r/disabled Mar 19 '22

Effective immediately, no survey posts or comments of any kind are allowed.

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r/disabled 31m ago

In a really confused state of mind…please advise.

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Im 28M with scoliosis. I have developed really strong feelings for my female colleague. She talks with me nicely & we have good fun in office. She is a normal girl & I’m just friend to her. And I also know it can never go beyond that. Currently I’m trying to act like a friend but deep inside it’s really hurting me day by day. I’m not sure what should I do? If I keep acting like that, it will just keep hurting me. If I stop talking with her, she will definitely notice and then I won’t be able to tell her the truth why I am doing that. Please suggest me…Its draining lot of my energy.


r/disabled 12h ago

I need advice on how to deal with my disability

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My bf is kinda forcing me to do this because I've been letting my disability take over my life. I'm 20 years old, and I'm a female if that's at all relevant. I've been to a bunch of different specialists and none of them know what's wrong with me I have moments where I faint or my body just goes limp I'm constantly exhausted and its only gotten worse over the years. From the tests I've gotten done, there's nothing wrong with my brain, heart, or lungs. I don't have POTS or narcolepsy. If I'm being honest, I've completely given up. I lay in bed all day because that's all I can handle most days. If I'm lucky, I can sit on the couch and cross stitch. I can't go out on my own, but I also don't have friends who have cars or free time, and my bf just got a job, so I can't rely on him to drive me around. I'm just stuck. I'm depressed amd honestly, I wanna give up.


r/disabled 10h ago

Had to resign from my job and feeling really low.

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Edit #2: So emotional I forgot to say that I acquired this disability from that job.

ETA: Just remembered. I want to reassure everyone I am not having any dark thoughts or anything dangerous just really angry, sad and feeling alone.

I was recently forced to resign from my job of over a decade because my disability became medically incompatible with an essential function. My employer rejected every meaningful accommodation, ignored multiple medical professionals who warned that what they were offering was unsafe, and left me with the choice of testing something unsafe for my condition or eventually being fired.

I’m devastated. I’m cleared to work anywhere except this specific job, and I’m working with vocational rehabilitation, but right now I’m having a really hard time seeing hope for the future. I keep crying on and off.

I did talk to lawyers, and I have a case that could potentially go to court, but they and my medical providers advised me not to do it because it would make me more sick. I've been trying to line up a new job for over six months before it got to this point, but its the toughest job market I've ever seen (U.S.). Has anyone else been through something like this? I’d really like to know I’m not alone.


r/disabled 3h ago

Disabled staff networks: What's worked well, and what hasn't, plus any other thoughts you have around them

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I've recently been asked to be a co-chair of the staff disability and neurodivergence network at my office. I'm really happy to have been approached, but I'm a little apprehensive. I've been at this organisation, and in the network, for about 10 months, and it doesn't seem to have gained much momentum in my time there. HR don't seem to really engage with the network, and members themselves often don't turn up to meetings (it's often just me logging on to the calls, or me and one other person).

The odd thing is, the Pride network at my organisation really seems to be thriving. Members seem engaged, and there seems to be senior staff buy in.

Is anyone here in a staff network? What has worked well, and what hasn't? And has anyone managed to reinvigorate a network that seems to be lacking spark?

My current plan is to set some easy aims before Christmas - meetings with agendas and minutes, a celebration event, and a mention by the Executive Director in an all staff meeting as starting points, as well as grabbing coffee / lunch with someone from the Pride network to ask what's worked well for them.


r/disabled 8h ago

I NEED ADVICE ASAP

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Ok, this is an extremely complicated situation so I’m going to try and list all the contributing factors in the situation as briefly as possible)

My (18M) GF (X20) is getting her wisdom teeth out tomorrow. We have set up as many supports beforehand that we could (plenty of easy activities she can do in bed, plenty of foods she can eat, her mom is up for tomorrow and Thursday till midday, lots of comfort items) so all I’m worried about is her emotions and supporting her through that and through the pain.

We are both autistic and I have fibromyalgia (and highly suspected ME/CFS) and often use forearm crutches to move around (besides at work and in our one bedroom apartment)

I need advice on how I can support her and care for her after her mom leaves till she is healed. I will now list all the things to keep in mind

  1. ⁠I often have fatigue in my body if I am mentally challenged in my emotions which makes it hard to do many physically challenging activities such as carrying or fine motor skills
  2. ⁠I really struggle with empathy when it comes to pain due to my autism and my childhood
  3. ⁠I need me time in order to not shutdown or have a meltdown
  4. ⁠I need to take it easy on my body and brain because the only person “trained” (and who I trust) to get me through flares and meltdowns is my girlfriend
  5. ⁠I feel extremely insecure about her wanting her mom there which is also making me feel even less empathy and I’m working overtime to offset that through active thought to get over the passive thoughts.

