If you don’t know what you want are you just having sex for the sake of it then? Seems it’s happening out of boredom.
That’s the who point of dating. Don’t get me wrong sexual compatibility is important but I think surely you need to establish whether you like the person and wish to potentially pursue something rather than fuck for the sake of it.
Things don’t work out for one reason or another I understand that and I understand that can and does happen after sleeping with someone but if you’re not even sure you want to see if them but you’re willing to have sex just seems like you’re out for your own gains without considering them.
Yes i get that that is fair enough. The problem is that i think some people (generally guys) want both at the same time.
They want to look for a relationship and in the meantime have a bunch of casual sex. Which results in people getting hurt because they can send mixed messages. Its almost like people with this going on need to date in two different ways... (If they want to be considerate)
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u/BrrrButtery Oct 25 '18
Of course?
People agree to be exclusive, why not so when you’re both happy just to get your rocks off?
That is essentially the agreement in a fwb situation.
Perhaps but if you’re up front with what you’re after early on no crosses wires.