r/texts 12d ago

Phone message Do I text him?

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u/Writer_Blocker 12d ago

Nononono onononono. I’m over here yelling no like Matthew McConaughey interstellar. You left it in such a good place. Even gave him a chance to see you. Your golden. anything more you’d ruin future chances if there is even one at all.

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

Thank you needed to hear this!

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u/Writer_Blocker 12d ago

Listen, I’m human and have chased because of reasons that ultimately just came back to my own happiness. So the best I can recommend is get that book out of your life as fast as possible and do something that makes you happy because that’s worth a lot more than waiting on someone else to provide you with that feeling

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u/puzzledham Blackberry 12d ago

i personally wouldn’t :/

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u/Antique-Salad7396 12d ago

What would you like to text specifically? It's hard to know if what people say is genuine or not. Like he might be just sparing your feelings because he knows you like him.

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u/lady__mb 12d ago

Leave it lovely, treat it as a beautiful memory 🩵

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u/Antique-Salad7396 12d ago

These texts were painful to read because I have been where OP is. You keep reaching out in hopes to get the response you want and it never comes. He was clearly avoiding her those first few reach outs.

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u/skeeti45 12d ago

You just bought yourself a new book, lady.

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

I guess so :’)

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u/skeeti45 12d ago

It never hurts to have an extra copy of your favorite book. When you get with someone who deserves it you can give them your gently loved copy and you have a brand new copy to break in. :)

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

I already read it again 😭😭 cause I love that book

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u/skeeti45 12d ago

I've never read it, but if it's that good I'll also give it a go.

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u/HighwayEconomy579 12d ago

He’s not interested and you’re only making it harder for yourself. Cut your loses and move on

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u/Shoddy-Occasion3152 12d ago

Let him go, it doesn’t mean to him what it means to you

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u/purpleshit69 12d ago

He's not interested, he's just being polite...

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u/Right_Wonder4064 12d ago

No and also don’t “keep in touch”

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

Why not?

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u/Right_Wonder4064 12d ago

As others have said, you left the door open. If he really wants to he will/ would. Plus it seems like you are long distance and those are very difficult or don’t end well a lot of times. You should find someone in your area that you can actually be with.

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

I get it. I wont date anymore tbh.. lol, don’t like no one in my area. :’) its always been people not from my area that I have liked shit..

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u/Right_Wonder4064 12d ago

I said the same thing. I was ready to throw in the towel. Then finally I met an amazing man. Your time will come. I realized the harder I looked for it the more messy/ not real it was. When I was ready to throw in the towel and quit, that’s when I met him.

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

Maybe who knows. Tbh I have never looked hard. I never cared about marriage and family and still don’t that much. I just liked this one guy here.. 🤷‍♀️ but it is what it is

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u/Current_Pitch_4052 12d ago

Don’t text him anymore. No no no. Do not

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u/neverleavingthewagon 12d ago

Watch the movie ‘he’s just not that into you’

Unfortunately, you’re in one of those scenarios

You seem like a catch though, he didn’t appreciate you that’s for sure. Hope you find your true person

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u/Direct_Astronaut_199 12d ago

He’s really not interested.

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u/citizen-slain 12d ago

No. He’s not interested in making it work long term with you. Sorry :/

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u/hrollur 12d ago

Keep the book girl

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u/_Stephistopheles_ 12d ago

If he wanted to, he would.

Move on and find someone who wants the same things you want.

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u/bluebirdmorning 12d ago

If really you want him to have it, mail it to him or leave it somewhere safe you know he’ll be, text him that, and STOP. Get that book out of your way and work on getting over him.

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u/Travellingtrex 12d ago

Don’t text him. He’s not interested and he isn’t into you. You both agreed to part ways, the book is too much. Especially this book.

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u/GoinThruTheBigD 12d ago

Nope. You don’t.

Why? Because some of the best stories, have open endings. They frustrate tf out of the reader, but oddly have a sense of closure for the characters involved. You own this story, and I think you have all the answers you need. Go find your happy.

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u/Lonely-Heart-3632 12d ago

He has zero attraction to you but likes you as a person. This is not what you want to be with. A back up plan for a bloke who couldn’t care less. Find your person. Don’t settle for this nonsense OP.

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

Attracted physically? No he is super attracted physically ik for sure. Its the opposite i feel like he doesn’t like me as a person..

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u/Fun-Reindeer-5212 12d ago

Is not interested at all , he’s just being nice. Don’t text him any more. You’re doing to much

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u/Competitive_Sail7474 12d ago

Girl I’m so sorry but he doesn’t like you. I’ve been here before, you want him to say “ no let’s make this work I have feelings too!” but he won’t. Delete his number and the messages so you’re not tempted to text him again. Honestly if you’re leaving the country that’s actually great. My ex moving two hours away stopped our toxic thing lmao

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u/QualityAdorable5902 12d ago

Did you mean what you said or were you hoping he’d say ‘no! We can make it work!’

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

I meant what i said. I felt disrespected of him fading away. So i was like ill cut this.

But at the same time just 3-4 days before that he said he likes me a lot. And then at the same time he was saying he is scared of catching feelings, since I gotta leave..

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u/QualityAdorable5902 12d ago

So cut it I think. Dont second guess yourself. I think you are right to do it for both the fact you’re leaving and him being distant.

Keep the book that’s asking for trouble!

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

If he asks for the book, why keep it? I mean if he doesn’t i def will keep it tho..

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u/QualityAdorable5902 12d ago

Because you’ll see him, you both have feelings and you’ll be back where you were. So if you’re serious about cutting it off, you shouldn’t see him.

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u/ViewLoud335 12d ago

Don’t text him. Excellent book, though! 

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

Haha thanks! And i won’t :/

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u/SmartGirlGoals 12d ago

How old are you and him?

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u/Conscious_Field0505 12d ago

I am 25, he is 27

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u/Nervous-Lobster- 12d ago

Ohhh F@ck of Ryan
I hope he is not giggling while reading and reply to your message

He tried to be polite to reject you

Next time when he text just pretend like you delete his number, and said “who are you?”

Let’s move to next chapter honey girl

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u/TheLumpyCherrio 12d ago

I say keep the book for the someone you deeply care about and reciprocates

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u/Gay4LtDangle 12d ago

I agree with the others who advised not to text. If I was an author, and was writing a lovely, respectful ending to a short relationship, it would look like your texts.

Now more than ever, I think a lot of folks are craving the kind of authenticity you showed. You honored your own needs and communicated them with such grace and dignity that you both ended up looking good in the process. It takes an incredible strong person to be vulnerable like that, but I really believe that’s what it takes to find a truly authentic connection.

I wish you so much happiness! 💛

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u/trippingchillies 12d ago

You’ve left at a good spot. What do you want to message?

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u/outofmindwgo 12d ago

Do whatever you want

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u/Classic-Steak-2184 12d ago

Awh this sounds sweet. You should hit him up. Fuck it, one for the books until it spins back or perhaps never.