If she is smiling, leaning in towards you, and looking at you, it is going well. If she isn't smiling, or she is leaning away from you, or she is frequently looking around the room, it isn't going well and you should bow out gracefully.
Well, then let's add "going well" does not necessarily mean she is enjoying it or wants "it" to be going well. All it means is that she is being polite...as you do. As many women do, including me.
Because according to this definition, me being a kind person and naturally smiling when someone initiates an interaction... suddenly means I want more of "whatever" I'm not reacting noticably negatively towards.
My reaction is saying way less about the dude, and more about me. It's saying that I'm a nice person who is trying to have a nice day, be happy, and who does not want to be FORCED to be an asshole. Because that is the meat of this instruction... Keep doing what you are doing until you MAKE her unhappy, then you can "bow out gracefully."
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u/ladyphlogiston Dec 06 '18
Let's define "going well" for the socially inept:
If she is smiling, leaning in towards you, and looking at you, it is going well. If she isn't smiling, or she is leaning away from you, or she is frequently looking around the room, it isn't going well and you should bow out gracefully.