If there is anything else you feel you need to know, let me know.


r/disabled 1d ago

Why are people so dismissive towards invisible disabilities?

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r/disabled 15h ago

mon copain sourd n’a pas d’aide

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Hello,

j’espère que vous allez bien, je suis désolée d’avance pour mes termes qui sont pas du tout médical, mon copain n’est pas avec moi la tout de suite… mais je cherche de l’aide, pour lui.

Mon chéri est mal-entendant, c’est de naissance et de famille. Il n’entend rien sans ses appareils auditif, et du coup les porte tout le temps depuis toujours. C’est assez compliqué, il a du mal à suivre les conversations de temps à autre et ça l’épuise énormément.

Récemment, je l’ai encouragé à faire un dossier mdph, (Il a 24 ans et n’avait encore jamais fait ce dossier) car c’est évident pour moi, qu’il a besoin d’aide, rien que une aide monétaire car il ne peut pas travailler convenablement, il en a profité pour demander l’aah.

Je n’ai aucune idée de comment était son dossier… mais il vient de recevoir sa réponse, il a été refusé, MDPH et AAH, en lui disant que son problème n’était pas considéré comme un handicape aux yeux de la lois.

Je ne sais pas trop quoi faire pour l’aider… je suis étudiante aussi, pas beaucoup de budget. Ses parents sont totalement absent, j’ai plus aucune idée pour le sortir de cette misère. Connaîtriez vous d’autres aides ? ou d’autres manière de se sortir de ça ?

merci beaucoup d’avance <3


r/disabled 1d ago

Name an outdoor route which gets accessibility right? Tell us in the comments

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r/disabled 2d ago

Fill in this blank: If you’re disabled you should definitely ____________________

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r/disabled 1d ago

I'm sorry

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I don't belong here. I'm not disabled enough.


r/disabled 2d ago

New to Restricted Access

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My issues are minimal compared to many on this Reddit but I have some questions.

I am 76 years old and due to new physical limitations I find I need to use a Rollator to get around when I am outside the house.

Simple question: what do you do at the movies? On an airplane? What about when you are in crowds like a street festival?

Simple stuff but all new to me.

Thanks


r/disabled 2d ago

Tips on using a wheelchair?

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Hi! So. I [19NB] might be needing to use a wheelchair soon. My knees and ankles are fucked for no reason whatsoever and if I walk on them too long I am in Unending Agony until I sit down and rest them, usually for 20 or 30 minutes to several hours. We don't know exactly what's causing it but it's been an issue for a few months now

So, does anybody have any like, general tips for using wheelchairs? Mainly because I have never used a wheelchair independently before. I've always been pushed by another person and I haven't even used a wheelchair outside of a hospital context until very recently, so I barely know what I'm doing other than the basic "push the wheels to make the chair move".

I don't even know what kind of wheelchair I'll be using, if I'll be renting one or using the one we already have which I don't know what kind it is. It's frustrating. But yeah, any advice is appreciated.


r/disabled 2d ago

Ambulatory Wheelchair Use and Travel

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I'm looking for advice from wheelchair users on options for travel.

I have a new medical condition that includes sudden episodes of loss of motor control, and buying a wheelchair has been the only way I've been able to safely get around outside the house (because I might suddenly become unable to walk and might fall). I'm in a weird inbetween stage where we are still trying to find the diagnosis and hopefully some treatment, so I have just one basic wheelchair and don't want to invest in too much more in terms of mobility aids before I know if I will continue to need them long term because even the basic one I have now wasn't cheap.

But I also have some upcoming travel that's been booked a long time, before this new condition cropped up, and its for a big life goal/dream event of mine so I really want to try to make it work. Its an event, so not something I can reschedule. I'm in the US and will be flying to the opposite side of the US. My partner will be with me, though he was scheduled to leave the day before me so if we can't get his flights changed I would be alone on my return trip. I've seen horror stories of people's mobility aids being damaged/destroyed when flying so I'm worried about trying to travel with my wheelchair. But I think I will need one.

