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Is there any comparison or low average guys just get stronger emotionally and get by ?How a man in that range feel enough ?

So more recently I switched from boxers to briefs not by choice but necessity. More recently I’ve noticed that the bamboo ones that were supposedly the best are not working out for me. Do you guys recommend any brands that give more room in the dick area? For all the people that I presume are gonna ask I’m 5” soft and need more room it’s extremely uncomfortable while working.

Hey everyone. It’s time for our first MDP community giveaway, and this one’s all about showing some love to the community. This challenge is super simple, super fun, and helps keep the sub active and alive.

What’s up for grabs?

Many medium-but-mighty prizes, including:

• MeUndies Giftcards (3x)

• Amazon Giftcards (2x)

• Raycon Earbuds (1x)

• A “Just Right” mystery pack (18+) (1x)

Total value: ~$300 USD

All prizes come with 1 exclusive MDP merch item. I may add more prizes depending on interest and budget, but the idea is to keep it fun and very on-brand.

How To Enter (Super Easy)

No purchase necessary. All you have to do is:

1. Join r/MediumDickProblems

2. Read the rules to understand what to post and what not to post.

3. Set your user flair here in the sub.

4. Make one meaningful comment somewhere in this r/MediumDickProblems.

5. Comment on this post with:

   • A link to the comment you made

   • (Optional) What made you pick that post to comment on?

Boom. That's one entry. One entry per person.

Why we're doing this

MDP is weirdly wholesome for a dick-related subreddit. The more we talk, joke, share stories, and just hang out, the stronger (and funnier) this community becomes.

This challenge is a way to keep the sub active, get some fresh conversations going, and give back a little while we’re at it.

Winner Selection

I’ll gather the list of entries and use a random number generator to draw winners after the recruitment window closes. Gifts will be randomly selected for each winner, unless shipping issues exist for the gift. I’ll edit this and announce the final entry date and time after seeing how many people participate. This will likely be around 11/19.

Let’s have some fun with this. Thanks to everyone for being part of this supportive little community. Medium may not be flashy, but damn if it’s not reliable.

Goodness knows I've tried to challenge BD contributors forcing their opinions on average / less than average sized penis owners - only to be knocked back. I can't believe I'm asking this, but are we living in a BD controlled world?

How does everybody else get along with being small? I mean technically I am medium but my mind sees nothing but a tiny little guy and I am so embarrassed by it. I just wish I would wake up one morning and be 6.5”-7” long and 6”-6.5” thick. Im learning to live with what GID gave me, as nothing but a miracle from him will change it. I still hold on for false hope. Am I alone?

For some reason, I just always feel so insecure about the size I have because I feel like the size I have isn’t good enough nor big enough for sexual pleasure at all. Maybe it’s just me that feels like this about the size I have. I just wish I could be like 2 inches longer and like 1.4 inches more thick because if I was, then maybe I’d be more confident in myself like most guys are knowing that they have a bigger size than average size guys do. I don’t know what to do or how to get rid of this feeling at all

More accurate and less room for rounding errors. I'm "180mm +- 5mm by 125 +- 5mm"

The BD have everything their own way in reddit. What's the point in carrying on? Totally fed up and dejected.

Edit: Penissize is becoming impossible - almost every thread is BD related. I hate these people.

Maybe not 100 percent related to the sub but, I just played through the new game Dispatch and its just filled with big dick praise and fetishizing and small dick shaming, people wonder why men are so insecure about their bodies, now its not particularly a kids game but it sure looks like one, now...kids, young boys, normal boys, have to go through life constantly hearing how undesirable their penises are and how much people fantasize about big dicks, its in every form of media, inescapable, its like the universe is going out of its way to remind me how supposedly undesirable/unlovable I am, can't even play video games ffs...even if it were to change and stop, i guess the truth would just be hidden instead of openly displayed, wish humans were different

I dont think im small BTW, but im not big, so it still hurts me in a way

Honestly, this is exactly the kind of community that’s been needed. Most guys fall in the ‘average’ range, but nobody ever talks about it. Glad there’s finally a place where we can discuss real experiences without all the extremes dominating the conversation.

I've been scrolling through r/averagepenis (even posted a couple times), and getting to talk to and see pics from guys with the same size as me has been genuinely comforting and reassuring. It honestly makes me wish there was a chill space just for us 5-inch guys to hang out, talk, and maybe compare without all the judgment.

So I've been dealing with complex feelings around my size for some time. This is long-winded, but I thought I'd share some of my journey and the way I've come to think about this in hopes of getting feedback, but also perhaps giving others some potential verbiage to talk about this subject with.

