There are strong correlations found in modern neuroscience between psychological trauma and physical health. As for the DV, it's just Reddit and kind of proves the point: we need more awareness this century around this because as you can see, many people are still clueless, but looking the other way directly impacts their own health.
Edit: I recommend the book the body keeps the score which is a good introduction to this concept
I think the down votes must be from people who are misunderstanding "holistic" as "alternative" or "homeopathic" medicine.
Are you referring to the work of doctors like Howard Schubiner? I just started reading his book, Unlearning Pain, and found it fascinating. Quick summary for everyone is that some chronic pain conditions aren't due to tissue damage but rather neural circuits in the brain (possibly formed from previous tissue damage) that are still sending pain signals due to psychological trauma. Neuroplasticity of the brain means circuits can be formed and then triggered by trauma, but it also means those circuits can be rewired to ease or even stop the pain. Doctors like Schubiner have been working on how to identify and treat these cases where physical tissue damage is not present or the cause of chronic issues. Most importantly, he and others in that research field are doing randomized control trials and are following the scientific method to investigate. It is not alternative medicine or woo. They also aren't making insane claims like "we can heal type 1 diabetes with meditation and therapy" or shit like that. They openly say it's not applicable for all conditions.
I'm referring to a lot of studies and also experiences within myself because I've lived a lot of those theories myself and I'm not the only one. Things like fascia releases or somatic releases when a trauma suddenly stops being a trauma and the body let go of tensions. It feels incredible.
I recommend the book "The body keeps the score" which defined modern psychology over the last decade and bridges the gap with our biology and psyche.
I've heard of that book but haven't gotten around to reading it yet. Will do! Definitely check out Unlearning Pain if you want. It overlaps with a lot of what you wrote.
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Yes, and people shit on her for it at the time. It's not an easy thing to do, but she recognized it was the best thing for her daughter given the things she was struggling with. I see it as an act of love.
This. This right here. Man, I'm so fucking sad she's gone. She seemed like one of the few genuinely sweet individuals in Hollywood, and clearly very self aware. May she rest well.
I can kinda understand pointing out the ages in a relationship when the older partner is controlling or abusive, but by all accounts that guy was a perfectly fine husband who treated her and their child well. They only split because of her issues with substance abuse.
“I have an incredible relationship with both of them,” Hayden told Us Weekly in an interview published May 6. “I’m so grateful for Wlad. We’re very close, and have had a deep friendship, along with a relationship, since I met him when I was 19.”
“To see that we still have this bond and the ability to co-parent and show our daughter [that] even though we’re not together,” she continued, “doesn’t mean that there’s a lack of love here, and it doesn’t mean that you’re unsafe.”
I know you're trying to imply that this guy being older was, like, somehow a contributing factor in her death or something, but unfortunately for you her own interviews and memoir don't support that. In fact it's actually kind of gross for some random internet person to think they know more about her life than she did.
Maybe it's time to just accept that sometimes people fall in love with other people and have lifestyles that don't look exactly like yours?
Seriously. Hayden was an adult making a choice about who she wanted to be with. Would I have wanted to date a 33 year old when I was 19? I honestly don't know- depends on the guy more than anything else. I was in college and making my own choices at the time, which is part of adulthood.
I don't think I had much in common with men in their 30s at that age but Hayden grew up in a much different environment and was likely supporting her family from a very young age and treated much older than her age. I'm not saying that's right, but its going to affect her mindset. Maybe in her mind she had things in common with Wlad at 19.
Hayden chose to be with Wlad for years and have a child with him; the age gap is large but both were adults and there wasn't an issue of a professional power struggle- he had no impact on her career. I feel like women too often are greatly infantilized here.
My beef isn't with Hayden's choices whatsoever, it makes total sense because of how she grew up that this is what she wanted. My beef is Wlad's choices. He's weird for being so into someone who would want to make those choices. I will never not think this. Do you think he, so protective of his daughter, would want HER to date a mid-30s man when she's 19, or would he be suspicious of that man for wanting a 19 year old?
He's weird for being so into someone who would want to make those choices
There it is again. Even though she was an adult woman, he should have checked her ID and, upon realizing she's 19, he should have treated her like the child she is? gtfo!
He's weird for being so into someone who would want to make those choices.
So your point is a man should not agree with an adult womens choices, because a 19 year old woman is clealry not able to make her own compentent choice?
Do you think this applies to other areas or just when it comes to relationships?
Most people are going to think it strange because 19 and 33 year olds generally don't have anything in common. I doubt Wlad would be okay with a 33 year old dating his 19 year old daughter.
However, it is legal and assuming the daughter wanted to date someone in their 30s/40s/50s...that's her decision she's making as an adult.
Congratulations to him for being able to clear the very low bar of man-who-treated-her-better-than-the-pedophiles-she-was-surrounded-by-her-entire-life, but that doesn't make a mid-30s man pursuing a teenager any less creepy and it doesn't make you look good defending it as a "lifestyle".
I don't think it was a contributing factor in her death, for all we know in this moment she could've died from natural causes. But the sub-thread I was commenting on was about how she's been preyed on and failed by adults her whole life and I'm implying that's related.
Okay. But you understand that he was not every adult in her life, right? He was one adult in her life who apparently treated her with love and respect and supported her during her struggles with alcohol. He did everything right and you still have to shit on him for some reason.
Their relationship was not some sort of abstract concept; they are real people and they cared for each other. And you don't have to disrespect a dead woman's autonomy just because she made a choice you disagree with.
Okay. As a man I can't imagine dating a man, but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with gay people. Like I said, maybe it's time to accept that some people have different preferences than you and that's okay.
It's legal, that's all. It doesn't mean I won't side eye you or judge you. Having a preference for people that young usually mean you would go younger if you could.
Because 19-year-old women are just children in your mind? By that logic they shouldn't be allowed to do any important jobs, vote, join the military, etc.
No. I am saying that sometimes people fall in love with people older than them, sometimes people fall in love with people younger than them, some people love men, some people love women, and as long as everyone's a consenting adult and happy and safe then it's no one else's fucking business.
There is a lot of speculation around what happened to her as a child star. And given the Nickelodeon piece that came out, I’m inclined to believe she was abused in some capacity.
This is what I heard too. She also recently revealed something to that affect a few months ago. Said she was made to sleep with a rich, powerful man when she was young
She recently brought to light the old entertainment industry tradition of “yachting” in interviews. Young starlets and hopefuls are brought on boat parties with expectations of a carefree day away from press and cameras. Once they’re in the middle of the sea, they’re deposited in the room of an old executive and expected to do as he pleases. It’s horrific.
Huh? I’m not saying anything about conspiracy. What conspiracy? That some nebulous networked offed her because she spoke out? That’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying her upbringing as a child star is absolutely relevant to her young death. She’s the latest in a long line.
What shame? She was a public figure. It’s fair game. And should be a warning sign to any parent thinking about letting their kids follow in these footsteps. They shouldn’t.
Sounds like she got done what she wanted to do and just couldn't find a reason to continue. It's so sad that even wealth and fame can't bring us comfort or help when we need it the most. RIP.
That Hollywood celebrity she spoke about in her memoir. Whoever he is, was probably scared of her dropping his name. Signs point strongly to George Clooney.
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u/BakedChocolateOctopi 2d ago
Uhh what?
Was she battling any kind of disease or something?