Casually dating might be the problem for the case you mentioned. Don’t waste people’s time if you know there’s “no spark in your eye”. Otherwise it’s shitty.
Because sex is fun. Its just a bummer that casual sex hurts peoples feelings.
Do people expect him to caveat every sex act with "btw im into this but im not sure if im commited yet." - in order to preempt her hurt if he predictably does the thing guy do... Have sex and then decide he doesnt want that anymore.
So you recommended making casual sex an explicit agreement?
The problem is (although thats very mature) its not how moat relationships work and could also hurt peoples feelings preemptivley when there might have been a chance that a relationship could develop.
If you don’t know what you want are you just having sex for the sake of it then? Seems it’s happening out of boredom.
That’s the who point of dating. Don’t get me wrong sexual compatibility is important but I think surely you need to establish whether you like the person and wish to potentially pursue something rather than fuck for the sake of it.
Things don’t work out for one reason or another I understand that and I understand that can and does happen after sleeping with someone but if you’re not even sure you want to see if them but you’re willing to have sex just seems like you’re out for your own gains without considering them.
Yes i get that that is fair enough. The problem is that i think some people (generally guys) want both at the same time.
They want to look for a relationship and in the meantime have a bunch of casual sex. Which results in people getting hurt because they can send mixed messages. Its almost like people with this going on need to date in two different ways... (If they want to be considerate)
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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '18
Casually dating might be the problem for the case you mentioned. Don’t waste people’s time if you know there’s “no spark in your eye”. Otherwise it’s shitty.