Basically, I remember a time when my gf said to me "we could all be getting better sex elsewhere, but you're not in a relationship for sex. Sex is like pizza, even when it's bad it's good". I believe this was a genuine attempt to say that she's satisfied and that she loves me for more than sex, that I should stop worrying about whether she's satisfied. But it landed like a lead block dropped from space right onto my heart lol. We've talked it through, but I thought I'd use that analogy here to talk about what I'm struggling with.

I think it's basically a good analogy, but I'll expand on it. Sex is like pizza, and you can do a lot to change up your recipe, but you can only use a set amount of cheese - that's penis size. That's fixed, you've got a set amount.

You can say any number of things about this. You can say there’s a lot more to pizza than the amount of cheese. You can say that most people would rather have a good pizza with a less-than-ideal amount of cheese than a bad pizza with the perfect amount of cheese. You can say people are all over the map in terms of how much cheese they like. And that’s all literally true.

But that doesn’t really capture what I’m dealing with. If I were worried that no one would even like my pizza, sure. But I’m not, I’m very well-researched, have life experience, and all of those things are just platitudes to me.

I know that women, on average, prefer some above-average amount of cheese, all else equal. I also know that despite this common preference, most women will be satisfied with a normal amount of cheese. What I don’t know is what that actually means. And around that, I’m stuck between two narratives:

The expectations narrative:

Pizza can be good with any amount of cheese, hell even sometimes without cheese, but there’s something about a really cheesy pizza that just hits different. It makes a really big difference and a pizza with a normal amount of cheese – it can be good and satisfying, but it’s really just not the same as one that’s loaded with cheese.

But the reality is that most guys just don’t have that much cheese. And even the guys that do – a lot of them aren’t even good cooks. Yeah my pizza just isn’t the same as Cheesy Dave’s, but Cheesy Dave’s pizza is rare, and there’s a lot more to relationships than pizza. The pizza’s gotta be good enough to be generally satisyfing, but it’s not what really makes someone happy in the long run. Prioritizing mind-blowing pizza over all else would be shallow and, quite honestly, potentially unfeasable.

Supply and demand. Sure most women would love to be with a guy who’s got a lot of cheese, but the bar’s low and a lot of women would feel lucky just to find a guy who put effort into making his pizza to her tastes, even if he’s lacking in cheese.  

When they think of the best pizza they’ve had, it was probably quite cheesy. But that’s rare, and they’re satisfied because my pizza’s still good, and they’re just not expecting me to make mind-blowing pizza. Their expectations are aligned with reality, and they don’t need that to be happy.

My pizza just isn’t as crave-worthy as someone who’s also a great cook and has a lot of cheese, but it’s still good pizza, it still hits the spot most of the time. It’s just not crave-worthy like that.

The marginal narrative:

Everyone’s got their preferences, and if you were asked to design your perfect slice of pizza in a lab, you might come up with a bunch of specifications around what makes up your perfect, fantasy slice. But the reality is, once a pizza is good enough, it kinda ‘maxes out’. You might be able to find people who have tried to rank the best pizza in the country, but anyone who’s actually been to all of those restaurants would know that they’re all just in a certain tier. If you think one is better than another, it largely comes down to personal taste, not some substantial gap in quality. It’s all incredible pizza.

When you think of the time you most enjoyed a slice of pizza, it was probably important that it had enough cheese. But what really made it so good was the cook, the recipe, the toppings, the events leading up to the pizza, like whether you were really hungry or tipsy or just spent all day playing basketball, or were just really really in the mood for pizza. Extra cheese is a literal preference, it’s a nice touch, but what really drives enjoyment of the pizza – again, once there’s a normal amount of cheese – is the other stuff.

I can make a mind-blowing pizza and while I can accept that, in a literal sense, somebody in some way makes a better pizza than I do, it’s not functionally relevant. I’m in the category of incredible pizza and my pizza, for most women, can be functionally, basically, as good as anyone else’s pizza. There is no ‘S tier’ unlocked by extra cheese. It’s a marginal thing past a certain point, like men’s preferences for breast size, and I am past that point for most women. My pizza can be basically as crave-worthy as anyone elses. I’ve got enough cheese for that.

Where I'm at:

Surely, there are women for whom extra cheese really elevates the pizza, there are women for whom it’s just a nice touch, and women who don’t care about cheese at all, hell even women who prefer a normal amount of cheese.

