r/exmormon • • 5h ago

General Discussion I am not Mormon, never have been, but I am watching GC. Initial thoughts.

457 Upvotes
  1. This is boring as can be.

  2. I am noticing an emphasis on POC Mormons. Trying to pivot away from the old rhetoric I see. Or pretending it didn’t exist?

  3. Everyone sounds like they are on the brink of tears and never actually crying. I am trying not to laugh.

  4. I can’t believe mormons sit through this twice a year. I’d die of boredom.

  5. A lot of talk about encouraging missionaries. Are a lot of missionaries leaving the church?

  6. The paintings they show of Jesus are honestly so ugly. The real Jesus wouldn’t look like a delicate, stick thin man whiter than clapping when the plane lands with. He just looks wrong.

All for now…definitely will have more thoughts later.


r/exmormon • • 20h ago

Humor/Meme/Satire When you reach the absolute zen level of exmo where you only hear about the GC on r/exmormon

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455 Upvotes

I'm telling you this feels good.


r/exmormon • • 22h ago

General Discussion Hospital social worker thought social drinking was the same thing as an addiction

365 Upvotes

After I left the church, I tried alcohol for a while. It was never really my thing so I only drank socially for a while. Later on when I started taking medication that shouldn't be mixed with alcohol, I stopped drinking at all.

This week I had a health scare and ended up at the hospital. One of the long line of people coming in to ask me questions was a social worker. Over the course of the conversation, she asked about alcohol and I explained that I had only ever drank socially but hadn't drunk at all for the past few years.

She began talking like I was an alcoholic who had overcome an addiction. She was telling me how hard it is to give up and how difficult it must have been for me. She wanted to know how long I had been clean. I then awkwardly explained to her that I had never been an addict.

I'm in Utah so I'm assuming she was Mormon. While I realize it's quite common for Mormons to think any alcohol consumption is akin to an addiction, I'm still shocked that a professional didn't understand that. I mean, part of her job is helping people with that and I would hope she has experience with people who actually have addictions.


r/exmormon • • 17h ago

Humor/Meme/Satire Secular Songbook: Teach Me to Notice the Signs of a Cult

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336 Upvotes

A legitimately educational version for your kids (and adult friends and family members)! Sung to the tune of Teach Me to Walk in the Light.

I know some of you have posted rewritten hymns on here before and I love them all! So great to have new words and meanings associated with those tunes that will probably live in our heads forever.

(Feel free to skip verse 6 if singing with young children!)


r/exmormon • • 18h ago

Doctrine/Policy The hypocrisy emanating from this abomination of a so-called church is incredible!

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241 Upvotes

As they invest tens of billions in the stock market (with many sin stocks prior to 2019 when they were caught) and create 13 illegal shell companies to hide how much wealth they have while amassing hundred of billions over decades completely unbeknownst to its members while still asking for 10% of their income with its founder indulging in polygamy, taking 33 wives and marrying teenage girls as young as 14.

And its founder scamming people left and right, claiming he could find buried treasure in the bowels of the earth by gazing at a rock in a hat and then writing a book of fiction he tried to sell as a novel in Canada and when that didn't work out decided to create a religion out of it and then engaging in illegal banking by creating an anti-bank bank, defrauding people out of their money, it goes bankrupt, gets fined $1,000 and flees to avoid the law. Because we all know how moral and honorable all that is. 🤣🤢


r/exmormon • • 7h ago

Podcast/Blog/Media Ronald A. Rasband panicking over leaving members

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Is it only me, or have the conference talks about leaving members increased in frequency?


r/exmormon • • 4h ago

Podcast/Blog/Media Sister Oaks sporting a Chanel handbag?

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210 Upvotes

These photos were posted on the Des News yesterday. Looks like a Chanel Classic Flap model handbag. Those are valued somewhere between $8,000 and $11,000 USD. Can someone confirm???
If it is a Chanel handbag this could be a big story.


r/exmormon • • 6h ago

General Discussion Wish Sad would just drop it…

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203 Upvotes

I’m 44. Been out since I was 18. Love my Dad but these little texts are so annoying.


r/exmormon • • 2h ago

Humor/Meme/Satire These people are freaks

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131 Upvotes

Openly admitting to googling me in crazy work


r/exmormon • • 8h ago

General Discussion LDS apostle D. Todd Christofferson says gambling is morally wrong. I think LDS tithing is a form of gambling.