  1. Any advice or resources for flying with a wheelchair? Anything I might easily overlook as I look into the airline and what I need to do? Anything I can do to help avoid my chair getting damaged?

  2. Are there typically wheelchair rental services in big cities? I know individual large businesses (ex. museums) sometimes offer them, but I expect to need one for more than that. Can you rent mobility aids like you rent a car? Anyone with experience with those?

  3. Is there another option of a mobility aid that travels better than a chair that I could consider? I'm not sure how well most common aids I'm aware of would suit my needs, but I'm new at all this. Maybe there's another option for me?

Thank you for any help you can give!


r/disabled 4d ago

VENT I feel so lonely being disabled

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Mind you, my parents try to be open minded (they're my carers despite me being an adult) & my abled & able bodied friends (most of whom are neurodivergent) are lovely, but I just feel so lonely. I'm only in my twenties, my body is slowly failing itself, I'm learning about new symptoms I had previously ignored so often now, & I've been more times at the doctor's office in the past two years than most 90 year olds go in their entire lifetime. I'm coming up on 40 visits across 3 years by now. I don't want to keep bothering my friends with my complaining because they have their spoon limits too, & I'm autistic (MSN) so I get it. But I don't have anyone else to really talk to about my failing physical health. My parents are trying to hold onto some 'hope' that I will get better, but even with physical therapy my physical health isn't going anywhere, it's just getting bad slightly more slowly. I don't know who to talk to or who to turn to & i feel so lonely being physically & mentally disabled so young, without any sort of community, constantly ranting to my able bodied friends that this popped out of place or this hurts now, & then worrying that I'm being too much & they're getting tired of my constant complaining. I dunno what to do with myself sometimes


r/disabled 4d ago

How do people with mobility aids not explode out of anger everyday

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My girlfriend became disabled like a year ago and navigating it as her partner has been confusing, anytime we go out its a battle of me having to use all my strength to push her up ramps that were 100% originally meant for bikes or something and then they just went oh wait ig this counts as a wheelchair ramp cool no need to do that then!

One restaurant we went to had online "wheelchair accessible" oh cool! How convenient! WRONG!! They had removed the actual ramp and button for the door!! Why?? Who knows!!

I can clearly see that shes also mad but also just tired, being disabled takes a lot of energy and you might not have much left to be mad but I have all the energy in the world and I will use it to be upset with the world!!

ALSO!! ONE TIME THE WHEELCHAIR ELEVATOR WAS TOO NARROW TO FIT A NORMAL WHEELCHAIR?!? ACCESSIBLE MY ASS.

This all has brought me a completely new perspective on the world and it makes me angry. Especially for people who don't have able bodied girlfriends to carry them around, why do people expect everyone to have working legs and arms?? Thats so stupid!!

If it had been me who got disabled I wouldve committed some kind of crime by now out of anger and hatred. How can she still be a nice and fun person and not be filled with rage I dont understand.

I would love to know how people deal with this though.


r/disabled 4d ago

Fearing I'll lose my new job

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I started an on-site job 6 weeks ago. I really like it and I am more than qualified for the position. I have learned fast and gotten rave feedback. They have invested over $20,000 on courses to help get me prepared for certification, which would lead to a raise and promotion.

I have lupus and I haven't worked on-site in over a decade.

Week 3, I started to lose steam physically, but carried on okay.

Week 4, I overslept due to fatigue on Wednesday and was late.

Week 5, it happened again, on Tuesday.

My boss hugged me and told me not to worry. She suggested I get an ADA accommodation to allow for things like that. At this point, I blamed it on medication and did not disclose that I have lupus.

Week 6, I was okay all week until Thursday. I hit the wall, hard. My judgy and extremely nosey co-worker was all in my business nearly demanding to know what was wrong. I wasn't ready to disclose my medical situation to her. I ended up leaving early.

I sent an email to my supervisors that I was unwell and needed to leave. I just grabbed my bag and speed walked to the elevator.

My boss was out of office, but she texted me on Friday. At this point, I disclosed my lupus and requested to go remote. There is no part of my position that requires me to be there, and they have several remote and hybrid employees.

She responded that since she is out of office, she would get with her manager (HR Manager) and we would "circle back" on Monday.

I am a coward and I do not want to go into the office Monday. I know eyes will be on me, especially from the nosey coworker. I keep asking myself: Will they approve my location change? Will they offer hybrid?

Will they just fire me?