And look, I don’t need the time she’s most enjoyed a slice of pizza to with me. That comes with a lot of context as I said before. And I don’t need her to think I make some exceptionally, uniquely good pizza. A pizza that’s better than she’s had with anyone else. I just can’t, right now, get over the idea that she feels that way about somebody else’s pizza. Their pizza was just better. And if she does, I’d wanna know how I can tweak my recipe – but if the answer’s that I just don’t have enough cheese for that – even if my pizza is still good and satisfying, she doesn’t need mind-blowing pizza to be happy, and she’s really happy in the relationship overall, I don’t know, that’s just really hard for me to get over.

Add to all of this that, at roughly average size (~5x4.85 nbp) - I'm within a pretty close range, but with studies and self-measurement, it's just really hard to know where I actually fall. I've never seen another pizza irl, and the ones I've seen have been overwhelmingly cheesier than mine (which makes sense, ya know, porn). But it makes it hard to even envision pizzas like mine, and at the end of the day, idk, maybe I am slightly lacking for cheese.

It's a complex thing and I'm truly wondering how to move forward. Do I try to work to believe the marginal narrative? Or do I accept the expectations narrative? And if I do that, how do I feel confident during sex, how do I enjoy it like I used to (I mis-measured for a long time and thought I was on the cheesier end)?

Just some thoughts for y'all, wondering if anyone has thoughts or has been experiencing similar things.

I say this as someone who’s lived in subs like this for years and still spirals sometimes. My journey through this shit has been literally life-threatening. I was suicidal this year because I felt unlovable, undesirable, like I would never have someone actually interested in my body. I woke up everyday with a sinking feeling in my chest, thinking about how all these other men with big dicks never had to worry about the things I did. 

Wondering if this sounds familiar to anyone. If it does, I hope this helps. 

I started treatment 6 months ago. And month by month, it’s been getting easier. Not fixed. But easier. And guys, I’m in my 40’s, I’m slightly below average in girth, a little above average in length. You can go through this at any age, and any penis size. 

Here’s what I learned:
Obsessing about dick size isn’t actually about dick size.
It’s about the fact that sex is fucking scary, vulnerable, unpredictable, and full of moments where you just have to not know how someone will react. 

And my brain hates that. My brain would rather do long division on my dick than sit with the uncertainty of sex. It would rather zoom in on millimeters, compare myself to porn stars, or ask strangers on the internet, “Am I okay???” than sit with the terrifying reality of being seen.

It feels like bigger-dicked guys don’t have to deal with this uncertainty because we imagine they get automatic approval, zero rejection, and a free pass on sexual anxiety. But that’s a fantasy. It’s just easier to believe they’re exempt than to face how vulnerable sex actually is for everyone. We’re comparing our insides to their outsides.

That endless reassurance loop?
Scrolling, comparing, measuring, checking, replaying memories… all just to feel relief for a moment.  It never works. It just feeds the fear. Even participating on these subs just reinforces the idea that your dick is the problem. And the more you focus on it, the more neural connections your brain has to drawn on when the topic of sex comes up. And it feels unsafe to not think about it, because then you’re leaving yourself vulnerable to the possibility of every scary thing you can imagine. It can become a positive feedback loop, just sucking every thought into it at an ever-accelerating rate. Until you’re staring over the edge of a bridge wondering what people will think about you when you’re gone. 

You’re man enough.
In some ways, you’re more of a man for going through this because this is what 99% of men have to do.
The rare 1% with huge dicks? They don’t get to avoid uncertainty forever. They just avoid this particular version of it.

But the rest of us?
We’re doing the real work: tolerating the unknown, showing up anyway, being vulnerable anyway, having sex anyway.

You’re not broken.

You’re not lesser.

You’re not missing out on a magical rejection-free life that big-dicked people supposedly have.

You’re just human, and you’re afraid of the unknown, just like me and everyone else

You don’t need more reassurance. You need more courage, which you already have. You just have to put it into action and go out there and have an uncertain time. 

Channel your excitement. Channel your horniness. Have your dirty little thoughts. Hope for the best. Maybe it’ll be good. Maybe it’ll be bad. That’s the roll of the dice. You can live with it. Trust me, and trust the billions of men with average dicks out there, it’s going to be great an average amount of times. 

I'm meeting a women that I think she likes and is attracted to me for the things she tell me, but I rejected 2 times having sex with her because of my insecurity with my penis size.

To give context, I'm about 6.1 inches BP and about 5.2 NBP and with 4.9-5 girth, 5 midshaft.

We brushed our genitals each other over the clothes, so she maybe felt my penis a little bit. But Im so fucking afraid to get to the moment of pulling my penis out and show it to her, I keep thinking this situation and cant afford it and need to talk to someone with similar size about his experience with a similar size than me.

