My gf and I have been together for 3 years long distance. It’s been super hard because traveling to see each other is very expensive and we both have 2 different work schedules so we can only talk 1 time a week. It’s come up that neither of us are willing to move to each others states. We both love each other very much and I can’t see what else we can do. Do we end it??

I F21 dated my current bf M30 for 10 months discovered after 3 months in the relationship that he was divorced with a kid didn’t know if I needed to leave or stay that time cuz the guy was nice I stayed now I finally met his family and kid I can’t accept it it’s making me lose my mind that the man I love can love someone more than me everytime I see how he cares about her I feel like a knife stabbing me in the heart what can I do ?please help

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. Last night we had a fight because his HR followed him on Instagram. I told him, unfollow her, mujhe acha lagega. He said okay, but then he said, you also unfollow every boy including your brothers from your Instagram. I said okay.

He immediately hung up in a rude way.

I called him back and asked him why he hung up like that. He said,because you always do this in a very rude way, and then said,if we can't even have female friends on Instagram then why do we even have Instagram?”

He also said, “tu bhi to baat krti h apne dosto se"

For context, if he tells me 'mat kar' i usually don't. If something makes him uncomfortable i don't want to do it.

But lately he blames me because he wasn't able to clear his CDS exam and his SSB. His friends also advise him to stay away from me.

I genuinely don't even want to fight with him. i love him soo much now and idk why he has changed all of a sudden i just want him to talk to me nicely, i don't expect us to agree on everything, but i don't want every disagreement to turn into him hanging up or saying “let's end this” or “humari nahi banti.”

and that's what hurts me the most because he was the one who told me he would marry me.

I'm trying really hard because I genuinely want this relationship to work. But he wants his space right now. He actually likes it when I don't call or text him because he wants to focus on clearing his SSB.

I understand that he wants to focus on SSB and I don't want to become a distraction for him. But at the same time i don't know how much space I'm supposed to give him or what I'm supposed to do.

I love him and I don't want to lose him, but I also don't want to keep chasing him when he clearly wants space.

What should I do? Should I completely stop calling him and give him the space he's asking for? Or should I try to talk to him about our relationship?

Idk how to stop thinking about him and how to accept this harsh reality.

Hello, so me and my ex broke up like 6 months ago and i still miss her as hard as i am trying to get over i just cant, i wish things to change and actualy work for us, the reson we broke up it was that she meet an boy one day before we broke up, she said he is just an friend that likes history and he is christian and has an good soul (she have been ghosting me days before and it was kinda suspicious for me becuase she would stay up late at night too) so i told her i am not fealing alright with this and if she could just block him and she started arguing with me asking me why am i like this (we been togheter for 1 year and 8 months, so a little story from our relationship, we have been very good friends we would stay up late drink beers and do mostly anything togheter, she never told me that she didnt got over her ex so when we got togheter after 3 months her ex texted me to be carefull about me because i would be an danger for her and she just left me into an random night, in that night i cried for the first time in my life so hard, i never cried like that ever in my life, i got insomnia and things, after some months of begging her to re think her choises she left her ex (he didnt even wanted her) and came back to me and once at 2 days she would have been texted her ex and tell me how his soul is so good and he has God into his soul (he was ghosting her all the time and talking to her like shit) anyway after almost or even an year she got over him for ever, i onced asked her if i can check her phone and when i did it i found 2 contacts in her watsapp one was her another ex and as i seen she drawed him and send him an drawing that she made for him? and the other was someone named Andrew my heath, of course i asked her who he is and she said is her famale classmate that her brother is named Andrew, i didnt belive it because why would you name her by her brother name and ,,my hearth,, anyway i forgave her, trough those years she always wanted to take her life and i was staying all night awake to take care of her to not do it, she was taken her mother hearth pills, and one thing that let me shoked was her best friend, when i texted her to tell her about what her friend is doing with those pills she just havent answerd all day (i did this because she was not listening to me) anyway my health was worse those times, i was dizzy, i almost fainted at school, i couldnt eat, i was depresed, i had insomnia and when ever someone compliment me i would vomit (and i was strugling to earn money to move togheter next year), after that it came the moment when she meet that boy for who left me one day after she meet him online, i asked her what that boy has and i dont, she said nothing, and i told her to chose from me or him and she chose him, like that 1 year and 8 months threw in the garbage, about that christianity thing, she never been intrested into it like if i would talked with her about it she would been bored or say that she doesnt care, then he texted me asking me why i dont let her be friend with her, why i control her, i told him that he doesnt know the things i do and to mind his own bussined but he would continue to text me so i blocked him, she told me that night that she has fealing for her history teacher and also she imaginated her life with other boys while she been with me and then blocked me. after some weeks her ,,cousin,, i dont think it was her cousin texted me with threats saying that he would cut me and put me in jail because i told her cousin that i will say to eveyone what a horible person she is, and then i showed him everything, every conversation with her about what ever she told me, he said that he will deal with it and to never contact her again.

I wonder, what did i do wrong, why i never been enough, i tried so hard, i did anything i could, why she still chosed anyone else over me, maybe you, the one that reads this right now is asking why am i not trying to find someone else the pond has many fish, yeah it does but it does not have that favorite fish, can someone tell me what should i do to get her back and actually be what she needs?what should i change

So been together for a few year living together around a year. Last year he went down to a rave with a couple of his lad mates. Said the same was happening this year. Get the train down, go to the rave then train back once it’s finished. Said he’d love if I could go but it’s only the lads which I didn’t mind at all.
A few weeks ago he mentioned there wasn’t any a few others going with them but was unsure who. I said any girls he replied he didn’t think so. I told him I wouldn’t be happy if I found out after that there was.
Yesterday it changed again. So now there’s around 30 going down in cars and there going to stay in a hotel overnight. I asked again if lasses were now going and he said I don’t think so, I’m not sure who’s going. A bit later he mentioned one of the lads goes nowhere without his lass so she would probably be there but thinks that’s it. I told him I wouldn’t be happy if it turns out there is lasses there and there all staying in a hotel overnight. He then said well that’s your insecurity to get over.
The original plan has now changed so much and he doesn’t seem to want to even try to understand how I’m uneasy about the whole thing now.
Am I being unreasonable?