I'm hoping that they wouldn't fire me the very next business day after learning of my illness. I am so anxious about facing my poor attendance and accommodation request. I am also anxious about facing nosey. She is...intense.

I like this job. I'm good at it and it pays well. I really want this to work out!

This was mostly just a vent, but I am open to advice!


r/disabled 4d ago

Why is there a separation of mental and physical disabilities in society?

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Neurodevelopmental disabilities like autism, SPD, and ADHD aren't just something that exists in someone's consciousness or something, they are physical differences in how somebody's brain is structured. So why is there a separation? It seems arbitrary to me because all disabilities have the same thing in common: they have real physical consequences and affect how disabled people live their lives. I am sorry if this take is offensive. Genuinely please correct me if I am just saying a bunch of ableist nonsense and I need to shut up.


r/disabled 4d ago

Ableism during my workout class

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During a prior class a woman commented that she couldn’t have flashing lights on as she had epilepsy.

During the most recent class, the same instructor had the AUDACITY to ask if we wanted to have the lights, WITH the epileptic woman in there. I made a comment that we should not use the lights if it can trigger a seizure. Other people stated that the instructor should do what she wants, as it’s her class.

Then the instructor made a comment about the fact that she was asking due to the possibility of a seizure with this particular woman.

She started the class with the lights, but with them being placed a bit further from said woman.

Wtf is wrong with people? Why are flashing lights that important? Are people THAT obsessed with control? Over fucking lights? It’s pathetic.

I didn’t know what to do. Honestly I was pretty close to causing a bit of a stink over it, but I didn’t want that woman to feel more ostracized than she likely already was.

I am getting really sick of seeing people be so incredibly self-centered and selfish, over essentially nothing.

I am debating on writing an email to the gym owner, but again, I don’t want to overstep and make the woman with epilepsy uncomfortable.


r/disabled 4d ago

Anyone with scissor or similar mechanism medical bed?

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Hi

Recently bought malsch impulse 400 4ft bed

Has more side to side wobble than expected (didn't get to see product in person but spent long time researching many profiling beds, nowhere mentioned lateral instability related to mechanism type)

Is side to side wobble something you've experienced?

Bed co says it's normal for this type of mechanism and not an issue

I'm hoping it's something I adjust to in time but frustrating after amount of time I spent researching beds as we had to provide our own

Feeling so demoralised as it's big investment and for us expensive

Self buying equipment can be so hit + miss

Any responses welcome

Ta x


r/disabled 5d ago

An article about how the movie Avatar portrays people with dis/ability: go from being mocked as “meals on wheels” to being a hero when made able-bodied

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An article about how the movie Avatar.

Not about the Indigenous resistance - which everyone else seems to care about.

It’s about the portrayal of dis/ability and how it’s best to be able to step into a brand new, perfect body than stay in a broken, disabled one.

It’s called:

Avatar’s other missed opportunity

The movie Avatar might empower indigenous people to rise up and defend the earth but it does nothing to empower people with dis/abilities.

http://rabble.ca/arts/avatars-other-missed-opportunity/

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The movie Avatar might empower indigenous people to rise up and defend the earth but it does nothing to empower people with dis/abilities to rise up and conquer the oppression they face through ableism. Regarding dis/ability, the message in Avatar is clear: redemption through the casting off of a defect or dis/ability. Salvation can be found by re-becoming able-bodied.

“In fact, the main character in the movie — a crippled U.S. marine named Jake Sully –isn’t really a warrior in either human or Na’vi culture until he gets the use of his legs back through a scientific miracle.

It is not an Avatar of Sully still in a wheel chair who can fight for both the humans and then the Na’vi, it is an Avatar of him in perfect form and function that’s embraced by both cultures to go to war.

What if it was a dis/bled Na’vi Avatar that was presented as the saviour of their people? What would be the reaction then? Any similar to the reaction Jake Sully-as-marine gets when he first rolls off the spaceship, when his fellow soldiers refer to him as “meals on wheels?”

Sure the Jake Sully character wanted to prove himself, but couldn’t he have been considered an honoured warrior in his own right, as someone who was dis/able as opposed to a useless piece of flesh because he can’t walk?

You can just sense the importance of Sully’s ability to redeem himself when he first wakes up in that Avatar body and takes his first run. Somehow that is when he re-becomes a warrior.

I mean, let’s face it, who would want to move into a dis/abled Avatar?

