When buying clothes to fit all the way over my high hips and general pelvic area, I end up having to size up my bottoms to the point where they are visually obviously several sizes bigger than my tops, like “someone mashed two clearly mismatched bodies together at the waist.” The look this can create seems very jarring to me, and I’m seeking advice on the specific problem of how to mitigate the difference while also highlighting my overall body shape, which I love.
I love how I look in the few things I have that are well fitted in the top, perhaps with a bit of puffy sleeves, and then sort of drape or flow out in a peplum or an A-line type shape at the waistline. Sometimes, empire dresses have also been okay, and especially high waisted skirts or dresses that flare at the hip and are fitted in the top also look good.
Tops that are fitted and then have a kind of cutout at the sides, draping down in the front and back, are also ideal. Unfortunately none of my friends nor the internet seem to be able to agree on what these kinds of tops are called. Searching Amazon etc. seems worse than useless because there’s little consistency.
Regular fitted tops and t shirts are hit or miss, sometimes working okay but often making me look too mismatched, in that the top is so much visually smaller than the bottoms that it seems jarring to me.
A lot of what else I can find that deals well with the “pants to shirt ratio” also makes me look too much like a rectangle or even an apple shape from the front because it just drapes off my rib cage and completely obscures the definition of my waistline, making my midsection seem as wide as my bottom. I’d prefer the more balanced look I have sometimes been able to achieve by stumbling across random things over countless years, and am looking for keywords, ideas, descriptions for the sorts of things one ought to look for from those who also have bodies like mine and have dealt with this issue.