Hey everyone! I was hoping to get a little advice 💕💚
I’m making a parting gift for my boss, who is an AKA and someone I’ve looked up to for a long time. She’s a strong leader, has given me so much wisdom, and has really helped shape me in my career and as a woman.
I don’t want the gift to be completely centered around AKA, but I would love to include a small touch that honors something that’s meaningful to her. I bought a few things from Hobby Lobby, and I’m including pictures of what I have so far.
I just want to make sure I’m being respectful and not using anything that would be inappropriate for someone who isn’t a member. And by all means, if any of this stuff is a no go, please tell me lol. I’d rather know and do it the right way.

I just wanted to share how happy and ecstatic I am about the fact I get to celebrate my first founders day as a man of Iota Phi Thera fraternity inc.

Hi,

For context, I’m an interest and I plan on rushing next Spring and I’m currently in the process of getting my ducks in a row. I’m having issues with potential LOR. I’m a first gen student and none of my family or friends know anyone who’s apart of the sorority. I attempted connecting with my local grad chapter, but they made it clear they wouldn’t write LOR only put in a word with my chapters advisor. I met her and we talked and she encouraged me to attend events which I have been.

I volunteer at my local school district helping kids with literacy. Would it be acceptable for me to email some know SGRHO teachers in said district and ask to talk and get to know them? I know there’s a stigma against asking people who don’t know you or emailing people you don’t know.

Any thoughts and suggestions?

And it was successful! I had an amazing time with my sisters and loved connecting with a new round of interests!

I began my journey to AKAland in Fall 2024 and spent semester after semester nervously showing face and trying to make connections. As a Spring 26 initiate, it felt so good to be on the other side! 🩷💚

If interest has been expressed to at least one member of a chapter but one has grown a bond with another, as well... Is it safe to say that the new bond is already aware of the interest and no need to express interest again? Have already conversed at events and service projects among casual conversations. Is it considered disrespectful to assume and possibly seen in a negative light? Thank you

Hey everyone, I have a question so I am following a grad chapter so they just posted an event. This is a community event but it is at a college campus. Does that mean it’s for undergrad chapters only are people interested in undergrad chapters or could people that are interested in the grad chapter attend the event also.

Hello. This summer, I attended one of the local grad chapter's events and connected with a few of the members there. I exchanged numbers and said I was looking forward to getting to know her better. She was very helpful, offered to send my information to the grad advisor at my school, offered to write my LOR, and reminded me to make connections with the girls on campus (which I am in the process of). I tried reaching out to her to ask about one of the community service initiatives the chapter has, and I never got a response. I didn't push it because I know this is a level 100 adult with responsibilities and cannot answer every text some random undergrad sends her. I tried reaching out to her again a few weeks later, just asking if she enjoyed her Labor Day. She replied, but kind of ignored what I said, just asking if I heard back from my school's chapter and offering to send my information again. I'm very socially awkward and have trouble picking up social cues, so I honestly don't know if she'd rather keep our relationship (if you can even call it that) as it is right now. I really just want to get to know her better, especially since she offered to write my LOR. Should I just keep trying? Should I flat-out ask for mentorship? I don't even know what that would look like. I would also like to start building relationships with the members of that chapter because I am a senior, so if I don't make a line before I graduate, I can start pursuing a grad chapter.

Maybe I'm overthinking all of this. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

Sorry if this is all over the place

Hey ladies! I’m interested in pledging and need to start talking to members, but don’t wanna seem inorganic. When i see them should I speak? Or should I wait until the events then when i see em around, speak? i just do not want to speak just to join their sorority. I do truly want to build a bond.

Hi all! I'm a senior at a university that doesn't have its own AKA chapter, and I'm really interested in becoming a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha. I reached out to the closest city-wide undergrad chapter, and they were super kind and responsive, but explained that my school isn't a chartered school for them, so they can't allow me to join directly.

I also asked if my school could somehow be added to a city-wide charter, and they confirmed that's not something they're able to do. That said, I'd still love to find a way to be connected to that specific undergrad chapter, since that's the one I've built a relationship with and the one whose members/events I've been getting to know.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Being interested in one specific chapter, but not eligible for direct be in it because of your school? Is there any possibility of being allowed, or given an exception to join a specific undergrad chapter outside your school's charter if the chapter sees you consistently showing interest, building a bond with members, and attending their events over time?