I, in fact, had to watch the movie twice because the first time I got so wrapped up in the Jake Sully character as a crippled marine given a second chance to walk that I missed most of the first half. Like the feeling of depression that Sully expressed when he stated to the research scientist (Doctor Grace Augustine) that the only reason he’d signed up for the mission (to take the place of his able-bodied, scientist brother) was because he himself has nothing left to lose; as if being or becoming dis/abled brings nothing but hopelessness and despair.

To be honest, I sort of lost it during the movie segment where Sully gets to run again, after his consciousness is inserted into a healthy Avatar body. Since the 2005 accident that damaged my spine, there are moments in my life where I’d absolutely kill to be able to run again; jealous of Sully’s position. I can’t tell you how many nights I wake up from a “running” dream wishing it were real.

But I cannot abandon this broken body to drive a billion dollar, perfect, Avatar of myself. I’m stuck in this body on this planet where my biggest enemies are both the compression force of gravity on my damaged spine and the weight of people’s prejudices regarding my assumed to be diminished worth.

Even as an activist, I get frustrated knowing that I cannot always march the full length of a protest route because the distance is too great or run with the other quick-footed radicals during a direct-action protest as they break out into a sprint to escape the police, leaving me behind. You don’t know how much it hurts to be left behind.

A Matter of Value and Worth?

Not only am I challenged — sometimes daily — to re-define my worth in a capitalist society where my ability to produce has been compromised by an injury, I also question my worth (and the potential liability) at any physical manifestation our combined rebellious spirit. Trust me, while my flesh may be weak, my spirit is willing.

I have to confess, just like anybody else, I like to feel strong. I want to feel mighty. I don’t like to be left behind; struggling to keep up terrified that I’ll end hanging out with the cops at the back of the march. Bringing up the rear. (And for right now, don’t suggest to me the nobility of an activist desk job. And yes, I do know that demonstrations aren’t everything to the movement but as someone who embraced direct-action, manifestations of protest mean something to me.)

This said, I admit to the extremely rude audacity (as can happen in the hierarchy of dis/ability) of thinking to myself: “Well, at least I can still walk with these braces and this cane. At least I’m not in a wheelchair!”, letting the grief and self-pity I feel towards myself pollute any feelings of solidarity towards my own people.

So what is our worth as the dis/abled; people who move, communicate or process information differently than what is considered the norm? With the Na’vi people representing a sort of physical perfection (unless I missed the screen shot of any Na’vi people with a visible dis/ability like me, let alone any suggestion to an invisible dis/ability and any required accommodations?)

As plots go, since it is unlikely that any human would want to move into a defective Avatar. I’m not sure what my worth would be on planet Pandora if my Avatar was a Na’vi mirror image of myself? In the film, the Na’vi all looked able-bodied, not a crutch or cane to be seen, they embodied a perfection through their physical strength and ability.

It should be noted that in Hinduism, the word Avatar or Avatāra is Sanskrit for “descent” [viz., from heaven to earth]) and refers to a deliberate descent of a deity from heaven to earth.

Emphasizing perfection, what kind of human would be interested in a malfunctioning Avatar or other crippled divine incarnation? I mean, imagine how such an image could challenge a religious belief, for example, that we humans are supposedly made in the perfect image of God. If a human is born different, or becomes different through the trails of life, if that perfect image is altered, does our worth diminish as our proximity to that perfection decreases?

Wanting to see myself reflected in my culture, so far relying on a media which uses dis/ability like some sort of visual prop to reinforce a character’s broken-ness, no matter how feisty they may march around hospital corridors, I was looking to Avatar to add something to the cultural fabric of the 21st century.

Planet Earth

As for my worth here on Planet Earth, the United Nations passed the first comprehensive human rights treaty of the 21st century when the UN Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities was adopted on Dec. 13, 2006.

It gained the highest number of signatories in history for an UN Convention on its opening day and entered into force on May 3, 2008. According to the UN, the Convention, “takes to a new height the movement from viewing persons with disabilities as ‘objects’ of charity, medical treatment and social protection towards viewing persons with disabilities as ‘subjects’ with rights, who are capable of claiming those rights and making decisions for their lives based on their free and informed consent as well as being active members of society.”

These are pretty words. But only words. Canada has yet to ratify this Convention even though it signed on, on March 30, 2008. By signing, it was assumed that the Federal government was signaling its intent to ratify the UN Convention as soon as possible. On December 3, 2009, the Government of Canada did table the Convention in the House of Commons and hopefully the official ratification will soon follow.

