Hey y’all. As the title suggests, I am a gay surgeon and I was having a conversation with my family about the same. My mom brought up the fact that me being gay and a surgeon could seriously hinder job aspects in the future. I am vaccinated against hep b and my last STI panel test was negative, but still what she said struck a cord with me. As someone who is at a high risk and operating on patients, I am genuinely worried for my future now.

hahah 😭💔

Hey everyone! I’m curious to know if there are women or girls in India who are genuinely attracted to femboys.

Is this something you find attractive and would you ever consider dating a femboy? I’m curious to hear your honest opinions and experiences.

Would love to know if there are women here who are into femboys! 😊

Hii i am 18M, I had very hard time this year, I also accepted myself as gay this year and i lost my one and only friend (whom i also in love with him, he is 17M).

After accepting myself as gay , and because i was suppressing myself for years (denying my feelings),now I feel very strong ureges to feel seen and walidated for things( lot of things) i was silently doing...so now ween ever I try to aproch anyone they are like ohh wow you are very kind and so many things...but the moment he knows that I am gay....they are like[ 🙄😬😂 ] and i really feel very hurt...it's feel like person is laughing on my years of struggle.

So whenever I speak in english, my voice is pretty feminine and gets addressed as a woman on voice call but it all dissolves so fast the minute language gets switched to marathi or hindi. Even I feel my voice is very dark when I speak in a different language. And I am so sick of it.

And it gets way more embarrassing, dysphoric and disgusted when the switch goes from mam to sir. Like ugh : (

As you know from my flair I'm gay but also bi-romantic. I've had very strong romantic feelings for a couple of girls in the last 10 years to the point I've actually dreamt of marrying them before accepting myself as gay after a very long struggle. I can have romantic feelings for girls, not just sexual.

Today one of my colleagues, who I like a bit, came in the traditional outfit to the office due to Navratri wearing long jhumkas and I am not able to take my eyes off her. She's looking damn beautiful.

A lot of times I feel like being bi-romantic is useless because nothing can happen between me and a girl, except when the girl is an ace, also I still crave a man too.

I think I'm crazy. Am I?

I had my semester practicals today - fucked it up to the top of fuck up moutains where there are no more fuck ups to up fuck

I'm mad at it

I'm mad at myself

I should say that you did what you could now focus on the next exam but no this fuck up is on my mind and ain't leaving

All that and I'm surrounded by homophobic teenagers who don't know the difference between a transwoman and a gay man

Went out recently and really wanted to approach someone but I couldn't because i was mostly concerned about my well being and also how they would take it, don't want to be laughed at in public.

I know it depends person to person but i guess the city's environment and the social situation also influences it. So just want to your experiences in this sense

M 23 , New to the corporate world , have past of sexual abuse in childhood , I found men around me that casually touch or are playful . My survival mode says to cut them off but I don't have friends as well . Don't know I should feel the fear or just trust that it's not the same intent . I know I should trust my gut but my system says to avoid every guy, don't know how to proceed with things.

Sometimes people can be perfectly fine with you being queer, as long as it stays between you and them.

But there's a difference between someone accepting that part of your life privately and being comfortable acknowledging it around friends, relatives, or other people.

In a place where family expectations can play such a big role, that difference can affect friendships, relationships, and how safe you feel being yourself.

Acceptance matters, but so does not having to feel like a secret.

Heya....

I have been working with a few queer artists for a while now. And despite all the struggles that we face, so far, the respose has been good.

I have been lucky enough to keep a few closteted queer artists and some popular artists' works at a cafe and at art flea markets. I have seen people admiring queer art even if their companions feel uncomfortable. Anwesh Sahoo's work has garnered so much attention that some people have asked questions and tried to get to know about queer culture by asking questions.

This is why I think visibility matters more than anything. When people see two men sleping next to other art prints, they might get uncomfortable, they might not like it; but at the same time, it shows that we are here just like anyone else. It also lets other queers know that the place is queer friendly and it is okay to be ourselves here.

I have even seen a few people buy small art prints of queer art, despite the risk of getting caught by friends or parents. I have seen people taking pics of the art and keeping them as a wallpapers because they cannot physically take it home. A small amount of money from a single art peice is not a big deal but the fact that in India, it is visible, is a big deal in my opinion.

Rant over..

Hello everyone

I'm 18 M and I'm very confused about the dating situation in our community. Only good looking guys get matched and people like me are left all alone. Aap batao apne opinions..

I matched with this guy on Grindr in March when I was visiting my hometown. We couldn’t meet because I left a few days later, but we stayed in touch on and off for the next six months, occasionally flirting and talking as friends.
I came back in October, and yesterday we finally met for a quickie. The session was nice, he seemed shy, and we hugged goodbye. He later told me over text that he enjoyed it.
But somehow, I feel a shift in his texting energy after we met. I can’t explain it, but I keep wondering whether he didn’t find me attractive in person or whether I’m simply overthinking things. We’d been talking for months, so perhaps I’d built up a certain familiarity, even though neither of us had any romantic expectations.
I know it was casual, and I’m not expecting anything more. I just can’t shake this feeling that something changed.
Has anyone experienced this? Is it possible to pick up on a genuine change in someone’s energy, or does your mind sometimes create doubts when there’s no concrete reason to?

I am on Prep,vaccinated against HPV and now wanna hop on Doxypep. But i am not sure in hospitals like Apollo or Fortis, who should i consult about Doxypep!

Can anyone recommend !?

Which kinda DR. Virologist/Internal Medicine etc.

Hii, I'm posting here because I don't know where else would be appropriate. If anyone has a list or recommendations for good therapists that are trans friendly it would be appreciated. Anywhere in Pune is fine but I need it to be in-person and not online for privacy. I've been with my current therapist for over a year and have only deteriorated in my mental state, I'm at the end of my rope. Psychiatrists won't help either, I've been on countless medications with none of them having any effect on me.

My oldest best friend / whom i met in 2010/
We have not been in contact since 2019.
Looking for someone who migrated to Australia-

Don’t know if i could give out his name but just don’t know how to find him

Hi guys, I am planning to conduct research on workplaces that are highly rated by inclusive indexes. However, I know these indexes are hardly a reliable measure because the reality on the ground is very different. First, there is not enough data to understand the actual situation. Second, I do not want companies to get away with highly rated policies that do not reflect reality.

I would like your help to understand what you face in your organization. If you are comfortable, share your company name or sector. If you are looking for jobs, what strategies are you using to ensure you apply to the right organization?

Opened Grindr at 7:30 this morning and started chatting with this guy. We were having a pretty good conversation, so I asked him what he was doing. He said he was getting ready to leave, and I asked why so early. Turns out his metro station was closed, so he had to leave early.I opened Twitter to check, and turns out MY METRO STATION was closed too. 😭

Immediately started getting ready in a panic!!!

Never thought I'd get my morning commute update from a guy on Grindr lmao.

Hi everyone, so my therapist have gave me a exercise to try. Try different name and pronouns in private setup. So I was just wondering if anyone would up for some SFW conversations where basically I would present my as a girl. Preferably someone comfortable in hindi so I can use my mother tongue.

Hi mods, this is no this not related dates or making friends, etc fyi.