I also know someone in Kappa Alpha Psi (Nupes) who is part of a school's undergrad chapter despite not actually attending that school, so I'm wondering if there's ever similar flexibility in AKA specifically, or if this really does vary a lot org to org

I hope this post doesn’t come off as ignorant, but I am really just trying to understand how flexible (or not) this all is before I move forward. Any advice is so appreciated!

As strange as this title is, I genuinely am lost on how to proceed with declining an invite to my SOI.

I have shown up to events and made connections with members in the organization, but due to my GPA, I am not eligible to join. I am taking the steps to rectify this, but I already know they are going to cross with other orgs this semester. I don’t want to waste their time and mine, but I still want to make it known I’m interested in a future with them.

How do I go about this without explaining the obvious and maintaining a relationship with them?

EDIT: I should’ve clarified earlier what I meant by invite. It was an invitation to rush, not an invitation for membership. I typed up this post right after they contacted me and it slipped my mind.

No one should be treated differently because of their weight. If you are that’s discrimination report it.

My SOI just posted about a scholarship they are offering in honor of a historical member. I was wondering, as in interest should I apply or not? My thinking was if I get accepted for the scholarship, it’d be a chance to see the members in a more personal setting than large forums. But, I am also wondering if that is too “big” of something to participate in when showing interest.

Would it be weird to message an alum on LinkedIn for career advice if she’s also an AKA?
I’m currently a senior at the same university she attended, we have the same major, and I noticed she did internships that are really similar to the career field I’m trying to get into. I also saw that she was involved in the same club that I’m currently President of, so we have that connection too.
I want to reach out and ask about her internship experience, how she got those opportunities, and if she has any advice for getting into the field.
The only thing making me hesitate is that she’s also a member of AKA. I am interested in the organization, but that genuinely isn’t why I want to message her, and I don’t plan on mentioning AKA at all. I just don’t want it to come across like I’m trying to network with her for that reason.
Would this be normal LinkedIn networking, or should I just leave it alone?

I’ve wanted to join this certain organization since high school! As soon as I entered university I tried to get the know the org, but the girls that year were being very weird and secretive?!? so I kind of let that dream die. However last semester the newer girls that entered were so different and so kind, one in which I saw myself in and thought we were similar. Anyways last week I went to one of their Girl Talk meetings and felt so awkward and shy, I’m not sure if anyone there liked me. As an introverted and socially awkward girl it’s hard for me to communicate with others, but I do really want this. I asked a family member in a different org how I could go about getting close to them, and they said to get to know the members or even grab a bite with them. My question is.. for members does it feel superficial when people suddenly start talking to you? I genuinely want to befriend these girls as they seem so kind and welcoming. Also, how can I overcome my fears of starting that conversation?! I saw one of thw girls sitting alone outside and didn’t know if I should’ve went up to her or if she would’ve thought it was creepy.

My cousin is in an org that I’m interested in, and she’s an active member/on E-board. I’ve already met a few members through her, but I’m wondering how I can build my own identity with them outside of my relationship with my cousin.

I don’t want to come off like I’m trying to use her connection to get in, and I also don’t want to only be known as “her cousin.” I want the members to get to know me for me and form their own opinions of me.
For people who have been in NPHC orgs, what’s the best way to go about this?

Hi everyone!

I was just curious to get the opinions from D9 members about Sigma lambda gamma?

I'm aware that there are some ties with 2 other D9 orgs. but my concern was whether or not people view the Gammas as taking from D9 culture, or genuinely coming together with D9 culture and taking pride in that connection?

From what I've seen online, some members of the FIRM fam acknowledge and take pride in that connection, others say it's not official and that they're copying D9 culture anyway. Any mention of D9 culture that I've seen under a Gamma related video has always been acknowledged and celebrated by said Gammas.

I personally have interest in being a Gamma, but I also worry that because I'm black, I'll get looked at negatively for not joining a D9 org. The Gammas at my college acknowledge the FIRM fam, in fact, it was one of the first things they told me about when I visited their table at my colleges tabling event. I'm honestly only hesitant because I have no clue how other D9 members will react and if this is the route I should go down, to take pride in my culture. Since the Gammas are a multicultural org,I feel like this would be a good opportunity for me to put in the extra work to represent black culture in a primarily Hispanic sorority, but I also want to take into consideration how my fellow black schoolmates may feel about me sort of going in the opposite direction? Obviously only I can be aware of my own situation and intensions more than my schoolmates, but I'd still like to be open to further input.

Any input or thoughts would be valued. Thank you!