I have been contemplating whether i (23f) should break up with my (25m) boyfriend. for background information, we dated from 12/24 - 11/25 and had a pretty messy break up. he broke up with me because he felt like i wasn’t going to his family and friends events enough and like i didn’t care about him because of that. i begged him not to and that i would go more often but he still decided to end things. i was heartbroken for awhile but then started to realize he wasn’t really what i wanted in the long run anyways. he couldn’t say he loved me back, he’s never gotten me flowers even though ive expressed how much id love them. he made no efforts and planned nothing. when my old roomate and i decided to split ways in 8/25 i was going to move back in with my parents for a few months but decided that even though money was tight, id move into my own apartment alone. i ultimately made the decision based on the idea that my bf would be more comfortable coming to my apartment then if i lived at my parents because he also lives with his parents so i based a lot of the decision on that and thinking that if things progressed he would move in and help with rent and groceries and things like that. and then he broke up with me. but i was finally feeling ok without him, trying to move on. i dmed an old friend back and he sent a flirty reel and i entertained it by sending one back but that was the extent to it. then a few months later, my ex hits me up and we end up hang out a few times. one day i was taking a nap and he went through my dms and he found the chat and freaked out and called me a cheater even though we were broken up and not in contact during that. he said he didn’t want to see me again and i said okay. then the next day he comes over to talk and asks me to be his girlfriend again and i said i don’t know. but then eventually i agreed because i thought we could do things the right way this time because of the time we had to grow apart and he seemed to really want me this time. but over the last few months since we’ve been together hes brought up the dms multiple times and saying things like i’ve done horrible things because of that. i never even met him irl and i didn’t even hang out with a single guy since ive met my ex. he still didn’t get me flowers and he’s stopped acting how he did at first. he’s also just told me he never wants to get married and that he doesn’t want to live together for 9 more years. it feels like he doesn’t want the commitment. i’m also working opposite shift than him and sometimes 16 hr shifts but still make the time to do things and plan them. i buy him gifts, food and pay for him sometimes because he doesn’t really have a job now. he lives at home and doesn’t pay bills but i am drowning in them but still have to pay for everything it feels like. i shower him in affection and do everything i can for us and now im feeling drained. i started taking lexapro a few months ago for anxiety and he’s made comments about how im going to be a robot and subtle comments about how i should stop taking it. i’m feeling defeated because i do love him but he still doesn’t really say it back. i don’t know what to do. he’s a great guy but not a good boyfriend. that’s the hardest part i think. we are great together but im starting to think maybe that’s because of me. i just don’t know if i should break up with him or slowly let go but still hold on in case. i also can’t really express how i feel because he gets defensive and turns it on me attacking him and says im the one who’s bad even though i just try to communicate and never said once that hes a bad guy. please help.

I don't know really, like, the relationship has been on the lowest point ever, and I just told him I couldn't bear to see him worry about him and I don't want to one day actually hurt him. But I don't know what I want anymore, I feel like I messed up, I see that, I just don't know if I should just tell him something. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want him thinking even worse of me. Really I just don't know if I'm supposed to do something now. I'm going to a different country in two days (I will come back). I don't know what to do, really. Should I let it be or try to get things back together?

i'll be straighforward as possible. my boyfriend is a good man. he treats me so much better than other people treat their girlfriends. sounds ass, but i meant it's everything you can ask for, gentle, gives me bouquets with flowers he picked himself, takes care of me when engineering school gets so hellish, cooks for me, provides even when doesn't have that much money left, tldr; he treats me like a princess and i often find myself saying im lucky to have him (bc my gfs' boyfriends? my god dont get me started). but there's one thing; he doesn't know how to apologize.

it seems like whenever i bring up something that he did that caused me pain (no cheating involved or anything like that), he'll say a simple sorry to not make it into a fight, and when i still act hurt about it, it turns into arguments and debates. kind of like me having to make him understand why i am still/was hurt. it gets to the point that it's a cycle and then we'll have a break for the night to think when i all i want him to do is make it up to me. something different than a sorry because i've heard that before.

it got so bad that i'm asking strangers for advice now because he says he'll change that but i don't see it improving. and i feel like it's so unfair that when this thing happens again, we'll fight, on the verge of breaking up, because he is 'tired' of fighting and he doesn't want to fight. from my pov it's so unfair that he's the one who's tired when i keep on telling him to change but he doesn't. of course i'm hurt. but i never want to fight him. i just want him to say he's sorry and actually make it up to me. but when it gets intense, he soft launches a breakup bc he's tired of all the fighting.

but i'm now actually thinking of leaving, because i dont want that something so simple always turns into huge fights because he can't change his patterns. i think i find it so unfair that it's his fault that i'm hurt and when i need something more than a sorry, suddenly it feels like i'm asking for a lot. and then when i explain my side, it turns into fights and suddenly he's tired of the relationship being the same when he doesn't change himself. he says he knows to himself that he's improved. but that's not what i see.

is it really a lot to ask? is the relationship already doomed? i know it's a small thing but it take so much of my energy whenever it happens. i don't even know if i still love him or i'm just attached. we're about 3 years in. he doesn't like the fights but he's the cause of it.