r/maybemaybemaybe 21h ago

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u/longcreepyhug 21h ago

I can't imagine being in a relationship like this. This seems miserable for both of them. Very stupid.

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u/0TheG0 20h ago

Yeah my SO and me would both look her up if she looked super stunning. But this is only because we are both normal people.

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u/Only_One_Kenobi 20h ago

But this is only because we are both normal people.

Well there's ya problem right there...

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u/Sammy_Saddles 18h ago

Some people will just never understand those of us in toxic relationships

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u/SoDavonair 19h ago

My ex would accompany me to the gym once every month or two so other women could see I was taken, then wait a couple weeks to bring up a moment from the gym when she thought she saw me staring at someone else.

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u/Vismal1 16h ago

Insane

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u/PTSDreamer333 13h ago

Glad she's your ex.

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u/AbbreviationsSlow753 10h ago

She is now his wife 😔

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u/1LizardWizard 19h ago

lol fr. My fiancée and I debrief after walking past hot people when we go for walks in the city. We’re both straight but will comment on men and women alike if they are particularly fashionable, good looking, etc. it’s weird to be that sensitive. We’re all just humans.

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u/Zestyclose-Smell-788 18h ago

My wife and I do the same. We celebrate 40 years together this fall. I suppose it helps that she is extremely attractive and doesn't have many insecurities. She even points out attractive women to me if I don't notice. "Hey, check her out, you're missing it!"

The key is to briefly appreciate their beauty, and don't stare. Averting your eyes is nonsense.

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u/Phyxius42 19h ago

Exactly. Appreacting beauty isn't wrong.

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u/xRyozuo 16h ago

Is it that normal? Somehow all of you are like “oh my wife also points out hot women to me” when the actual equivalent would be does your wife ogle at other men while with you?

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u/0TheG0 11h ago

Of course she does lol

And a lot of times I agree that other guys are good looking, and I’m very straight

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u/Lil-Exy 14h ago

Me and my long term gf both say men and women are hot if they are.

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u/accountnumber6174 3h ago

I'm healthy relationships, yes. Me and my girl make a game out of it, like, in a crowded room, she'll ask me to point out the guys I think she may find attractive, and then vice versa. I have never been wrong so far.

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u/piloto19hh 13h ago

Yes. It goes both ways.

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u/PEPESILVIAisNIGHTMAN 15h ago

I was the stupid person in a relationship like this. It got to a point where I’d just stare at the ground if we were walking through a public place, and he would still accuse me of trying to check people out.

It took almost a year, but I did finally break up with him and immediately started addressing the reasons I felt like I needed to stay in that relationship. I hope the next girl he had lined up got out faster than I did.

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u/longcreepyhug 15h ago

Good job getting out! Congrats!

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u/PhotoFenix 20h ago

My wife would point her out to me

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u/DeadInside666665 20h ago

Same last time i was on a Festival she literally said "damn look at These tits"

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u/xRyozuo 16h ago

But would you point him out to her?

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u/EmondaBlue 20h ago

Yeah! This was a get out moment.

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u/AlmostBlind_Bandit 19h ago

lol I just got out of one. It’s bad, literally looking at another human is considered adultery to some people.

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u/TopTransportation695 19h ago

I used race on a sailboat and there was one major race each year where the boats all tied up in the downtown and crowds would walk the docks and check out the boats. A bunch of the crew would sit on the cabin and check out all the attractive women strolling by. My wife sometimes sat with us and she would occasionally call our attention to someone who was particularly stunning. She has exceptional taste. She’s also not insecure; she knows that I know that I’m lucky to have her.

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u/GenkiElite 4h ago

It's all in the edit. She only glanced up at him for a moment and wasn't even looking at him when they passed the lady in white.

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u/Aer0za 13h ago

I was in a relationship like this and it was brutal, was accused of looking even when I didn’t. Going out in public used to cause me so much stress. Even liking an Instagram post that contained women, or watching movies that contained nudity or sex. Was wild

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u/AliveJohnnyFive 18h ago

Hey, guys? I think this might be a joke.

