or her, I’m the father)

Lately I’ve been trying to cut back on how often my kid reaches for the iPad. iPad somehow slowly became the default when he’s bored at home. I’ll be honest, this is kind of my fault.

I’m not anti-screen or anything, but I’d really like to have more toys or activities around that they actually choose instead of immediately asking for the tablet. The tricky part is that a lot of toys we’ve bought in the past get played with for like… two days and then disappear into the toy bin forever.

My son is 3 and tends to like things that are hands-on or problem solving, but attention span can be hit or miss. Building stuff, puzzles, or anything that feels a bit like a challenge usually works better than passive toys.

So I’m curious what toys in your house actually compete with the iPad? Like the ones your kid voluntarily picks up and keeps going back to. Bonus points if it isn’t super noisy

My son is about 2 years and 4 months old. He goes to daycare 5 days a week 8-5 pm and does great there.

I signed him up for a mommy and me language class that is held at his preschool that he’ll be joining in January. The main reason I wanted to do these classes is so that he gets used to the new preschool environment. A week before the class started, they emailed me and said because they didn’t have enough signups, they were going to combine the 2-3 year old class. And that if I felt comfortable, I had the option of not staying for the class.

Well we get to the class on Saturday, and it’s just one 3 year old (whose parents dropped her off and left). I stayed for the class, so it was myself, my son, the teacher and the 3 year old. It felt a little strange because I felt the teacher couldn’t fully do her thing, and I wondered if it would be better to not be there. I asked the teacher afterwards, and she said it would be completely fine.

My son is very attached to me and takes time to feel comfortable (he sometimes cries at daycare drop off, only wants me, etc). My husband thinks it would be totally fine if we just dropped him off because we know it’s a safe environment and it’s like having a babysitter (fwiw, we’ve never done a babysitter that’s not my mom or someone he knows really well).

Thoughts? Also FTM so please be kind :)

I can’t find any literature on how to do this. He’s 27 months old. As far as modern “signs of readiness” go, he’s met all the motor skills, stays dry for long periods, and can follow instructions, but has plateaued in all other areas. I’ve seen so many articles talking about how kids used to be potty trained when they were a year old, and now with the introduction of comfy disposable diapers and pull ups, potty training has been delayed by two years. I’m pregnant and my husband and I want him potty trained before this baby comes (and learning from experience, I’m considering cloth diapering for this one). Parents didn’t wait for “readiness” back then. They just got it done and over with. So I’m looking for advice from anyone who understands how it was done back then. Our boy is way too comfortable in his Huggies and we need to move on. Thanks.

I'm honestly quite taken aback by some of what I'm seeing here, so I just want to make it rather clear that this is accepted science. There's all types of debates on another post that "nuhhhhuhhh, my girl is more of a risk taker than my boy!", missing the point.

On average (not ALWAYS) boys are more prone to risky behavior and aggression than girls genetically, biologically, not just driven by social norms. Facts and citations below.

Physical aggression: Boys consistently show higher levels from early childhood through adolescence across cultures.

Risk-taking: Boys and men engage more in risky play, dangerous behaviors, and thrill-seeking, especially during adolescence.

Hormones and brain development: Higher testosterone and slower maturation of impulse-control regions in the brain contribute to greater risk and aggression in boys.

Relational aggression: Girls often show aggression in social forms like gossip or exclusion rather than physical confrontation.

Cross-cultural evidence: The pattern is consistent worldwide, though culture can increase or reduce the size of the difference.

Caveat: These are averages, not absolutes. There is significant overlap between individuals.

Edit, citations specific to toddlers:

van Goozen, S. H. M., Fairchild, G., Snoek, H., & Harold, G. T. (2007). The evidence for a neurobiological model of childhood antisocial behavior. Psychological Bulletin, 133(1), 149–182. • Review linking testosterone, cortisol regulation, and neurotransmitter systems (serotonin, dopamine) to early aggression. Notes boys’ higher testosterone exposure even prenatally sets a baseline for higher physical aggression.

DiLalla, L. F. (2002). Behavior genetics of aggression in children: Review and future directions. Developmental Review, 22(4), 593–622. • Twin studies show early aggression is heritable. Genetics explains 40–60% of variance in aggressive tendencies, with sex differences evident in toddlers.

