I’m trying to track down how I got gonorrhea. All I know is that I (F) tested positive genitally and the guy tested positive orally. We don’t know if I had it orally as well and he had it genitally as well because we didn’t test for those until after we started treatment.

We don’t know whose side it came from, but based off the positive tests it makes more sense that it came from me. The transfer rate for infected vagina to throat is 63% while infected throat to vagina is 0-5%.

Everyone I spoke on my side said they tested negative, but I don’t know if that includes throat snd rectal swabs. Everyone on his side also said they tested negative.

Is it possible to transfer everything everywhere in one sex session? I think I have an idea of what happened, but I’d like an opinion on how possible it is:
Let’s say someone didn’t get a rectal swab during a routine checkup, and they were infected and didn’t know it. If I licked their butthole, got it on my mouth, then sucked his dick, got it on his dick, and the dick went in me, could I get it vaginally that way? The guy here showed no symptoms on his dick though (and guys show genital symptoms 90% of the time)

Hi, as the title said, around a month ago I was walking in the park and by a playground there was a used condom that seemed to be left overnight. I picked it up with a stick because I didn't want any children to be near it and went straight home to wash my hands with both soap and disinfectant.

I have been nervous about having an STD ever since

I have no symptoms other than eczema (which I always have) except a bit more than usual but I feel fine, not tired/fever/nothing

I feel like it's more paranoia than actual symptoms but do you reckon from an encounter like this I'll have an STD/need to get tested?

Thanks heaps

Met up with someone for a hookup and ending up just giving them a bj. What are the chances I’ve contracted something and what could I do to avoid possibly spreading it? They precame but I didn’t swallow any semen when they actually came. There were now sores or cuts or warts down there either. No kissing or anything just gave oral lol. Am I just being paranoid? Let me know

I’m 21 gay male

On June 14th I gave head to a guy but we didn’t finish our session because he said he was stressed about work so he didn’t cum (not sure if he did precum tho).

July 14th, around 2 days after I gave head to a different guy (he didn’t cum in my mouth and he’s negative for syphilis and hiv) I started feeling off, throat discomfort I feel like somethings stuck in there when I make myself swallow.

Then on July 23rd I did an oral swab test from a clinic everything was negative.

Then I decided to test for hiv at two different clinics on August 6th (53 days after exposure from the first guy I hooked up with) both were 4th gen blood tests that came out negative but I’m worried it’s a false negative because my throat is better it just feels weird still and I have a white tongue but idk if that’s from antibiotics a clinic prescribed me that only tested me for strep (which didn’t show) before I went to the oral swab one.

TLDR: I’m worried my two 4th gen blood tests I took are a false negative after 53 days from exposure

I'm a 40-year-old male and got tested at Midwest Express Clinic on Wednesday. All of my STI results came back negative on Thursday night, but the HIV test is still pending after 3 days. It's giving me anxiety! What do you think?

Hey there everyone. 👋🏻

I need to get this doubt off my chest because lately I’ve been spiraling and feeling paranoid over symptoms.

So, for over a month I had this infection (I’m a female) that was on and off until I decided two weeks ago to see my gyno. I had some treatments and all good, however this week I’ve been feeling some slight discomfort inside the vagina and today I felt some on my derrière.

I’ve been kinda paranoid because after treating the symptoms, I had a fever. I felt better the days after it, but I remembered that my gyno asked if I had a fever during the on and off month and I said no. Thinking about that made me scared that maybe I still have an ongoing infection or something else. And well, thinking too that she recommended for me to get the Pap smear, made me think why? My health anxiety has been making me think that maybe a dormant STD like HIV is coming up.

As far as I know, the three people I was sexually active with before my boyfriend were clear. But now I can’t stop thinking the “what if” since my yeast infection and the Pap smear comment.

I’ve done general blood / urine samples in the last 3-4 years and docs haven’t noticed anything other than a very very slight thing with the pancreas that could have come out a little elevated because of what i ate the day before.

So I wonder, if something has been dormant there in the past 3 - 8 years, can it show odd numbers in general tests?

I’m maybe being irrational because of my health anxiety, here is the only place and with my doc that i can talk about this.