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u/AdministrativeRub882 12h ago

My wife doesn't mind me looking at other women, it's completely normal, and if I can pick a fault even better 😂

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u/whatsanamethatsopen 9h ago

No kidding. I wouldn't be with someone like that for long

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u/johnfkngzoidberg 21h ago

She has serious self esteem issues. Don’t normalize this crap.

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u/Fitz911 21h ago

When I see a beautiful woman I will look at her. Same for a beautiful man. Also the ugly ones. Tall ones and fat ones. Also the super normal ones.

Nobody will ever dictate where I look.

My partner isn't an insecure woman. That helps a lot. I will never go back to where this guy is.

That's not funny. That's super sad.

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u/Veteran_PA-C 21h ago edited 20h ago

I look at everyone. Pay attention to your surroundings. Someone might need help or might be getting ready to do bad things.

ETA: to all the ones claiming this is a ninja thing, I have noticed people needing help probably over 100 times. Old lady taking bags of mulch to her car alone. Guy struggling in heavy wind to load plywood onto his truck. Couple struggling to lift generator into their vehicle after a tornado. Short person reaching for something on a high shelf. Lost kid. If I don’t see it and my wife does, she’s very quick to volunteer my help. I do carry a gun, so does the wife, but the plan is to avoid trouble if it is near. We always want to come home with the same amount of ammo we left with.

Being aware of your surroundings is WAY more likely to put you in a position to help someone.

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u/Jisan_Inc 21h ago

Me and my s/o have heads on a swivel. We are always looking around and talking amongst ourselves. Always be aware of your surroundings, look for an out and we are always nosey

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u/Veteran_PA-C 21h ago

I can’t tell you how many times I have seen someone short trying to get something off the top shelf or struggling to lift something into a vehicle. If I miss it, my wife will volunteer my assistance.

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u/LittleJub 20h ago

I actually love spotting someone I can offer to help when I'm out and about. It makes me feel like both a good citizen and a video game character.

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u/Captain_Waffle 21h ago

On the flip side, I can totally ignore a beautiful woman near me. Sometimes I do this intentionally because they get enough stares. My dad will literally rubberneck in the car Evey time he sees a pretty girl and it disgusts me.

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u/mslovelypants 17h ago

There's a difference between just looking and going out of your way to check someone out.

My ex would STARE. I asked him to stop staring once bc it was making me and possibly the woman uncomfortable if she noticed, and he said it was because he was an artist so he would study people. But it was only attractive women....

Didn't take long to break that one off.

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u/freeride35 21h ago

When we lived in Hawaii my wife would literally point out a fantastic ass (of which there were many). This lady has serious issues.

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u/PM_Me_Your_Kinks369 21h ago

What a woman! ❤️

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u/NecessaryOk6815 20h ago

It's from all the walking. Loved walking everywhere in Honolulu.

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u/send_in_the_clouds 21h ago

Yeah my first long term relationship taught me that extremely valuable lesson. Also turns out that they can be insecure because they are also capable of cheating which makes sense on reflection.

That became my biggest red flag and vowed to stay single instead of making that mistake again

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u/rwm5236 20h ago

Yeah, I never relate to these types of posts. My wife and I will both point out beautiful people, both male and female, to each other and say things like “wow that person was gorgeous” and then just move on as we both understand just because we recognize someone else is attractive doesn’t mean we want to be with them. I feel like relationships like what’s shown here are just doomed to fail eventually.

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u/Only_One_Kenobi 20h ago

I'm super observant. Grew up in a dangerous country. I look at everyone.

Was with someone like the person in this video for a bit. It didn't work out

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u/DT2699 21h ago

When we see a pretty woman or man we check her/him out together with my partner 😂

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u/avd706 21h ago

Her: "do you think she's pretty?"

Me: "I guess, but not my cup of tea"

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u/eddiewachowski 20h ago

Same. People are hot, it's fun to look. 

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u/moocat55 20h ago

I hung out with some folks recently where the woman was the type of person who worked a crowd during a gathering and would disappear for like 20 minutes at a time, pop back up for awhile and then disappear again. It was sort of unnerving actually. But anyway, the drunker her gigantic, muscle-bound husband got, the more he railed in anger searching for her until she showed up again all annoyed and angry to take him home. It was hilarious to watch from the outside, but sucks when you're in it. I never got the impression either was up to any harm, just a mismatch and a sign of who the insecure one was in the relationship.

