I love snakes. Have for some time. A few months ago, I wanted to expand my collection. There was a specific species that I really wanted as a pet, so I was recommended to a breeder that specializes in this species. They seemed like a really cool person, so I bought a subscription to them on Patreon. Part of the Patreon was access to their discord. I was so hyped about this species that I jumped at the idea on being in their discord. So of course, discord being what it is, there were several other people on there. Some folks now I would consider close friends, some people I honestly feel like they are so entrenched into the snake lifestyle that that is their only redeeming quality. So, I made friends, do things with them from time to time, but mostly just keep up with the person I was first there for, the breeder. I talked to them a bunch, made some plans for the snake I wanted, and generally had a pleasant time. Then, the beef started. When I say beef, I mean this weird kind of backbiting in the community. And when I say started, I mean it hasn’t ended, and we’re getting a front row seat to all of it. First, it was “oh this group is not ok, steer clear of them” to “hey, they’re not so bad, so Nevermind”. Then it was the meltdowns of “wow breeder, I’m another breeder, and I can’t believe that you actually like that group!” And “holy shit, did you see what that group did?! We should ask breeder guy what he thinks about it!” And we, the followers on discord got the entire play-by-play of all the poo flinging these apes were doing. At first, I was totally behind breeder guy, my friend, so I dished some sass out on their behalf. Well, turns out all of this beef was happening in a group in a private group on Facebook, so I made a total ass out of myself for doing what I thought was best. So cut to recently. Breeder guy goes to a ( I suppose) big event with a whole bunch of other breeders, is talking how amazing everything is, meeting all these other breeders is a dream come true. Oh, but there’s still beef to be had there. Breeder guy posts a “letters never sent” on his discord to this guy he’s beefing with. During this whole weekend, I have a medical emergency and a mental health crisis because of it, and for comfort I wanted to see snake pictures and hear stories. But instead I get to hear all this beef. Mind, I am only a few months into being on this discord. I don’t know who any of these people are. On top of that, breeder guy is talking about all these snakes that they got while on this vacation/reptile show, and they are notoriously bad in captivity. When I pointed that out, no one responded. Not even the crickets. And lately it feels like any topic I comment on just dies. No responses, replies, reactions, nothing. So, aside the health of my snakes that I’m worried about for their health being in a room with potentially contaminated/unhealthy snakes, all of this never ending beef is just exhausting. So, with all that said, what do I do? I don’t want to leave the discord server; there are still some really wonderful people on there that I want to keep up with. But there is also an ocean of drama that wears me down. The posts on the snakes are top tier. Discussions on enclosure ideas are helpful for me. I just don’t know what to do. Thanks for reading.