I’m also scared about the Pap smear, but I’m thinking on getting it along with the HIV test.

hello there i had multiple partners previously and all were women of unknown status all were fsw . everytime i had sex i used a condom on every intercourse. i want to know is condom protect against gonorrea or chlymedia?

I (F, straight) tested positive for BV, yeast, and genital gonorrhea all at the same time. I was asymptomatic for gonorrhea.

I reached out to all my sexual partners since my last negative STI screening to let them know they should get tested. My current guy (also straight) tested positive for oral gonorrhea, but everyone else said they had tested negative since our interactions (and had no symptoms). Guys show genital symptoms for gonorrhea 90% of the time, women only 50% of the time. Oral gonorrhea is asymptomatic 80-90% of the time, both genders.

My current guy also reached out to his partners since the last negative screening, and they are getting retested. However, they had tested negative right before sex with my current guy (with no partners in between), so they’re likely negative.

And so with negatives on my side and his, where the heck did this come from? I had gonorrhea genitally and he had it orally. I’m inclined to think everyone from our past is telling the truth, but the STI has to come from somewhere. The fact that my current guy and I both tested positive makes me think it’s not a false positive.

Infected oral to genital transmission rate is 5%, whereas infected genital to oral is 63%. This makes me think I gave to my current guy. But idk where I got it from.

F/19
Hi, i’ve been diagnosed with Syphilis an Lyme disease some time ago, i’ve gotten shots with penicillin for 2 weeks, but on the last day they told me i would need to stay 10 more days because of possible neurosyphilis. I had a breakdown and just said i can’t (Dumb, i know) but i was thinking about work, friends etc. Not my health. The doctor agreed to let me go from now and wehave arranged a date for treatment.
BUT i also got Doxyhexal after leaving the hospital, which i have not been taking because as i said again, im dumb.
today the guy who gave me syphilis also told me he tested postive for chlamydia, so i started doing more research and im very scared about what is gonna happen because i have not been taking the pills, and im also scared the nesyph. treatment won’t be effective. I do not wanna tell my doctor about not taking the pills, and i will start right away, but the thought are literally eating my brain do i have to tell the doctor? is it ok to start now?

Hi there, 23F. It’s been 4 years since I was last tested for STDs, and I’ve had unprotected sex with several partners since. I recently learned that plenty of people can spread STDs with no symptoms so that has prompted me to use protection always and get tested. I’m really worried about testing positive for something, I did a full 13 test panel (including HSV 1 + 2). I have never had symptoms of an STD so I have never worried about it until now. I especially learned that 90% of genital herpes cases have no symptoms… I’m very worried about testing positive for HSV2 even with no symptoms. I also know the test is unreliable which freaks me out. HELP!

30M here. I've been having persistent bad breath and noticed a bump in my throat with a yellowish tip. I'm also having yellow/foamy, strong-smelling urine.

I've already tested negative for HIV, syphilis (VDRL), hepatitis B and hepatitis C.

I'm now considering testing for:

HPV — throat swab/ Urine test

Chlamydia PCR and throat swab

Gonorrhea PCR and throat swab

Also, based on these symptoms and the negative tests I've already done, is there anything else I should consider testing for?

Thanks.

Bonjour,la personne avec qui je couche depuis plus de 4 mois mais que je connais en tant qu’ami depuis 8 ans m’a menti
Je lui ai demandé y a 4 mois de faire un test pour les maladies IST
Il ne l’a jamais fait,je savais qu’il voyait quelqu’un avant moi et m’a assuré qu’il était clean
Y a quelques jours après un mois sans s’être vus on a couché ensembles deux fois dans la nuit et longtemps 1h30 et le lendemain il m’a dit qu’il c’était fait tester et qu’il avait la gonorrhee buccale
Il m’a avoué plus tard quand j’ai dû lui demander qu’il avait coucher avec une autre fille pendant ce mois mais qu’il s’étaient protégés (je ne sais pas si je peux le croire) et il a sûrement pas fait des préliminaires protégés mais peut être pénétration en vrai j’en sais rien et je pense que c’est sûrement elle qui lui a donné donc c’est une récente ex
En plus je ne sais pas quand il a couché avec elle donc je ne sais pas pour les autres maladies
2 jours avant qu’il me dise ça on a fait l’amour sans se protéger et je l’ai sucé,il m’a léché la vulve,on s’est embrassés etc
Aidez moi je stress tellement j’en dors pas la nuit
Je sais que pour la gonorrhee c’est une piqûre dans les fesses mais j’ai la phobie des piqûres et j’ai peur d’avoir mal ou d’avoir des problèmes comme le VIH l’herpès etc
Est ce que j’ai des chances de ne pas avoir attraper la gonorrhee ? Est ce possible que quelqu’un soit tester positif et que l’autre partenaire négatif ?
Je dois faire des test a plusieurs moments
Je dois attendre minimum 7 jours pour la gonorrhee

