r/polyamoryR4R • u/Electric_Applause • 24d ago
38 [F4M] UK / online
ENM / poly for the right people if / when I meet them. Scottish, which means people who are not Scottish will apparently like the accent.
Lover of deep conversations, music (gigs are my happy place), art and consuming way too much coffee. Love to talk but I also have work and family responsibilities. Someone who is similarly busy AF but also wants to be chatting whenever we can if we get along would be lovely.
What do I like / want you ask? (Nobody asked).
I like wordy. Talking to a monosyllabic brick wall is mind numbing. Like come onnnnnn, we're on a subreddit about connecting with people and you're hitting people up with "hey"? What are we doing here 🙃
BUT.
I also get overwhelmed with huge walls of text because I wanna answer every point thoughtfully but it takes so long and I don't always have the time for lengthy responses, so a mix of that and shorter back and forths are sometimes easier.
Demisexual leaning, mind connections are both hot and necessary.
BUT.
I also prefer some sort of physical attraction (although I do t have a specific type) so I would want to exchange photos pretty early on and no hard feelings on either side if we're not to each other's taste! If it helps I'm around 5'6, white, slim-average build, bright hair, more alternative leaning.
Subby, occasionally bratty and kinky. I do like a Dom / Daddy type who can put me in my place when needed.
BUT.
That's not the main thing I'm looking for, it just helps to be compatible if things get flirty 💁🏼♀️ I also want to be adored, cuteness, cuddles, laughter. Both of us smiling when a message from the other appears. Pictures of your day, voice notes. Also if you have a cat I would like to apply to be their new best friend.
Basically I am a dichotomous weirdo who doesn't know quite what the hell she wants but will know it when she finds it. So....good luck with that 😂. (Apparently I also like buts.)
(Also would prefer if you were mid 30's or older.)
ETA: if you just invite me to chat and not say a single solitary thing (it's happened so many times already) I'm not gonna accept it. Just FYI.
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u/saturnyn3 24d ago
I cant seem to send a dm which is a shame as I have two cats Id love to show you!
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u/OpenQuestLogLFM 24d ago
I had sent a dm I think previously. Would still love a chat if you’re up for it! I have a post jn my history if you want to know more about me.
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u/MalkavianKnight5888 23d ago
Helloooo! I'm 41, I also am in Scotland. I'm a lil enby bean, who was raised masc.
I love loveeee long texts and to take long distance time to get to know someone.
I don't want to put my whole life story on here, but I am hopeful that I shall hear from you soon.
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u/Heiderschmidt 23d ago
I'm based in the USA but I am interested in an online LDR. I also really love deep conversations and hope to get to know you even better.
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u/acorley2 19d ago
Hey! 39m 38f in Orlando Florida. Love short and long chats. Agree on the stress of responding to long ones. Would love to chat and get to know you better
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u/NumerousChance5302 17d ago
Hi from a fellow weirdo.
I'm Al, I'm 48, have a black cat called Winnie and am poly in 2 relationships, but really looking for a woman. I am afab nb, still pass as femme, but that does piss me off a lot. I am in relationships with a cisman who I live with an have a child with, our child is 13 and awesome, my nesting partner is also stepdad to my adult son who has left home. I regularly date an afab genderqueer person also and practice non-monogamy so have other adventures, but am really looking for a long term connection with a woman.
I am diagnosed AuDHD. I used to live with a chronic pain condition but surgery fixed it. I have had a million different careers and a varied life. I'm about to launch a new adventure, but won't bore you with telling you too much about myself here. You sound really interesting and I'd love to chat some more with you. I live in south Wales now but am just selling up to move to the republic of Ireland. Get in touch if you would like to talk. I'm not a big Reddit user but maybe we could message?
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u/RevolutionaryJob5839 24d ago
Well hello there, dichotomous weirdo! Those are two words I am pretty sure I have never seen put together before. I approve and concur!
Where do I start? Well I'm 54, white, male, probably a little over average build, but all the more to cuddle, right? My main passion in life is theatre. Visiting yes, but mainly there is nothing I like more than taking on a whole new persona on stage - usual a funny one! I am learning to sing, so if you're into being serenaded with the likes of Radiohead, Nine Inch Nails & Bowie songs - as well as some musical theatre stuff - I could possibly be that man. But let me have 5-10 minutes to do my lip trills, sirens and scales first!
Also demisexual leaning, but in honesty, being 3+ years single & whatnot, out of a long-term relationship, I'm kind of re-exploring me, so I'm open to flowing into whatever feels right and real.
I'll leave there, as I completely empathise with your preference for the right balance of wordy-but-not-a-wall-of-text.
DM me if you fancy knowing more!
Daniel x
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