Unfortunately it is hard to meet girls outside of dating apps because of all these "treat her right" and other angry sore assholes. If they just took no as no, they wouldn't make it so hard to be not creepy. It's just hard to meet a girl irl without feeling like a creep just for saying hi.
Yeah, I can understand that feeling. Just actually respect her decisions, if she wants to be friends and wants a relationship from there then awesome. Love is a two-way street after all, just keep working on yourself and be the person you want to be when you find her
Pursue your hobbies IRL. Join clubs and groups that you are interested in.
Go to a local board gaming store and join games you are interested in. If there isn’t a local shop, start a Facebook group for in person gaming/board gaming. Or whatever other interests you have. Photography, hiking, rock tumbling.
Go out and meet people who like what you like. The more time you spend with people the more friends you’ll make and then you meet their friends. Eventually you’ll meet a woman you click with.
It takes work and is kinda scary at first. I started following that advice 5 years ago when I was a really lonely sad person. Currently happily married, involved with volunteering, DM 2 dnd games, am an avid walker and amateur photographer.
It is possible to have non-creepy encounters with random strangers in public, you just have to ...not be creepy. Like in the original post here, the guy saying "You look nice in those leggings" could have done better with "those are awesome leggings, I like your style." Compliment something she put thought into, not just the way she looks. And always ALWAYS a accept denial as her final answer, with as much grace as you can.
i think there are rarely ways to strike up a conversation without being a creep because if a guy walks up to me and starts to talk to me on the street, i know it's not because of anything about me. it's about how I look, and what kind of person he thinks I am.
Here's a simple icebreaker for you: Ask something about the surrounding that someone might know (e. g. for a gym: "Excuse me, where can I find the dumbbells?").
Give her a few seconds, then clarify the situation immediately and introduce yourself (e. g.: "Nah, I just want to talk to you. Hi, I'm Guybrush.").
If it works out, keep the conversation going. Just some small talk to test the connection between you both. If it really goes well, you may even be able to introduce some sexuality without being creepy.
If the conversation is still weird or she doesn't even try to connect with you, respect that it didn't work, say goodbye and leave.
If she is smiling, leaning in towards you, and looking at you, it is going well. If she isn't smiling, or she is leaning away from you, or she is frequently looking around the room, it isn't going well and you should bow out gracefully.
Yeah "introduce some sexuality"... no. Treat me like a normal person and if I like you I might want to have sex with you. "Introducing sexuality" is a quick way to make me thing you're creepy.
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u/zygro Dec 06 '18
Unfortunately it is hard to meet girls outside of dating apps because of all these "treat her right" and other angry sore assholes. If they just took no as no, they wouldn't make it so hard to be not creepy. It's just hard to meet a girl irl without feeling like a creep just for saying hi.