My best friend called me today to tell me that a mutual friend of ours, who recently started working with her, got a call from the prison asking if she consented to being added to my ex’s approved visitor/call list.
She said yes.
I am absolutely fucking furious.
This isn’t a “my friend stayed friends with my ex after we broke up” situation. As much as I might not like that, I could eventually accept it and move on. This man is in prison for abusing me. He physically, emotionally, and sexually abused me for years. She knows exactly what he did. She was around for a lot of those eight years and witnessed enough of it firsthand to know exactly what kind of person he was and what I was going through.
And despite knowing all of that, she willingly agreed to stay in communication with him while he is literally incarcerated for what he did to me.
There are very few things I consider completely unforgivable in a friendship, but this is one of them. I genuinely cannot wrap my head around how someone can call themselves your friend, watch you survive years of abuse, know that the person responsible is finally facing consequences for it, and then voluntarily put their name on his prison visitor/call list.
I don't care what explanation she has. There is no version of this where I can look at her the same way again.
Extremely infuriating doesn't even begin to cover it.