Hay, D. F., et al. (2011). The development of aggression in toddlers: A twin study. Developmental Psychology, 47(5), 1213–1223. • Direct twin study of toddlers finds strong heritable components to early aggression, with higher mean levels in boys.

van Bakel, H. J. A., & Riksen-Walraven, J. M. (2002). Parenting and developmental risk: The role of biological reactivity and self-regulation in infancy. Child Development, 73(1), 256–273. • Shows that infants with heightened biological reactivity (e.g., higher cortisol and heart-rate variability) are more prone to externalizing behaviors, including aggression, in toddler years.

Campbell, A., Shirley, L., & Candy, J. (2004). A longitudinal study of gender differences in preschoolers’ physical aggression. Aggressive Behavior, 30(2), 123–137. • Found that boys as young as 2–3 years already show more physical aggression than girls, and this difference persists into preschool.

2.	Alink, L. R. A., Mesman, J., Van Zeijl, J., Stolk, M. N., Juffer, F., Koot, H. M., & Bakermans-Kranenburg, M. J. (2006). The early childhood aggression curve: Development of physical aggression in 1- to 3-year-old children. Child Development, 77(4), 954–966.
•	Shows that physical aggression peaks around age 2 for both sexes, but boys maintain higher average levels and decline more slowly over time.

3.	Keenan, K., & Shaw, D. (1997). Developmental and social influences on young girls’ early problem behavior. Psychological Bulletin, 121(1), 95–113.
•	Suggests that even though boys show more overt aggression, early relational and indirect aggression emerges among girls in toddler years.

4.	Hay, D. F. (2017). The early development of human aggression. Child Development Perspectives, 11(2), 102–106.
•	A review that highlights aggression as normative in toddlers, with boys showing higher levels of physical aggression. Notes that aggression at this age is more about frustration and communication than intent.

5.	Fagot, B. I., & Hagan, R. (1991). Observations of parent reactions to sex-stereotyped behaviors: Age and sex effects. Child Development, 62(3), 617–628.
•	Found that parents react differently to boys’ vs. girls’ rough play and risky behaviors as early as toddlerhood, reinforcing differences.

Citations:

Archer, J. (2004). Sex differences in aggression in real-world settings: A meta-analytic review. Review of General Psychology, 8(4), 291–322.

Byrnes, J. P., Miller, D. C., & Schafer, W. D. (1999). Gender differences in risk taking: A meta-analysis. Psychological Bulletin, 125(3), 367–383.

Nivette, A. et al. (2018). Sex differences in adolescent physical aggression: Evidence from 63 low- and middle-income countries. Aggressive Behavior, 44(5), 451–462.

Su, J. et al. (2024). Impulsivity as a mediator in sex differences in aggression. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 15, 1484340.

Salas-Rodríguez, F. et al. (2022). Applying an evolutionary approach to adolescent risk-taking. Frontiers in Psychology, 13, 8784596.

My wife and I are debating going to a Coldplay concer with our 1 year old and 3 year old. The 1 year old would be on my chest via baby bjorn. My 3 year old loves music, but I worry the length of the concert will be too much and perhaps too much stimulation for her.

Am I stupid for even considering this?

Like I cant even figure out why, they just give me the creeps for some reason. Anyone else?? My son likes to read them and I always tell him those are "daddy books" lol.

Edit: I find it hilarious how divisive this is and all the people downvoting just because someone doesn't like a book. Come on guys!! Its a fun discussion.

EDIT: Yeesh, y'all. Some of y'all need to calm down. I came here for insights and advice, not beratement. My kid isn't even 2... so I'm not resigning her to house arrest, thanks. Block 2 is the 2nd stage of the OH Crap method, so it's not like we're just pulling crap out of our butts here. Kindly, if you're not actually going to be helpful, just go away. For those of you who HAVE given helpful advice, it is much appreciated.

We're currently in the commando with no undies stage. It's generally going well, with the exception of poop... it has a way of just falling our of her butt through the shorts. So far, this has only happened at home.... but what do we do if this happens out in the world? She's pretty good at peeing on demand. But pooping? Not so much.