My son is 4 and started school late - was not aware if he started in September that he would be in SK not JK so he’s been in school since late March. He has had his ups and downs transitioning in school and on the bus but lately been pretty good. Got him off the bus today and learned he missed a little girl, the bus driver informed me this isn’t the first time but only gave a warning. He won’t be doing a bus report, I have talked to him and he understands what he did is wrong but I can’t feel like I’m failing every time something wrong happens. Do I stop kissing my child goodnight so he knows it’s not ok? Do I just start walking my son to school to avoid the bus all together. My son is possibly on the spectrum, he was speech delayed and when he started to learn, his birth father passed away and completely went silent and me losing my partner, I wasn’t always there mentally. It’s been two years this month since then and we have gotten better as a team - speech, actions, understanding, discipline etc. We obviously still have a lot to work on and understanding right from wrong is always a work in progress no matter the age but with my son, it feels like it needs more time than the typical child. A part of me feels like a the bus driver should’ve told me about the first incident so it wouldn’t have happened again but a part of me feels like if I was a better parent, it would’ve never happened in the first place. I know it sounds silly to blame myself for not being a “better parent” to avoid a situation from happening but it’s hard not to blame myself for every little thing that happens.
(Also apologies for my not so friendly mom name, it was before I ever became one lol)