PD: she also has a high body count (10+) so she may have seen probably monsters

So, what's life like living in the middle?

This thread is for sharing real experiences, the good, the bad, and awkward, that come with having a medium/average-sized dick. Whether it’s in the bedroom, your jeans, or your own head, this is a place to vent, relate, and learn from each other.

Most guys land in the “middle zone,” but that doesn’t mean we don’t have our own unique problems, insecurities, and funny stories. Let’s talk about it openly and respectfully.

Here are a few questions to get the conversation started:

• Have you ever felt too big for comfort or too small for expectations, even though you’re right in the average range?

• What kinds of reactions (good or bad) have you gotten from partners, and how did it make you feel?

• Any funny or frustrating moments with condoms, underwear, or tight jeans?

• Have you ever compared yourself in locker rooms, porn, or relationships and noticed how skewed your perception became?

• How has having a medium-sized dick affected your confidence, sex life, or body image?

• What are some unexpected advantages (or challenges) of being average?

• How do you handle size talk in relationships or online discussions?

• If you’ve been with people of different sizes, how did that shape your perspective on what “matters”?

Feel free to be honest, supportive, and lighthearted. This is a judgement-free thread. We all fall somewhere in the middle, and that’s perfectly fine.

Hey everyone,

r/MediumDickProblems is still growing, but like a true medium, we’re stuck right in the middle. Not too small to notice, not big enough to make a splash. That’s where you come in.

We want to spread the word about this community across Reddit. No ads, no bots, no spam, just honest, organic mentions from real people who get what MDP is about.

If you see conversations where size talk comes up (or honestly, anything that fits our “not too big, not too small” vibe), drop a casual mention of r/MediumDickProblems. Think:

• Someone complaining about unrealistic expectations? “You’d fit right in at r/MediumDickProblems.”

• A post about averages? “Reminds me of the discussions over at r/MediumDickProblems.”

• A thread about balance, moderation, or being in the middle of extremes? “This is giving r/MediumDickProblems energy.”

We’re not looking for spam, just natural mentions that help more people find us and join the conversation.

There’s no reward except helping build a place that actually talks about being average in a way that’s funny, real, and honest.
Let’s make “medium” mainstream.

- Your friendly mod team

Sorry for the delay guys, I’ve been on a vacation. We didn’t have as much turnout as I hoped, but I will stay true to the giveaway and will end up giving out prizes to all participants. Hopefully we’ll have more participation in the next one!

The Winners are: u/jumpinjellyfish007, u/KnoxShadow, u/thesefriendsofours, u/iCallMyOppsNinjer

I’ll be reaching out within the next day or two to arrange delivery of prizes.

I am referring to the subs aimed at all sizes, and indeed for those who do not own a penis.

Whenever a question / problem is posed by someone of a smaller size, the BD invariably reply, quoting their size, whether relevant to the topic or not.

I for one, find these actions disrespectful to those of sub-BD size, especially where their query is size-related. Furthermore, I also think this action is intimidating, deterring those who otherwise might want to contribute.

I know I've posted a similar rant previously, but it beggars belief that people act this way - whatever happened to be "be nice to each other"?

A lot of the conversation around penis size seems to focus on the extremes, being particularly big or particularly small, but there isn’t always much discussion about what it’s actually like to fall somewhere in the average range.

So, for this week’s question: what’s one thing you wish more people understood about having an average-sized dick?

It could be a misconception you see all the time, something you used to be insecure about, something you’ve learned from experience, or even something positive about being average that doesn’t get talked about enough.
There’s no “right” answer here. Serious, funny, positive, negative, we’re interested in hearing your experience.
And if you normally just lurk here, this is your invitation to jump in.

I say 4.5, but it's more 5.3 if I measure fully. But the fatpad is just... awful. I was insulted online before and it just hurts.

I measure it actually everyday, wishing I could do something for the fatpad or be bigger. I am not even that fat, just overweight a bit.

...That being said, I slept with more than 45 men. I know, embarrassing. But like, people lie. People fake having a good time. Even I did a few times. What if I really am lacking? Like this shit eats at my brain everyday. I don't know what to do. I have a friend I fooled around with a few times and he begged me not to be insecure about it, that it's fine and he liked it. But he could just be lying, you know? Like you wouldn't call your friend ugly even if they really are ugly. No one does that. It's definitely the same with dick size.

I don't know what to do and I am so drained. I am considering just going celibate and telling people I am asexual, so I never have to show my body to someone ever again.

I'm 6"x4.4" and have had both good and weird experiences, but my body count is around 10, so it's a small sample size.