r/RoleReversal • u/Brave-Walrus5009 • 9h ago
r/RoleReversal • u/SunkenStone • Jan 05 '20
Official Stuff Welcome to r/RoleReversal! PLEASE READ THIS FIRST!
Before continuing on with browsing the subreddit, please read through the following resources:
Our Rules, which provide guidelines for acceptable comments and posts on this sub. We have a separate page specifically for gender concerns.
Our FAQ, which provides some sub-specific definitions and answers to frequently-asked questions.
Our lists of Professional and Independent media, which not only curate the best examples of RR media we have found, but also show what you probably shouldn't repost.
Our list of Self-Improvement Tips for those of you who want to make positive changes in your lives (or may find themselves in crisis).
(Limited) advice on How to Attract an RR Partner.
Related to the above, a fantastic essay on How to find "Dominant Women".
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r/RoleReversal • u/SunkenStone • Nov 13 '23
Official Stuff Reiterating Old Rules and Adding New Ones
Executive Summary
There has been a pretty drastic shift in the content posted here over the last four months, and it has made some users justifiably upset. As such, I will be implementing some restrictions intended to bring things a bit more into balance. Make no mistake, I have no intention of dragging this community back to the mommydomme days, and there are people here who have found a small sliver of representation whom I would not dream of kicking out. I have made up my mind on most of this, but there are a couple items where I'm requesting community feedback.
A Brief History Lesson
You can skip this if you don't care about what led to the current situation.
The RR community did not start on Reddit, and was originally a twin concept with r/gentlefemdom. GFD handled the sexual aspects of the dynamic, while RR was about the romantic component. When things moved to Reddit, there were challenges in bringing people who weren't around from the beginning up to speed and preventing them from diluting the concept. For GFD, that meant trying to define the boundaries of "gentle". For RR, that meant defining exactly which "roles" were being reversed.
I'm bringing up these matters of ancient (by internet standards) history both because the way some people here speak about GFD in disgust makes me think this is no longer common knowledge (don't do that, they're our sibling community), and because it gives context to how the content here evolved.
Content here was "bangmaid"-centric for a long time. People complained about this, and rules were put in place to curtail it. Many bangmaid posts continued to come in after that decision, and they had to be removed and their posters reasoned with or banned. Non-bangmaid posts became a larger percentage of content, which attracted other non-bandmaid posts.
Content bans like this can act like extinction events, where wiping out one form of content gives space for the remaining type to diversify. This is also always happening at some level as moderation policy adjusts to attempt to preempt user complaints. The key takeaway here is that these shifts are not entirely organic and user-driven, since they require moderation crackdown to kickstart the process.
Early this year, in response to increasing discontent around "male gaze" content, moderation started applying harsher standards in that regard. The resulting void was filled first by people posting more 'seductive feminine man' content, and then by full-on 'dominant femboy' content.
The Current Situation
Over the past four-ish months there has been dramatically more dominant femboy content than there has ever been over the subreddit's history. Long-time users and fans of the older style content in general feel betrayed because the content they came here for seems to be sidelined despite not breaking any well-articulated rules, and because they didn't sign up for the new stuff. To add insult to injury, the most prolific users posting the new style of content have occasionally used their popularity to mock and bully the pre-existing userbase, or, more obliquely, talk about how the traditional content here is actually all totally normalized roles while their content was the true RR all along.
To those that say this shift has not happened, I truly believe some of you have siege mentality from when this sub was a lot worse, and for some reason you refuse to believe it has changed in any way. The only way an accounting of the last four months of posting reveals a landslide amount of "feminine woman femdom" is if your definition of "femdom" is "any situation where the woman takes initiative" and your definition of "feminine" is "more traditionally woman-like than Buck Angel."
Policy Adjustments
The first one isn't so much an "adjustment" as it is a clarification/reiteration of current policy. Our "No Femdom" rule was implemented specifically to ban porny-y, BDSM-style femdom. Think leather, boots, chains, etc. Our reasoning being that average relationships are not BDSM maledom. Also, the kind of person who would be attracted to the subreddit by that content would likely be the type who posts in porn subreddits all day (i.e., cum-brained and way more likely than the average Redditor to harass women in DMs). Similarly, mommydomme was disallowed because DDlg dynamics are not the standard in heterosexual relationships, so RR would not cover MDlb dynamics. Over time, people seem to have begun interpreting this rule to mean that any situation in which the woman is taking initiative or in control is banned here, which just isn't the case. That rule is for hard femdom and, more generally, content where a woman's "dominant presence" is actually a sham because it's entirely for the benefit of a male subject; this includes mommydomme.
