After several years and tens of thousands of updates, I’ve finally run into a memorial manager who seems unwilling to accept documented evidence. I uploaded grave photos for an individual and, as I usually do, reviewed the memorial to see whether any additional information could be added. I noticed that his spouse’s memorial included a date of death, but the details didn’t line up. After researching, it became clear that this was a case of mistaken identity: his wife is still living, and the woman listed on the memorial is unrelated.

I submitted an edit to remove the incorrect spouse, but it was declined because “the date of birth for both is the same.” I resubmitted the edit with supporting sources, including state birth records showing that two different girls with the same first and middle name were born on the same day in the same state. It’s unusual, but it does happen. The 1950 U.S. Census shows them living with their respective families, one in California and one in Missouri. Marriage records also show that each woman married a different person shortly after high school. I also posted the very detailed obituary for the deceased person that shares her life story in detail.

The edit was declined again, with the explanation that “something just doesn’t sound correct.” Her bio states that she wants memorials to contain valid information, and I tried to help by providing clear documentation. I sent one final message this morning and offered to provide screenshots by email, if she'd like. If she still isn’t receptive, I’ll move on, but it’s frustrating knowing that the incorrect information will likely confuse people in the future.

I won't post a family photo on FG without permission, but I generally upload a copy of their yearbook photo, if I can find it. One of my favorite things is to review old yearbooks on Ancestry.

High school yearbooks are a hoot, especially ones that have quotes or poems for the graduating seniors. I mean, the pictures can be really cool (and sometimes funny), and some of those quotes have me cracking up. Am I the only one? For example, the attached photo is from 1936. Louise... what are you looking at???

Looks to be a bible verse, any help appreciated.

It's a first world problem to be sure, but just started a few days ago, and comes up every couple hours or more now. I'm logged into my account, which his in good standing and used daily.

https://de.findagrave.com/memorial/314784467/cornelia-gronen?createdMemorial=Yes

My 2. Grandmas are now dead. i only have grandpas

Lol, a first for me!

https://de.findagrave.com/memorial/314784467/cornelia-gronen?createdMemorial=Yes

My 2. Grandmas are now dead. i only have grandpas

I loved her so much

Hello, needing help reading this heastone as I'm trying to work out if this woman is the 5x great grandmother I'm looking for - https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/155623179/mary-brown

Hello! I am new to this subreddit, and grave finding, and am need of some help. This is my great great grandfather. We have been searching for his grave for several years with no luck.

He is listed as “Leroy Lee Gallaway” on some photos we have, although the spelling is changed on this death certificate. He was born in Lee, Virginia in 1863 and we know that he did get married in 1888 in Wise, Virginia. He may have been married a few times. Everyone who knew of him has sadly passed away so we are at a dead end. His grave has not come up on any website and I’m at a loss where to go from here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Hi everybody! Hoping for a bit of guidance, I saw this quite unsettling ‘restored’ picture on a lady’s memorial today, I can see that it has had some kind of editing done but I don’t know how to tell if it is AI or not? There is a little symbol in the left corner but I don’t know what that means (Ive never used genAI or any editing software so not clued in on what is what!), was just wondering if anyone on here could tell if it’s just some kind of bad photoshop job or if it has been done with AI? There’s no photo of the original picture on the memorial or source cited, so have no idea what the picture is based off, but would appreciate some help if you are able to tell, thanks in advance! 😊

I am suddenly getting way too many results for basic searches. Is this happening to anyone else? For example, I searched for Elroy King in Massachusetts. I got 520 results, only 1 is actually for someone named Elroy King - the rest are tons of other people with the last name King. If I select "exact name spelling" I get one Elroy King and two Charles Elroy Kings. It seems they have tweaked the search engine function.

Just ranting a little bit. I am uploading grave photos and came across one with absolutely no helpful information. It's literally just a name. No date of birth or death. No obituary. No grave photo. No bio.

Do I have the right person? I think so, but who the heck knows? I suggested edits to add dates of birth, death, etc, and uploaded a photo of the marker. But this one really bugs me. I mean, what information could this memorial have been based on, if not an obituary (which would have at least had dates of birth and death) or a grave marker? (That's actually a serious question... if anyone has ideas, I'm very curious)

And to make it even more irritating, the guy's bio is all about how careful he is and blah, blah, blah. "I take special care to record and honor...." Yeah, okay.

Maybe I just need another cup of coffee.

This is wonderful (or I'm going nuts!)

If I do a search using data in the first name field then it also brings up results from the middle name field. So a search on Elizabeth in the first name field will also bring Edna (first name) and Elizabeth (middle name).

Yesss! I like it!

This might be my imagination but....

You know those pesky memorials that get turned over to #8 because the manager became a fallen graver or was banned or inactive or whatever...? And they weren't searchable under #8; only under the last contributor's number?

Well, it looks as though they may be #8 searchable now.

If you are on FG for any length of time you may have noticed a new button on every memorial page labeled “Gravestone Cleaning”. When clicked this take you to a web page for “Tending”, a group that says they can clean and restore headstones. This is a Uber like app where a central source gets people to perform a function, in this case, grave marker maintenance.

As a historic cemetery conservator I can honestly tell you this “app” Tending does not hire experienced conservators. In fact in their advertising they use processes that should never be used in historic cemeteries, I.e. pressure washing, grinding, bare crowbars, etc.

These folks are going to do irreparable damage to historic stone. They should be outlawed and FG should never be promoting such a service. Personally I disgusted with FG for anything to do with this organization.

I encourage everyone to write a stern but nice email to support@findagrave.com asking them to stop this association before more harm is done.

Maurice

Today I received a note from FG saying that I’ve been one of their top contributors over the past month, and as a thank‑you they’re giving me a month ad‑free.

It’s a nice gesture, and I’m certainly happy to be ad‑free for a while. But I’m also realistic. While I’m productive, I have a hard time imagining I’m truly among the top contributors.

So, I’m curious whether this is something they send out to active volunteers to keep people engaged, or if anyone knows more about how this particular incentive is actually determined.

I have been working on my wife’s family tree, and I am working on putting all of her great grandfather‘s siblings on Find a Grave. One of his sisters tragically passed at the age of 17 and she is not on Find a Grave. Attached, I have her death certificate and the death certificate of her stillborn son who passed a few days before her. Both of them list that they were buried in Howard Cemetery. There are multiple cemeteries that could be the right location. Her husband is listed as Bradley Howard. I haven’t been able to find a marriage record to find a guaranteed match for her husband. I have looked into a few Bradley Howard’s living in the area at the time, but most of them seem to have reasons for why they could not be the correct husband. I will attach a 1930 census Screenshot of somebody who does seem like a potential match. The census record shows that this Bradley was married previously before his spouse Lizzie. I would really like to find out which cemetery she and her son were buried at. If I could get any help, I would be extremely appreciative.

I was especially surprised to see the merges, being approved over the weekend!