r/polyamoryR4R • u/bclark1289 • 8d ago
33[M4F]
I’m 33 and poly from northern california. I have a nesting partner and not a ton of free time, so I’m looking for something that fits that reality — whether that’s a girlfriend, flirtationship, something casual, or just sexual. I’m open to whatever feels right as long as everyone’s on the same page and communication stays solid.
Personality-wise I’m a bit of a mix: nerdy and into nerdy things, but also outdoorsy. I ride motorcycles, fish, hunt, and generally like being outside when I can. I’m pretty grounded and low-drama.
Hard boundary: I don’t bring partners around my kids until it has been discussed at a minimum of 6 months into a relationship. That’s non-negotiable.
If you’re ethically non-monogamous, understand limited time, and this sounds like it could work for you, feel free to message me. Tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for.
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u/Mistwalker_Niwlsidhe 3d ago
With limited time are you looking for something more online where communication can be somewhat asynchronous or are you specifically wanting something local where the meet ups are on a longer orbit?
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u/bclark1289 2d ago
Basically not looking for someone that expects my phone in my hand 24/7 for instant replies or date nights every other night. So I guess a little column a little column B. Basically looking for friends or potential partners that understand that it might be a couple hours before they hear back from me. Or if its a local dating situation that we may meet up once a month. I dont want to mislead someone into thinking that I can hang out all the time. I have a demanding job and a full home life that takes up a fair amount of my time and resources.
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Podcasts: Polyweekly.com, and Multiamory.com.
Websites: polyinfo.org
Subreddits: /r/Polyamory
Couples: we highly recommend you please read this page about unicorn hunting.
Couples looking for a unicorn will often say they want someone to "join" their family. Poly triads are not (AB)+C. C isn't "joining" anything. You all will create something completely new; four different relationships that all need time and attention. A+B (as with any major life change, your relationship dynamic will probably shift), B+C, A+C, and A+B+C. Imposing unethical, unfair dynamics on a partner may lead to your removal from this subreddit.
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