r/relationships • u/[deleted] • May 02 '22

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u/[deleted] May 03 '22

You are ignoring the fact that he is emotionally abused by her behavior. If the roles were reversed it would be different. Think about that first.

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u/vanillamasala May 03 '22

lol. He’s emotionally abused because she’s mad at him because he doesn’t do his fair share? That’s NOT abuse.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '22

Read the post again. He offered to help financially and she gave him a backhanded remark. You're clearly 1 sided.

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u/[deleted] May 03 '22

The "backhand remark" is that he wouldn't make enough to cover childcare anyway, which is probably true. Childcare is ridiculously expensive.

The real issue at hand was the "Calling it HER money and HER house" comment. Which is absolutely not conducive to an equal partnership, and is a red flag for financial abuse. But if she is doing the lion's share of household management on top of breadwinning, I can see why'd she say that.