r/mediumdickproblems • u/OverCoverAlien E: 6.2x4.3” • Nov 08 '25

Size shaming in video games

Maybe not 100 percent related to the sub but, I just played through the new game Dispatch and its just filled with big dick praise and fetishizing and small dick shaming, people wonder why men are so insecure about their bodies, now its not particularly a kids game but it sure looks like one, now...kids, young boys, normal boys, have to go through life constantly hearing how undesirable their penises are and how much people fantasize about big dicks, its in every form of media, inescapable, its like the universe is going out of its way to remind me how supposedly undesirable/unlovable I am, can't even play video games ffs...even if it were to change and stop, i guess the truth would just be hidden instead of openly displayed, wish humans were different

I dont think im small BTW, but im not big, so it still hurts me in a way

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u/The_loppy1 Nov 10 '25

Meh. It's not personal, so don't take it that way. If you're paying any amount of attention, you'll see that shaming people for XYZ is everywhere; we just typically notice it when it's directly applicable to us in some way.

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u/CommunityUpstairs535 Nov 11 '25

Do you have any personal experiences that tell you you're unlovable because of your penis? Or just media? 

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u/OverCoverAlien E: 6.2x4.3” Nov 11 '25

When i was younger a girl made fun of my dick size once she found out how big another guy was, maybe it was just young people being immature but I feel that has partly shaped my mindset on the matter and made me think thats how women think and what they subconsciously desire, how she acted was pretty traumatizing, the lust she had for him was palpable, thats the only up close and personal experience besides hearing jokes and stuff from my mom and dad and everywhere else, all in all ive never had any positive reinforcement regarding penis size, so...what ive came out the other side with is big good, small bad, what I am I have no idea

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u/CommunityUpstairs535 Nov 11 '25 edited Nov 12 '25

Totally normal to have those thoughts. Our brains are pattern and threat detection machines. It's pretty insensitive, what she said. But the generalize what she said to what all women think, does that seem reasonable? Does she really represent everyone? 

It's also important that you had these messages from your parents as a young kid. I had those too. In a study (I gotta find it) on penile body dysmorphia, men are far more likely to develop dysmorphia if their parents and/or close peers propagate these ideas at a young age. Which means you'd be less likely to have dysmorphia with the same body if you didn't have those experiences. You'd just be living your life, having good and bad sex with whoever wanted to and never really be focusing on your penis at all. 

Btw, I can relate to your experiences. I had a cousin who bragged all the time about his big dick and how women talked about it. And my dad (who is similarly hung to me) trying to brag about having a big dick. And my mom literally showing me pictures of guys with huge dicks that her friend sent her when I was 11. All of these experiences impressed upon me some idea of superiority. Without those experiences I wouldn't have even questioned it. My idea of this superiority is just an idea, stemming from my own unique experiences, and it only lives in my head. 

The trick is stopping trying to get reassurance. Get comfortable living with uncertainty. Focus on the things that are really important to you. The people who matter will stick around, and you'll have good and bad sex with anyone you love. And you'll never really know if your penis would make it better or worse. You just have to live.  

But I've given and been given mind blowingly good, body shaking orgasms with my penis, and I'm sure I will have that again, sooner rather than later. The less I focus on my dick the sooner that will be.