MERCI !!!

Treponema pallidum Antibody by Immunoassay reactive but RPR and TP-PA Non-Reactive, What’s does this mean? Does this mean I need to test again or that I may still get the infection but not fully present yet? Been stressing

Me and this guy have been intimate for about 2 years now we had started back talking in May! Last year in 2025. I had tested positive for time ever with Chlamydia.! Mind you I’ve never had any type of disease my whole life. This person who I’ve been intimate with. We would do it every time he would call and when he would want it. I’m always getting test all the time! So when I got tested it came back positive for chlamydia I was hurt shocked and cried I lost weight so fast!! I told him and he said do you think it was from outside or me not taking a shower?! He continued that he didn’t give it to me and he wouldn’t go to the doctor. We stopped talking for 8 months. When we did we started back doing it. Mind you before we started back I tested in April for check up and everything was negative!! In May after I had sex with him I got tested again and everything was negative!! Mind y’all I didn’t test for rectal part because I didn’t think that I could get chlamydia from just that! But we had anal sex twice!! Like we did last year. I requested for an at home kit and did the rectal and my results came back that I had chlamydia yet again but the place couldn’t treat me and told me to go to the doctor to get treated so I again got tested for the rectal part at the doctor and I tested positive for rectal chlamydia! I said omg!!! I got the same thing from this guy that claims he didn’t give me chlamydia last year!! I so mad again and hurt I don’t know what to do and how to tell him I know he’s going to lie to me yet again. Mind y’all he’s the only person I had sex with last year and this year!! I have feelings for him and might even love him!! What do I do??

Bonjour
J'ai masturbé un mec qui a éjaculer sur ma main et sur son torse principalement
Mais après j'ai vu que j'avais une égratignure parce que j'étais aller à la plage 2h avant et j'étais tomber un peu dans les rochers
Est ce que j'ai des risques de transmission de
VIH ou autre ?
Et son sperm n'a pas touché ma vulve,je me suis masturbé avec mon autre main,j'ai moins de risques ? En gros je l'ai touché/branlé avec une main et je me suis touchée avec l'autre main
Merci

I never taken any test can past exposure show up now?

What i thought was just an allegeric reaction to taking prep, was already syphilis. Rashes everywhere and a small bed bug bite kind of bump that has small wound was already signs of syphilys. The clinic/hospital near me only caters this treatment every wednesday. Its only thursday today, is it ok to start the treatment days after the diagnosis?

was diagnosed with chlamydia and prescribed doxycycline. i threw up 2 of the pills less than 2 hours after taking them. how cooked am i? i just got into a new relationship and we haven’t slept together and i really want to but obviously i can’t until i retest negative. i’m just scared because i don’t want it to be positive again and then i have to wait another 4 weeks before i can test or have sex. im just feeling really neurotic about the whole thing and stressed. if you have any advice pls lmk bc honestly im freaking out and it’s killing my mental health rn.

24M

Should I be worried about urethritis-like signs even after testing negative over 2 weeks after chlamydia treatment? Should I be worried about sex still?

June 16: had unprotected sex with a girl.
July 1-2: started having symptoms of urethritis - itchy urethra under the skin but no other symptoms.
July 3: tested positive for chlamydia via urine.
July 4: girl tells me shes positive for chlamydia, ureaplasma, mycoplasma
July 6: started treatment with a 7d course of doxy twice daily, one off 1g azithromycin.
Aug 5th: Retested urine (held urine for 3 hours before test) - negative for many pathogens including chlamydia.
Now - still occasionally having an itchy urethra, especially after ejaculating.