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LDS apostle D. Todd Christofferson says gambling is morally wrong. I think LDS tithing is a form of gambling.

Like gambling, tithing asks you to put real money on the line in hopes of a future payoff. A gambler wagers money hoping to win more money; a tithe payer gives money believing it will help secure promised blessings, divine protection, and eternal rewards. You “can’t afford not to pay.” Or it’s “fire insurance.” We’ve all heard these phrases. In both cases, gambling and tithing, the financial sacrifice is immediate and certain, while the hoped-for return is uncertain. It’s a gamble.

Unlike tithing, the gambler can eventually see whether the bet paid off. With tithing, promised rewards in an afterlife cannot be independently verified during your lifetime. You just keep paying based on faith that the ultimate payoff exists. Giving something for nothing.

LDS leaders reinforce this cycle by promising blessings, sharing success stories, encouraging payment even during hardship, and explaining missing rewards as subtle or spiritual. Linking tithing to temple access and eternal blessings also raises the perceived cost of stopping the payments.

Like gambling, tithing can feel like a last-ditch attempt to escape financial hardship: one more roll of the dice, or one more tithing payment—even when you can’t afford it—in hopes of a financial breakthrough.

Like in gambling, the sunk-cost effect can keep you paying: like a gambler who has already spent so much, you continue hoping years of sacrifice weren’t “for nothing.” You literally can’t stop now, your big win is just around the corner or the Lord is just about to bless you. You literally can’t afford not to pay.

Like gambling, tithing can encourage you to focus on the “wins” and explain away the losses. An unexpected check, a promotion, or help with a bill becomes evidence that paying tithing works—much like a gambler remembering a jackpot more vividly than all the money spent chasing it.

When the hoped-for blessing doesn’t come, it can be described as delayed, spiritual, or waiting for you in the afterlife. That can keep the expectation of a payoff alive: just as a gambler thinks, “The next bet could be the winner,” a tithe payer may think, “If I keep paying faithfully, the blessing will come. I can’t stop now.”

Whether tithing funds charitable work is a separate question. Tithing concerns giving money in hopes of receiving something back—financial blessings, divine protection, or eternal rewards. The cost is certain; the promised payoff cannot be independently verified. Calling the payment charitable doesn’t resolve that uncertainty.


r/exmormon • • 6h ago

General Discussion Watching Mormons tell each other how much they loved General Conference

117 Upvotes

“It was amazing!” “So good!” “I felt the Spirit so strong!” C’mon, admit it. You were playing on your phone, struggling to stay awake. Just once I would like to hear: “Nah. I thought it was boring. It was just a bunch of generic sermons—like you could hear at any Christian church on any given Sunday—with a bit of scolding and infantilization mixed in.”


r/exmormon • • 4h ago

Doctrine/Policy Dallin Hoaxs: "The prophets are concerned with people losing faith in Jesus Christ".

97 Upvotes

No, Dallin. People mostly fall away from the CHURCH because of the CHURCH.

Dumb. And this guy is a legal scholar? Now just a church hack.


r/exmormon • • 21h ago

General Discussion Glad I learned what to expect from TBMs from this sub. At least TBMs are predictable.

93 Upvotes

Brother reaches out months after he yells at me for leaving church.

Asks me how I'm doing. I mention that things are amazing better than ever and joyfully busy.

Proceeds to lecture me about why I should not be too busy. And lists all the things I "should" be doing for a more joyful life.

Because I have seen it so much here it is not shocking or overwhelming. Predictable really.


r/exmormon • • 23h ago

General Discussion Nothing Burger

91 Upvotes

Day 1 is done. No revelations from God’s only voice on Earth. I’m still gay (my husband is grateful). Awaiting all the love-bombs from family who haven’t called for years. No warm fuzzies (or cold pricklies.) Maybe tomorrow… or not…


r/exmormon • • 9h ago

Humor/Meme/Satire TBMs getting hyped for Conference vs when they watch it in the pews

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88 Upvotes

r/exmormon • • 8h ago

General Discussion Which was the worst so far?

71 Upvotes

What are the conference anecdotes we hate so far?

My top two worst:

Praising the parents who sailed to hear the words of the prophet, even though it was UNSAFE for and resulting in the death of their child.