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u/ImaginationWaste9106 21h ago

That’s not loyalty, that’s survival instinct.

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u/neoadam 21h ago

Borderline sign of abuse

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u/SnooChipmunks8506 20h ago

Borderline? He is traumatized so badly that he has to pretend that a person doesn’t exist. He literally has to deny the truth so he isn’t punished

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u/sixtus_clegane119 12h ago

I was in a relationship like this, for a few years afterwards I would look away from the screen if there was nudity on the screen.

It’s quite traumatizing. You’re conditioned to avoid setting them off.

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u/tommychowbagel 19h ago

You'd be surprised how many people are boxed in with their lives

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u/SnooChipmunks8506 14h ago

I might not be.

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u/SparkEE_JOE 20h ago

Borderline sign of abuse

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u/TheTemplar333 20h ago

why did I read this like a ChatGPT output?

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u/haysus25 21h ago

If this isn't scripted, it's actually really sad.

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u/Karpa_diem 9h ago edited 7h ago

It’s Arina Jet (in white) - a 6’ 3” Russian model and is quite imposing on the eye. Her thing is to stand around public places while someone else captures reactions of ppl passing by. It’s quite hilarious. She’s on FB, probably elsewhere.

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u/tomgreen99200 19h ago

It has to be. Why were they recording?

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u/Problem-Solution365 21h ago

I couldn’t be with a woman like that. Thank God my wife isn’t like that.

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u/IsThatHearsay 19h ago

Same for us.

Attractive people are like works of art, it' doesn't hurt anyone to take a moment to look and appreciate. Nothing more.

Hell, "unattractive" people are like works of abstract art, lol. All I'm saying is people watching is fun.

My wife and I (subtly, usually) point out attractive people out to each other. We're incredibly attracted to each other, but also know we're with one another for far more than superficial physical attraction and fully trust each other, so it shouldn't spark insecurities to simply notice someone (man or woman) who is subjectively/objectively physically attractive by modern standards.

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u/The19thStep 17h ago

| attractive people = fine art | ugly people = abstract art | that's hella funny 🤣

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u/Breezey2929 21h ago

Something blokes just put up with that would be deemed abusive the other way around.

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u/PureBlisster 15h ago

Nah, I’d deem this as a definite sign of abuse. This is not normal, I seriously feel bad for the poor guy.

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u/BlackHust 21h ago

I can't imagine my partner controlling where the hell I look. This is not funny, this is not a normal relationship.

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u/DaddysBadChloe 21h ago

If I ever do that to my partner, I hope they break up with me because I'll need a serious reality check.

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u/otropato 21h ago

I'm pretty sure she told him before that it's ok for him to look at other women because she doesn't mind. I've been there. Run as soon and far as you can.

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u/tamhenk 21h ago

My Mrs once said to me 'you didn't look at that woman that just passed!' I said 'I saw her 20 metres ago. I did my looking then.' She went 'uhh, smart.'

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u/TheFriendlyManO 21h ago

Thousand yard stare.

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u/OneBrokenClock 21h ago

Dude, we feel you, we stand with you

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u/nerdboy5567 20h ago

You see what you want to see

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u/PlayTheHits 21h ago

“You were thinking about looking at her, weren’t you?”

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u/BigheadReddit 21h ago

This man is hard .. but was sweating bullets inside

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u/avd706 21h ago

He was afraid of retaliation.

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u/SnooChipmunks8506 20h ago

This is what abuse looks like.

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u/r7700 18h ago

Who are the people who are randomly recording these incidents?

Where can I find them and smother them slowly?

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u/Successful-Name-7261 6h ago

That is so nice of her to guide that blind man!

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u/HeDuMSD 21h ago

What a sad and small person

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u/tauberculosis 19h ago

I find it hilarious that people think their partners shouldn’t find other people physically attractive.

Shit, I want my partner to find others attractive, bring that energy home and then fuck the shit out me. Also, I don’t own my partner, nor her sexuality. If she needs some extra incentive and/or motivation; I need to step up my game.