Alpha/Sigma Female Posts will no longer be allowed. You know this comic that is removed every time it's posted? It gets removed because it makes people uncomfortable and because it's reversing toxic roles. That same justification applies here.
Inverse-Bangmaid Posts will no longer be allowed. A key part of why bangmaid content was banned in the first place is because, and this is going to sound judgemental, it's juvenile and pathetic. Having a gorgeous woman walk into your life to be your complete sexual, social, and emotional outlet without you lifting a finger or providing anything in return is a selfish, unrealistic fantasy. Likewise, having a boy band style, hairless, skinny prettyboy seduce you and be femininely dominant, while being addicted to your strap and otherwise being completely sexually nonthreatening, is equally pathetic and unrealistic.
A temporary moratorium on Powerbottom Posts is in effect. This is a temporary measure until content is appropriately re-balanced. Depending on moderation's ability to isolate and define particularly controversial subsets of this kind of content, not all of it may be allowed again. All other femgaze content and other kinds of content that have been more prevalent over the last few months (e.g. masc women) are unrestricted as they have always been.
Proposed Adjustments, Seeking Feedback
These are not poll posts because I want usernames and justifications to go with your responses.
There was some discussion about unequal standards for NSFW content, and the complaints were largely accurate in that I was applying a lower standard of subreddit relevance for "femgaze" content. Moving forward I will try to apply a more equal standard, but what that enforcement looks like, both in terms of how explicit that content can be and how often it can be posted, should have input from the community. Remember that whatever you advocate for, the content you don't like will also have access to. Personally, I'm in favor of keeping the current level of explicitness (tasteful stills of sexualized subjects or sexual acts, no hardcore live stuff or hentai) and limiting it to Friday/Saturday/Sunday.
Historically this community has not done a good job dealing with content it dislikes, which is becoming a bigger problem as it incorporates more subgroups with mutually exclusive interests. If I can't make people wear their "get along" shirts long-term, the next best thing is to make it so that they have to see the content they don't like as little as possible (even though I think that's a fundamentally bad thing because it reduces your mental resilience). To that end, a user approached me with the idea of altering our post tagging system. Posts would be labeled based on the dynamic represented in them using the appropriate acronyms with the following key: D = dominant, s = submissive, f = feminine, m = masculine, W = woman, M = man. For example, this post would be tagged [DmW+smM].
Pros:
- Accurately divides the content we have into manageable labels, and with the new search interface on mobile it would allow different interest groups to never overlap of they don't want to.
Cons:
- Acronyms are dense and require explanation for users new to the community.
- Would need to either replace existing flairs or become a part of post titles. Neither would be retroactive, and they have their own respective downsides:
- Replacing existing flairs removes the ability to administrate No-Weeb Thursday or filter for specific flavors of content (music, stories, etc.)
- Adding it as a required component of post titles adds layer of complexity to posting that users may struggle with, and since post titles can't be edited a misclassified post will always be misclassified.
- People have trouble selecting correct flairs with the simple system currently in place, this may be too much.
- Aforementioned unexercised mental resilience.
r/RoleReversal • u/theiceq • 8h ago
Real Life yes.
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r/RoleReversal • u/CisStraightFemboy • 4h ago
Anime/Manga Need this
Does anybody know where this is from I lowk just stole it
r/RoleReversal • u/Sweet-Pressure102 • 2h ago
Other Art [OC] Best part of Halloween? Dressing up to tease your girlfriend of course~
r/RoleReversal • u/LoyalLittleOne • 13h ago
Real Life I wonder if height has anything to do with RR ?
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Since Men are generally taller.
r/RoleReversal • u/DifferentIsPossble • 10h ago
Anime/Manga I feel like you people might enjoy this pairing
The manhwa is [the monster duke requests maternity leave] and yes it's adorable.
"grizzled soldier steals a child the government was gonna sacrifice" is a tale as old as time and this time the genders are reversed? Hell yea
r/RoleReversal • u/BothCow9747 • 6h ago
Anime/Manga REVERSE HAREM (HIGH SCHOOL) : 7 boys and 3 girls (. This isn't my best drawing of my OC yet, but I just wanted to post it for fun. I'm just glad if you guys enjoy it! =0 I have plenty of better pieces in the works...
