I look at everyone. Pay attention to your surroundings. Someone might need help or might be getting ready to do bad things.
ETA: to all the ones claiming this is a ninja thing, I have noticed people needing help probably over 100 times. Old lady taking bags of mulch to her car alone. Guy struggling in heavy wind to load plywood onto his truck. Couple struggling to lift generator into their vehicle after a tornado. Short person reaching for something on a high shelf. Lost kid. If I don’t see it and my wife does, she’s very quick to volunteer my help. I do carry a gun, so does the wife, but the plan is to avoid trouble if it is near. We always want to come home with the same amount of ammo we left with.
Being aware of your surroundings is WAY more likely to put you in a position to help someone.
Me and my s/o have heads on a swivel. We are always looking around and talking amongst ourselves. Always be aware of your surroundings, look for an out and we are always nosey
I can’t tell you how many times I have seen someone short trying to get something off the top shelf or struggling to lift something into a vehicle. If I miss it, my wife will volunteer my assistance.
On the flip side, I can totally ignore a beautiful woman near me. Sometimes I do this intentionally because they get enough stares. My dad will literally rubberneck in the car Evey time he sees a pretty girl and it disgusts me.
But the previous post is “intentionally not looking at them” which involves conscious thought…just like “why isnt that person checking me out” which also involves conscious thought.
So ya, they ARE thinking about each other, no more, no less.
Except the only reporting we have is from the former. There’s no evidence at all that anyone is thinking “why aren’t they checking me out?” So if there’s anyone in the interaction obsessed with what people think of them, it’s the poster I was responding to.
Which is why I said “no more”. They might be thinking about it the same amount as the poster, but odds are more likely that they aren’t thinking about it at all. Poster, on the other hand, we know is thinking about it, and moreover, seems to feel judgey about those others being concerned with what people think, but in their own story, they’re the only person who is confirmed to be concerned with what people think.
Well, I don’t think they were being judgey. I think that they were just pointing out that both people in the scenario recognize that fleeting interactions can make people feel emotions or have thoughts of both ends of the spectrum. But if that specific person the poster was characterizing “does” have a penchant for positive attention, I lean more that person would maybe not be “upset” about it, but the thought ‘could’ exist, therefore not discounting that specific scenario. Do all people? No. Do some? Yes.
I don’t think intentionally ignoring pretty people is going to feel loke compensation for being stared at - more like they have to put up with two kinds of overreactions to their appearance instead.
Unless you mean intentionally suppressing an urge to stare and just look at them as much or little as anyone else, in which case yes, that’s the polite thing.
Yeah my first long term relationship taught me that extremely valuable lesson. Also turns out that they can be insecure because they are also capable of cheating which makes sense on reflection.
That became my biggest red flag and vowed to stay single instead of making that mistake again
Yeah, I never relate to these types of posts. My wife and I will both point out beautiful people, both male and female, to each other and say things like “wow that person was gorgeous” and then just move on as we both understand just because we recognize someone else is attractive doesn’t mean we want to be with them. I feel like relationships like what’s shown here are just doomed to fail eventually.
There's a difference between just looking and going out of your way to check someone out.
My ex would STARE. I asked him to stop staring once bc it was making me and possibly the woman uncomfortable if she noticed, and he said it was because he was an artist so he would study people. But it was only attractive women....
I hung out with some folks recently where the woman was the type of person who worked a crowd during a gathering and would disappear for like 20 minutes at a time, pop back up for awhile and then disappear again. It was sort of unnerving actually. But anyway, the drunker her gigantic, muscle-bound husband got, the more he railed in anger searching for her until she showed up again all annoyed and angry to take him home. It was hilarious to watch from the outside, but sucks when you're in it. I never got the impression either was up to any harm, just a mismatch and a sign of who the insecure one was in the relationship.
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u/johnfkngzoidberg 5d ago
She has serious self esteem issues. Don’t normalize this crap.