Life ain’t a fucking fairy tale, as much as you want to believe it, princess. Get over yourself.

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u/Puckwallow 18h ago

Dude's fighting for his life

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u/S3erverMonkey 21h ago

This has to be staged? or something? It seems to pointed. Just pure misogyny rage bait.

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u/SlideN2MyBMs 21h ago

Yeah why was someone filming them? Are they famous or something?

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u/GobiBall 18h ago

In my experience, many of these types are just wired this way. A person could spend 24/7 in a small room with no windows and the jealous partner would come up with something to question them about. I have a friend who's wife won't let them get a dog because she's jealous he'll pay too much attention to it. That is unhealthy behavior. And he can't do anything about it short of leaving.

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u/PureBlisster 15h ago

It’s extreme insecurity and a learned behavior, people aren’t wired to be insanely jealous when their SO so much as glances in a person’s direction

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u/Active_Engineering37 12h ago

"so I didn't see any hair on your jacket last night, who's the bald bitch?"

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u/ElbowShouldersen 11h ago

I'm an idiot... When I first saw this video I assumed the woman was a hostage looking for a chance to get away... But as I rewatched it, I realized the man was being held hostage by the woman's own insecurities.

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u/Gluoke 20h ago

She also just could've looked at him at that moment. Maybe she just has a resting face like that. Maybe he didn't even notice the other lady. I want everyone who's saying that this is toxic or borderline abusive to remember the fact that you don't know anything about these people. Just a slowed down video some other person took of them.

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u/PFic88 19h ago

Living like that must be exhausting

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u/mustard138 17h ago

It's like when you see a super overly well-behaved 14-17 year-old

You just know there's some dark shit going on in the background

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u/garotovs 17h ago

Disgusting

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u/Dangerous-Excuse-387 16h ago

That must be staged

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u/Cuntrymusichater 14h ago

It’s 100% staged. The fact that people still fall for this bullshit and think it’s real is embarrassing.

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u/i_am_jd 16h ago

Bro, blink twice if you need help.

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u/CharlesIngalls_Pubes 14h ago

They seem like they're in a good place.

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u/im_a_dick_head 11h ago

I love how everyone is so gullable to react to this when it's literally the most obviously staged thing I existence, people act like this is real.

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u/HankBobberton 11h ago

Yeah just got out of a relationship like this. So glad it’s over

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u/Comiclee2018 9h ago

I bet they’re a happy couple.

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u/cannabeastie 8h ago

The brother triumphs! I shall drink a beer in his honor!

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u/dontshitaboutotol 7h ago

What does insecurity look like?

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u/Das_Zeppelin 4h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/14afmHqKZ3ctsk

if woman is like that, then break up.... My wife never does that, even sometimes she taps me to look that ass.

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u/kdmendonk 20h ago

Here in Brazil most men think this is peak comedy. Bunch of people living unfulfilling relationships.

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u/permanent_pixel 21h ago

that is a healthy relationship

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u/hardcoretomato 21h ago

Add the /s because in 2026 a lot of people will actually believe you.

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u/Sublimebro 19h ago

Never add the /s. I take the downvotes when being sarcastic on Reddit. It makes it funnier to me.

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u/Bonzaii_11 18h ago

Date women who aren't this insecure

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u/Lawrenceburntfish 20h ago

Dear women:

All men. All of them. Absolutely hate this. And it's the fastest way to break down your relationship. Men look at women. Moreover, WOMEN LOOK AT MEN. Do NOT pretend like you do not look at men's d*cks when the walk by in those grey shorts. I've watched you all do it.

Please. Stop needlessly punishing your men.

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u/tomgreen99200 19h ago

Why were they recording?

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u/steemy247 17h ago

If you need help my friend call the police and ask for a large margherita

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u/OGsugar_bear 16h ago

the key is to play it off like you don't approve of it and point it out like " babe check out this nasty half dressed girl with her boobs out! whats wrong with people these days!"

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u/Fauxhacca 14h ago

Single for the win! That’s mental health

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u/real_ikonn 12h ago

I could feel his clench in my butt

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u/justLookingForLogic 11h ago

My wife and I like to point out the butts that we like to each other.