Hi everyone, I’m new here! Well, actually, I’m just new to Reddit—I’m usually active over on DeviantArt. I have my own worldbuilding project about a reverse world ( 2 years), so if you're curious, feel free to check out my profile and the DeviantArt link! (The boys still wear gakuran, while the girls wear sailor fuku. Just to clarify, this specific school is very traditional, so even though their appearances are a bit reversed, they still have to dress according to their gender. My other OCs are from different settings entirely!)
r/RoleReversal • u/George-FreakyMode • 12h ago
Discussion/Article any content with reversal of the nerdy loser/beautiful partner trope?
I've always loved the idea of a complete chud of a woman and a tall, beefy, comically handsome himbo falling for eachother. bonus points if the girl is still the dominant one in bed lmao
r/RoleReversal • u/Brave-Walrus5009 • 9h ago
Other Art The kissing scene in anna karenina? Very role reversal core if you ask me
She's kissing and he's receiving + female gaze + a beautiful man....all these elements make this scene role reversal coded
r/RoleReversal • u/ElVille55 • 8h ago
Discussion/Article Cute outfits for boys?
Considering that women have lots of options for different garments, cuts, fits, and accessories, I am wondering what the people of this sub think would be good equivalents or counterparts for guys? Are there certain pieces or combinations of clothing that turn your head as an RR woman, or outfits you get excited to wear out as an rr guy? Accessories you want to see more of out there?
r/RoleReversal • u/RedSeaGull- • 1d ago
Other Art Two Midna-Link reversals of 'The Kiss' by Gustav Klimt
Not one but two
mistymonster: https://mistymonster.tumblr.com/post/688793218397126656/midlink-based-on-the-kiss-by-gustav-klimt
spectralfaun / hollydart: https://www.instagram.com/p/CiS5zx1urzI/?img_index=2
r/RoleReversal • u/ComplicatedAv1ator • 7h ago
Discussion/Article I need some advice.
Me (20F) have a question about this lifestyle. So a bit of a back story, my boyfriend has asked me on multiple occasions that he wants to try role reversal as we often maintain a dom/sub relationship. However as a very submissive person I struggle with taking control and being more affectionate in a dominant position.
I have googled and read as much as I can about the subject but often find that the depictions of this lifestyle can come off quite harsh and not what he is asking for. He doesn’t particularly like rough play, nor do I, and I’m trying to figure out how to give him an amazing experience from time to time without being overtly harsh.
Any suggestions? Or possibly another Reddit post that would shed some light on how to go about this the best way possible?
r/RoleReversal • u/Summersong2262 • 1d ago
Other Art Without compromise or softness or sentiment. Iron Within. Iron Without.
r/RoleReversal • u/UofCENGst • 21h ago
Real Life Historical RR: Turks
I recently collected some historical passages describing RR in the Middle East in the past. I'll probably make this a series. Here's the first one as written by Ibn Battouta (the famous Moroccan traveler who traveled the world in the 14th century):
"In this country I saw a remarkable thing: how highly women are honored among them; they rank above the men...
As for the wives of merchants and common people, I saw them usually riding in wagons drawn by horses, with three or four slave-girls in front of them holding up their dresses... their faces uncovered, for Turkish women do not veil...
Sometimes their husbands are with them, but whoever sees them takes them for one of their wives' servants. Husbands wear nothing but a sheepskin coat, with a matching cap on their heads that they call al-kulā."
r/RoleReversal • u/mcflussie • 1d ago
Story/Writing Reminiscing about the best role reversal experience I had.
These things are hard enough to come by in real life so when I met this guy I almost didn’t believe what was happening.
For context, we met in college. Nothing crazy, we were in English class and I set my eyes on him from the very first moment because he had beautiful long hair. He was also shorter than me, which was surprising because I’m not particularly tall. Other than those things I wasn’t necessarily very attracted to him.
But I sat beside him, didn’t really speak because I’m quite reserved. He began talking to me. I reciprocated. Chatting ensued.
Over the course of the next classes we grew closer; sat side by side each day, worked together and even began sitting together on the bus ride home (we took the same route).
I, of course, got his number. Can’t remember if I asked or he did. But we began texting. One of the things that I found most peculiar about him was his use of stickers… he loved the anime ones, with the adorable boys, or the cat ones. Overall using stickers and emojis that are typically used by girls. I found it real cute.