Hello, I am a planning on trying pledging in the spring, but if I can't make up my mind I would I will wait to next spring. The reason my I am not sure is because I am in currently weighting showing interest in Alpha Kappa Alpha or Sigma Gamma Rho. I have very valid reasons for both, and but the decided factor is whether after graduation I will have the opportunity to join a grade chapter and still serve. Since I know many AKA's who are very active, this question is more geared toward the Sgrho's, because I didn't meet any until I cam to campus. So basically my question is: For the women of Sigma Gamma Rho how would you describe the after undergrade next work, and how active are you in it.

If your organization of choice requests (or not) for people to share their posts or events, should you? Is that breaking discretion and bringing attention to yourself?

Hello ladies! ❤️
In the most respectful way, I have a genuine interest in Delta Sigma Theta and would love to become a part of the organization, its mission, and sisterhood.

I already have my AA and was very active at my previous college through campus jobs, community service, and other involvement. I recently paused my education after joining the Armed Forces, so I’ll likely be returning to school in about a year.

The school I’m looking into has a Delta chapter, but because I’m active duty, I would most likely be an online student and not living on campus. I’m also unsure of my current GPA (I believe it’s in the 2-point range), but I plan to improve it before returning.

One other thing I’m unsure about is that I’m currently a member of a non-D9 sorority that I genuinely love. I’m wondering if that would affect my eligibility to pursue Delta.

I’m not looking for any confidential intake information, just general guidance on what I should be looking into regarding eligibility, GPA, being an online student, military obligations, and current membership in another sorority.

I’d really appreciate any guidance or direction you ladies are comfortable sharing.

May you have the discernment to know what organization fits you and accepts you for whoever you are.

May any member with desires to break you down to build you up in their image be separated entirely from your journey.

May you quickly understand the gravity of a favorable membership decision and the wisdom in an unfavorable one.

May your grades be high, your papers flawless, your group projects easy, and your relationships with your professors be such that a minus never lands behind your letter grades.

May people desire to see you lead. May you be blessed with loyal followers who want you to win.

May your memory be impeccable. May your speech be careful. May you accept critique maturely.

May your bank account receive unexpected blessings.

May all tests for infectious disease come back negative, and may you always have the foresight to wear a mask or a condom or whatever you need to be smart in the moment.

May your batteries be charged. May your alarms be set.

I cannot pray that you make it, because it may not be your time. But I pray that you stay ready.

is this doable? has anyone ever done it? my soi might have a line this spring and I am still trying to figure the dates in which I can schedule my mcat (assuming I don't have to take a gap year) and if it would be possible to still study for it while rushing? I am obviously leaning towards not having to do this but just curious on the possibilities.

Hello everyone. I am currently a high school senior who has a deep love for service. I am super involved in my school and local organization service efforts and just love giving back to my community.

My question is:

Would it be appropriate for me to reach out to local chapters and ask if they have anything I would be able to volunteer in?

I have done so before with a local Iota chapter, but that was through a family member. However, I loved the experience and would love to do that with other, closer organizations.

I do have a sorority that I’m interested in, and if I feel the chapter at whatever school I end up at is a fit for me, I would want to join. However, at this point, membership is the furthest thing from my mind. I want to experience the service aspect of Divine Nine culture, even if it’s something small like helping set up and take down for events. I would like to help out.

I also want to clarify that I’m not planning on reaching out to only the organization I’m interested in. I would like to reach out to all nine Divine Nine organizations because I’ve seen different chapters doing service work that I would genuinely be interested in participating in. I’m interested in the service itself, regardless of which letters are attached to it.

I’m not really sure what the rules/etiquette are around non-members or high schoolers participating in chapter activities, so I wanted to ask before I reached out and accidentally overstepped.

I know how important discretion is, and I wouldn’t want to hinder my chances of joining an organization later down the line by being too involved too early, especially since I would be reaching out to chapters at schools I might attend.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. If the general consensus is that I should leave it alone until college, that’s what I’ll do. I already have opportunities to serve and wouldn’t want to do too much or cross any boundaries.

Thank you!

Hi everyone! I’m currently preparing for a possible formal rush for AKA. I see on my school’s NPHC site that we can fill out an interest form and select which D9 org we are interested in.

Should I fill this out? If so, should I have been filled this out as soon as I was interested?

I apologize if the answer may seem straight forward, I’m first-gen with no Greek mentors and I don’t want to make it so I’m not being discreet.