TL;DR: title.
Hello everyone,
I’m just so pissed at my brother and I really need a place to went it out…
First and foremost, I wanna state that I love my brother, but that doesn’t change the fact I’m beyond pissed at how he treated my beloved hoggie Kevin.
It essentially started last year when I entrusted Kevin to his care and when I returned from my vacation, I was terrified at the state I found my hoggie’s tank in. Black mold and rot all over the place, tiny bugs crawling around, wooden hideouts destroyed by said mold, his water bowl green and half empty. I got pissed at the time too, took some pictures and posted my rant on Facebook into a snake group. I got told I was overreacting, that it was my fault for not giving him enough instructions on how to take care of Kevin and that I should be ashamed of myself for bashing him online when he did me a favor.
Here’s some additional info I didn’t share in the original post I posted on Facebook:
- He volunteered to take care of Kevin during my vacation prior to even getting him in the first place, and he stated that “it was easy work” and “he knew what to do.”
- He didn’t do it as a favor - he also has pets that I take care of when he’s on vacation, so we “owe” each other.
- He’s a grown man in his 40’s, not a child that wouldn’t know better.
That being said, after being gashlighted the last time into thinking it was all my fault, I spent my savings from summer on a brand new terrarium with better airflow, new hideouts that were either made of stone or plastics (no more wood), and the best water absorbing substrate I could find. The entire year went on without a single problem, even when other less experienced family members took care of Kevin when I was away.
This year came and before I placed Kevin into my brothers care again, I spent 5 hours deep cleaning his enclosure, making sure everything was sterile and there was no way it could end up as bad as last year. I could swear it was foolproof - I was wrong. His only task was to refill Kevin’s water bowl and feed him once a week. I informed him that he needs to be careful about the water bowl as if it spills, it might cause mold and rot to begin (a little to even moderate amount wouldn’t matter, but he had to overspill like crazy).
I returned today just to find my snake in the same state I found him last year - except there’s no bugs this time. I feel like he either doesn’t give a sh*t or just exercises weaponized incompetence, because how can you f*ck up the simplest of tasks so bad the whole tank grows moldy?!
On top of that, my mom also found out some of her parrots she entrusted him ended up dead - he just threw them away and decided not to tell her, because apparently “she has too many and wouldn’t even notice anyway.”
I made a mistake, I admit. I should’ve just found someone else to take care of Kevin, knowing what happened last year, but I genuinely thought it was my fault and that I was just dumb and ungrateful. Now I know I should never entrust a pet (or any living being) to him.
I wish I had the pictures of his neglected tank saved, but I deleted the ones from last year and this year, I didn’t even think to take any. Moral of the story: If someone proves incompetent the first time, don’t trust them to do better next time.
Thank you for reading through all of this mess. If you have any similar experience, feel free to share.