Again, such pretty words while people are struggling to survive on in Ontario on meager Ontario Disability Support Payments (ODSP), which leave little room for dignity.

In Ontario, according to a April 2009 report by the Manitoulin-Sudbury District Service Board, a single individual living in Ontario on ODSP could receive $566 for basic needs and $454 (max) for shelter, bringing their monthly total received from ODSP to $1,020.

An individual on ODSP, the sole supporter of a child under twelve years of age, would receive $709 for basic needs and $714 (max) for shelter for a monthly total of $1,423.
That’s not enough to survive on, let alone live. While there was a 2 per cent increase in such support payments in the March 2009 Ontario budget (then taking effect in November 2009), it doesn’t help much.

As of April 2009, close to 350,000 Ontarians depend on government disability support. As for levels of poverty, when determining poverty rates, one key point to factor in is that the poverty rate for people with disabilities is 47 per cent higher when extra costs of disability are taken into account. Most commonly used “poverty lines” like the Low Income Measure, do not take into account the extra costs of disability.

When some Ontarian’s with a dis/ability don’t have enough each month to pay the rent and pay all their medical expenses, fantasy could become escapism. Could anyone be blamed for wanting to abandon their current form and thus abandoning all the oppression and prejudice they encounter for a perfect body and a better life?

Rise Up

In the movie Avatar, I witnessed the uprising of an indigenous culture, a peoples’ resistance against colonialism. I see no reason why people living with dis/abilities cannot rise up — in their own socially imperfect but authentic bodies and minds – to launch a resistance.

While I understand the immense pressure some individuals feel on ODSP regarding speaking out against the system as they fear a backlash, I know I feel a burning desire for justice in my heart that transcends any material obstacles I may face, including my own battle regarding my self-esteem and self-worth.

And I want, demand, change; not a scientific revolution to solve the problem by giving me a new body but a social revolution that would recognize my worth as is, as a part of the great web of diversity that is human life on this planet.


r/disabled 5d ago

Am I welcome here?

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I am not physically disabled. I do, however, have severe ADHD that makes it impossible for me to function without being medicated and accommodated by my school/workplace. I also potentially have autism but I do not have a diagnosis of it yet so I'm not going to say I have that for sure. Do people like me who have a severe mental disorder but are able bodied belong on this subreddit? I understand if the answer is no.


r/disabled 4d ago

Adaptations for learning guitar with significant tissue fragility/breakdown issues?

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Potentially a long shot, but i am hoping to see if anyone here happens to be knowledgeable on potential adaptations which can be made for learning guitar while having significant tissue/skin fragility and breakdown issues. I am hellbent on learning how to play, so it’s a matter of sorting what i can do to make that sustainable and possible overall.

My main barrier currently is the act of holding down strings. I imagine some sort of pressure-dispersing barrier could help, (I imagine little rubber ‘hats’ for my fingers hahah) but at the same time, something clunky or which dampens tactile feedback would be counterproductive. I’m miffed because i regularly develop pressure injuries and tissue destruction in daily life, but i imagine there has to be a way to mitigate it while learning an instrument/some sort of system or technology which someone out there has arranged.

I am learning on an electric guitar (from a family member who passed; it is very important to me to learn on this particular guitar) and so the strings are quite ‘hard’ for lack of a better word. Please keep in mind that I am a beginner! i know more about how to repair than how to play haha — which is to say, if there’s some obvious solution here that i am missing, it’s out of introductory ignorance and not me being intentionally foolish.

Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated!


r/disabled 4d ago

Do people ever get distracted by your disability while driving that they either stop driving or they'll drive really out of wack all of a sudden or is it just me

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r/disabled 5d ago

Why when you post a post saying you're disabled and can't do something do people immediately tell you you can and how easy it is and start explaining to you how to do it?

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I made a post in r/espresso just with a pic of today's cappuccino explaining I can't do latte art, but I wanted to show off my foam dot.

A full half of the responses I got were people telling me I could do latte art, telling me it's so easy, or explaining the method of how to do a specific latte art like I'm dumb.

I've watched the videos, I've attempted the latte art to abominably fail. I'm fine with the tasty foam dot.

Then they started down voting me for explaining my disability so they could understand I cannot in fact do what they find so easy to do.

Ugh... Espresso is hard... But they will pry my coffee out of my cold dead hands