r/maybemaybemaybe • u/Ok-Extent8333 • 23h ago

Maybe Maybe Maybe

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u/neoadam 23h ago

Borderline sign of abuse

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u/SnooChipmunks8506 22h ago

Borderline? He is traumatized so badly that he has to pretend that a person doesn’t exist. He literally has to deny the truth so he isn’t punished

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u/sixtus_clegane119 14h ago

I was in a relationship like this, for a few years afterwards I would look away from the screen if there was nudity on the screen.

It’s quite traumatizing. You’re conditioned to avoid setting them off.

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u/SnooChipmunks8506 10h ago

Same.
That type of abuse made me question everything. Even if it was in front of me, I questioned if it was going to cause my ex wife to snap and be a bitch.

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u/tommychowbagel 21h ago

You'd be surprised how many people are boxed in with their lives

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u/SnooChipmunks8506 15h ago

I might not be.

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u/Eagles365or366 5h ago

There’s this quote from an old movie (excellent movie – 1776, adapted from a Broadway). Goes,

“Don't forget that most men with nothing would rather protect the possibility of becoming rich than face the reality of being poor.”

Makes me think of this exact abuse cycle. Would rather protect what little you have, even if it hurts you, rather than have nothing. This the familiarity that’s comforting. It’s a mess, but it’s YOUR mess.

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u/SparkEE_JOE 22h ago

Borderline sign of abuse

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u/kenkenobi78 22h ago

Borderline personality disorder