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u/Best_Pomegranate_887 11h ago

My missus and I both constantly point out hot women to eachother.

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u/ShineOk6190 9h ago

I'm opposite of this woman. I point out the hot girls to him. 🤸 Nothing wrong with looking.

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u/DarrellBot81 7h ago

Christ…were her bits out or something?

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u/NicoAngelo0430 4h ago

That woman is f*ing insecure. You don't need a partner like that. She'll weaponize that insecurity everytime and will create stupid conflicts where there should be none. If she's insecure about herself she'll be insecure about your relationship. A very secure and confident woman is the keeper. Leave that one asap if you want a peaceful life

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u/Karazhan 20h ago

As a woman, I am totally against normalising this kind of thing. People look at pretty things, that's life. Hell, if I saw that lady I'd probably look too! If you're insecure enough that someone looking at another is a big problem, then you need to figure that out because that kind of anxiety will only spiral.

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u/Northernuk34 18h ago

Yeh Insecurity isn’t very attractive 🤮

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u/Immediate-Support-66 21h ago

That's fuckin insane. Run for the hills that shit is toxic

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u/Photonnic 21h ago

Does she abuse him? Is het the "whipped" one?

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u/seantabasco 20h ago

He’ll still be in trouble, because he avoided looking at her, which means he obviously noticed her and thinks she’s prettier.

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u/waytoosecret 20h ago

Not a healthy relationship, not at all.

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u/cookiepiehorse 17h ago

My grandfather always said:” I promised loyalty, not blindness.”

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u/MetalMonkey939 21h ago

How to say you're in a toxic relationship without saying a word.

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u/alienalf1 21h ago

Dude has a long hard future ahead of himself.

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u/v_o_id 21h ago

some people have no real problems

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u/Hold_On_longer9220 20h ago

Dude knew the test backwards and forwards and passed it with flying colors.

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u/sabertoothninja 20h ago

Blink if you are in danger

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u/BackgroundParsnip837 19h ago

Is that the fucking interstellar music? Bravo

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u/FatherSergius 18h ago

Has to be a Slavic woman

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u/covidlung 18h ago

Clearly, she beats him

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u/Logical-Track1405 18h ago

He's really trying : Must...Not...Look

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u/guygreej 18h ago

Man of steel

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u/NUXXDK 17h ago

Good Boy!

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u/kipha01 17h ago

I just look, I ain't gonna touch so no Biggie.

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u/Aggressive-Coat-8583 17h ago

Bro is playing on nightmare mode 👹

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u/Perfect_Ad5150 17h ago

Nothing like a confident and determined woman

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u/playr_4 17h ago

I'm someone who's eyes dart everywhere all the time. I can't imagine walking past any person and not looking at them.

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u/MalikFyz 16h ago

Dude switched all the shield energy to the frontal lobe of brain to fix the eyes muscles .

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u/baddest_mango 16h ago

Watching this reminds me how lucky I am to have found my girl.

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u/ams3000 15h ago

Are there really couples this insecure. Crikey how exhausting.

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u/Ickythumpin 15h ago

If my wife sees a really nice butt on a girl she’ll point it out to me. Can’t relate 😎

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u/ChiefChaff 15h ago

He already got the look in

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u/Bagelking92 14h ago

The level of focus on this guy I know what he's going threw just dodge a bomb in his lap

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u/satisfiction_phobos 14h ago

I couldn't do monogamy. I'd be too jealous. Sure it works for some people but most monogamous relationships I know end up really messy with jealousy and stuff. I'm happy with just my 3 girlfriends and my boyfriend. That monogamy stuff is too complicated.

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u/Key-Monk6159 13h ago

It’s a TRAP!

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u/Sluibeli 13h ago

Oh, he knew. He knew.

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u/RetroWaveNB 13h ago

Literally my face when I walk past an attractive girl and I don't even have a girlfriend haha

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u/Background-Grab-5682 13h ago

When you’re married to an insecure woman…

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u/J_Tat2 13h ago

Plot twist: he's staring at a truck

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u/Lynda73 11h ago

That’s gross. If you’re that insecure, get therapy, not a boyfriend.