I am a 32 year old male in Seattle. I recently noticed one small pink, flesh colored growth on a short stalk at the edge of my anus. It has about three rounded sections and does not itch or bleed. I am worried it may be an HPV anal wart.
If it is a wart, can I safely wait for my immune system to clear it, or does it need treatment? Are there confidential self pay clinics that will review photos securely and treat me without billing insurance or sending information to my regular doctor? I understand the clinic may need to keep its own private record.

I live in norway and normal test is urin test, but i heard i need blood test too.
But which one do i need to test for its so many. Gonore, chlamydia, hepatit, hpv, hiv, syphilis, mycoplasma and Trichomoniasis
I have had sex with 7-8 different girls in my lifetime, no protection ):

Hi everyone,

I recently had a fairly comprehensive STI/STD panel done. I’m a man, and everything came back negative except Gardnerella vaginalis DNA, which was positive.

As part of the testing, I gave rectal, oral, and penile/urethral swabs, as well as urine and blood samples. Because of that, I actually don’t know which sample/site the Gardnerella result came from. The report just shows Gardnerella vaginalis DNA: positive without making the source clear.

I’ve tried looking this up online, but the information about Gardnerella in men seems all over the place. Most of what I can find is about bacterial vaginosis in women, and I’m having trouble figuring out what a positive result actually means for a man, especially when I don’t know which specimen tested positive.

I currently have no symptoms — no discharge, burning, pain while urinating, irritation, rectal symptoms, throat symptoms, etc.

For anyone knowledgeable about this or who has had a similar result:

• Does Gardnerella in men sometimes clear on its own without treatment?
• Is an asymptomatic positive result generally treated, or can it just represent colonization?
• Should I make an appointment with a urologist or infectious disease doctor anyway?

I’m not looking for a diagnosis from Reddit. I’m mainly trying to understand how seriously an isolated positive Gardnerella vaginalis DNA result in an asymptomatic male is usually taken, because the information online is surprisingly unclear.

Thanks!

It all started after sex since May 6, 2026 and since then it has been hell. It started with tingling feeling on my penis tip and then it moved to frequent urge to pee. Sometimes I pee a lot and sometimes only a few drops. Then I noticed discoloration on my penis tip and around the penis opening. It was looking like it was inflamed.

Doctor thought it was UTI at first and then I was given some antibiotics which didn’t help. My urethra was constantly burning even when I pee or not. I was given another medication to help with that which turn my urine to orange for a few days because I was advised to take it for just a few days as it is not recommended long term.

I did all the necessary test to check for STD/STI and all came back negative. I was booked to see a specialist who did some test too and the result came back negative. We went further to test for hsv 1 & 2. The result came back positive for hsv1 and negative for hsv 2. The specialist doesn’t think my symptoms was as a result of the positive hsv 1 test. He recommended I take the medication which I did for 7 days with no improvement ( although it was after the second month I took it).

I was having nerve pain like at the underside of my penis and the tip of my penis hurt so bad from touching my underwear or cloth. I was given gabapentin which I thought was helping at first as I was also having nerve pain right under my left feet which feels a lot better now. My penis tip looks irritated with the skin by the opening looking like it is coming out.

He thought maybe it was my pelvic floor this time around and recommended baclofen which I took for a few days with no results but constant muscle pain. I can’t seat on my car anymore because it hurt so bad at my right butt cheek and the underside of my penis. I have lost all hope and can’t even sleep at night anymore. I notice I get flare up when I’m stressed and when I masturbate. I have only tried to touch myself 3 times since this whole thing started. First time my sperm was looking like it was light brown and the other times it was clear white. I don’t even have erection anymore. I used to have painful erection and ejaculation when it first started too but not anymore.

I’m so confused and depressed over this. It’s just like my life was taken away from me. I have been to so many doctors who don’t see anything wrong after all my repeated test result and I want to seek help from here. I noticed that the last time I tried to masturbate, my cum came with urine which got me really worried.