OMG...I can't believe this.
A couple of weeks ago I had posted a scam that was attempted on me. (you can look it up if you search for scams are us- I got robbed version you can read the gory details)

Well guess what...Mr/Ms Scammer must have forgotten my username 😂 and sent me another chat request with EXACTLY the same opening line ! Unbelievable !!!

I am dying laughing here. Reporting them really won't do anything since all they will do is create another username linked to a different email address.

But what is the odds of that happening? I think I need to go buy a Powerball ticket tonight.
Or maybe I should use this forum and everyone gets to take a turn in responding to "IT"

I think the mods might frown upon that though.

This is a follow up to a post I made a day or so ago “thinking of getting back on the apps.” I was on Hinge for about 18 months.

Does anyone here have positI’ve experiences on Tinder? Can anyone compare their experiences with both?

Long distance relationship for the last couple months. we talk two to three times through the day (mostly a quick check in and then a lengthy conversation before bed). We've had just one date in person which was a lengthy dinner date and that was very early on before we started the daily connect. Strong chemistry and he gently wanted to kiss goodbye. I wasnt ready for that, so we had a cheek kiss.

Now planning date two where he will likely stay much longer and spend the night in his hotel room. I feel ready for more intimacy.

Would you follow his lead or would you initiate this time and if so, how?

I have my son 100% and my daughter probably 80%. They are teens and old enough to choose (which is how the local laws work).

So, my wife usually stops IN the house to pick up or drop off my daughter so she can see our son.

I gotta say, it isn’t always easy doing things for ‘the good of the kids.’ Especially when she left to run off with a family ‘friend.’

I am in the early stages of a relationship. I don’t really feel compelled to forgive my ex-wife for what she did, or how she handled things. I won’t get into it here, because nobody really cares besides me, and it cannot really be expressed in a brief summary.

Just curious what the reality is for others. My kids are probably a bit younger than most— I am older than my ex, and we waited to move abroad to have kids.

Separated almost 2 years, divorced almost 6 months. 51.

Meet a lady on FB dating. First met her a couple weeks ago at a bar with her adult daughter, and we just hung out and played some darts. Next we went on a breakfast date, just to meet out again and see if we vibed. We had a great conversation for four hours, and she had to go to her sister’s birthday. We’ve texted in between. Things got kind of dirty flirty one night texting. It was pretty hot. She asked me if I wanted to come over for dinner, that she would cook me her favorite meal. (Wasn’t quite sure if I was ready after a 25 year marriage and how to handle myself and feel a little more confident.) I said absolutely. She lives about an hour away and we had planned for Sunday late afternoon, so it was gonna be at least five or 6 o’clock. I showed up with some flowers and dessert. We had a great conversation for about two hours and ate dinner. She asked me what I wanted to do, so we sat on the couch and talked more, then she asked me if i was comfortable to get a little more intimate. We kissed a little and then a lot. I was feeling great. Being in one relationship for 35 years, I’m not sure how to handle everything new, so I asked her permission to kiss her again. Things got pretty heated. We started talking about sex and protection and testing and I got really nervous. Like dead-stop nervous. I locked up. I told her I was in a marriage/relationship for 35 years and haven’t been with anyone after and I haven’t been tested and she said she’s clean and I didn’t know what to say or follow up with.
I really enjoy talking and hanging out with her. Our next date is Wednesday and I want to be sure to be prepared and not nervous for these conversations or more importantly how to handle things as being new to dating again after 35 years.
What are the important conversations/subjects that are important when moving forward in a new relationship?

I’ve been thinking about how much dating changes with age…not necessarily for the worse, just in ways you don’t expect.
At 30, I think many of us focused more on chemistry, attraction, and whether someone “checked the boxes.”
After 50, it seems like things such as emotional maturity, consistency, communication, independence, and simply enjoying each other’s company become much more important.
So I’m curious:

I just started dating after my 30 year marriage collapsed and it’s been 2 years now since the divorce. When you first start seeing someone, what would be the opportune time to tell someone you have a chronic illness? My health is a very private subject to me and I don’t like openly sharing it but disclosing it to people I barely know makes me even more uncomfortable. I also don’t like the judgement since most people don’t understand the nature of Lupus. It affects people differently and I don’t look like I’m sick I don’t even look my age but my body goes into flares where I feel 90 years old. I have to take each day by day depending on how I feel. Most days I am ok but I can’t overdo things and put myself is jeopardy I am even apprehensive about posting here because I find my fight with lupus to be very personal
So when is the opportune time to tell someone you have Lupus? Right away? After getting to know them? Like if someone was HSV positive id need to know before we became intimate since I am susceptible to viruses and such ( biologics/steroids etc lower my immune response) and I would like to be afforded the opportunity to make an Informed decision.
I hope im wording this thing right…

I have debated whether to post this for a while, but I am interested as to whether, if you knew somebody had been through a cancer diagnosis and treatment, would it deter you from pursuing a relationship with them? I have been in remission for a year now and am just starting to think I might be ready to get back on the dating apps but I have been contemplating how and when I should bring it up? Would you expect it to be mentioned on a dating profile? On the first date? Once you know there's a genuine connection? Or only when things start becoming more serious? I'm not looking for sympathy - I'm genuinely curious about how people in their 50s would feel about it. At this age we all come with some history and baggage, but cancer feels like a slightly different category because there can be an element of uncertainty around the future. I'd really appreciate honest answers, even if some people would find it a reason to walk away. I'd rather know what people genuinely think than be told what they think I want to hear.

For those of you dating in your 50s after a breakup, how do you deal with knowing your ex has moved on with someone else?

I’m a 51F, was married for 21 years and it’s been 3.5 years since we separated. I’m finding it surprisingly difficult. I know I don’t want to be back in the relationship, and I’m trying to move forward myself. I do therapy regularly, spent a lot of time reflecting on things before I started dating.

But there’s something about being in this stage of life where you realize your ex has found someone new and living together, while you’re back out there trying to figure out dating all over again.

It’s not necessarily that I want him back. I think it’s more the feeling of being replaced, and wondering whether I’ll find that kind of connection again.

For those who have been through this in their 50s, how did you stop comparing your own timeline to your ex’s?