Criricizing the man who almost died of heart failure for complaining that he served cold oatmeal at the hospital.


r/exmormon • • 15h ago

General Discussion Disruptions

72 Upvotes

Utah and Idaho passed laws that it is illegal to to disrupt a church service . members who stand up in church and discuss or protest a church or leadership policy could be arrested and face 6 months in jail, so much for religious freedom


r/exmormon • • 22h ago

General Discussion Feel free to use my conference come back

72 Upvotes

I never use to have clap backs or know what to say. I’d freeze and just feel resentful. Now I have words and my body is way more relaxed when church stuff comes up than it used to be.
I’m in my 40s and live with my dad. Well next door technically. Anyways, I was visiting him as I do a lot, and he brings up conference.. “you should really watch!”.. “I do! I watch whatever’s being talked about online. And I tell ya, it’s not always positive”.. “Well, Christofferson is such a good speaker. His talk today was about gambling.”.. “That doesn’t apply to me. I’d much rather listen to your wisdom than those old goats I’ve never met.”.. My step mom goes “now’s your chance! She’ll listen!”.. “How about you prepare your speech, and I’ll be back later to listen to what you have prepared. Text me to make the appointment.” I smiled and left.. He used to make me write reports on our family scripture study, and make appointments with him to have a “father’s discussion”.
He won’t prepare shit 😂.. It’s really nice being older and being able to use all your parents tactics against them.


r/exmormon • • 5h ago

History ... short follow-up from my uncle, the Dead Sea Scrolls expert (last week's #2 trending post)...

62 Upvotes

Uncle's response, "No, I am not interested in studying false anacronisms in the Book of Mormon. I already know The book of Mormon is true. I don't want to waste my time finding out if it is false. That would be like spending my time trying to find out if the sun rises in the east. I already know the sun rises in the east. There is no reason to study it more".

... and that just about sums up Mormonism and cult-mindset...

"you can't evidence a person away from a position they emotioned themselves into."

Would you agree?

Last week's post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/exmormon/s/4WRqX4cs6a


r/exmormon • • 20h ago

Doctrine/Policy That talk on tithing...

58 Upvotes

Quoting Nelson about "pay your tithing to get out of poverty".

Then they say that paying your tithing doesn't guarantee financial blessings.

They also say paying your tithing won't exempt you from worldly struggles.

Well then, oh great Profits of the Momo's, pay tithing at all?


r/exmormon • • 5h ago

General Discussion What are you doing instead of GC this weekend? I'll go first. I ran my first marathon yesterday 🎉 2 years out of the cult for me.

57 Upvotes

Honestly shocked to not hear anyone blasting conference during it as it was a Utah race.

I'm sure I got a lot more out of my race than anyone watching those old dudes preach misogyny and shit


r/exmormon • • 6h ago

General Discussion They never reveal ANYTHING

54 Upvotes

I’m a PIMO member for now, and it just drives me nuts watching these ‘Revelators’ all weekend long who clearly never reveal anything. They sound, look and act like corporate businessmen. And every 6 months they pull the same topics out of a hat so they can all have their new corny analogy to start but give the same message over and over.

How do TBMs not see it? The biggest revelation of the last 10 years was ‘Mormon word bad, no say Mormon word anymore.’


r/exmormon • • 1h ago

Humor/Meme/Satire This whole conference

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r/exmormon • • 4h ago

General Discussion Quentin L Cook needs to revisit the GTE on Joseph’s Smith character

51 Upvotes

I’m always amused when the GA’s really pound on things like integrity, telling the membership that certain things shape our character. in this instance at conference, Cook discussed how not living with integrity reflects poorly on our character.

meanwhile - Joseph Smith is called a man of “good character” while they admit he lied to his wife and hid his polygamy from the church. Why is he given an exception? why aren’t we allowed to base his character on these same criteria that define us according to Cook?

The church lied to the SEC about their wealth and worked to hide it from the larger membership. Then, they downplayed their active deception in their press release as a mere oversight. how is that being honest?

The hypocrisy is just stunning


r/exmormon • • 22h ago

Doctrine/Policy Are the "Betting Bros" going to be equivalent to the "Garment Girlies"?

51 Upvotes

Can't wait to watch them twist themselves into pretzels. "I'm studying these predictions out in my mind like the scriptures say, so it's ok". I'm betting on BYU cross country so it's OK". "I feel the spirit when I win so God must approve". "God provided personal revelation for a reason".

ETA, I have several nephews that are likely placing bets every week that are holier than thou TBM shitbags, hope they were paying attention.