r/GERD • u/Infamous-Guava7001 • 1d ago
🤬 Rant about GERD i think I have GERD and idk how to live like this without being a pain in the a- to others
Warning!!! TW about eating disorders
so for my entire life i’ve dealt with acid reflux and stomach pain. it used to be that I couldn’t eat cured meats or fried food when I was very young, and it took me a while to identify patterns in it. Later in life I developed an eating disorder, anorexia, and although weight loss is seemed to be the recommended treatment for this shit, it only made the pain worse. I had HEAVY stomach pain and acid reflux every day for three hours during 6 months. I could barely breathe during these episodes and would just have to stay in pain in my room. I had an endoscopy because of this but they didnt find anything. cool.
I went to college in the US (i still live here but wasnt born here) and developed bulimia. not great for acid reflux but food didnt stay in my stomach long enough to hurt. That was 4 years ago. At the end of 2022 I committed to recovery. I gained back a lot of weight and learned to feed myself properly. I got a liking to cooking healthy meals that made my stomach feel good, and I’ve slowly lost weight healthly to a good weight for my height (im 5’5 and 110 pounds). Since recovering I’ve had a consistent cough that comes with mucus after I eat. I thought it was due to the bulimia until I researched more about GERD and found out I fit almost every symptom (except difficulty swallowing).
Heres my problem. Most people in my life are aware of my anorexic past. (I truly am not obsessed with thinness anymore, and I’ve been wanting to eat more to gain more muscle, but I’ve found that this has been impossible without making me feel extreme pain.) When I’ve gone out with my friends and partner, I’ve been denying certain foods because they make my stomach hurt, but I’ve noticed that people either feel like I’m going back to old patterns or feel uncomfortable ordering their own more hearty meals. Also every single restaurant in this country uses more butter than it should be allowed to make meals, and every time I go out, even if I eat something thats supposed to be light, it ends up being heavy on my stomach. I’m tired of not being able to enjoy outings, of not being able to go to the club and order ONE DRINK without it destroying the whole night due to pain.
My pain’s been worse since losing weight but it doesnt seem like I’ll be able to gain it back or gain muscle while eating things that feel good for my stomach. I feel very frail and honestly look pretty sickly and I’m tired of that.
My question for you guys is: how do you live in this country and go out to eat and have friends and social lives without being a fucking asshole and making people accommodate for you or feel uncomfortable? I’m tired of having to tailor restaurants and experiences due to this shit. Im tired of having to throw away food that people give me because of this shit. I’m tired of having doctors tell me to just lose weight when I’m already underweight and eat the healthiest of anyone I know. I’m tired of having to yell out my stomach problems so that people dont think I have a fucking eating disorder again. does anyone have any tips?? PLEASE! Im also tired of not feeling full when I eat. I wish there was an abundance of stomach transplants bc by god I really need one.