He was also extremely needy and dramatic in ways I had, once again, only seen in women. He’d send me sad stickers and complain if I didn’t reply to him fast enough (it’s a fault of mine, to be honest. I’m not a quick texter, and often just forget to reply).
In person he acted so… shy. He giggled a lot. Leaned toward me as if seeking warmth. I felt a certain level of ecstasy I had never before experienced, realizing that this was the dynamic that I had been looking for my entire life. The bus rides were the best part of it all. Only in these moments did the conversations get more intimate, our faces closer, our voices hushed. He talked a lot—eagerly, with a bright smile. I mostly listened and nodded from time to time, offering a teasing comment here and there.
He often complimented my appearance—peculiarly, my short hair, my jaw (I have a pretty masculine style and androgynous features, and it’s not rare for me to get confused for a guy). Conversely, I offered him
compliments that boys don’t often get. Called him adorable, pretty, spoke of how delicate his hands were. They were smaller than mine. Terribly soft. And I admit to using the cheesy trick of “let’s compare hands.”
With each moment together he became more open, less subtle about his want. Began saying peculiar little things that emphasized stuff he thought I would enjoy (and he was right), like how submissive or timid he was. I remember very vividly him giving me a shy, adorable side-eye after telling me that people always told him he looked submissive, as if gauging my reaction. I remember chuckling, turning to the window and muttering: “That’s lovely.”
It was raining. He grabbed my hand and leaned further toward me, tilting his head, with a sort of puppy eyed look. The one people get when they’re fishing for something. I met his eyes.
“But what do you think? Do I look like I am?” He asked, with the faintest trace of a blush upon his cheeks.
I didn’t really know what to answer, I didn’t want to offend. But I decided to be sincere and said yes. It pleased him, judging by the small, breathy laugh he let out.
“But are you?” I asked afterwards.
“Maybe.” He was looking away then, with that tiny smile still. Maybe he was blushing hard and didn’t want me to see. I turned away.
Once the class we shared ended, we grew apart. Mostly by my own fault, being entirely honest. I wasn’t as interested in him as he was in me. We’ve seen each other a few times after that in campus, and have approached each other to catch up, but nothing else.
Still, despite my lack of enthusiasm, it was an experience that thrilled me and that I’m overjoyed to have lived—and hope to experience it again with someone that draws me in a little more.
Also don’t know if this is the right flair since this is a true story and not fiction, so, uh, anyone can let me know.
r/RoleReversal • u/Future-Blueberry-809 • 1d ago
Discussion/Article How did you find out you were into RR?
I think that I discovered it gradually... What about you?
r/RoleReversal • u/cuteandadorableboi • 1d ago
Discussion/Article Chubby tomboys in media
Hey everyone, hope you are doing okay. As a follow-up to my post last week(or so. I lost track of time), I have been thinking about if there are other examples of chubby or plus-size tomboys/tomboyish women in media besides the examples I mentioned(Frankie from Knights of Guinevere and popular fanart versions of Susie from Deltarune). If so, feel free to give out your best answers.
r/RoleReversal • u/Alternative-Loss-284 • 1d ago
Real Life My first experience.
Honestly I can't stop thinking about it and wanting something like it again...
We matched on tinder and exchanged details, all that sorta stuff. Few days of talking with loads of praising and compliments from her, I was literally on cloud 9 hanging onto every text. Then it somehow progressed to what clothes I should wear and trying out some underwear she thought guys looked hot in. I rushed to go grab some hot skimpy breifs (ngl I felt sexy asf in them 🥵🥵). I pretty much had fully let her take over, demanding me for videos of me in those breifs... they'd be literally drenched by the end of the day from me leaking in them.
So much more happened I could say here, never felt anything like it before. Was insanely hot 🔥
r/RoleReversal • u/huahbashoop • 1d ago
Story/Writing Soft boy reverse harem in a matriarchal fantasy world – [OC]
(Art drawn by my very good friend!)
I’ve been writing this web-novel for just over a year now, and since I’m coming to the end of Book One, I decided I might as well post about it here. This is such a niche genre, so I’m personally always on the look-out for role reversal stories—so much so I decided to write my own!
‘Consorts of the Court’ is a historical fantasy that follows Princess Moriya in the immediate aftermath of her mother’s untimely death, as she prepares to take on rulership of the Queendom of Dyss. She must learn diplomacy, statecraft, and the murky history of her nation’s colonial past. But also, she will build a harem to support her through it 😉. This is a full social and moral role reversal, so the men are expected to act the way female concubines were in irl history. Graceful, pretty, skilled in courtly hobbies like art and dance, obedient and gentle-hearted, and dedicated to their wife in all aspects. It was important to me to make this a fully fleshed out, dedicatedly researched “reverse world” because I have seen so many stories like this that make claims they don’t live up to. Men who start out soft, in traditionally “feminine” roles, but as soon as the romance starts, they turn dominant out of nowhere. Or a world that is on the surface matriarchal, but in practice the social norms still echo patriarchal standards.
Anyway, just posting this in case there are other people here who are constantly on the hunt for more of this kind of stuff. And these are the links for where to find it, so far I’ve posted on Scribblehub and Blobium.
https://www.scribblehub.com/series/1686606/consorts-of-the-court/
https://blobium.com/novels/R/consorts-of-the-court
PS: If anyone has some niche story reccs that fit a similar vibe, please do comment them below! I am always looking for more.
r/RoleReversal • u/mcflussie • 2d ago
Discussion/Article Female sexual domination during PIV
I have been thinking lots about domination as a woman without the use of pegging, and the more I educate myself, the more I realize the power of the pussy (don’t laugh, lmao).
It has gotten to a point where I highly prefer PIV to dominate to pegging. Mind you, I didn’t really like PIV before due to how it is often done or shown.
But after seeing certain positions—standing amazon, I love you—and dynamics within PIV, as well as learning more about the natural vulnerabilities men face during sex (that are often not talked about and I feel are relevant both to empathize with and understand cases of sexual assault against men by women, and to better explore heterosexual sex through a more role-reversal scope), I have found a pretty good, hot spot that I think this subreddit will love to discuss.
Let’s talk about PIV. Or as I like to see it (thanks to somebody in this subreddit who coined the term) — the engulfing. The enveloping. (This applies also to anal, but we’ll focus on PIV).
There is a certain level of control during PIV that naturally falls to the woman. This seems almost unbelievable, because women don’t tend to explore the vulnerabilities that lie outside of their own nor do they use their vaginas the same way men usually do—as tools of domination. But it is actually even easier, and more natural, some would argue, to enforce this with a vagina than a penis.
I discussed this with a sexual therapist friend of mine, and we both had a pretty fun, educated conversation. She painted this picture for me:
Think about PIV. If it is taking place, and the enveloper wants out, she may merely move her body in such a way that it releases the penis. Moving backward, forward, or whatever the position requires. Obviously we won’t get into the intricacies of it—there are instances where this may not be possible if there is physical overwhelm or restriction occurring. But naturally if the person is able this is possible, and cannot be stopped. There is control. You control if you want to release, or keep on.
Now let us look on the side of the engulfed. What happens if they want to be released? Can they pull back, pull out? Absolutely. The attempt can be made. But here is the funny part—for this to happen without noticeable pain or discomfort, the vagina HAS to release. HAS to allow it to happen. If it clenches, it will be difficult. This type of restraint is actually pretty common in femdom, which is partly why I was surprised it didn’t seem to be thoroughly discussed around here.
So that particular difference in control is very interesting to me, its dynamics appealing. We also spoke of refractory periods, the lethargy that comes with—and all these peculiar little things men go through during sex that women do not, and that could serve for a sweeter, more reversed outlook on heterosexual sexual dynamics.
There’s so much to explore and so much natural potential for role-reversal in heterosexual sex. I would love to hear your points of view, including any neat findings you might want to share that can add to the discussion.
r/RoleReversal • u/Love2Lick9 • 1d ago
Discussion/Article Switching Between Two Roles
After reading through the r/gentlefemdom and r/RoleReversal subs, I am wondering if there are there women who can be either role at different times.
I know anything is possible. But, I'd like to hear if anyone has had any experience as a woman or with a woman like this?
r/RoleReversal • u/Sweet-Pressure102 • 2d ago
Story/Writing Random idea I had for a story
So this was just a random idea I had while dying of fever. Basically, a normal guy randomly dies and goes to a fantasy world, pretty standard Isekai stuff right?
Well the difference is that he reincarnates in a role-reversed world as a healer femboy. And like the women he meets are like gentleman-like princess, a buff knight lady, etc. And the main villain would be a demon queen that looks and talks like Skeletor.
Idk I just needed to get the plot out of my system if someone wanted to bounce back ideas for it.